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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do some couples start their profiles by proclaiming their undying love for one another?

Is this a warning sign that insecurity lurks behind their vale?

Perhaps us single guys should proclaim we’re happy being single in case anyone gets any ideas?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Or possibly because some "couples" on fab are married.... But to other people without their spouses knowledge of fab....

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Why do some couples start their profiles by proclaiming their undying love for one another?

Is this a warning sign that insecurity lurks behind their vale?

Perhaps us single guys should proclaim we’re happy being single in case anyone gets any ideas? "

Maybe because it's true and want to spice things up a bit in the sex department.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We deal in household burglar alarms if that’s what you mean ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Why do some couples start their profiles by proclaiming their undying love for one another?

Is this a warning sign that insecurity lurks behind their vale?

Perhaps us single guys should proclaim we’re happy being single in case anyone gets any ideas? "

No it isn't a warning sign of insecurity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's because they want people to understand the nature of their relationship, because there are some people on here who still try and persuade one to meet without the other. If people on here generally showed each other more respect and consideration, I'm sure declarations like that (and others) wouldn't be necessary.

Don't mind me...we've just had a bit of a run of fucktards recently!

V x

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By *n.meWoman
over a year ago

Lowestoft

I’ve come across this before, the hubby messaged me asking me to join him and the Mrs, then randomly said she’s totally devoted and loves him very much?!!

Why would I even need or want to know that?! The couples relationship status is nothing to do with anyone they swing with, seems like some couples feel they need to prove that point for what ever reasons I don’t know. I mean who cares to be honest?

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"I’ve come across this before, the hubby messaged me asking me to join him and the Mrs, then randomly said she’s totally devoted and loves him very much?!!

Why would I even need or want to know that?! The couples relationship status is nothing to do with anyone they swing with, seems like some couples feel they need to prove that point for what ever reasons I don’t know. I mean who cares to be honest? "

It’s not about proving any points. They may only be looking to meet other couples and for us, we would rather interact with another couple who are a secure married couple. The connection and quality is more important than a ‘shag’ and knowing you’re with a secure couple means you can make that connection without insecurities rearing their head.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's probably best not to infer the state of a couples relationship from a section of their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's probably best not to infer the state of a couples relationship from a section of their profile. "

Agree. We assume that if you are on the site you are secure in your relationship. We met a couple once and the girl went off on one about how they liked group sex and gangbangs. When she and Tigress left the room the guy admitted it was all her idea and he wasn't into it at all but he didn't want to lose her....felt awful for him and killed the mood!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe it is because there always seem to be threads questioning that couples who swing are not secure/ being coerced/ swinging because they can't love each other enough etc etc

I personally wouldn't justify myself in that way though, what other people think about swinging couples isn't something that is important to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples start their profiles by proclaiming their undying love for one another?

Is this a warning sign that insecurity lurks behind their vale?

Perhaps us single guys should proclaim we’re happy being single in case anyone gets any ideas? "

Dunno. Why are singles so fascinated by couples that they keep posting threads questioning their motives, interests, behaviour, etc? Any ideas?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some couples start their profiles by proclaiming their undying love for one another?

Is this a warning sign that insecurity lurks behind their vale?

Perhaps us single guys should proclaim we’re happy being single in case anyone gets any ideas?

Dunno. Why are singles so fascinated by couples that they keep posting threads questioning their motives, interests, behaviour, etc? Any ideas?"

Why are couples fascinated by why singles ask questions about couple profiles?

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Lots of single ladies I've spoke to only play with married couples. Think its just to be sure they ain't getting involved in repairing relationships by spicing things up

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Maybe it is because there always seem to be threads questioning that couples who swing are not secure/ being coerced/ swinging because they can't love each other enough etc etc

I personally wouldn't justify myself in that way though, what other people think about swinging couples isn't something that is important to me"

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"We deal in household burglar alarms if that’s what you mean ?"

Love it

Household insecurity, brilliant

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of single ladies I've spoke to only play with married couples. Think its just to be sure they ain't getting involved in repairing relationships by spicing things up "

Cuz married couples are always happy and never breakup?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always taken it as a silent nod to “Don’t go getting ideas!! We’re happy together and no other cock or fanny can tear us apart, so if you’re interested for NSA fun, hit us up!!!”

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Maybe because weve been asked if something is missing in our sex life by singles

"Ill give you what your missing " was one and

"Your husband not doing it for you? " the other

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Maybe because weve been asked if something is missing in our sex life by singles

"Ill give you what your missing " was one and

"Your husband not doing it for you? " the other "

Let them think what they like

It’s our kink, let them think what they like.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It identifies the dynamic too ... some couples on her are fuck buddies that team up to play together, some are happily married. Understanding a couple’s dynamic is helpful if you’re playing with them as a single, or from a couples perspective, if Gomez & I are playing together or separately, it’s good to know our dynamic is understood by the other person or couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's plenty of happily single men that after messaging a woman in a couple and meeting up for a threesome start to think that there is more to it than just sex and all of a sudden become not happily single and try and convince the woman that they are a better option than the husband....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the ridiculous amount of crap single guys message us saying, we can see why some couples have to put that message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose theres another one that is a bugbear for me is a profile that tries to sell itself on sexual prowess..its cringey..especially something like this:-

HIM on her- she has the sweetest pussy,gives the best BJ's EVER, best tits..

HER on him- Ladies you will not be disappointed, he has an amazing tongue, a thick cock that will please any woman

its like they verify each other on their own fucking profile...

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London


"It identifies the dynamic too ... some couples on her are fuck buddies that team up to play together, some are happily married. Understanding a couple’s dynamic is helpful if you’re playing with them as a single, or from a couples perspective, if Gomez & I are playing together or separately, it’s good to know our dynamic is understood by the other person or couple "

what they said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the ridiculous amount of crap single guys message us saying, we can see why some couples have to put that message."

Have had "he mustn't love you if he lets you fuck other guys", I do wonder what these people were expecting on a swingers site

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin


"It identifies the dynamic too ... some couples on her are fuck buddies that team up to play together, some are happily married. Understanding a couple’s dynamic is helpful if you’re playing with them as a single, or from a couples perspective, if Gomez & I are playing together or separately, it’s good to know our dynamic is understood by the other person or couple "

Exactly this. It's important to know the dynamic of the other couple if we are all to behave and play in a way that everyone is happy with. Especially so for a first meet. This information may immediately rule in (or out) some people which saves wasting time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they are trying to differentiate from the couples who think swinging will save a struggling or failing relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like on Facebook when people start declaring undying love for each other. Divorce is round the corner.

If they feel so unstable in their relationship that they need to go overboard on declaring love then it's not going well at all.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We’re just looking for a ‘mirror couple’ that understands where we’re coming from and more importantly understands what love and commitment really means. Not after a romantic liaison, just a meet with some maturity and intelligence really. Sounds pretentious but isn’t. No point playing if there’s no connection.

Ed

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Maybe it's because they want people to understand the nature of their relationship, because there are some people on here who still try and persuade one to meet without the other. If people on here generally showed each other more respect and consideration, I'm sure declarations like that (and others) wouldn't be necessary.

Don't mind me...we've just had a bit of a run of fucktards recently!

V x"
yep have to agree ,it always comes out I never the wash on here .the message of my wife can't make it so can we meet on my own lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles are often a collection of cliches because the fact of the matter is that very few people know what to write and we're all usually crap at selling ourselves.

I think people read too much into the nonesense people write on their profiles. The language in question is mostly filler. Or they are cheating on eachother and swinging is the last bastion of couplehood. Whatever.

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