FabSwingers.com forum: Fab timewasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So many people posting about time wasters and no shows on here. When there are no doubt many people desperate to meet but struggling to get one how the hell are so many time wasters getting so many meets.

I, for one am always honest on here, and yet despite appearing to hit every criteria people list on their profile I often don't even get a response to a message.

Are people falling for a big pile of bullshit expecting someone amazing to be turning up.

So, those of you who have suffered from a time waster or no show, what went wrong?

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By *rsAandMrJCouple
over a year ago

london

We have the same problem!

Too many time wasters, that only want fun by snapchat and not to get to know each other... it’s annoying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have the same problem!

Too many time wasters, that only want fun by snapchat and not to get to know each other... it’s annoying

So whats that married and cant do anything more or just scared?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not know why you complaining about time waster you already got a meet and varied where most of us been on here over a year and not one meet or been varied it a know fact it harder for men on this site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do not know why you complaining about time waster you already got a meet and varied where most of us been on here over a year and not one meet or been varied it a know fact it harder for men on this site.

Wow, steady on, i'm not complaining at all.

The point about not getting responses to messages was a fact not a complaint.

I'm simply curious as to why so many time wasters get meets when as you say many have been on here a long time and not met.

Its the forum and i'm having a debate not a complaint.

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By *pforfun1234562016Couple
over a year ago

leamington spa

Weve had loads they talm and swop a few pics then boom they gone you have to laugh at the sados really

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By *aggie and DanCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

The amount of time-wasters/pic-hunters is really irksome at times...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never met a time waster yet

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By *aggie and DanCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Give it time..

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By *rightonfranceMan
over a year ago

brighton - chalais france

There does seem to be a lot more recently but it does seem to go in waves too.

Remember as a single guy you have bad odds as it's about 1000 to 1 so just keep being yourself, friendly and aware that you have plenty of competition for a meet ( the genuine kind ).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve never got involved with a timewaster. Our meets have all been quite straightforward. I didn’t actually know there were so many timewasters until I started using the forums.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only as hard as you make it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If time wasters are meeting then who's time have they been wasting?

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

"So many people posting about time wasters and no shows on here. When there are no doubt many people desperate to meet but struggling to get one how the hell are so many time wasters getting so many meets.

I, for one am always honest on here, and yet despite appearing to hit every criteria people list on their profile I often don't even get a response to a message.

Are people falling for a big pile of bullshit expecting someone amazing to be turning up.

So, those of you who have suffered from a time waster or no show, what went wrong?"

Don’t understand your logic

If people are getting meets how are they time wasters ?

If you don’t get a response then either you aren’t hitting their criteria or if you are then it’s a case of ‘right person wrong time’. Whichever Of them it is then they will decide not to meet.

We really have few if any problems. We use a process of emailing, chatting on the phone and social meet.

If we feel at any stage unsure, unhappy then we don’t go any further.

Chatting on the phone and finding someone is not compatible is not time wasting. Same as meeting for a social and finding he/they/she is not what your after. It’s not wasted time it’s investing time to find the right person/s

So far never had a no show.

The old saying

If you always do as you’ve always done then you always get what you always got.

If your process is not working for you then change your process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How are they wasting your time OP?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Apparently I'm a timewaster when I say no thanks. But then if they read the first line of my profile it says I'm not meeting so they've only wasted their own time in the first place. I'm also a timewaster when I don't swap pics with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently I'm a timewaster when I say no thanks. But then if they read the first line of my profile it says I'm not meeting so they've only wasted their own time in the first place. I'm also a timewaster when I don't swap pics with them. "

I'm not just a timewaster, I'm selfish too

Oh well

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By *onsixoxCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We’ve got a mixed view on this... we’ve been lucky enough that we’ve not had any no shows Hoooooowever we constantly seem to find that people are just not what they say they are it’s all good during the chat part of it then they turn up for the meet and are nothing like they portrayed to be and that’s frustrating x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I, for one am always honest on here, and yet despite appearing to hit every criteria people list on their profile I often don't even get a response to a message.

Are people falling for a big pile of bullshit expecting someone amazing to be turning up.

So, those of you who have suffered from a time waster or no show, what went wrong?"

I would advise you stop worrying about what you read and start worrying what you write.

If your ticking criteria boxes and not getting replies, your messages must be rubbish.

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By *omeo7xxxMan
over a year ago

London

I have had a few no shows its all part of the parcel, dont let it put you down keep going there are plenty of people who meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been let down a few times - usually at the eleventh hour - but you can’t let it put you off.. there are always a few that are all mouth and no trousers..

It’s just separating the needy from the greedy and the corny from the horny..

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By *omeo7xxxMan
over a year ago

London

"I’ve been let down a few times - usually at the eleventh hour - but you can’t let it put you off.. there are always a few that are all mouth and no trousers..

