FabSwingers.com forum: Meet after just a few messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do not think so as it very hard for single men but good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met one girl after only a couple of messages. It's rare but not impossible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a woman with my bf after 5 messages and we're still good friends now x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

To be honest, I don't want to exchange hundreds of messages, I'm here to meet men, not chat to them forever. I usually prefer to meet within a day or two of first contact if there's mutual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't no. My free time is extremely limited. So it gives me time to chat to someone for a bit first

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Yes it can do. Depends on flow of chat etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done it in the past, yes XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the first time of messaging, usually I'm meeting within a week.

Social of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had amazing meets after 3/4 messages and also after a year - anything can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes after a couple of hours I’ve met someone Last min and it’s been a good meet but have heard of plenty of bad meets aswell lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message from a couple after only 2 exchanges at 5am asking if they "could come over and crack straight on"

Needless to say I went back to sleep

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I have met someone within a few hours of messaging but that’s really not the norm for me. Unless it’s a club night.

V x

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Not for me.... long ago I met someone (not from Fab) just once within the same day as we started chatting. The sex was good, but it the most empty and unsatisfying experience of my life, and I was back online pretty much right away afterwards looking for something more stimulating and pleasurable. It served its purpose though in that I now know for sure that I need a rapport and mental connection with someone to have really great sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometime you just get a good gut feeling about someone after a few messages.

Sometimes it takes longer

Everyone different in the types of messages they sendand the way one responds to.

It’s all about connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never known it, but it could happen if that is what they want,

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

It’s possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone after 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it happens and we've stayed friends away from fab aswell. X

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow

I erm,met a guy after 2 brief messages.

Was a memorable afternoon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

The less messages the better. We can't be arsed with chat as it gets called

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Nothing is set in stone as regards time/message limits. Both are great and depends on both being available at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was starting to think I wasn’t cut out for this place as I havnt got it in me to meet up and have sex with a total stranger. I’ve always got to know girls for a while first before anything sexual happens. After reading the posts tho it seems it’s more the norm than not so perhaps I am in the right place after all.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

A couple of times I’ve met after just a few messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple messaged me before asking for a meet I asked for the address and I turned up.... that was my quickest meet!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Depends on the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "

I've met after a few messages and they've pretty much been great meets as well (aside from 1 or 2)

I work nights and shifts so can't always plan in advance

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Prefer fewer messages tbh, can get a club meet arranged in a couple messages

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Given my circumstances and limited time to meet I generally prefer to spend time messaging and building a connection and chemistry with people before suggesting meeting.

That said I've now had two very enjoyable meets that arose out of a relatively limited number of messages exchanged with a couple, so it can work either way

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By *ibertine_mindsCouple
over a year ago

Staffs/ Derbys/ Peak District

As a single male meeting couples, it was possible to meet after minimal messages if at their invitation. Possibly one messsge for the invitation, one reply back to accept, then one more where to meet and off we go . . .

Trying to meet single females, I always felt the need to take it at a more ‘respectful’ pace.

As a couple (now of some years together) meeting other couples we both want to be sure the dynamic is exactly right for us, so prefer a rapport to build and confirm this with a ‘social’ meeting first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The less messages the better. We can't be arsed with chat as it gets called "

Yeah, that's us as well.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

I've had quite a few 'spur of the moment' type meets - minimal messaging - they have generally been fantastic and provide a totally different kind of excitement to the building anticipation of a planned meet.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve spent weeks chatting to people only for them to disappear in a puff of smoke (user no longer on site) so the benefits of an early meet are not wasting people’s time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men ask but i never do .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats a message ?

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"I’ve spent weeks chatting to people only for them to disappear in a puff of smoke (user no longer on site) so the benefits of an early meet are not wasting people’s time. "

There is definitely a lot of truth in the old adage 'all talk and no trousers' on this site...if chat goes on for too long (and it becomes easier with experience to determine what constitutes 'too long'), then the likelihood is that you are chatting to a fantasist...I just bin these kinds of connections early on these days....

