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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A few threads recently prompted me to ask this question. Is this the norm when a man joins a couple for fun? Do you guys feel that you are there for the couple’s enjoyment, or is it all mutual? If you have felt like a spare part, what is it a couple does to make you feel that way? How would you prefer to be treated by a couple? Or maybe you have enjoyed being a couole’s plaything. Us personally, I don’t think we treat our make playmates like this - at least I hope we don’t.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair this isn't a problem for single males alone. This is a problem for males in general on this site, even in a couple.

You are either a plaything at best (which some of the time is fine, I quite like the role reversal from time to time) or an unfortunate accessory at worst.

We've had to put a disclaimer on our profile telling single females if they aren't interested in both of us and get offended by the idea of a male having a voice, not to bother messaging us or replying to us. Honestly the behaviour is appalling sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my husband I meet another guy...im the plaything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

75% of guys on here just want a fuck, they won't care if they are a plaything. It could be a higher % to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely get where you are coming from, when we have met single men from here, it's been for wife to play and hubby to watch, take pics and videos for later private enjoyment.

As long as there is good communication before and during I don't think that the single male is our plaything, wife always meets for a social, after this swap WhatsApp or kik and build a chemistry, likes and dislikes so when meet at a hotel for play it's lots of fun

Everyone involved needs to know what they all want from the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely get where you are coming from, when we have met single men from here, it's been for wife to play and hubby to watch, take pics and videos for later private enjoyment.

As long as there is good communication before and during I don't think that the single male is our plaything, wife always meets for a social, after this swap WhatsApp or kik and build a chemistry, likes and dislikes so when meet at a hotel for play it's lots of fun

Everyone involved needs to know what they all want from the meet"

I had a few meets previous with a couple who liked to called me their play thing (amongst other things) I had no problem with that if they liked it just as long as we all got enjoyment from it.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Having met and played with couples, I can honestly say I've never felt like I've been used as a 'plaything', although on reflection, in one or two cases that's probably exactly what I was...

....with most, it's been for me to play with the wife, while her husband has watched or taken photos/video - but it's always been mutual fun and pleasure, as far as I'm concerned...

....the closest I've come to having just been 'used' was with a cuckold couple I visited a number of times - in their case, I simply provided the cock and cum to fill her for him to clean...

....but I still enjoyed it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When my husband I meet another guy...im the plaything "
correct oldie but goodie when I with a couple in threesome the 2 cocks are for the lady’s pleasure always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"75% of guys on here just want a fuck, they won't care if they are a plaything. It could be a higher % to be honest"
totally the opposite,couples or singles will be respectful of me as i would them self worth is important I don't need to settle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play with single guys and I totally respect them,had fun yesterday with a single guy....without them I wouldn't have no fun lol.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"A few threads recently prompted me to ask this question. Is this the norm when a man joins a couple for fun? Do you guys feel that you are there for the couple’s enjoyment, or is it all mutual? If you have felt like a spare part, what is it a couple does to make you feel that way? How would you prefer to be treated by a couple? Or maybe you have enjoyed being a couole’s plaything. Us personally, I don’t think we treat our make playmates like this - at least I hope we don’t.

Mrs"

I think there's two points here.

Firstly, as someone else said, most single men don't care about being "used" or treated as a plaything. They want sex and that's about it.

Secondly, most "single" men are, on fact attached in some way and have an unknowing partner. The last thing they want is any kind of emotional connection with the people they play with. Hence being treated as a disposable penis quite suits them .

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Thinking about this more, the one occasion where I was definitely treated as a 'plaything' was actually a married woman playing alone while her husband was away on a stag do in Amsterdam...

....she told me she was convinced he (and his mates) would be shagging women left, right and centre - so if he was having his fun, she was going to to have hers...

....and she did!;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few threads recently prompted me to ask this question. Is this the norm when a man joins a couple for fun? Do you guys feel that you are there for the couple’s enjoyment, or is it all mutual? If you have felt like a spare part, what is it a couple does to make you feel that way? How would you prefer to be treated by a couple? Or maybe you have enjoyed being a couole’s plaything. Us personally, I don’t think we treat our make playmates like this - at least I hope we don’t.

Mrs"

Not really, we involve them in anything fully and usually chat a bit with them first, same as we woukd single ladies and couples.

Unless they want to be treated like a plaything, in which case we are both happy to oblige...

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Having met one couple only, I definitely didn't feel used, not at any point...

