FabSwingers.com forum: Clubs vs fab

By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Are clubs the way forward now? It's becoming less and less of one on one or one on two meets now and mainly all about club meets.

What's your preference?

Do you feel it's a sign of how much mobile technology has taken over that people are saturated by choice and inevitably feel overwhelmed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno. I am torn. I use fab mainly to say when i’m Going to a club and if anyone wants to go. I don’t rule out meeting one to one but it takes a good amount of conversation and banter to find the right level of trust to do so.

Clubs are as I have vocalised many times easier for couples and single females to find playful encounters and the whole swinging scene is tough for single guys.

I hope to be proven wrong though.

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

I prefer going to clubs to be honest, as I’m obviously too ugly for the women of fab. Lol

Single men get a lot of bad press, but I pride myself on being personable, easy going and intelligent and guess I can demonstrate my personality better in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been to a club, too shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been to a club, too shy

Find someone to accompany you

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Socials and clubs for me now.

I've been on this site, with a couple of profiles over the years, a very very ong time.

The chance to meet genuine people trhough here has got less and less over that time. Going to a big group social, no play, and clubs is the best way to find genuine people...people that actually turn up.

Just my opinion of course.

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Never been to a club, too shy

Scared the hell out of me my first time walking through the door...witthin an hour I was..."damn why didn't I do this before" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We definitely prefer clubs and tend to use fab just to keep in contact with those we meet at clubs and events.

Fab isn't what it was 5-10 years ago unfortunately.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Are clubs the way forward now? It's becoming less and less of one on one or one on two meets now and mainly all about club meets.

What's your preference?

Do you feel it's a sign of how much mobile technology has taken over that people are saturated by choice and inevitably feel overwhelmed? "

We used to go to clubs , and for a couple of years they were our preferred choice . However , we stopped going a couple of years ago when they became more of a glorified social gathering for so many attendees . Even more popular play orientated clubs like Chams were often full of people there for the chat and catch up with friends , so we use fab now , and don’t find it overwhelming at all .

We prefer variety too , and that was the other problem with clubs , same old faces week in week out .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are clubs the way forward now? It's becoming less and less of one on one or one on two meets now and mainly all about club meets.

What's your preference?

Do you feel it's a sign of how much mobile technology has taken over that people are saturated by choice and inevitably feel overwhelmed? "

Personally I prefer one on ones or one on twos.

If I am to be watched, I like it to be someone of my own choosing.

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

We have met people directly from fab, but it's mostly clubs for us and using fab to keep in touch.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's hard arranging private meets on here as so many timewasters and pic collectors now on the site, I tend to stick to people I've met. If I had a local club I'd be going there.

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

Clubs is so much easier or parties.

We don't look to set meets up on here now.

Have done in the past

About a 60 percent success rate and that's with putting in effort

Too many dreamers and people who are not what they say

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By *uriousCouple999Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

We find it hard to arrange meets on here, so prefer to go to clubs & socials

we mostly use fab to keep in contact with friends & see when socials are ect

Mrs x

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

We enjoy both, but as for many people time is precious and we seem to find it difficult planning ahead too far. And in part of this lifestyle depends on being in the mood at the right time! Planning a Friday meet, then having a crap week can put a damper on it!

Consequently our meets tend to be at short notice, but then it can be a complete faff to sort out (when we can't accommodate).

Hence the fallback option of a club visit -we know it'll be open and we know what to expect. No faff and some of the clubs are really brilliant so when in the mood we prefer the mix of social and fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are better as you have a better chance of meeting up with someone your physically attracted too. Also you meet like minded people on a social level. Plus your not obliged to play if you don't want to. Meets off here can be hit or miss alot of the time.

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Never been to a club, too shy

Life is short grab bulls by horn and go imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my Fab meets, I have met some fantastic people and had some amazing experiences. 121 or 3somes and more are all easily found, every kink catered for (as well as some even I wouldn't want to try).