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I've started chatting to someone in the morning and met them that night but we had been talking all day though, after just a few messages nah can't see anyone being that good to make me want to meet straight away.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

The simplest meet I ever had went like this. A lady messaged me out of the blue on the Sunday evening. Half a dozen messages later we agreed to meet next day. We shared a couple of messages during the Monday and met as planned on the Monday night. Simples!

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

What's this "few" messages you speak of?

You say this as though people reply to me

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By *av_55Man
over a year ago

Due to the nature of my job and geographic location it can be a few messages and some times months till I’m there again,, horses for courses don’t ya know,,,,

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once met a guy who said you can tell if someone is up for meeting or not in the first 4 messages.

Turns out he was right. Generally you can tell. I love to thrill of finding out things in person rather than endless typing on a screen.

That said, I have some good friends to I talk a lot in messages and still yet to meet in person.

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Due to the nature of my job and geographic location it can be a few messages and some times months till I’m there again,, horses for courses don’t ya know,,,,

Bit like me to be fair. I could be anywhere in the country one day to the next. But could be back in area at anytime.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If I was meeting which I’m not, I would chat for at least 3-6 months just to see if they are right for me. Plus it really tests them...

I’m no fantasist or fake either...

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

Just a couple of messages and then a club meet for me

That said I will have usually met them before at a club or a social.When I first came in here I wasted too much precious time on exchanging messages that went nowhere

I’ve never understood how people can build a connection without actually meeting first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies and depends on the message.

I have met after 4/5 messages and I am still waiting to meet one guy i've been chatting to for weeks.

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By *llie_worcMan
over a year ago

bristol

3 or 4 years and probably at least 10 thousand messages ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its never happened with me but im sure it happens.

My conversations to and fro for days, evwn weeks before i meet. I hate comming across as forceful or disrespectful so i often ask to meet for a social and see how it goes from there.

Everyone is different...

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "

Not with me it doesn't.

I need to chat a good long time before I'd consider meeting someone.

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Its never happened with me but im sure it happens.

My conversations to and fro for days, evwn weeks before i meet. I hate comming across as forceful or disrespectful so i often ask to meet for a social and see how it goes from there.

Everyone is different... "

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"3 or 4 years and probably at least 10 thousand messages ??"

You’re my kind of man if I was meeting

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I have chatted to guys and they have been here the same night but also chat to some for ages.

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

Yep we have after 3....hi message... with face pic message.... what would you like to do message .... address and time message ... simple

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

We meet after a few messages anymore blokes get into the dirty talk zone and meets never happen.

D&K

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Yes - we met one of our favourite couples after they sent us a message out of the blue, they came over two hours later (65 miles away) & we've been firm friends ever since!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 or 4 years and probably at least 10 thousand messages ??"

Knot good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If guys are meeting with other guys there would often only be 4 or 5 messages exchanged before meeting.

I think it depends on a few things really, if both people can meet there and then, it's more likely.

Generally speaking I think women are less likely to do this and want to get to know someone over a week or two perhaps, again this is generally speaking, there are always the exceptions to the rules.

What gets me is the blank profile, first message saying "wanna fuk" you reply by saying, yeah maybe, can you give me a description and let me know a bit more, also what you are up for.

Their second message goes along the lines of:

I am not answering all those questions, you either want to meet or not!

It surprises me just how many times this is encountered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for me.... long ago I met someone (not from Fab) just once within the same day as we started chatting. The sex was good, but it the most empty and unsatisfying experience of my life, and I was back online pretty much right away afterwards looking for something more stimulating and pleasurable. It served its purpose though in that I now know for sure that I need a rapport and mental connection with someone to have really great sex

Spot on!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

In my experience the more messages exchanged the less likely it is we will meet.

There have been exceptions of course, but generally email ping pong tends to fizzle out unless they really pique my interest.

I'm here for meets, not a pen friend

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"Its never happened with me but im sure it happens.

My conversations to and fro for days, evwn weeks before i meet. I hate comming across as forceful or disrespectful so i often ask to meet for a social and see how it goes from there.