I did however feel like a mediator in a domestic argument which was a really uncomfortable situation to be in...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Having met one couple only, I definitely didn't feel used, not at any point...

I did however feel like a mediator in a domestic argument which was a really uncomfortable situation to be in...

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Ah yes, the psycho couple...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not like to have a meet where I was expected to just jump into bed and start humping the female half of the couple. (Would feel used then) much prefer the soft play (oral toy's ) and the

Voyeurism this entails. Smiles all round then I feel.

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

We don't see any complaints from young guys that use the Mrs. Plaything or not. Think its pretty fair exchange for both parties.

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..


"Having met one couple only, I definitely didn't feel used, not at any point...

I did however feel like a mediator in a domestic argument which was a really uncomfortable situation to be in...

Ah yes, the psycho couple.."

I wouldn’t say psycho, maybe just having an off day.. They seemed nice enough and were both apologetic for involving me in their personal disagreement.

It did kill the mood somewhat so I cut my losses and left them too it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,'ve done 3.threesomes with my former FWB, on each occasion the man invited was not a plaything. In fact on the last occasion, the man was 19 and FWB left us to it for a while. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the communication is there and everyone is aware upfront what each will get out of the meet there shouldn’t be a problem of any participant feeling used.

If all reach where we want to be it’s a happy ending?

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"A few threads recently prompted me to ask this question. Is this the norm when a man joins a couple for fun? Do you guys feel that you are there for the couple’s enjoyment, or is it all mutual? If you have felt like a spare part, what is it a couple does to make you feel that way? How would you prefer to be treated by a couple? Or maybe you have enjoyed being a couole’s plaything. Us personally, I don’t think we treat our make playmates like this - at least I hope we don’t.

Mrs"

Apart from a couple of instances, I have always felt that the couples I have met expect and try to ensure that we are all enjoying ourselves - as do I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When my husband I meet another guy...im the plaything "
I agree, the girl does have more to play with lol

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I like being a play thing

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"When my husband I meet another guy...im the plaything I agree, the girl does have more to play with lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All sounds good. Seems a lot of happy couples and happy single men according to this thread. Must be a first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what it's all about isn't it?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

In a way aren’t all of us on here some type or someone’s plaything?

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"In a way aren’t all of us on here some type or someone’s plaything?"

Of course...mutual play things...I like holes, she likes pegs...for example

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By *icegentglosMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Nope happy to be whatever. As long All are happy

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"75% of guys on here just want a fuck, they won't care if they are a plaything. It could be a higher % to be honest"

I'm glad I'm part of the other 25%

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"A few threads recently prompted me to ask this question. Is this the norm when a man joins a couple for fun? Do you guys feel that you are there for the couple’s enjoyment, or is it all mutual? If you have felt like a spare part, what is it a couple does to make you feel that way? How would you prefer to be treated by a couple? Or maybe you have enjoyed being a couole’s plaything. Us personally, I don’t think we treat our make playmates like this - at least I hope we don’t.

Mrs

Apart from a couple of instances, I have always felt that the couples I have met expect and try to ensure that we are all enjoying ourselves - as do I

"

Same here fella This is why I avoid couples' profiles looking for 'cock wanted now' or 'not interested in making friends, one-offs only'; a single guy will definitely be just a plaything, who will be dumped like a used Kleenex when the play is over. I have more self-respect and self-worth than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"75% of guys on here just want a fuck, they won't care if they are a plaything. It could be a higher % to be honest

I'm glad I'm part of the other 25% "

Well twice now we've had single guys meet her, and yes they definitely would one it to be more than a one off thing. Yes love to take her for a drink and get to know each other. Twice the drinks have been rushed by the guy, you look so good I really want to get it on blah blah. Twice they've gone quiet once had what they wanted. So your view and our view won't be the same, we appreciate all have different experience on fab but that's ours.

Even worse when the next day the guy doesn't show the veri we left or respond in kind back. Hey ho there are some good ones, it's 66.666% to 33.333% I suppose but I'll bet number 4 makes it 75%

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"75% of guys on here just want a fuck, they won't care if they are a plaything. It could be a higher % to be honest

I'm glad I'm part of the other 25%

Well twice now we've had single guys meet her, and yes they definitely would one it to be more than a one off thing. Yes love to take her for a drink and get to know each other. Twice the drinks have been rushed by the guy, you look so good I really want to get it on blah blah. Twice they've gone quiet once had what they wanted. So your view and our view won't be the same, we appreciate all have different experience on fab but that's ours.

