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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

Pete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just in your region. Same up north too. Its quite frustrating and annoying.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

We would love to meet single guys. Sadly the ever growing list of problems prevents play.

Why is it so hard?

- read profiles and respect what each other want

- have a profile with sufficient information for someone to judge a bit about what you look like and what you expect

- don’t go changing your profile once a meet is agreed. Is what happened to us earlier.

- communicate in turn. Don’t bombard with messages

Usually all the guys that can do the above are the ones that message when you put a meet up, to then inform you they can’t meet at the time you advertised.

Happy days - off to club later now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

Pete"

5 years ago on here it seemed much easier to find genuine swingers. We find it so much easier to go to a club these days.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

Pete"

I would say that an awful lot of this is a trend to 'filter' all the messages constantly received from arseholes. In my experience many of these couples do actually play with single guys, however, they chose to find them themselves and will be the ones to initiate contact

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We find all the playmates we want at the club without any hassle and the single guys that go don't dissapoint.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"We find all the playmates we want at the club without any hassle and the single guys that go don't dissapoint."

That obviously works for you guys and lots of others, however, to my mind (and that of lots of those I meet with), clubs can never replicate hotel or home meets. Some people (myself included if I am honest), simply prefer the latter...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

Pete"

You don't give any specific time-frame to your opinion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

Pete"

I've taken looking for single guys off my profile due to the amount of abuse/rubbish messages I get

If I'm interested In a guy I have no issue making first contact

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

Pete

I've taken looking for single guys off my profile due to the amount of abuse/rubbish messages I get

If I'm interested In a guy I have no issue making first contact "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That will be just about correct!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive given up, deleted my single profile. Started this one for the specifics that it mentions. Still get loads of men whether I want them or not

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

So many men join, call it a sex site rather than a swingers' site, believe it's insta shag! Then complain that they've been here six hours but no one meets. So often these men either don't read profiles or completely ignore what's written. I'm getting fed up of men who think they're exceptional in some way and no matter if they fit what I'm looking for or not I must meet them! For example travel say fifty miles for them! Not likely, they show they aren't exceptional just prats. That's what decent men are up against

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not just in your region. Same up north too. Its quite frustrating and annoying. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men join, call it a sex site rather than a swingers' site, believe it's insta shag! Then complain that they've been here six hours but no one meets. So often these men either don't read profiles or completely ignore what's written. I'm getting fed up of men who think they're exceptional in some way and no matter if they fit what I'm looking for or not I must meet them! For example travel say fifty miles for them! Not likely, they show they aren't exceptional just prats. That's what decent men are up against "

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

We’ve tried searching for guys but as the majority don’t actually complete their profiles makes finding guys troublesome.

Our area is riddled with profiles of just a cock pic and profile text of “ask if you want to know more”

We love meeting single guys but it’s near impossible to find the genuine ones amongst the masses that are members here.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"We’ve tried searching for guys but as the majority don’t actually complete their profiles makes finding guys troublesome.

Our area is riddled with profiles of just a cock pic and profile text of “ask if you want to know more”

We love meeting single guys but it’s near impossible to find the genuine ones amongst the masses that are members here. "

Maybe the problem is worse down in South London

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

We love to meet single guys but the standard of messages we get, especially on here, is abysmal hence we only meet in clubs.

If one messages us, knows where we are, and is happy to meet in a club then fine. If not we will still go to the club and have a good night.

To be fair our location limits us quite a lot on this site (although you would never guess by the number of meet in Blackpool messages we get LOL) but but we still get quite a few good club meets from the German and Spanish sites we are on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer single guys

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area


"Maybe the problem is worse down in South London "

Oh definitely it must be something to do with our area, all you have to do is view local updates every day to see endless cock pics and drug reference & vile status’s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the problem is worse down in South London

Oh definitely it must be something to do with our area, all you have to do is view local updates every day to see endless cock pics and drug reference & vile status’s."

Single guy here with a normal-ish profile

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Maybe the problem is worse down in South London

Oh definitely it must be something to do with our area, all you have to do is view local updates every day to see endless cock pics and drug reference & vile status’s."

Well, maybe you should cast your net a little bit further a field

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wouldn't know that I'm on here looking for single men, as the site puts a warning up saying I'm not (when I am), when I block them from messaging me. I block them so I don't get millions of messages every hour, that I couldn't possibly reply to.

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area


"Well, maybe you should cast your net a little bit further a field "

Seems uunreasonable to ask guys to travel great distances when we can’t due to our restrictions.

I’m sure we’ll find some diamonds in the rough eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well after posting many meets for a single guy ,and getting no response until following day lol ,we deemed it a waste of time so no longer post meetings for guys ,and not to mention the vast amount of time wasters and no shows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, maybe you should cast your net a little bit further a field

Seems uunreasonable to ask guys to travel great distances when we can’t due to our restrictions.

I’m sure we’ll find some diamonds in the rough eventually. "

I’d travel travel is not an issue for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No problem. I meet singles if im looking at they match what im after

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By *aughtyLittleMissWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

No, I'll ONLY meet single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say that an awful lot of this is a trend to 'filter' all the messages constantly received from arseholes. In my experience many of these couples do actually play with single guys, however, they chose to find them themselves and will be the ones to initiate contact "
That's exactly right. Put yourself out there, either in a club or through online profile and forum discussions. That's all you can do, and if done right it's quite effective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

Pete"

No.