Clubs are good for variety and the voyeur in me enjoys the atmosphere but if I could only pick one it would be Fab every time

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Are clubs the way forward now? It's becoming less and less of one on one or one on two meets now and mainly all about club meets.

What's your preference?

Do you feel it's a sign of how much mobile technology has taken over that people are saturated by choice and inevitably feel overwhelmed?

Personally I prefer one on ones or one on twos.

If I am to be watched, I like it to be someone of my own choosing. "

With so many fakes... UNLOS or arranging then logging off for days how can you be bothered? I've used fab as a social platform for a while now as one on one meets just don't happen and I don't have the luxury of arranging to end up stood up and a free night wasted.

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"We definitely prefer clubs and tend to use fab just to keep in contact with those we meet at clubs and events.

Fab isn't what it was 5-10 years ago unfortunately."

Definitely a far cry from 5-10 years ago

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Definitely Fab for me; clubs have been a waste of time for me

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By *us man1957Man
over a year ago

Guildford

Trying to meet up with people on fab but no luck clubs no problem not giving up on fab though

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Clubs have always been our preference and we see online as "not real"..... Maybe it's an age thing but we prefer real life to virtual life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always prefer clubs. For me I like the social side, and being somewhere I feel totally comfortable and free to be myself (regardless of any fun that may or may not be had).

I think it avoids fakes, wasting time and you can see who you actually connect with.

Having said that if one on one is for you then fab isn't a bad thing at all. I like to come in and chat to people who go to the clubs so when I go I'll know a few faces.

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

"I always prefer clubs. For me I like the social side, and being somewhere I feel totally comfortable and free to be myself (regardless of any fun that may or may not be had).

I think it avoids fakes, wasting time and you can see who you actually connect with.

Having said that if one on one is for you then fab isn't a bad thing at all. I like to come in and chat to people who go to the clubs so when I go I'll know a few faces. "

That's right

In a club 100 percent are not fake.

On here a massive amount are pic collectors fakes and dreamers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both have their merits depending on how busy our vanilla life is. When we don't have much spare time then clubs are perfect. We can usually find an 'event' to go to and pretty much guarantee having a great night. Go more often though and clubs can start to feel a bit 'same old crowd' sometimes although visiting different clubs mixes it up. When we are very active we will unhide our profile on here to look for meets but as we are looking for single men it can be difficult to find the gems amongst the noise - but there are some :- )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve tried a club a couple of times and as a single guy on my own it was not for me, as much as I tried, the couples just stuck with other couples. I much prefer Fab and have had my fair share of meeting some lovely people that have become friends.

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

"Are clubs the way forward now? It's becoming less and less of one on one or one on two meets now and mainly all about club meets. "

Well it was looking that way until Abfab/Kestrels shut.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We met some of our good swinging friends through Fab, but have to say we have always met and played with more new people in clubs than through any on-line group.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I only meet at clubs now it was hard work getting to know someone well enough to trust them to bring them to my home we would have to chat on here then meet somewhere else so I could get feel for the guy see if I fancied him trust him then back to mine.

Can't be arsed with that anymore so just meet in clubs it's safer and much easier.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Well Darlo you know we like our club meets but that's not to say we don't like a good party, social, or private invite from folk we know.

We decided long ago not to do private meets from fab but that's just us

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Well Darlo you know we like our club meets but that's not to say we don't like a good party, social, or private invite from folk we know.

We decided long ago not to do private meets from fab but that's just us"

Haha I know you pair do! I've never been opposed to meets via fab but seriously going off the idea now as a bad joke. Just a shame it's came to the only way is via a club

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By *iercedCplCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

We much prefer clubs, and try to arrange all our meets (even social) in a club, we find it's a good neutral ground, and if there is no 'spark' then both parties can go and socialise with other like minded folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has different needs, wants and expectations for private meets and clubs.

