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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's hard work getting much response on here I'm not messaging people dick pics or generic shite. I read profiles of people that genuinely interest me and send relevant messages with face pics attached but im guessing there's 1000's of blokes on here like me.

What could I do different

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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Maybe a few more public pic rather than having just that one dick pic it only get your messages deleted or ignored x Lucy

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Hi, can I suggest the you read the FAQs and threads giving profile advice.

Hint... Most women want to meet a person, not a cock or his previous conquest.

You also need to be patient, very patient.

Nita

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There are a lot of single men on here so you need to stand out.

Consider how your profile and picture will look to a woman or couple and if it's appealing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the comments I'll revise profile and see how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe change your profile pic, some women don't often like to see other women doing things haha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers fella I've uploaded a couple of new pics for approval we'll see how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change profile pic, it's terrible. Invest time and effort into making your profile the best it can be. That's it. Messaging people is optional. You can message all you like but if someone needs a single man like you, they'll find you.

If you want to increase your chances further, attend socials and go to clubs.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Maybe change your profile pic, some women don't often like to see other women doing things haha. "

That sounds weired and negative towards women. I think it’s more like profiles are the persons selling window, so having pics of other people - especially when you’re running a one profile is pointless.

The other reason is the subject of consent by the person not owing the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you only have one generic pic as your avatar. So in a way, you are flooding a woman's inbox with one

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

The 3 Ps.... Profile, Pictures and Patience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm trying to upload a blurred or pixelated face pic but struggling to any tips? .. still no joy with a meet but getting more promising with one offer as soon as times allow. However I'm still looking for that regular local flirting/messaging to get the ball rolling.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Not a good photo. A week has gone by since you were given that advise.

Asking for discretion sounds like you might be married or in a relationship. That would put some ladies off.

Your status makes it sound like you want fun, as and when you want it. You need to think about how a woman would feel if she read your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not a good photo. A week has gone by since you were given that advise.

Asking for discretion sounds like you might be married or in a relationship. That would put some ladies off.

Your status makes it sound like you want fun, as and when you want it. You need to think about how a woman would feel if she read your profile.

"

Thanks for the pointers Lizzy I'm gonna Keep working at it ..

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

I'm nothing special but just keep it honest and you'll be amazed...

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm nothing special but just keep it honest and you'll be amazed...

Good luck"

Cheers bud. Profile updated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much better pic OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Much better pic OP "
cheers ears x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, I sometimes have to reply to messages at stupid times like this because they get crazy! So definitely be patient

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"Not a good photo. A week has gone by since you were given that advise.

Asking for discretion sounds like you might be married or in a relationship. That would put some ladies off.

Your status makes it sound like you want fun, as and when you want it. You need to think about how a woman would feel if she read your profile.

"

I too immediately thought that the need for discretion meant he was attached.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

OP,

If you're attached, be honest. Lots of people don't mind, I'd have to know. Can't turn up for a meet smelling of perfume or getting too frisky in bed and possibly leaving scratches, bite marks and such like. Not that I'm a vampire or anything, but you never know in the heat of the moment. I've had one guy snap his banjo string. Imagine if he had a Mrs at home and trying to explain that!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP,

If you're attached, be honest. Lots of people don't mind, I'd have to know. Can't turn up for a meet smelling of perfume or getting too frisky in bed and possibly leaving scratches, bite marks and such like. Not that I'm a vampire or anything, but you never know in the heat of the moment. I've had one guy snap his banjo string. Imagine if he had a Mrs at home and trying to explain that!!"
ahh ok .. good point

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By *eorgeo1Man
over a year ago

Slaley

You do give the impression you attached/ relationship etc. Alot of women dont like attached men. To complicated. Apart from that cant see why women wouldn't say hi etc. Well we wouldnt.

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