Some single chaps do rather well on here.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

We do meet with single guys occasinally but when we want one we I will look for one or post a meet. This is due to messages from guys that have not taken the time to read our profile, the number of messages saying "how are you" or "fancy a meet". The number of messages we get asking to skype, when our profile clearly says we dont is unbelievable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I've noticed a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its 10x harder for single men than single females to get meets but that life due there being to many men and not enough of females or couples who are into men on here?

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln


"its 10x harder for single men than single females to get meets but that life due there being to many men and not enough of females or couples who are into men on here? "

It’s not hard for men to get meets, it’s hard for men that don’t make an effort to get meets. We will gladly meet single men

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London

I’m going to say no. If your a genuine bloke, who has put some effort into his profile and you approach people after reading their profiles and establishing there could be a connection then it shouldn’t be hard.

A good opening message is key, send a face pic too. If all of the above is failing then visit a club, again do your research. A combination of all the above works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men join, call it a sex site rather than a swingers' site, believe it's insta shag! Then complain that they've been here six hours but no one meets. So often these men either don't read profiles or completely ignore what's written. I'm getting fed up of men who think they're exceptional in some way and no matter if they fit what I'm looking for or not I must meet them! For example travel say fifty miles for them! Not likely, they show they aren't exceptional just prats. That's what decent men are up against "

I think the crap men have ruined it for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i feel sorry for the lots of good genuine single blokes on here who have a hard time chipping away at the barriers created by the time wasters dreamers and fantasists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is the total opposite. We're rarely looking to meet new single guys, not because the crap puts us off. Far from it. We think there are plenty of super guys on a Fab, but sadly have no capacity to meet them. We have our regulars, and that’s the main reason we are not available for more. So in short it’s the abundance of good guys that prevents us meeting, not the bad guys.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabs is no longer a swingers lifestyle site, it's a pickup site. Insta-shag ... if you are not in the hot zone, you've in the bin. Swinger etiquette has dropped through the floor - zero respect all round .. just excuses now why players are exempt using good manners. Because single males are ten a penny, with a direct proportion of cunts with it, then if you are as common as horseshit at Cheltenham racecourse on Cheltenham cup weekend, it's not surprising then to be shovelled onto the shit pile with the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabs is no longer a swingers lifestyle site, it's a pickup site. Insta-shag ... if you are not in the hot zone, you've in the bin. Swinger etiquette has dropped through the floor - zero respect all round .. just excuses now why players are exempt using good manners. Because single males are ten a penny, with a direct proportion of cunts with it, then if you are as common as horseshit at Cheltenham racecourse on Cheltenham cup weekend, it's not surprising then to be shovelled onto the shit pile with the rest."
i do have to agree wholeheartedly with this comment , cudnt have put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabs is no longer a swingers lifestyle site, it's a pickup site. Insta-shag ... if you are not in the hot zone, you've in the bin. Swinger etiquette has dropped through the floor - zero respect all round .. just excuses now why players are exempt using good manners. Because single males are ten a penny, with a direct proportion of cunts with it, then if you are as common as horseshit at Cheltenham racecourse on Cheltenham cup weekend, it's not surprising then to be shovelled onto the shit pile with the rest.i do have to agree wholeheartedly with this comment , cudnt have put it better myself "

I total agree two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its 10x harder for single men than single females to get meets but that life due there being to many men and not enough of females or couples who are into men on here?

It’s not hard for men to get meets, it’s hard for men that don’t make an effort to get meets. We will gladly meet single men"

well i have try and did everything i though was an effort but still came short..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was looking for meets as a single guy I didn't find it hard at all finding people who wanted to meet me. What was hard was finding people who I also wanted to meet and I felt I was compatible with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabs is no longer a swingers lifestyle site, it's a pickup site. Insta-shag ... if you are not in the hot zone, you've in the bin. Swinger etiquette has dropped through the floor - zero respect all round .. just excuses now why players are exempt using good manners. Because single males are ten a penny, with a direct proportion of cunts with it, then if you are as common as horseshit at Cheltenham racecourse on Cheltenham cup weekend, it's not surprising then to be shovelled onto the shit pile with the rest."

Do you think you would fare better with less men on here, or if all the hot men left?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I don't make an effort now, you're either going to get fucked or your just going to be fucked. Jumping through hoops for people who don't give one shit about you regardless of the effort you have made yet having demanded it are cunts and are certainly not worthy of your time.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"My view is the total opposite. We're rarely looking to meet new single guys, not because the crap puts us off. Far from it. We think there are plenty of super guys on a Fab, but sadly have no capacity to meet them. We have our regulars, and that’s the main reason we are not available for more. So in short it’s the abundance of good guys that prevents us meeting, not the bad guys.

Mrs"

So true what you say above and I've heard some other couples say the same as you.

