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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is mostly towards the women of the site. I know we are all our own biggest critic about our bodies. But when you get a lovely message saying you look stunning and having an amazing body! Does it make you feel good or do you doubt it because it comes from a site like this??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life."

The reality is, of course, that any half decent woman between the ages of 18 and 50 will, if she puts herself out there, get a queue of men willing to fuck her.

Hence because it is so easy to get that kind of attention, women tend not to value it.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

When we get messages from really hot, fit guys and they such things, I tend to doubt their sincerity. I'm middle aged, more weight then ideal and unless I have a vodka first, unlikely to talk unless spoken to. I can't help thinking, what do they see in me that I don't?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I find alot of women on here have some amazing bodies!! All different shapes but something about how they present themselves makes them extremely sexy. I suppose its very much an individual thing. But sexual confidence does show through in pics in my eyes and some women on here definitely show it. So when I comment on there body I totally mean it. Some I have not a chance in hell of meeting. But if I happen to see them on chat or on the forums I will try and say in a polite way!! Knowing my luck they just think im pervy twat like the rest lol.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"When we get messages from really hot, fit guys and they such things, I tend to doubt their sincerity. I'm middle aged, more weight then ideal and unless I have a vodka first, unlikely to talk unless spoken to. I can't help thinking, what do they see in me that I don't?

"

Katie has similar issues (she is 46). These are the reasons.

1. Men generally have a very wide range of women they consider attractive. Whilst women might only be willing to have sex with men they are very attracted to, men will generally cheerfully fuck anyone with whom there is any sort of attraction.

2. Lots of young men do have an "older woman" fetish. They are experienced can teach them things etc.

3. Men vastly out number women on here, hence objectively average women can fuck very hot men because of supply and demand. Men are quite happy with that (see 1).

You also shouldn't impart a generally feminine sensibility to men. To put it very crudely, men won't notice stretch marks and wrinkles. They will see you have tits and a cunt and want to fuck them. That's a big turn on for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life.

The reality is, of course, that any half decent woman between the ages of 18 and 50 will, if she puts herself out there, get a queue of men willing to fuck her.

Hence because it is so easy to get that kind of attention, women tend not to value it. "

Thats the exact reality, I have something they want and they'll say anything to get it, and to the next half decent 18-50yr old that comes along and gives them time of day.

So I don't take it seriously. I'm sure if the boot was on the other foot (women outweighed men in numbers on here) I'd feel the need to flatter guys to get what I want.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life.

The reality is, of course, that any half decent woman between the ages of 18 and 50 will, if she puts herself out there, get a queue of men willing to fuck her.

Hence because it is so easy to get that kind of attention, women tend not to value it.

Thats the exact reality, I have something they want and they'll say anything to get it, and to the next half decent 18-50yr old that comes along and gives them time of day.

So I don't take it seriously. I'm sure if the boot was on the other foot (women outweighed men in numbers on here) I'd feel the need to flatter guys to get what I want. "

It's all fine I think as long as you have no illusion of being special. If a hot bloke messages you and you fancy him, go for it. The fact that he'd be quite willing to fuck hundreds of other women is not that relevant in my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life."

This precisely. I view it as another cut and paste job. And my arse is very ordinary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we get messages from really hot, fit guys and they such things, I tend to doubt their sincerity. I'm middle aged, more weight then ideal and unless I have a vodka first, unlikely to talk unless spoken to. I can't help thinking, what do they see in me that I don't?

"

Your amazing nipples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men will say anything to get their leg over. Been this way since Adam told Eve she had the best arse in the Garden of Eden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life.

This precisely. I view it as another cut and paste job. And my arse is very ordinary."

I bet to differ nothing ordinary about that ass. Tis peachy...

IMO.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm fairly body confident, I can see that in our photos I look ok. I believe the compliments that reflect what I feel about myself. I'm realistic enough not to believe stuff like "you have the body of a woman half your age" .