Even worse when the next day the guy doesn't show the veri we left or respond in kind back. Hey ho there are some good ones, it's 66.666% to 33.333% I suppose but I'll bet number 4 makes it 75%"

I have my fingers crossed Number 4 is a good one for you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"75% of guys on here just want a fuck, they won't care if they are a plaything. It could be a higher % to be honest"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"75% of guys on here just want a fuck, they won't care if they are a plaything. It could be a higher % to be honest

I'm glad I'm part of the other 25%

Well twice now we've had single guys meet her, and yes they definitely would one it to be more than a one off thing. Yes love to take her for a drink and get to know each other. Twice the drinks have been rushed by the guy, you look so good I really want to get it on blah blah. Twice they've gone quiet once had what they wanted. So your view and our view won't be the same, we appreciate all have different experience on fab but that's ours.

Even worse when the next day the guy doesn't show the veri we left or respond in kind back. Hey ho there are some good ones, it's 66.666% to 33.333% I suppose but I'll bet number 4 makes it 75%

I have my fingers crossed Number 4 is a good one for you both "

Thanking you

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex

Yup & i for one am happy to accept this situation.

Im single . I like being single .

I am not looking for a relationship , but i like sex with more than 1 at a time in general .

1 is good but 2 is much more fun .

Why would i want to be anything more , as long as i get my fun & they have theres , all is good .

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"A few threads recently prompted me to ask this question. Is this the norm when a man joins a couple for fun? Do you guys feel that you are there for the couple’s enjoyment, or is it all mutual? If you have felt like a spare part, what is it a couple does to make you feel that way? How would you prefer to be treated by a couple? Or maybe you have enjoyed being a couole’s plaything. Us personally, I don’t think we treat our make playmates like this - at least I hope we don’t.

Mrs"

Surely it's all down to how the guy interacts?

For us when we meet with single guys, there's no pre-defined plan or extra limitations. The play is exactly the same as with other couples apart from the other lady missing.

Cal x

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By *aul020269Man
over a year ago

bidford on Avon

Don't mind being a play thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just use them as playthings we don’t want a relationship with them ...

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

All swingles could say that, up to you really, if you like then do it, if you feel like a plaything and don't like it then don't do it, simples!!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I've only had "solo" experience with one couple on two occasions and both times I can honestly say I felt nothing like a plaything - they were considerate, inclusive and very obviously got as much enjoyment out of seeing me have fun with them as they did seeing each other have fun. I consider them both friends now and felt as equal a part of the overall experience as I hope they did, and long may that continue

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By *empting TravelsMan
over a year ago

London


"A few threads recently prompted me to ask this question. Is this the norm when a man joins a couple for fun? Do you guys feel that you are there for the couple’s enjoyment, or is it all mutual? If you have felt like a spare part, what is it a couple does to make you feel that way? How would you prefer to be treated by a couple? Or maybe you have enjoyed being a couole’s plaything. Us personally, I don’t think we treat our make playmates like this - at least I hope we don’t.

Mrs"

Back when I was single I encountered couples on sites like this with that mindset almost daily. Which for me was a negative. However, to be fair 95% of the time it was the male half of the couple and their conversation opener would indeed be how big is your cock. I strongly suspect they were salivating and nursing hard ons when they asked the question lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few threads recently prompted me to ask this question. Is this the norm when a man joins a couple for fun? Do you guys feel that you are there for the couple’s enjoyment, or is it all mutual? If you have felt like a spare part, what is it a couple does to make you feel that way? How would you prefer to be treated by a couple? Or maybe you have enjoyed being a couole’s plaything. Us personally, I don’t think we treat our make playmates like this - at least I hope we don’t.

Mrs"

Definitely mutual...we all get something out of it....would not do it otherwise

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall

I just want the opportunity to be a plaything tbh !!

All offers gratefully received!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has only been one time in my 15 years or so. It was a last minute meet, late at night. When I got there was told to be quiet, sit down. There was no kissing allowed. She roughly sucked my cock and then rode it. Once finished they called me a taxi. They invited me back another time but I declined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True.. I have felt like Being used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we do MFM Sarah is the play thing to be enjoyed by both guys, when more guys are involved they all get to have fun, she really really likes the extra attention from multiple guys.

When we do FMF Sean Is the play thing for both women to enjoy. Girl play is obviously part of it but that's for Sarahs pleasure and the other Female.

If a guy wants to play with us, we are happy but we let him know what we like, if were all happy were all playing.

We have learn't though that there are a lot of single guys/girls who back out when it comes to actually getting down to business.

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