The problem is not just to do with the single guys; it's also that some women / couples just don't know how to find those good guys you mention about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabs is no longer a swingers lifestyle site, it's a pickup site. Insta-shag ... if you are not in the hot zone, you've in the bin. Swinger etiquette has dropped through the floor - zero respect all round .. just excuses now why players are exempt using good manners. Because single males are ten a penny, with a direct proportion of cunts with it, then if you are as common as horseshit at Cheltenham racecourse on Cheltenham cup weekend, it's not surprising then to be shovelled onto the shit pile with the rest.

Do you think you would fare better with less men on here, or if all the hot men left?"

Val, I've all but given up years ago!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why I don't make an effort now, you're either going to get fucked or your just going to be fucked. Jumping through hoops for people who don't give one shit about you regardless of the effort you have made yet having demanded it are cunts and are certainly not worthy of your time. "

Good to see it from the other side for a change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

Pete"

Would it be caused by the "genuine" single guy who last time bemoaned the fact that he wasn't left a verification... only to be outed by a lady who the "genuine single guy" for doing the same thing?

just curious like?

see.... the thing is i don't think any one person is a spokesperson for an entire range of people.....

if people are looking for a specific person i would always say to them for them to do the searching... and if that means other avenues aren't as profitable.... such is life....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal."

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men join, call it a sex site rather than a swingers' site, believe it's insta shag! Then complain that they've been here six hours but no one meets. So often these men either don't read profiles or completely ignore what's written. I'm getting fed up of men who think they're exceptional in some way and no matter if they fit what I'm looking for or not I must meet them! For example travel say fifty miles for them! Not likely, they show they aren't exceptional just prats. That's what decent men are up against "

Hear hear well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it is very difficult to meet ladies but I've not given up. And I'm not going to get all arsey about it either because I have to be realistic here cos A) there are plenty of chaps who have more to offer physically than I, and B) a potential lady meet will have to like me for "me" and being a single fella it will be tricky to reach that stage before being kicked into touch..!

And you really can't blame the ladies to be honest. But I'm hanging in there nevertheless..

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By *iberatedPairCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk


"Fabs is no longer a swingers lifestyle site, it's a pickup site. Insta-shag ... if you are not in the hot zone, you've in the bin. Swinger etiquette has dropped through the floor - zero respect all round .. just excuses now why players are exempt using good manners. Because single males are ten a penny, with a direct proportion of cunts with it, then if you are as common as horseshit at Cheltenham racecourse on Cheltenham cup weekend, it's not surprising then to be shovelled onto the shit pile with the rest.i do have to agree wholeheartedly with this comment , cudnt have put it better myself "

Us too. T is astounding how guys naturally assume it’s a sex site. Swinging is very different. The site has become more mainstream and that in turn brings idiotic behaviour from single guys.

However we still meet them. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 66 don't have a great amount of fun..but if i can do it there is something wrong with a lot of younger guys approach to this site...yes they think its hallo and a fuck..you have to say hallo at least twice ??...no only joking..strange sence of humour..

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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

To be fair, the only real issue we have is finding guys the missus fancies.

We get a lot of winks, friend invites, messages and looks from single guys but the majority clearly haven't read our profile.

We are looking for hunky guys (she loves the muscles) but 90%+ are guys who can best be described as normal Joes. Many are clearly trying to punch above their weight.

And no, we don't care that "they might be lovely guys". She wants the hunks and nothing else will do. We don't need to do this. We're very happily married with a great sex life. This is just a bit of erotic fun.

There ARE suitable candidates (for us) and some really nice guys who tick all the boxes. But Fab is awash with others who aren't what we're looking for.

So the question for most guys is simply; are you what couples are looking for? There's a lot of you and we can afford to be choosy.

Some of you will get lucky while many others will struggle. That's the nature of the beast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down"

Bye then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down"

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. .

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

The other issue is that couples might only be looking for one or two 'hired guns' to help them out.

We aren't all looking for a conveyor belt of cocks. One or two for regular meets is good enough (for us).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. ."

Was that because the women thought you were interested in dating them?

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. ."

There's the problem. You can't distinguish between one-on-one NSA sex and swinging.

Fab has too many singles looking to hook up. But that ain't swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it is very difficult to meet ladies but I've not given up. And I'm not going to get all arsey about it either because I have to be realistic here cos A) there are plenty of chaps who have more to offer physically than I, and B) a potential lady meet will have to like me for "me" and being a single fella it will be tricky to reach that stage before being kicked into touch..!

And you really can't blame the ladies to be honest. But I'm hanging in there nevertheless.. "

Please don't misunderstand me, wanting to fuck you for you is so old hat...if you're not a beefcake, you're history nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give! "

For you maybe; not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it is very difficult to meet ladies but I've not given up. And I'm not going to get all arsey about it either because I have to be realistic here cos A) there are plenty of chaps who have more to offer physically than I, and B) a potential lady meet will have to like me for "me" and being a single fella it will be tricky to reach that stage before being kicked into touch..!

And you really can't blame the ladies to be honest. But I'm hanging in there nevertheless..

Please don't misunderstand me, wanting to fuck you for you is so old hat...if you're not a beefcake, you're history nowadays. "

If you were to search men's profiles you will see that lots of non beefcake men are doing very well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. .