By the same token if I received a message calling me "a fat old slapper" I wouldn't believe that either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I don't have a beautiful or amazing body. It does nothing for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life.

This precisely. I view it as another cut and paste job. And my arse is very ordinary."

I agree....most appear cut and paste....especially when you get the same message a few weeks later lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As women you should be used to the half arsed empty compliments to get laid. Yes it’s nice. But we all know way to a women s heart is between her ears.

It is worrying the number of older women who fall madly in love with such shallow compliments.

No one is going to say hey pig fancy a fuck lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"As women you should be used to the half arsed empty compliments to get laid. Yes it’s nice. But we all know way to a women s heart is between her ears.

It is worrying the number of older women who fall madly in love with such shallow compliments.

No one is going to say hey pig fancy a fuck lol "

I think older women are less likely to fall for the false compliments. We've heard it all and are usually pretty realistic about ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club scene for me was the biggest confidence boost x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is popular because it belongs to a single female. To take anything from that would be foolish.

When I recently signed up, before I even had any profile text or photos, I had 30+ messages in my inbox saying how gorgeous I am and how amazing my profile was. That just about sums up everything you need to take with a pinch of salt here.

But.....

I will also add I have made some amazing connections throughout the seven years I've been here and they have been with guys who genuinely were attracted to me!

You get a real sense of cutting through the bullshit lip service from those who just want use of a living gloryhole!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As women you should be used to the half arsed empty compliments to get laid. Yes it’s nice. But we all know way to a women s heart is between her ears.

It is worrying the number of older women who fall madly in love with such shallow compliments.

No one is going to say hey pig fancy a fuck lol

I think older women are less likely to fall for the false compliments. We've heard it all and are usually pretty realistic about ourselves."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was speaking more about women I know on pof. I’ve not noticed anything on here. Older than me. I’m just glad they arnt my daughters. They think every man that pays them a compliment loves them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel great about myself. Compliments or snubs on here don't change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know most of it is generic unsubtle schmoozing towards an ultimate intention, but I still get a bit of a kick unless its too crude. When I get a well thought out, genuine message from a sexy man, I have been known to get a little wet!

I've had body confidence issues in the past, so I'm loving fab at the moment if I'm honest xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life.

The reality is, of course, that any half decent woman between the ages of 18 and 50 will, if she puts herself out there, get a queue of men willing to fuck her.

Hence because it is so easy to get that kind of attention, women tend not to value it.

Thats the exact reality, I have something they want and they'll say anything to get it, and to the next half decent 18-50yr old that comes along and gives them time of day.

So I don't take it seriously. I'm sure if the boot was on the other foot (women outweighed men in numbers on here) I'd feel the need to flatter guys to get what I want.

It's all fine I think as long as you have no illusion of being special. If a hot bloke messages you and you fancy him, go for it. The fact that he'd be quite willing to fuck hundreds of other women is not that relevant in my view. "

The fact he'd be willing to fuck hundreds of other women isn't relevant to me either, I'm married and not looking for anything more than a fuck - in actual fact were not even looking for single guys as we've met some real needy little fuckers who mistake a fuck for thinking they get to keep me!

My point with regards to telling the next 18-50yr old with a half decent body she's all that and a bag of chips, is that many men message anyone and everyone with the same old shit until they get someone who will entertain them. Which is why I don't take their messages or opinions seriously.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life.

The reality is, of course, that any half decent woman between the ages of 18 and 50 will, if she puts herself out there, get a queue of men willing to fuck her.

Hence because it is so easy to get that kind of attention, women tend not to value it.

Thats the exact reality, I have something they want and they'll say anything to get it, and to the next half decent 18-50yr old that comes along and gives them time of day.

So I don't take it seriously. I'm sure if the boot was on the other foot (women outweighed men in numbers on here) I'd feel the need to flatter guys to get what I want.

It's all fine I think as long as you have no illusion of being special. If a hot bloke messages you and you fancy him, go for it. The fact that he'd be quite willing to fuck hundreds of other women is not that relevant in my view.