It’s just separating the needy from the greedy and the corny from the horny..

I have a feeling you will now be geting alot more messages then normal! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It appears I didn't express myself very well in the op. I'm not complaining about not getting meets. I'm more than happy with my situation.

Will try to be more to the point in the future.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I have met guys that are very sweet on the first couple of meets, bring wine, flowers etc and then think they can treat you like shit cos they have met you a couple of times, they are the worst!

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

I thought I had been let down once, so being horny as fk that night, had a back up plan.... did they not BOTH arrived at my door within a minute of each other...now that's double booked....meh, can't say the evening wasn't enjoyable though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How are they wasting your time OP?"

They're not. Nobody is wasting my time. FFS I need to explain myself better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people only looking for other people who have the panache thing going for them if you do not have that then you going to waste your time here i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are they wasting your time OP?

They're not. Nobody is wasting my time. FFS I need to explain myself better. "

I think you are saying that there are lots of timewasters arranging meets and then letting people down, and genuine men who would go through with a meet if they were given a chance. Is that correct?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I, for one am always honest on here, and yet despite appearing to hit every criteria people list on their profile I often don't even get a response to a message.

Are people falling for a big pile of bullshit expecting someone amazing to be turning up.

So, those of you who have suffered from a time waster or no show, what went wrong?"

They're getting meets (as in going through the motions of arranging them )because they agree easily to meet with anyone,with no intention of meeting maybe, for whatever reasons timewasters have ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are they wasting your time OP?

They're not. Nobody is wasting my time. FFS I need to explain myself better.

I think you are saying that there are lots of timewasters arranging meets and then letting people down, and genuine men who would go through with a meet if they were given a chance. Is that correct?

Mrs"

Snap

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

Not so much a no show more a fucking liar who just spouted bullshit every time she opened her mouth. And is still doing it!

*and breathe*

Feel better now I’ve vented

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so much a no show more a fucking liar who just spouted bullshit every time she opened her mouth. And is still doing it!

*and breathe*

Feel better now I’ve vented

I would agree most here are all talk no action..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Not so much a no show more a fucking liar who just spouted bullshit every time she opened her mouth. And is still doing it!

*and breathe*

Feel better now I’ve vented

I would agree most here are all talk no action..

Have to agree with this.

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By *ave38ukMan
over a year ago

haverhill

"How are they wasting your time OP?

They're not. Nobody is wasting my time. FFS I need to explain myself better.

I think you are saying that there are lots of timewasters arranging meets and then letting people down, and genuine men who would go through with a meet if they were given a chance. Is that correct?

Mrs"
I think that because there are so many time wasters most are very gaurded on here and reluctant to give a guy a chance, not always easy to tell who are timewasters so assume all are unless proved other wise, just spoils it for every one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never met a time waster yet"

Surely that is the point? Timewasters dont show up so you don't meet them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If time wasters are meeting then who's time have they been wasting?"

Time wasters don't meet. They arrange meets and then dont turn up or offer pathetic excuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are they wasting your time OP?

They're not. Nobody is wasting my time. FFS I need to explain myself better.

I think you are saying that there are lots of timewasters arranging meets and then letting people down, and genuine men who would go through with a meet if they were given a chance. Is that correct?

Mrs I think that because there are so many time wasters most are very gaurded on here and reluctant to give a guy a chance, not always easy to tell who are timewasters so assume all are unless proved other wise, just spoils it for every one "

I too have suffered the time wasters. Who on here hasn't?

But the level of negativity displayed so often by so many on the forum indicates either that the proportion of meets that don't happen or the cynicism of fabbers far exceeds the potential upsides of trusting another to do what they say they will... including turning up for meets as arranged.

We cannot change the actions of others and there will always be "timewasters" but perhaps negativity begats negativity?

As I usually have to travel long distances to meet anyone I am always in the position of trusting that the time and costs of travelling are not "wasted" so perhaps I am selective in who I meet and take the time to ensure as far as I am able that the other will indeed turn up.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I always insist on a telephone call or social meeting . That way I can limit the impact of people who don't actually play or whom are just too busy with their other life. We as all busy people these days. If someone wants to meet they will and it's clear. If they are not going to then best to find out early on even at the risk of not meeting someone genuine but who won't talk on the phone or meet up socially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should rename the site fab fakes or fab dreamers lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I always insist on a telephone call or social meeting . That way I can limit the impact of people who don't actually play or whom are just too busy with their other life. We as all busy people these days. If someone wants to meet they will and it's clear. If they are not going to then best to find out early on even at the risk of not meeting someone genuine but who won't talk on the phone or meet up socially. "

Actually social meets are good. More chance of getting someone who will turn up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the member is wolf all bark and chicken to speak out or try something new in life. But the fact is most here are mean in the end what do you have to loses I think.