There's the problem. You can't distinguish between one-on-one NSA sex and swinging.

Fab has too many singles looking to hook up. But that ain't swinging."

You assume too much with very little information to hand to base your tuppence worth on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. ."

And breathe...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give!

For you maybe; not for me. "

You're not reading the thread carefully enough to pick up on the nuanced comment val.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it is very difficult to meet ladies but I've not given up. And I'm not going to get all arsey about it either because I have to be realistic here cos A) there are plenty of chaps who have more to offer physically than I, and B) a potential lady meet will have to like me for "me" and being a single fella it will be tricky to reach that stage before being kicked into touch..!

And you really can't blame the ladies to be honest. But I'm hanging in there nevertheless..

Please don't misunderstand me, wanting to fuck you for you is so old hat...if you're not a beefcake, you're history nowadays.

If you were to search men's profiles you will see that lots of non beefcake men are doing very well. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give!

For you maybe; not for me.

You're not reading the thread carefully enough to pick up on the nuanced comment val."

I responded to your statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. .

There's the problem. You can't distinguish between one-on-one NSA sex and swinging.

Fab has too many singles looking to hook up. But that ain't swinging.

You assume too much with very little information to hand to base your tuppence worth on."

I don’t think a man who is here for the swinging by lifestyle would compare this site with a dating site. Of course it’s easier to get laid a dating site - there are more women on dating sites! I don’t know why this is ironic or a surprise to anyone.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. .

Was that because the women thought you were interested in dating them?"

Nope I openly stated I was a swinger and had no intention of changing or stopping...sadly that was a red rag to a bull in some cases where when one or two had sex with me, then erroneously believed that in doing so I was therefore off the market and all theirs. I never lied or played games I played my hand straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. .

There's the problem. You can't distinguish between one-on-one NSA sex and swinging.

Fab has too many singles looking to hook up. But that ain't swinging.

You assume too much with very little information to hand to base your tuppence worth on.

I don’t think a man who is here for the swinging by lifestyle would compare this site with a dating site. Of course it’s easier to get laid a dating site - there are more women on dating sites! I don’t know why this is ironic or a surprise to anyone.

Mrs"

You're erroneous in assuming that I have made a comparison. I do know the difference. I merely stated a fact that I have ironically had more sexual encounters while dating than somewhere intended for sexual encounters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give!

For you maybe; not for me.

You're not reading the thread carefully enough to pick up on the nuanced comment val.

I responded to your statement. "

Looks like I will have to spell it out to you then Val. The original message was about how little a bloke in a couple gets out of an extra sausage on his sofa (like he gets nothing out of it)...and that's the crux of it. For many it's about what you get not what you give and just because I say something, it does not mean that I attribute it to myself. In this case I don't. I highlighted the originator's perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same in Derby 5 years ago was good

very rare genuine single women are on this site any more mist couples are dreamers.Pof beats this site hands down

I have to agree, I got laid more on pof than here...oh the irony. I am of the opinion that many people with low self esteem fill out membership on fabs with no interest in meeting feel better about themselves as soon as the selfie likes come rolling in...because they're nothing special anywhere else... they get attention here and then believe that they can act in a certain kind of manner..I.e. like a cunt. .

There's the problem. You can't distinguish between one-on-one NSA sex and swinging.

Fab has too many singles looking to hook up. But that ain't swinging.

You assume too much with very little information to hand to base your tuppence worth on.

I don’t think a man who is here for the swinging by lifestyle would compare this site with a dating site. Of course it’s easier to get laid a dating site - there are more women on dating sites! I don’t know why this is ironic or a surprise to anyone.

Mrs

You're erroneous in assuming that I have made a comparison. I do know the difference. I merely stated a fact that I have ironically had more sexual encounters while dating than somewhere intended for sexual encounters."

My apologies, it sounded like you were making a comparison. I personally don’t see it as ironic for a man to get more sex on a site where there are a reasonable amount of women looking to meet single men, which is not really the case with a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give!

For you maybe; not for me.

You're not reading the thread carefully enough to pick up on the nuanced comment val.

I responded to your statement.

Looks like I will have to spell it out to you then Val. The original message was about how little a bloke in a couple gets out of an extra sausage on his sofa (like he gets nothing out of it)...and that's the crux of it. For many it's about what you get not what you give and just because I say something, it does not mean that I attribute it to myself. In this case I don't. I highlighted the originator's perspective. "

The original post about single men not being in demand by couples and single women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give!

For you maybe; not for me.

You're not reading the thread carefully enough to pick up on the nuanced comment val.

I responded to your statement.

Looks like I will have to spell it out to you then Val. The original message was about how little a bloke in a couple gets out of an extra sausage on his sofa (like he gets nothing out of it)...and that's the crux of it. For many it's about what you get not what you give and just because I say something, it does not mean that I attribute it to myself. In this case I don't. I highlighted the originator's perspective.

The original post about single men not being in demand by couples and single women? "

Oh sorry, you meant the comment you were replying to. I get you now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give!

For you maybe; not for me.

You're not reading the thread carefully enough to pick up on the nuanced comment val.