The fact he'd be willing to fuck hundreds of other women isn't relevant to me either, I'm married and not looking for anything more than a fuck - in actual fact were not even looking for single guys as we've met some real needy little fuckers who mistake a fuck for thinking they get to keep me!

My point with regards to telling the next 18-50yr old with a half decent body she's all that and a bag of chips, is that many men message anyone and everyone with the same old shit until they get someone who will entertain them. Which is why I don't take their messages or opinions seriously. "

I am not disagreeing with you! Everyone knows men will say whatever they think women want to hear in order to get a fuck. Your approach is perfect. If he's hot fuck him and discount the bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know how this site is still going. I’ve been told I’m the best female on here so many times there’s no need for anyone else ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t know how this site is still going. I’ve been told I’m the best female on here so many times there’s no need for anyone else ?? "

You are the most gorgeous sexy hottest amazing stunning beautiful lady I have ever seen and you have the sexiest natural blue tongue ever!! Fancy a shag??

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town


"When we get messages from really hot, fit guys and they such things, I tend to doubt their sincerity. I'm middle aged, more weight then ideal and unless I have a vodka first, unlikely to talk unless spoken to. I can't help thinking, what do they see in me that I don't?

"

Altho visiting clubs definitely gave me some confidence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the majority of women on here understand that some men lie to get a shag . It's not a confidence issue, more fab savvy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had messages like that when I've had no public photos at all so I don't generally place any value on them.

If someone compliments a specific picture that tends to feel more genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expect that they say it to at least several dozen a day, so I take it with a pinch of salt.

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town


"I expect that they say it to at least several dozen a day, so I take it with a pinch of salt. "

Wow!! Girl crush right here

Perved over your pics

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we get messages from really hot, fit guys and they such things, I tend to doubt their sincerity. I'm middle aged, more weight then ideal and unless I have a vodka first, unlikely to talk unless spoken to. I can't help thinking, what do they see in me that I don't?

Katie has similar issues (she is 46). These are the reasons.

1. Men generally have a very wide range of women they consider attractive. Whilst women might only be willing to have sex with men they are very attracted to, men will generally cheerfully fuck anyone with whom there is any sort of attraction.

2. Lots of young men do have an "older woman" fetish. They are experienced can teach them things etc.

3. Men vastly out number women on here, hence objectively average women can fuck very hot men because of supply and demand. Men are quite happy with that (see 1).

You also shouldn't impart a generally feminine sensibility to men. To put it very crudely, men won't notice stretch marks and wrinkles. They will see you have tits and a cunt and want to fuck them. That's a big turn on for them. "

Not sure about that last part of point 3.

The very attractive men are probably happy about it. Us small donged swamp monsters not so much.

Time was when we could get some from the female swamp monsters, not now.

If the values on fab are all skewed downwards on males by a factor of 5 of 10 say (a conservative estimate I'd say) then it's fine for the 10s, they just have to settle for their casual fun being with women of 5/10.

The guys who are 5s or 4s... Well... Better luck with your next reincarnation boys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t know how this site is still going. I’ve been told I’m the best female on here so many times there’s no need for anyone else ??

You are the most gorgeous sexy hottest amazing stunning beautiful lady I have ever seen and you have the sexiest natural blue tongue ever!! Fancy a shag??"
omg thank you for noticing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't doubt it because it comes from a site like this (like this? really? ) but I will doubt it if it's not genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think someones trying to get in my pants, I don't take it seriously. As sexy/hot/wonderful as I look in photos - I'm distinctly average and quite unnoticeable in day to day life.

The reality is, of course, that any half decent woman between the ages of 18 and 80 will, if she puts herself out there, get a queue of men willing to fuck her.

Hence because it is so easy to get that kind of attention, women tend not to value it. "

Fixed that for you.

Though it depends on the compliment, how it is worded and whether it reveals that the sender has paid attention to their profile?

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