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By *ampant Lion34 OP   Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

So spoke to women last week and got on great chatting. I asked if she liked what she saw etc which she replied very much so. We arranged to meet after the weekend ie this week. But now nothing, ignores my messages etc. Why can't people just be genuine I am. Pisses me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weather might of put her off meeting .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she just isn’t interested anymore and doesn’t know how to tell you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without actually finding out from her, you'll never really know. Forget and move on.

I'm interested in seeing the other responses to this given the woman's role in this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She could be a timewaster, has other stuff going on at home, has maybe been distracted by someone else, or changed her mind and doesn’t want to say.

There are many reasons OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she verified? Can you confirm it is actually a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is she verified? Can you confirm it is actually a woman? "

Just what we were about to say. We fell for this a few times when we first started on FAB.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So spoke to women last week and got on great chatting. I asked if she liked what she saw etc which she replied very much so. We arranged to meet after the weekend ie this week. But now nothing, ignores my messages etc. Why can't people just be genuine I am. Pisses me off. "

It's really maddening when that happens isn't it! It's happened to us a couple of times, we've had the date and venue arranged and when it comes to time...nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So spoke to women last week and got on great chatting. I asked if she liked what she saw etc which she replied very much so. We arranged to meet after the weekend ie this week. But now nothing, ignores my messages etc. Why can't people just be genuine I am. Pisses me off. "
this is classic time wasters behaviour imafraid , if they go quiet on you then they have no intentions of meeting , its getting a bit too real for her now and best to move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just like to point out that anyone can back out of having sex with someone they are chatting to at any time. She probably just changed her mind, it's not a crime x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So spoke to women last week and got on great chatting. I asked if she liked what she saw etc which she replied very much so. We arranged to meet after the weekend ie this week. But now nothing, ignores my messages etc. Why can't people just be genuine I am. Pisses me off. this is classic time wasters behaviour imafraid , if they go quiet on you then they have no intentions of meeting , its getting a bit too real for her now and best to move on "

I was going to say something similar. We think that a lot of people really love the idea but as soon as it comes to arranging fun it goes quiet. Happened to us a couple of weeks ago arranged for a guy to come over within 5 minutes he made an excuse and still has not read out response or spoke to us since. So annoying

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So spoke to women last week and got on great chatting. I asked if she liked what she saw etc which she replied very much so. We arranged to meet after the weekend ie this week. But now nothing, ignores my messages etc. Why can't people just be genuine I am. Pisses me off.

It's really maddening when that happens isn't it! It's happened to us a couple of times, we've had the date and venue arranged and when it comes to time...nothing. "

Had this myself of late, hence why I'm no longer looking to meet. I'm fed up with having my time wasted, I don't get much free time in the first place.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

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Clubs still attract some plonkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

Clubs still attract some plonkers "

They've not attracted this plonker. Yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

"

This, minus the obligated part. Nobody should ever feel obligated on anything, but people who frequent clubs and socials are more likely to be serious in their intent.

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

A fab woman or a real woman?

Usual give away no veris or fake veris and straight away start with the sex questions

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Timewaster clearly: she wasted yours.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

Clubs still attract some plonkers "
I completely agree but the majority who take the trouble to attend are at least genuine and if you find someone is a plonker you can move on pretty quickly without wasting time exchanging messages

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Probably a man "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fab woman or a real woman?

Usual give away no veris or fake veris and straight away start with the sex questions"

How can you tell a fake veri

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"A fab woman or a real woman?

Usual give away no veris or fake veris and straight away start with the sex questions

How can you tell a fake veri"

A bit of detective work usually.

Check out the person leaving the veri. It's usually obvious.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

It's frustrating, but get used to it - when it happens, just shrug it off, and hope next time it works out....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fab woman or a real woman?

Usual give away no veris or fake veris and straight away start with the sex questions

How can you tell a fake veri

A bit of detective work usually.

Check out the person leaving the veri. It's usually obvious."

I saw a cracker this week on a profile who had posted in the forum.

In his profile he had put 'knot' instead of not in his profile text. He had one verification and they had done the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people get off on the prospect of meeting for sex , there pattern is easily spotted early on if u know what to look for , its sort of written between the lines

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"A fab woman or a real woman?

Usual give away no veris or fake veris and straight away start with the sex questions

How can you tell a fake veri

A bit of detective work usually.