We like clubs that are more night-club style, where we can dance, do a little people watching and play if the mood/opportunity is right. The problem we've found is that it's pot luck whether there's a good vibe and mix of people. Also, we like a few single guys around but not so many that we're overwhelmed with 'followers' - this is hard to find in our experience.

Private meets are much more intimate and we have more control over the elements that make them work. We put a lot of effort into getting these right, and (touch wood) we've never been disappointed.

We'll still visit clubs from time to time, but private meets are the way forward for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are clubs the way forward now? It's becoming less and less of one on one or one on two meets now and mainly all about club meets.

What's your preference?

Do you feel it's a sign of how much mobile technology has taken over that people are saturated by choice and inevitably feel overwhelmed?

Personally I prefer one on ones or one on twos.

If I am to be watched, I like it to be someone of my own choosing.

For me it’s not the be all and end all but yes, Ido get frustrated when you’re chatting away happy to set up a meet get to that point then user hides profile for some reason or doesn’t get back to you.

I’m not the quickest of movers from contact to meet for various reasons and maybe it’s my own down fall.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

"We much prefer clubs, and try to arrange all our meets (even social) in a club, we find it's a good neutral ground, and if there is no 'spark' then both parties can go and socialise with other like minded folk."

This in the main, although have to confess we use another site to arrange one to one meetings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs don't interest me. It takes a while to find someone on here I'm interested in, but I like it that way.

I wouldn't have time to get to know someone in a club, to want to have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're right OP. After being on here for about 3 years I've come to the conclusion that clubs are the most time-efficient way of meeting. Too many timewasters on here. It can be an expensive hobby though if like me you live miles away from anywhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet on a one to one basis. I’m far too unsociable and shy to attend a Club. I’m not a prolific meeter anyway and once i find a man i’m happy boffing i tend to stick with them anyway (if they’re happy), so one to one works for me.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

As our preference is more intimacy which fab affords. But this has proved challenging and we've become more descriptive and open as a result. But that opens the door random friend invites and oneliners.

We're opening up to the club piece but not tried busy nights as yet due to being nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the main problems on here is the amount of messages women receive. I've been talking to a few girls who I can tell are hedging their bets as we talk. I understand that if you get loads of offers you are going to try and find the best one. The problem for me is that I have little interest in someone who is unsure about me. The other problem I find on here is trying to communicate your personality in a message and profile.

As for clubs: If you go on the right night they can be great. So if you are willing to talk to anyone and are quite an approachable person you'll definitely make friends. Again though, the problem is more to do with the ratio of men to women. In most clubs I've been to there always seems to be a bunch of predatory males that literally work the room trying to shag anyone and everyone. So again it becomes like survival of the fittest.

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By *eahWanderersCouple
over a year ago

Derby

We find clubs a better way of meeting straight single guys because we can choose knowing there will be interaction. By meeting off Fab there is an element of social selection needed but there is wider variety to choose on the basis of looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs now, we used to meet off here but not now. Not sure if the nature of the site has changed or us, we aren’t the greatest at online communication and haven’t got loads of free time so clubs are easier. Fab is still relevant in that we can see what events and parties are going on and we can keep in contact with people we have met at clubs.

Websites such as these do have a shelf life this isn’t the first one we’ve been members of but at the moment Fab is still the most popular for swingers in the uk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting topic ive always wanted to try the club scene, not had the chance yet plus would'nt feel comfortable going on my own (any offers to accompany me ladies?)

I feel clubs open a whole new world of meeting people and offering a relaxed social environment, added to that the issue of personal safety which is vitally important.

I would never ever just meet someone randomly just not for me, i think taking the time to get to know someone and then a social meet is my personal choice.

Im in Merseyside if anyone could give me some advice re the club scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference is for private meets off Fab, still go to clubs & parties occasionally but that’s the back up plan, clubs & parties seem to be very hit and miss nowadays

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

Personally, while I can see why clubs work well for some people and especially for couples, my particular preference is for private meets and for small private parties. I prefer the much more intimate atmosphere that is afforded by meeting a specific person or people privately. I also like small parties (which I occasionally host myself) for the same reason and because it is possible to be very selective about who is present....