I responded to your statement.

Looks like I will have to spell it out to you then Val. The original message was about how little a bloke in a couple gets out of an extra sausage on his sofa (like he gets nothing out of it)...and that's the crux of it. For many it's about what you get not what you give and just because I say something, it does not mean that I attribute it to myself. In this case I don't. I highlighted the originator's perspective.

The original post about single men not being in demand by couples and single women?

Oh sorry, you meant the comment you were replying to. I get you now. "

BINGO! Val, Please forgive me if my succinctness came over as being rude or abrupt. I did think that it was important to clarify.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because if we invite a single male I, (as a straight man) get absolutely nothing from the deal.

The fatal flaw with this hobby is...its all about what you can get rather than what you can give!

For you maybe; not for me.

You're not reading the thread carefully enough to pick up on the nuanced comment val.

I responded to your statement.

Looks like I will have to spell it out to you then Val. The original message was about how little a bloke in a couple gets out of an extra sausage on his sofa (like he gets nothing out of it)...and that's the crux of it. For many it's about what you get not what you give and just because I say something, it does not mean that I attribute it to myself. In this case I don't. I highlighted the originator's perspective.

The original post about single men not being in demand by couples and single women?

Oh sorry, you meant the comment you were replying to. I get you now.

BINGO! Val, Please forgive me if my succinctness came over as being rude or abrupt. I did think that it was important to clarify. "

Nothing to forgive. I have a habit of skim reading and missing important information.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found that is a major problem with the way replying is set up in this forum. Cumulatively the originator of a comment can be lost as the discussion develops, then sadly a debate quickly turns into a witch hunt.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

One particular group of "single males" we're guaranteed to avoid are the ones that assume that just because you're online you're gagging for a fuck. You've been online for less than a minute and the mail box lights up yellow with things like...

"You busy?"

"Fancy a fuck?"

"I want to destroy your pussy"

And still our favourite

"U fuck now"

It's a sad state of affairs, and the behaviour of the few reflects on the many. We do meet single guys. In fact all our meets bar one have been single males, but these are people who have messaged after we have posted a meet request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it is very difficult to meet ladies but I've not given up. And I'm not going to get all arsey about it either because I have to be realistic here cos A) there are plenty of chaps who have more to offer physically than I, and B) a potential lady meet will have to like me for "me" and being a single fella it will be tricky to reach that stage before being kicked into touch..!

And you really can't blame the ladies to be honest. But I'm hanging in there nevertheless..

Please don't misunderstand me, wanting to fuck you for you is so old hat...if you're not a beefcake, you're history nowadays.

If you were to search men's profiles you will see that lots of non beefcake men are doing very well. "

..Thanks 'brain' for adding the point. I was going to say something along those lines!

I'm not a complete hapless loser and I do get the "beefcake" point, but I'm here for specific needs, wants and desires and if a lady, or couple, here doesn't wish that from me, I'm good with that.

I have more "success" in day-to-day to life because believe it or not, a fair few find me good looking

...and I'm flattered by that but I don't wish to pursue anything more with these ladies because we have other things we offer each other, and I'm good with that too...oh hell, I'm just waffling...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it is very difficult to meet ladies but I've not given up. And I'm not going to get all arsey about it either because I have to be realistic here cos A) there are plenty of chaps who have more to offer physically than I, and B) a potential lady meet will have to like me for "me" and being a single fella it will be tricky to reach that stage before being kicked into touch..!

And you really can't blame the ladies to be honest. But I'm hanging in there nevertheless..

Please don't misunderstand me, wanting to fuck you for you is so old hat...if you're not a beefcake, you're history nowadays.

If you were to search men's profiles you will see that lots of non beefcake men are doing very well.

..Thanks 'brain' for adding the point. I was going to say something along those lines!

I'm not a complete hapless loser and I do get the "beefcake" point, but I'm here for specific needs, wants and desires and if a lady, or couple, here doesn't wish that from me, I'm good with that.

I have more "success" in day-to-day to life because believe it or not, a fair few find me good looking

...and I'm flattered by that but I don't wish to pursue anything more with these ladies because we have other things we offer each other, and I'm good with that too...oh hell, I'm just waffling... "

Waffle away...that's the point of all this surely!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Waffle away...that's the point of all this surely!?"

...Well, yes, kind of...so I'd thought I'd give it a go!..anyway, bedtime..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yer right it starts then branches out all over the place...what were they talking about?..the Syrian crisis or Brexit !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One particular group of "single males" we're guaranteed to avoid are the ones that assume that just because you're online you're gagging for a fuck. You've been online for less than a minute and the mail box lights up yellow with things like...

"You busy?"

"Fancy a fuck?"

"I want to destroy your pussy"

And still our favourite

"U fuck now"

It's a sad state of affairs, and the behaviour of the few reflects on the many. We do meet single guys. In fact all our meets bar one have been single males, but these are people who have messaged after we have posted a meet request."