Check out the person leaving the veri. It's usually obvious.

I saw a cracker this week on a profile who had posted in the forum.

In his profile he had put 'knot' instead of not in his profile text. He had one verification and they had done the same thing!"

And therein lies the futility of judging Fabbers by veris.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fab woman or a real woman?

Usual give away no veris or fake veris and straight away start with the sex questions

How can you tell a fake veri

A bit of detective work usually.

Check out the person leaving the veri. It's usually obvious.

I saw a cracker this week on a profile who had posted in the forum.

In his profile he had put 'knot' instead of not in his profile text. He had one verification and they had done the same thing!

And therein lies the futility of judging Fabbers by veris."
dont fabbers judge everyone about everything tho ?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

No excuse for her rudeness. Block and move on.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

This, minus the obligated part. Nobody should ever feel obligated on anything, but people who frequent clubs and socials are more likely to be serious in their intent. "

I'd avoid anyone who insinuated that I was 'obligated' to meet them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So spoke to women last week and got on great chatting. I asked if she liked what she saw etc which she replied very much so. We arranged to meet after the weekend ie this week. But now nothing, ignores my messages etc. Why can't people just be genuine I am. Pisses me off. "

It's incredibly rude and childish to leave it like that. An adult would say she didn't want to meet you after all.

Lucky escape- at least you don't have to meet her now.

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By *amagustaMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"So spoke to women last week and got on great chatting. I asked if she liked what she saw etc which she replied very much so. We arranged to meet after the weekend ie this week. But now nothing, ignores my messages etc. Why can't people just be genuine I am. Pisses me off. "

May be she is a "man"

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By *ampant Lion34 OP   Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Thanks for all the replies. She is not a man lol well according to the veris left.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"So spoke to women last week and got on great chatting. I asked if she liked what she saw etc which she replied very much so. We arranged to meet after the weekend ie this week. But now nothing, ignores my messages etc. Why can't people just be genuine I am. Pisses me off. "

Maybe he came?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your lack of verification put her off? Maybe

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"A fab woman or a real woman?

Usual give away no veris or fake veris and straight away start with the sex questions

How can you tell a fake veri

A bit of detective work usually.

Check out the person leaving the veri. It's usually obvious.

I saw a cracker this week on a profile who had posted in the forum.

In his profile he had put 'knot' instead of not in his profile text. He had one verification and they had done the same thing!

And therein lies the futility of judging Fabbers by veris."
Not really there’s a big difference between proper verifications and those joke ones when 2 faceless fake profiles verify each other

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

This, minus the obligated part. Nobody should ever feel obligated on anything, but people who frequent clubs and socials are more likely to be serious in their intent.

I'd avoid anyone who insinuated that I was 'obligated' to meet them! "
Thats not at all what was meant the point was that the genuine people who have actually met at a social or a club are more inclined to go through with a meet because there is more common ground and unlike the keyboard warriors on here have attended these gatherings with the intentions of not just chatting but actually meeting.It works as a natural filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time and not just to guys

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

Ive backed out of meets before because as soon a meet is arranged the sex talk starts, despite telling then I dont do it. Some spoil it for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The exact reason I don't message females anymore. All talk. Talking to guys are so much easier. No drama x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

This, minus the obligated part. Nobody should ever feel obligated on anything, but people who frequent clubs and socials are more likely to be serious in their intent.

I'd avoid anyone who insinuated that I was 'obligated' to meet them!

Thats not at all what was meant the point was that the genuine people who have actually met at a social or a club are more inclined to go through with a meet because there is more common ground and unlike the keyboard warriors on here have attended these gatherings with the intentions of not just chatting but actually meeting.It works as a natural filter"

I see, good point. Probably that they've met in person and decided already if they like each other and want to meet again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but that’s why I only arrange meets with people I’ve met at clubs and socials at least you know they’re genuine swingers and both parties feel more obligated to keep the arrangement

This, minus the obligated part. Nobody should ever feel obligated on anything, but people who frequent clubs and socials are more likely to be serious in their intent.

I'd avoid anyone who insinuated that I was 'obligated' to meet them! "

Agreed

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By *ampant Lion34 OP   Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

I let her take the lead in the chat. She suggested meeting and didn't bombard with msgs apart from which day was she thinking of meeting. But as said nout back after sending a further 2 messages

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