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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, recently got chatting to a lass through a dating site, stumbled across her profile on here - struggling on how to approach her about it.. help me please

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I really wouldn’t. Could potentially come across a bit creepy.

Ed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really wouldn’t. Could potentially come across a bit creepy.

Ed"

Part of me thinks that but most of me says its better to get it out of the way sooner rather than later

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

i wouldn't approach it too soon...

most people are looking for different things on dating sites and here. if you feel that you actually like her and can imaging more than sex give it a go... the sex usually follows if all goes to plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think you have just struck gold haven't you? Both on here and both on a dating site so why not just have a chat about it and see what you both want to do, dating, swinging or both? She obviously likes you from your dating profile and may like you even more if she see's your profile on here, could be the best thing ever for both of you.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I wouldn't say you've found her when guys do that to me I stop seeing them. Ask her what her opinions are to swinging etc introduce in a subtle way and you may be pleasantly surprised x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are a fair few people that are on vanilla dating sites aswell as here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, recently got chatting to a lass through a dating site, stumbled across her profile on here - struggling on how to approach her about it.. help me please "

Don't. She won't like it. I've blocked men for doing that. Or trying to message me on a more vanilla site, because they saw me on fab. They are seperate entities. Mixing the two, will only likely lead to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, recently got chatting to a lass through a dating site, stumbled across her profile on here - struggling on how to approach her about it.. help me please

Don't. She won't like it. I've blocked men for doing that. Or trying to message me on a more vanilla site, because they saw me on fab. They are seperate entities. Mixing the two, will only likely lead to block. "

I would just message her, but not mention seeing her on the other site, personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So, recently got chatting to a lass through a dating site, stumbled across her profile on here - struggling on how to approach her about it.. help me please

Don't. She won't like it. I've blocked men for doing that. Or trying to message me on a more vanilla site, because they saw me on fab. They are seperate entities. Mixing the two, will only likely lead to block. "

But surely its going to have to come oht at some point especially if things progress, would it not be better to get it now before more time is wasted and such..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, recently got chatting to a lass through a dating site, stumbled across her profile on here - struggling on how to approach her about it.. help me please

Don't. She won't like it. I've blocked men for doing that. Or trying to message me on a more vanilla site, because they saw me on fab. They are seperate entities. Mixing the two, will only likely lead to block. "

Yes.

And possibly (but probably not) she may be like me with double standards, being quite happy to be here herself but wouldn't dream of dating a man from here.

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By *ooncat123Woman
over a year ago

Sutton

Every single female response is the same! I agree with them.

I'd run a mile if I were her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, recently got chatting to a lass through a dating site, stumbled across her profile on here - struggling on how to approach her about it.. help me please

Don't. She won't like it. I've blocked men for doing that. Or trying to message me on a more vanilla site, because they saw me on fab. They are seperate entities. Mixing the two, will only likely lead to block.

But surely its going to have to come oht at some point especially if things progress, would it not be better to get it now before more time is wasted and such..?"

If you are chatting on a dating site, having you admit you saw her on fab, will likely make her run for the hills. Some men don't have the greatest respect for women on this site. She's speaking to you from a vanilla standpoint. If things progress and you both get on, then bring it up softly. Don't jump in. Give little hints about swinging in general, see if she bites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, recently got chatting to a lass through a dating site, stumbled across her profile on here - struggling on how to approach her about it.. help me please

Don't. She won't like it. I've blocked men for doing that. Or trying to message me on a more vanilla site, because they saw me on fab. They are seperate entities. Mixing the two, will only likely lead to block.

But surely its going to have to come oht at some point especially if things progress, would it not be better to get it now before more time is wasted and such..?"

What time is wasted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

currently in this situation too.

He sent pics and I recognised from a dating site... I mentioned it, we laughed... asked each other what the situation was... still chatting.

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