I have to make a confession. On occasion, knowing full well that I am not going to get anywhere, I make a conscious decision to make a short intro message which does not articulate my potential nor general approach...and I do that for the reason if I did, I would get radio silence anyway..and as crass as they sometimes are, my messages do reflect the tone of the images and the text content of the profile. It's then amazing how hypocritical some are with a high and mighty position they have in replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's done out of boredom and mischief. If I got an offer in all likelihood I'd be too stunned to react.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One particular group of "single males" we're guaranteed to avoid are the ones that assume that just because you're online you're gagging for a fuck. You've been online for less than a minute and the mail box lights up yellow with things like...

"You busy?"

"Fancy a fuck?"

"I want to destroy your pussy"

And still our favourite

"U fuck now"

It's a sad state of affairs, and the behaviour of the few reflects on the many. We do meet single guys. In fact all our meets bar one have been single males, but these are people who have messaged after we have posted a meet request.

I have to make a confession. On occasion, knowing full well that I am not going to get anywhere, I make a conscious decision to make a short intro message which does not articulate my potential nor general approach...and I do that for the reason if I did, I would get radio silence anyway..and as crass as they sometimes are, my messages do reflect the tone of the images and the text content of the profile. It's then amazing how hypocritical some are with a high and mighty position they have in replying. "

Seems you have outed yourself as a time-waster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am looking for single men but the quality in general is very poor

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

We've had 18 messages since replying in this forum post from guys saying 'I can't believe you're struggling' to 'don't be picky then' so we must clarify, it’s easy finding guys to meet us. It’s just hard finding guys we want to meet!

We’re looking for genuine swingers & that’s what’s hard to find.

Many people don’t ever remember conversing with us or us saying no to meeting already as we’re not attracted to them and will repeatedly message. I can hear many say 'block them' but why? Shouldn't a no thank you be sufficent when dealing with adults? Plus, lost count how many times a blocked person pops back up every few weeks with a new profile.

The site provides various tools to help remember, such as saving messages to the notes feature (which we use. We record why & when we said no).

Many guys on the site just send out mass messages in the hope that someone bites. There’s no general interest in getting to know them for friendship and fun by matching profiles. It's whoever has a sexy photo and will respond that they'll just go with.

We search and read probably up to a hundred profiles a week and 95% have no information or photos attached to them for us to be intrigued enough to message them first.

We did try it once and messaged 10 blankish profiles to see what would happen and when they sent us photos we wasn’t attracted to them and politely told them so. And then we were abused and called time wasters for contacting them in the first place! This puts us off even making initial contact so it often comes to the point where we just rely on people finding us and filtering them out that way.

Last week we had a guy change his age to get around our filters and openly told us in his message. We reported him and admin have since blocked us from seeing his profile but in the inbox we can still see his age is the changed one. The site is full of creeps who don't respect peoples preferences ad just try and trick you with lies etc.

All this makes it hard to find the genuine single guys to give them a chance and we have become so over cautious and put up so many barriers.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Maybe the problem is worse down in South London

Oh definitely it must be something to do with our area, all you have to do is view local updates every day to see endless cock pics and drug reference & vile status’s.

Single guy here with a normal-ish profile "

Profile quality is definitely in the eye of the beholder! I’d delete a message from you based on the lack of detail in your profile, whereas you think your profile is ok.

There are a number of lovely guys I’ve met at clubs who I’ve veri’d ... and when I’ve read their profile, it’s been awful! But in the club setting they were lovely, so it’s hard to judge!

That’s why I prefer club meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve tried searching for guys but as the majority don’t actually complete their profiles makes finding guys troublesome.

Our area is riddled with profiles of just a cock pic and profile text of “ask if you want to know more”

We love meeting single guys but it’s near impossible to find the genuine ones amongst the masses that are members here. "
that just about sums up our luck as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this is why I go to clubs! Much better to meet in person.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"We've had 18 messages since replying in this forum post from guys saying 'I can't believe you're struggling' to 'don't be picky then' so we must clarify, it’s easy finding guys to meet us. It’s just hard finding guys we want to meet!

We’re looking for genuine swingers & that’s what’s hard to find.

Many people don’t ever remember conversing with us or us saying no to meeting already as we’re not attracted to them and will repeatedly message. I can hear many say 'block them' but why? Shouldn't a no thank you be sufficent when dealing with adults? Plus, lost count how many times a blocked person pops back up every few weeks with a new profile.

The site provides various tools to help remember, such as saving messages to the notes feature (which we use. We record why & when we said no).

Many guys on the site just send out mass messages in the hope that someone bites. There’s no general interest in getting to know them for friendship and fun by matching profiles. It's whoever has a sexy photo and will respond that they'll just go with.

We search and read probably up to a hundred profiles a week and 95% have no information or photos attached to them for us to be intrigued enough to message them first.

We did try it once and messaged 10 blankish profiles to see what would happen and when they sent us photos we wasn’t attracted to them and politely told them so. And then we were abused and called time wasters for contacting them in the first place! This puts us off even making initial contact so it often comes to the point where we just rely on people finding us and filtering them out that way.

Last week we had a guy change his age to get around our filters and openly told us in his message. We reported him and admin have since blocked us from seeing his profile but in the inbox we can still see his age is the changed one. The site is full of creeps who don't respect peoples preferences ad just try and trick you with lies etc.