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

For us it is fab since our local club, which was 2 and a half hour drive away, shut down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of the main problems on here is the amount of messages women receive. I've been talking to a few girls who I can tell are hedging their bets as we talk. I understand that if you get loads of offers you are going to try and find the best one. The problem for me is that I have little interest in someone who is unsure about me. The other problem I find on here is trying to communicate your personality in a message and profile.

Survival of the fittest is being much too kind to the predatory males you describe. They're nothing short of creepy and can be very intimidating. The really bad news is that they often get something for their efforts, just by being first to the action. It's the grim side of swinging, in our view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a fan of clubs even though I've enjoyed a couple of visits to them but will be sticking to fab from now on

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

Further to my last comment I would also add, that in my experience, the sex I have had in clubs is never quite on the same level as the sex when meeting privately - I do think this is all down to the intensity which can be achieved more easily/naturally when there are no distractions and focus is purely on each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I thought that. But they guys I've seen doing it are quite good looking and always topless. I guess it just caters for those who are only interested in looks.

When I saw these sort of guys being successful though, I thought to myself 'if that's what it takes, I'll just give it a miss'.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Which is why we avoid those nights and stick to couples only. There is nothing more off putting than someone touching or trying to join in when there has been no previous contact or interaction. It is tantamount to sexual assault. That is not to say that males from a couple are not capable of such behaviour. We have experienced this before and has led to heated words.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We prefer clubs and socials. Wouldn't knock FAB though as that's where we have met some great friends, just like you OP. We use fab to post where and what we are doing so that friends can join us if they like. We are not apposed to meeting from fab but like others have said you have to put a lot of effort in and a lot of the time get let down by the chancers and keyboard warriors who have no intention of meeting so not an avenue we go down to much

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Further to my last comment I would also add, that in my experience, the sex I have had in clubs is never quite on the same level as the sex when meeting privately - I do think this is all down to the intensity which can be achieved more easily/naturally when there are no distractions and focus is purely on each other."

It's always possible to have fun in a club and then make arrangements to meet privately in the future.

The chance to meet 50 to 80 swingers in one evening is so much easier than reading through the messages, trying to spot the timewasters, pic collectors etc. You also see the face and body shape and age in front of you, not false images taken with clever lighting.

Clubs work best for me, I use fab for forum natter only .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can you meet a woman who doesn't make sure you're the right choice? Do you know immediately if a woman is right for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer private meets but have tried parties and found them to be less rewarding. We have talked about going to clubs but have had the courage to do so yet

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Both have pros and cons. Some people are more likely to have fun in clubs abd vice versa. Clubs are certainly not for everyone.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I've been to a few clubs but never played. Tbh I just find I need a connection before I can fuck anyone so it's one on one meets for me only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither do we. Without naming names, there was one particular club in the south where we saw a lot of it. Still the club got tons of 'fabulous' reviews on this site. We all have different expectations I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been to a few clubs but never played. Tbh I just find I need a connection before I can fuck anyone so it's one on one meets for me only

Yeah definitely hard to build a connection in a club. However, I found Chams to be a good place to do this as I ended up chatting to loads of people because the music wasn't too loud. Guess this would be the same at most clubs

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Clubs for us.

Saves all the hassle as you can shop before you buy.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Clubs for us.

Saves all the hassle as you can shop before you buy.

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By *4tCouple
over a year ago

warrington

Found FAB and other sites better some years back, we enjoy a social, parties and clubs. But like everything in life peaks and troughs

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs for me.

Reasons: safety first, there’s a good social aspect, less pressure, more people and more likely to meet genuine swingers, less time wasting and most importantly they have a jacuzzi

I’m open to private meets if it was a regular meet.

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