FabSwingers.com forum: Define bi curious to bi sexual

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds easy, but I class myself as bi curious as I have only sucked a cock and that was in my early 20's, haven't done anything bisexual since this.

I would definitely not try A with another man, so am I bi curious or bi sexual ?

I would try sucking a cock again, but would also be more comfortable doing this with another couple where the male is bi curious.

Your thoughts please xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BiCurious you’ve not tried / have tried and still undecided if it’s for you

Bisexual you have tried, quite comfortably with it and will play with either men or women

Just go with what you like OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youre not curious, youre definitely a raving homo.

Watch out boys there's a pufter in town

Only joking mate, go for it, get some cock in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you would suck cock but not go any further you are orally bi.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Youre not curious, youre definitely a raving homo.

Watch out boys there's a pufter in town

Lol I get your point, it's just in sex and swinging you never know where the experience will lead you !!

Only joking mate, go for it, get some cock in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi-curious - Some degree (variable) of attraction to the same sex but no experience of any sexual activity.

Bi-sexual - Some degree (variable) of attraction to the same sex and has had some degree of sexual experience with the same sex.

To me, once you engage sexually with a member of the same sex you either liked it, in which case you are no longer curious but bisexual, or you didn't, in which case you are straight.

Tastes may change over time but as a general rule of thumb, it works. A man who mainly fucks women but likes to suck the occasion dick isn't straight, he's bi, embrace it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you would suck cock but not go any further you are orally bi. "

It's a pity there isn't an option for that, as it would save time for messages being sent to and from other swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont fancy guys but will quite happily play with one on or meet, and have done lots of times.

Am I massive puff?

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By *ustaceSmithMan
over a year ago

Saxmundham

"Bi-curious - Some degree (variable) of attraction to the same sex but no experience of any sexual activity.

Bi-sexual - Some degree (variable) of attraction to the same sex and has had some degree of sexual experience with the same sex.

To me, once you engage sexually with a member of the same sex you either liked it, in which case you are no longer curious but bisexual, or you didn't, in which case you are straight.

Tastes may change over time but as a general rule of thumb, it works. A man who mainly fucks women but likes to suck the occasion dick isn't straight, he's bi, embrace it "

I believe it's a little more complicated. To enjoy sucking cock means that one is orally-bi only, and quite possibly only in a MFM situation. I believe that to be bisexual one has to be interested in MM encounters. I, for example, am not, even with a very fit guy that I know from an MFM context.

In Fab terms, if I'm not bisexual, that leaves bi-curious (or the notorious default of [Fab]-straight). I altered my profile from the latter to the former only recently, even though my curiosity has been satisfied (greatly).

The definitional problem is solved if one is more granular than bi-curious versus bisexual, I submit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you've described the situation very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confused .com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Youre not curious, youre definitely a raving homo.

Watch out boys there's a pufter in town

Only joking mate, go for it, get some cock in you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It seems very acceptable for females to be bi curious, but even in 2018 for men to be bi curious we seem to go back to the dark ages again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say curious is that you want to try to see if you enjoy it. Bi is engaging in sex acts with both sexes. XXX

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"Sounds easy, but I class myself as bi curious as I have only sucked a cock and that was in my early 20's, haven't done anything bisexual since this.

I would definitely not try A with another man, so am I bi curious or bi sexual ?

I would try sucking a cock again, but would also be more comfortable doing this with another couple where the male is bi curious.

Your thoughts please xx

Thanks

Muse

Does it matter what you are? If you enjoy something just do it and don’t worry about labels. If you like sucking cock then just do it - as long as you don’t hurt anyone along the way. We only have one life and you don’t want to come to the end of it and have regrets about what you didn’t do

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By *ustaceSmithMan
over a year ago

Saxmundham

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

We embrace whatever we are and whatever our playmates are. Straight,Curious or Bi-sexual. I would say we are 99% straight most of the time with not a BI thought in our heads. But that 1% of the time well that's a different matter. Glad we dont fit into anyone's box.

D&K

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm glad too, freedom not to be restrained and go where the mood takes you xx

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I agree entirely with your sentiment, and in the "real world" that is all true.

However, to operate on this site, you have to apply a label of some sort. The pigeon-holes are a bit broad though. There is a generally a bit more ambiguity to everyone's thoughts about their own sexuality.

I have myself down as bi-curious, though I don't have any attraction whatsoever to blokes, I am happy to be played, and to do a certain amount of playing, with a guy in a mixed sexual encounter.

1-1 is probably never going to happen. Bi-curious to me does not exactly describe the above, but then neither does FAB-straight...

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you would suck cock but not go any further you are orally bi.

It's a pity there isn't an option for that, as it would save time for messages being sent to and from other swingers "

This exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bi-curious - Some degree (variable) of attraction to the same sex but no experience of any sexual activity.

Bi-sexual - Some degree (variable) of attraction to the same sex and has had some degree of sexual experience with the same sex.

To me, once you engage sexually with a member of the same sex you either liked it, in which case you are no longer curious but bisexual, or you didn't, in which case you are straight.

Tastes may change over time but as a general rule of thumb, it works. A man who mainly fucks women but likes to suck the occasion dick isn't straight, he's bi, embrace it

The definitional problem is solved if one is more granular than bi-curious versus bisexual, I submit.

I'm not so sure, I just think people are unnervingly keen to avoid the label of being bisexual. The reasons for that, well I could identify a few.