All this makes it hard to find the genuine single guys to give them a chance and we have become so over cautious and put up so many barriers. "

The influx of non true swingers as a whole is the demise of this site.....

I was away for nearly three years due to illness....and since coming back I have found the increase in instantshag profiles/people is noticeable...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a older single mani have been on here a while now and no luck with meeting anyone my profile is honest i do not lie .

i don't mind if there is not sex involved it would be nice to meet people in my area to get naked with

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante


"When looking through meets in my area; London and South East regions. I have noticed less and less couples and or single women looking for single guys to join them.

Has the poor reputation of the single guy (caused by some) finally taken its toll for the rest of the genuine single guy?

Cheers

A lot of single guys assume that all couples are looking for a 3some and can't understand that my hubby doesn't get off on just watching me play with another man unless there is another female for him too!

However it is also very difficult for us couples to meet other couples.....messages go backwards and forwards and as soon as we talk about dates and times evertything goes quiet! We call them "sofa swingers"! They (or maybe it is just the hubby and his wife doesn't know anything about it) just seem to get off on the thought of meeting!

We find clubs and parties the best all round and I do then play with single guys but not as a 3some....hubby usually busy elsewhere....or waiting in the bar lol!

So as others have said get along to a club and meet people!

Mouse x

Pete"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its definitely gone downhill since my first foray onto Fab in 2013, whether thats' a universal thing or just the fact I've become lazier/fussier since then I don't know

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Its definitely gone downhill since my first foray onto Fab in 2013, whether thats' a universal thing or just the fact I've become lazier/fussier since then I don't know "

I was on in 2014/15 before I was ill in Dec ‘15....came back on a few months ago....it is very demanding, judgemental place now....where one is afraid to give a polite no to messages for fear of abuse...as you say though my previous playmates, and current part time one have probably made me fussier...which I think is kind of a good filter lol

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

Some how my posting got embedded in another message!

Oops! Must have pressed the wrong button!

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"Some how my posting got embedded in another message!

Oops! Must have pressed the wrong button!"

We understood it.

Apart from the fact that I do like to watch Mrs H having fun with single guys we would agree with every word.

Great afternoon/evening yesterday BTW.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"One particular group of "single males" we're guaranteed to avoid are the ones that assume that just because you're online you're gagging for a fuck. You've been online for less than a minute and the mail box lights up yellow with things like...

"You busy?"

"Fancy a fuck?"

"I want to destroy your pussy"

And still our favourite

"U fuck now"

It's a sad state of affairs, and the behaviour of the few reflects on the many. We do meet single guys. In fact all our meets bar one have been single males, but these are people who have messaged after we have posted a meet request.

I have to make a confession. On occasion, knowing full well that I am not going to get anywhere, I make a conscious decision to make a short intro message which does not articulate my potential nor general approach...and I do that for the reason if I did, I would get radio silence anyway..and as crass as they sometimes are, my messages do reflect the tone of the images and the text content of the profile. It's then amazing how hypocritical some are with a high and mighty position they have in replying. "

What would you expect in reply to "crass" message? A friendly invite round to their house?

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"As a older single mani have been on here a while now and no luck with meeting anyone my profile is honest i do not lie .

"

But you have two recent verifications...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men join, call it a sex site rather than a swingers' site, believe it's insta shag! Then complain that they've been here six hours but no one meets. So often these men either don't read profiles or completely ignore what's written. I'm getting fed up of men who think they're exceptional in some way and no matter if they fit what I'm looking for or not I must meet them! For example travel say fifty miles for them! Not likely, they show they aren't exceptional just prats. That's what decent men are up against "

You're on the money there, lots of single men treating this place as a sex site. We get so many men who ignore what's written in our profile and jump straight in with dick pic, up for fun, in your area. Whatever happened to courtesy, pleasantries etc?

We were looking to meet last night, if spoken on the phone to a guy at lunch time, told him the time we would wish to meet and that is send him the address details later. I messaged later and then no reply, so I sent another asking if he was still interested. I'd put effort into arranging this meet and selected him from his verifications and his pleasant approach originally. I'd told him on the phone to just let us know if he can't turn up for whatever reason. Eventually he messages me back and that he sees his kids Sunday afternoon and had taken them out for dinner. At first I accept this and say I can understand the demands of family life, although had been in fab whilst I was waiting for a reply, so my bullshit filter was being lit up.

Some time later, and close to when we were supposed to be meeting, his message, the let down, the excuse, the bullshit.

"Sorry mate, I'm up at 5.30am and 9pm is a bit late so I'm going to have to say I can't make it."

Plans scuppered yet again

And that's just one of the reasons why we're getting sick and tired of meeting single men.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"So many men join, call it a sex site rather than a swingers' site, believe it's insta shag! Then complain that they've been here six hours but no one meets. So often these men either don't read profiles or completely ignore what's written. I'm getting fed up of men who think they're exceptional in some way and no matter if they fit what I'm looking for or not I must meet them! For example travel say fifty miles for them! Not likely, they show they aren't exceptional just prats. That's what decent men are up against

You're on the money there, lots of single men treating this place as a sex site. We get so many men who ignore what's written in our profile and jump straight in with dick pic, up for fun, in your area. Whatever happened to courtesy, pleasantries etc?

