FabSwingers.com forum: My wifes found an admierer at work

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So 2 weeks ago on our way home my wife suddenly blurts our that theres a guy at work who fancies her or at least she thinks he does. They've been chatting for a while and he's dropped a few hints.. one being if she ever wants to talk to him about anything, absolutely anything then he has a very open mind. I suggest she finds out the next day. The following night she comes home to announce shes told him we are swingers ... his answer "wow ive wanted to fuck you for ages" needless to say since then pics have been swapped etc etc ... my wife really wants him , we've never played apart but strangely enough this is turning me on immensely..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging + work = don't do it!

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By *ardleedsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Sounds very horny though love to know more pm if u want.

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By *hampagne and TrufflesWoman
over a year ago

Bradford

"Swinging + work = don't do it! "

Think I have to agree. If it goes wrong it could wrong on a massive scale. Plus there no going back now. The cat's out of the bag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck it....you only live once. Your lifestyles has been announced why hold back now?

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By *tuartsCelloCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Fuck it....you only live once. Your lifestyles has been announced why hold back now?"

Totally agree - go for it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging + work = don't do it! "

Swinging + work + guy she obviously really likes and fancies = Danger of Emotions

She probably spends longer each day with him than you. Take care there are too many risks.

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By *oney_Bee_xTV/TS
over a year ago

Teesside

I’m not sure about his attitude......

Just because someone is a swinger, it doesn’t mean that any admirer automatically has a fuck pass as soon as they find this out, nor does it mean that a swinger will sleep with absolutely anyone......

However, if you and your wife like this admirer, and if she’s been giving out signals too, then that’s a different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a route to a sexual harassment claim if and when anything goes wrong or sour. Tread carefully! ...

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Sounds like a recipe for disaster. Danger signs everywhere. If you are going to do it anyway consider, at the very least, having a few (No sex) socials involving all 3 of you first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a fantasy of ours but would never put our jobs at risk

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Wanted to fuck her for ages... What a charmer. He's got the right attitude for fab though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be vary reluctant if this was me...we have few rules with our swinging life, but keeping work and our private life separate is 100% non negotiable.

Good luck to you both, it’s a wonderful fantasy should you chose to make it reality I hope it works out x

MrsK x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be dodgy in the long term, initial thrill of it all would be great, but then as time goes on they may start to get feelings (individually or both of them)

The other thing to think about is if he just see's your wife as a cheap thrill, and once he's gone all the way he may feel he has certain 'rights' to her and there may be things going on that you'll never know, cheeky little fondles, bj's at dinner etc. Also there is the rumour risk and your wife either being labelled a cheat by her collegues (which may encourage other fella's there to try their hand) or your swinger lifestyle becoming public knowledge.

The fantasy sounds great but the reality not so great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck it....you only live once. Your lifestyles has been announced why hold back now?

Totally agree - go for it x"
so wis I worked with Eva

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Could be dodgy in the long term, initial thrill of it all would be great, but then as time goes on they may start to get feelings (individually or both of them)

The fantasy sounds great but the reality not so great."

Yeah, I kind of agree here - she's going to be spending a long time each day with this guy. If he gets possessive, or feelings develop he could make things difficult or uncomfortable for her. I love Gomez having meets & being part of the planning & hearing about it afterwards, but if it was someone he worked with, I'd feel really uncomfortable. Same with me in my workplace. Too much of a risk.

Make sure you're aware of any pitfalls before you do it ... And if you do go through with it, I hope it works out!! x

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By *0nderMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

He was an admirer at work, trying to crack on to your wife, presumably knowing you were around but disregarding that anyway and trying to see if he could get your wife to confide in him and cheat on you and lead her astray - now he knows you’re swingers he isn’t presumes he gets a free fuck anyway.. not sure this is someone to trust to bring into your relationship. You may trust your wife but he doesn’t sound like he respects your dynamic? But obviously I don’t know the full story or how you and your wife and he are.. just seems to send danger signals though. Plus don’t sh&t on your own door step and all that?..

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

Let her go for it op. I mean what could possibly go wrong........

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By *amagustaMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"So 2 weeks ago on our way home my wife suddenly blurts our that theres a guy at work who fancies her or at least she thinks he does. They've been chatting for a while and he's dropped a few hints.. one being if she ever wants to talk to him about anything, absolutely anything then he has a very open mind. I suggest she finds out the next day. The following night she comes home to announce shes told him we are swingers ... his answer "wow ive wanted to fuck you for ages" needless to say since then pics have been swapped etc etc ... my wife really wants him , we've never played apart but strangely enough this is turning me on immensely.. "

No sex at work....