Everyone is different... "

To be honest mate, whenever I've had this kind of meet, it is nearly always a couple who get in touch and say something like 'are you free this evening'...so certainly not a question of your needing to be 'forceful or disrespectful'

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "

We’ve had over a hundred meets in just over a year , and every one of them has come after just one or two messages .

Why anyone feels the need to message more than this is beyond me .

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen?

We’ve had over a hundred meets in just over a year , and every one of them has come after just one or two messages .

Why anyone feels the need to message more than this is beyond me .

Because everyone is different and has different circumstances is why

If what you do works best for you, then great - just the same as taking time to get to know people is what works best for me

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple
over a year ago

Lust

The vast majority of our meets have occurred after just a few messages. That being said, our first meets are usually just no strings socials................usually

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"In my experience the more messages exchanged the less likely it is we will meet.

There have been exceptions of course, but generally email ping pong tends to fizzle out unless they really pique my interest.

I'm here for meets, not a pen friend

This is exactly how we feel too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes I did yesterday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "

Yes it definitely happens

have met with couples and singles on here after only two or three messages.In my experience,the longer the message ping-pong goes on the less likely a meet will occur.As somebody else has said,I'm not looking for an online penpal.Prefer to arrange a time and a place,meet up (with no expectations of play) to see if we're compatible,then take it from there.Not into endless messaging,plus it's much easier to see if we click by meeting in person than by messaging

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I had a similar experience with a couple who contacted me for a ‘meet now?’ She was a really sexy, gorgeous young woman, but she’d had too much to drink, didn’t do kissing, didn’t do bj, it was just get your cock in her, do it while hubby watched, then leave. I felt used afterward, and empty in more ways than the obvious, so that was the last time I agreed to a last minute meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely, but if the online conversation flows and I like his pic, it can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Majority of our meets have been literally after a few msgs (we've been on here on and off for the last 4 yrs), we don't like planning in advance as so many people muck around and either disappear off the site or they don't turn up and block you

Basically we prefer a msg saying hi, face pics, what were all wanting to do and address...done and dusted then meet and fuck

The end of day if I wanted a deep and meaningful chat I'd speak to my hubby and if I wanted to speak to people about the weather and my plans for the day I'd go on facebook

That being said if we've met someone fucked and got on with them and they're on the same level as us and can have a laugh with each other then we'll stay in touch on here or kik with the option of probably meeting again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for others but for me it would take some planning to meet. Obviously with being married and kids it's wouldn't be easy. I did meet one guy last minute here. I happened to be out and about shopping and he was too. I was sat fir a coffee and looking at fab. Agreed to meet for a quick coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a couple last week about an hour and a half after first contact! Don’t think it happens much but turned out to be a good night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally

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By *amagustaMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "

I met a guy just 10 min after couple of messages, he was in rush to swallow cum.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm happy to meet someone for a social after a few messages. No point chatting for ages to then arrange something and be disappointed!! Too time consuming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes indeed, it does happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Yep, last person I met was that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chatting for to long can fizzle out

Méet for a drink and chat works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chatting for to long can fizzle out

Méet for a drink and chat works "

Totally agree. Most meets are best after a few messages, if you get on and want a reg then a few days or a week max before at least confirming you want to meet. Folks should just be upfront if they just want to chat endlessly. I guess some want the thrill of the chase but its not a dating site afterall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started chatting to someone on here on sunday and we met up for a coffee on Tuesday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes chatted early morning met at lunchtime which is unusual for me

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

If were actively looking for a meet and we get chatting to the right person things would move pretty quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "

Done this lots if times!

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By *ules95Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Done this 4 times turned out the best times

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By *voryforebonyMan
over a year ago

boogie town

"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen?

Done this lots if times!"

Yep...I messaged a girl on here once, just said Hi. She messaged back asking if we should meet? I agreed, we met, fucked, got engaged, got married, then fell out and got divorced, argued over the take that CDs.. Etc etc... But remember, you don't have to do everything in life instantly. Paying your TV licence is really easy by monthly direct debit. Hope this helps...

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