We were looking to meet last night, if spoken on the phone to a guy at lunch time, told him the time we would wish to meet and that is send him the address details later. I messaged later and then no reply, so I sent another asking if he was still interested. I'd put effort into arranging this meet and selected him from his verifications and his pleasant approach originally. I'd told him on the phone to just let us know if he can't turn up for whatever reason. Eventually he messages me back and that he sees his kids Sunday afternoon and had taken them out for dinner. At first I accept this and say I can understand the demands of family life, although had been in fab whilst I was waiting for a reply, so my bullshit filter was being lit up.

Some time later, and close to when we were supposed to be meeting, his message, the let down, the excuse, the bullshit.

"Sorry mate, I'm up at 5.30am and 9pm is a bit late so I'm going to have to say I can't make it."

Plans scuppered yet again

And that's just one of the reasons why we're getting sick and tired of meeting single men."

All very true, however I would just make a slight correction to your first sentence.

You're on the money there, lots of MARRIED men treating this place as a sex site.

I also think that is the root of meets not turning up and the last minute bullshit Etc.

They plan everything on the hope that they can sneak off for a few hours. When they suddenly realise that they can't the cat dies or whatever.

We stick to clubs now and we are always happy to meet a guy in a club but if he doesn't turn up, as happened to us yesterday, then we don't really give a shit. The guy who sent us countless messages and couldn't wait to meet us just didn't show up but Mrs H made sure that she and half a dozen of the guys that did show still had a great afternoon/evening.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"So many men join, call it a sex site rather than a swingers' site, believe it's insta shag! Then complain that they've been here six hours but no one meets. So often these men either don't read profiles or completely ignore what's written. I'm getting fed up of men who think they're exceptional in some way and no matter if they fit what I'm looking for or not I must meet them! For example travel say fifty miles for them! Not likely, they show they aren't exceptional just prats. That's what decent men are up against

You're on the money there, lots of single men treating this place as a sex site. We get so many men who ignore what's written in our profile and jump straight in with dick pic, up for fun, in your area. Whatever happened to courtesy, pleasantries etc?

We were looking to meet last night, if spoken on the phone to a guy at lunch time, told him the time we would wish to meet and that is send him the address details later. I messaged later and then no reply, so I sent another asking if he was still interested. I'd put effort into arranging this meet and selected him from his verifications and his pleasant approach originally. I'd told him on the phone to just let us know if he can't turn up for whatever reason. Eventually he messages me back and that he sees his kids Sunday afternoon and had taken them out for dinner. At first I accept this and say I can understand the demands of family life, although had been in fab whilst I was waiting for a reply, so my bullshit filter was being lit up.

Some time later, and close to when we were supposed to be meeting, his message, the let down, the excuse, the bullshit.

"Sorry mate, I'm up at 5.30am and 9pm is a bit late so I'm going to have to say I can't make it."

Plans scuppered yet again

And that's just one of the reasons why we're getting sick and tired of meeting single men."

These are the worst. They keep you waiting until the very last minute then give some bullshit excuse. We had one just last week. I have a natural pussy, this is mentioned straight off the bat in our profile text as I know it's not everyone's cup of tea. It's also on full display in our friend only pics. For two days the "single male" in question had known this. Yet moments before the meet time he messaged saying he didn't like natural pussies!

Perhaps his wife came home unexpectedly. We blocked him anyway just in case he changed his mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest challenge for us as a couple looking for single guys, is that so many of them aren't single.

Next challenge is finding one that can actually read and gives a shit about what we've taken time to write.

If single guys think it's a challenge getting meets, they should try being a couple looking for quality single guys.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Biggest challenge for us as a couple looking for single guys, is that so many of them aren't single.

Next challenge is finding one that can actually read and gives a shit about what we've taken time to write.

If single guys think it's a challenge getting meets, they should try being a couple looking for quality single guys. "

Kind of like looking for Heinz Baked Beans and discovering there's only the stores own 17p budget brand left lol.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think many couples now seem to look for an extra female over a male,just seems the case in our updates.

We don't currently seek single men on this profile and use it for couple meets /clubs.

Miss

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

I think all "single" guys should be forced to read this thread before joining the site.

Maybe they would learn something, but I doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're on the money there, lots of MARRIED men treating this place as a sex site.

I also think that is the root of meets not turning up and the last minute bullshit Etc.

They plan everything on the hope that they can sneak off for a few hours. When they suddenly realise that they can't the cat dies or whatever."

Yes how true.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I’ve got to say that I’m a single guy and I love this site! I’ve met (and continue to meet) some great people who love filthy fun recreational sex as much as I do. However the lack of social skills of many men on here - a popular subject of all social meets, is shocking - just basic good manners, curtesy and respect seem to be beyond many.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"I’ve got to say that I’m a single guy and I love this site! I’ve met (and continue to meet) some great people who love filthy fun recreational sex as much as I do. However the lack of social skills of many men on here - a popular subject of all social meets, is shocking - just basic good manners, curtesy and respect seem to be beyond many. "

I couldn't agree more!

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