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By *he CruiserMan
over a year ago

carshalton

Yeah not sure about that. If I were her I'd be back peddling and saying I was only joking about the swinging thing but fancy you tho. See where it goes. You wouldn't want her being stalked by other blokes at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds very dodgy to me. Too much risk involved and the guy at work doesn't sound like he's thinking about you ... the bells are ringing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just had to laugh when I read the last sentence of the OP's profile.

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

"He was an admirer at work, trying to crack on to your wife, presumably knowing you were around but disregarding that anyway and trying to see if he could get your wife to confide in him and cheat on you and lead her astray - now he knows you’re swingers he isn’t presumes he gets a free fuck anyway.. not sure this is someone to trust to bring into your relationship. You may trust your wife but he doesn’t sound like he respects your dynamic? But obviously I don’t know the full story or how you and your wife and he are.. just seems to send danger signals though. Plus don’t sh&t on your own door step and all that?.. "

Pretty much this. G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a whole load of attractive people at my workplace that I so wish were swingers.

In my head I imagine the conversation going like this:

Awesome hot work colleague: 'I so fancy you and guess what, I'm a swinger, so let's fuck'

Me: 'hey wow, me too. I agree, let's fuck'

Alas, this won't ever happen. However, thinking about it certainly makes dull work days a lot more exciting.

Work+swinging=good for fantasy, not reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems like the general consensus is that you should go for it, YOLO and all that. Let us know how it went!

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By *thwiltsmMan
over a year ago

salisbury

To dodgy, he already presumes a swinger will always be up for it.

Sounds fun as a one off but unlike a meet from a swingers site they are going to continue to see each other everyday so it’s going to be very awkward when she tries to stop it and he still wants a regular fuck budy

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By *om girlCouple (FF)
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

do what makes you happy but unless their discreet swingers We wouldn't be interested.as soon as he F....ked the misses that might be Gossip at word

Or she might like him so much all time they spend together at work might make her want him more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hit it on the nail.

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

"Swinging + work = don't do it! "

This 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that listening to or reading other people's opinions will not reveal the best approach to the dilemma.

I believe that having been warned of the impending potential problem that was the opportunity to put a stop to it. However, since deciding that it may be a 'turn on' to play out the saga a little further the prospect of withdrawal has now become somewhat more diminished.

Now that the scenario has become elevated and the co worker concerned feels that he has been given the go ahead then at the very least it is highly likely that flirting will become physical and there is some chance that it become less of a three way fun time interaction and more of a two way for them. You my friend may be left feeling isolated. Hence I am thinking that you have only one way of redeeming (or partially redeeming) the current hazed over problem. That is to be arbitrary to the point that you propose (insist even)that they only meet with you in a threesome and not as a casual pair, for it may bring about an irreparable situation.

Alternatively see opening sentence.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Sex and work is messy. I also wouldn't want a partner having sex with someone they see and talk to every day where an emotional bond can develop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex and work is messy. I also wouldn't want a partner having sex with someone they see and talk to every day where an emotional bond can develop"

Yes that is what I meant to say...

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By *urreycpl69Couple
over a year ago

Louth

It's an interesting one for sure. My better half has shagged a couple of guys at different work places over the years and neither of them turned sour. The first one to be fair we actually had a 3some with on a few occasions but never once did he try anything on at work with her other than going to lunch and stuff.

Another guy was at a different place a few years later. He obviously fancied her and in fact the other girls there knew he did and even tried to wind me up about it not knowing I already knew and that I wouldn't exactly be pissed off. He knew she was with someone but on a work do night out she took the initiative and ended up flirting heavily with him before going back to his place. She even called to let me listen without him knowing which was a huge turn and something we have done since. She left him wanting her more but nothing else happened and at no point did she tell him we were into swinging. He did also have a girlfriend in Spain (he was Spanish) so he couldn't exactly go bragging to everyone he'd shagged the sexy Indian girl on the 2nd floor lol

So sex + work can work...if you do it right. I'm not sure the opening gambit once the guy knows you're into swinging is "I've always wanted to fuck you," is the right sort of guy...I know Serina wouldn't be swayed by that one

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By *xcited99Couple
over a year ago

omagh

Don't do it.

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

My wife found a buddy and hooked up via a work association she's a member of, to start with at their annual conference.

I found a buddy and hooked up with an ex-colleague.

Work can be a source of buddies

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