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By *aggie and DanCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

A useful time-waster filter is to:

1. Refuse to share face pics

2. Always insist on a meet before any naked fun

3.Bring a message thread to an end after a few messages by suggesting a meet and agreeing on a place and time

4. Read the profile carefully and use your intellect to read the meaning as opposed to just skim-reading

5. Ignore couples whose profile only has pics of a girl

6. Ignore profiles where there is more than one dick pic-unless you have one like my man, one is too much.

7. Accept that you are dealing with people-people lie every day

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"A useful time-waster filter is to:

1. Refuse to share face pics

2. Always insist on a meet before any naked fun

3.Bring a message thread to an end after a few messages by suggesting a meet and agreeing on a place and time

4. Read the profile carefully and use your intellect to read the meaning as opposed to just skim-reading

5. Ignore couples whose profile only has pics of a girl

6. Ignore profiles where there is more than one dick pic-unless you have one like my man, one is too much.

7. Accept that you are dealing with people-people lie every day "

Not a bad list but I would also suggest checking verifications - they give a clue as to whether the person is real and reliable or not.

If someone has been on a long time and isn't verified it might be a clue.

Lastly, check if they are photoverfied - especially a single woman or couple. This is easy to do and doesn't involve putting your face on fab.

If theu have none of the above I would suggest moving on.

Personally I have been llucky enough not to have encountered any timewasters but then again I go to socials as well as there are usually some real people there

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Never met a time waster yet"

That's probably because they don't turn up lol

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Get cam veried?? Xx

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

At what point are they a time waster. Genuine question.

When they stop mailing.

When they don’t txt on the day.

When you’re sat in the bar alone?!

Different people will have different views on this.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

I put a club meet up once. Had 15 guys say they would meet me. Not one turned up. Now I knew this would happen cos the signs were there. I was going to the club anyhow and had lots of fun. Time wasters are easy to spot.

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By *aggie and DanCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

15? Really?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I put a club meet up once. Had 15 guys say they would meet me. Not one turned up. Now I knew this would happen cos the signs were there. I was going to the club anyhow and had lots of fun. Time wasters are easy to spot. "

Was thinking of organising myself some 6 man fun. That way in the rule of no shows I will prob still get a 1 on 1 meet anyway lol

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"15? Really?"

Yes. Half of Leeds was coming last time I put a club meet up. I think 2 showed lol

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"15? Really?

Yes. Half of Leeds was coming last time I put a club meet up. I think 2 showed lol"

Yeh but if they all turned up I would have been busy lol. Can I say I wasn't responsible for the death of 3 close relatives and 5 ill children tho.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"15? Really?"

Yes 15 definite, 100% I will be there confirmations, plus 'a few I will try and make it' ones as well.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"15? Really?

Yes 15 definite, 100% I will be there confirmations, plus 'a few I will try and make it' ones as well."

You realise that after they hit send they probably came, cleaned up and went back to their wife, partner etc until they felt horny again and fantasised about meeting a sexy lass (again).

All mouth and no trousers i think is the saying

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I think with men, the problem generally is that they agree to meet, get all horny, have a wank and then go off the idea.

Last time we did a gb party for two girls, we wanted ten guys, but worked on the basis that 3/4 who said they would come wouldn't turn up. We invited forty and got thirteen.

Note this was a party where no charges were made and we provided a venue near a tube station in central London. The girls also appeared on cam to confirm they were real.

All the men had to do was turn up but 27 out of 40 failed to do so.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"15? Really?

Yes 15 definite, 100% I will be there confirmations, plus 'a few I will try and make it' ones as well.

You realise that after they hit send they probably came, cleaned up and went back to their wife, partner etc until they felt horny again and fantasised about meeting a sexy lass (again).

All mouth and no trousers i think is the saying

Absolutely! Fantasists but easy to spot.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"15? Really?

Yes 15 definite, 100% I will be there confirmations, plus 'a few I will try and make it' ones as well.

You realise that after they hit send they probably came, cleaned up and went back to their wife, partner etc until they felt horny again and fantasised about meeting a sexy lass (again).

All mouth and no trousers i think is the saying

Absolutely! Fantasists but easy to spot."

Nothing wrong with a fantasy but meeting in real life is so much more enjoyable and fun for all

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Was thinking of organising myself some 6 man fun. That way in the rule of no shows I will prob still get a 1 on 1 meet anyway lol"

We work on a one in four rule

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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago

Chester

"I think with men, the problem generally is that they agree to meet, get all horny, have a wank and then go off the idea. "

Bingo!

I've had the unpleasant experience of several time wasters although I maybe bring it on myself by being willing to meet unverified people and people who have never met a T-Girl but want to. This has caused a fair few non-meets, an amazing number of broken down cars and family illnesses...

I'm getting better at identifying what I call one-handed typists but the fact that anyone thinks it's ok to make an arrangement and just not turn up is bloody rude.

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