To me, sexuality is about who turns you on. If men turn you on, and you have experienced it, and you have had the answer to the question of your curiosity, you are no longer curious.

Conversely just because you are bisexual doesn't mean you are down for anything with any guy at any time.

For me, semantically bi-curious is specifically for those who are curious or inquisitive about their sexual attraction to their own gender. If you aren't curious and the matter is settled, in either direction, why would you use the term bi-curious? It's literally the opposite of your situation.

Bi-curiousity is specific, but bisexuality is broad

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I think you are bi if you experience sexual attraction to men and women.

Bi curious suggests far less experience with your own gender than the opposite and perhaps lack of attraction.

I use "bi curious" on fab but there is no better option.... "hete

exible" might be better. I don't find men attractive, I love women.... But cocks are fun to play with.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

curious

Is when you like the idea of playing with someone of the same sex, or you have played once but not sure it is your thing.

Bisexual

Is when you keep going back for seconds and thirds......

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"curious

Is when you like the idea of playing with someone of the same sex, or you have played once but not sure it is your thing.

Bisexual

Is when you keep going back for seconds and thirds......"

I don't know.... I'm not in the least bit attracted to men. I have a vague concept of handsome but no idea what is attractive about men, to the people who find men attractive.

But in a MMF or group situation, I enjoy playing with cocks.

What am I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bother labelling yourself, you like what you like and you do what you like end of

I'm down as bisexual although I wouldn't say I was...I'm not attracted to women much but I'll play with them happily...I much prefer cock and the men attached to them

with women added in for extra fun sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't bother labelling yourself, you like what you like and you do what you like end of

I'm down as bisexual although I wouldn't say I was...I'm not attracted to women much but I'll play with them happily...I much prefer cock and the men attached to them

with women added in for extra fun sometimes

Should of put I'm the female half here

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Yeah why worry about labels. Let’s all be defined as sexuality neutral so we can waste fuckin hours messaging loads of people with zero interest in how we want to play. A brilliant idea

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Yeah why worry about labels. Let’s all be defined as sexuality neutral so we can waste fuckin hours messaging loads of people with zero interest in how we want to play. A brilliant idea

Labels can certainly help in finding suitable play partners.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Yeah why worry about labels. Let’s all be defined as sexuality neutral so we can waste fuckin hours messaging loads of people with zero interest in how we want to play. A brilliant idea

Labels can certainly help in finding suitable play partners. "

Yep hundreds of “straight” guys messaging us, wanting some kind of bi action. From the curious to the very experienced. Bit unfair we can’t search them though. If only they labelled themselves correctly. And block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah why worry about labels. Let’s all be defined as sexuality neutral so we can waste fuckin hours messaging loads of people with zero interest in how we want to play. A brilliant idea

That what I think wastes so much time I put bi curious on my profile and get lots of males emailing me and after the first two or three replies they have worked out I'm only bi curious and not into A.

Also I get straight males messaging me, saying they are bi, but don't put it on their profile as it stops couples messaging them.

I am bi curious, in the right situation with a couple I may help sucking a cock if it's what all parties want, but it's not essential, but I'm stereotyped into being bi sexual. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont fancy guys but will quite happily play with one on or meet, and have done lots of times.

Am I massive puff? "
whats a puff ??

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Yeah why worry about labels. Let’s all be defined as sexuality neutral so we can waste fuckin hours messaging loads of people with zero interest in how we want to play. A brilliant idea

Labels can certainly help in finding suitable play partners.

"fab straight"......

If only people were generally more open about their desires, the world might be a better place.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Yeah why worry about labels. Let’s all be defined as sexuality neutral so we can waste fuckin hours messaging loads of people with zero interest in how we want to play. A brilliant idea

Also I get straight males messaging me, saying they are bi, but don't put it on their profile as it stops couples messaging them.

I am bi curious, in the right situation with a couple I may help sucking a cock if it's what all parties want, but it's not essential, but I'm stereotyped into being bi sexual. Lol "

You can only clarify that in your profile, like we do with Sirs preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"curious

Is when you like the idea of playing with someone of the same sex, or you have played once but not sure it is your thing.

Bisexual

Is when you keep going back for seconds and thirds......

I don't know.... I'm not in the least bit attracted to men. I have a vague concept of handsome but no idea what is attractive about men, to the people who find men attractive.

But in a MMF or group situation, I enjoy playing with cocks.

What am I? "
ide say ur bi playful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont fancy guys but will quite happily play with one on or meet, and have done lots of times.

Am I massive puff? whats a puff ??"

A magic Dragon I think lol

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"curious

Is when you like the idea of playing with someone of the same sex, or you have played once but not sure it is your thing.

Bisexual

Is when you keep going back for seconds and thirds......

I don't know.... I'm not in the least bit attracted to men. I have a vague concept of handsome but no idea what is attractive about men, to the people who find men attractive.

But in a MMF or group situation, I enjoy playing with cocks.

What am I? ide say ur bi playful "

Fair description

If only Fab had that box to tick.

I do play with bi guys in group situations, and enjoy it. Cocks are great fun. Never been fucked by a guy but am open to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and some girls just had this conversation in the group chat.

Although I'd slept with a woman before a man I'd class myself as curious, she's the only woman I've been with and that was when I was 20/21.

Although I am sexually attracted to women I find the thought of being with one a bit scary and intimidating hahaha

Willies are so much easier to place with