FabSwingers.com forum: When men ask a women to arrange an MFF

By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

So as a bisexual single lady I've had a lot of guys, either those that I have just talked to or have played with that ask me to arrange an MFF for them.

I consider doing this with long term partners or when me and my girl friends have a guy we both want to play with, but I find it fairly annoying when it's someone I've only met once or have just been talking to.

Is that a selfish thought on my part? Or do other single girls get this too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would it be selfish? They are using you. It's bloody rude of them to ask.

Friends or fwb etc fair enough. But someone new? Feck no!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea that’s just a bit disrespectful! I can understand if it’s someone you know or have met a lot of times and are comfortable with, but after one or two meets or even before meeting you first time is a bit rude.

Yea I understand most guys have that MFF fantasy but there’s a time and a place to suggest it

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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They're the ones being selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get this so you are not alone, usually after one meet or the straight men asking me to find a bi guy because apparently if I'm present while they play it doesn't make them bi?

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Why would it be selfish? They are using you. It's bloody rude of them to ask.

Friends or fwb etc fair enough. But someone new? Feck no!!"

Yeah a regualar play partner situation, that would be something we both discuss.

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Yea that’s just a bit disrespectful! I can understand if it’s someone you know or have met a lot of times and are comfortable with, but after one or two meets or even before meeting you first time is a bit rude.

Yea I understand most guys have that MFF fantasy but there’s a time and a place to suggest it"

A lot of guys have the MFF fantasy and that's fine, but sometimes I just tell them to arrange it their own damn self. I arrange my own group meets myself, so why can't they?

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"They're the ones being selfish"

I believe so

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I always get this so you are not alone, usually after one meet or the straight men asking me to find a bi guy because apparently if I'm present while they play it doesn't make them bi?

Haha

I've yet to have that asked of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would it be selfish? They are using you. It's bloody rude of them to ask.

Friends or fwb etc fair enough. But someone new? Feck no!!"

i agree here

iam sure these guys that ask you for an MFF wouldn’t be to quick in saying about an MMF

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Why would it be selfish? They are using you. It's bloody rude of them to ask.

Friends or fwb etc fair enough. But someone new? Feck no!!

i agree here

iam sure these guys that ask you for an MFF wouldn’t be to quick in saying about an MMF"

Yeah true. Thing is, it's not like I would say to a guy " I want an MMF, do you have an friends we could do this with?"

You have to arrange it yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would it be selfish? They are using you. It's bloody rude of them to ask.

Friends or fwb etc fair enough. But someone new? Feck no!!

i agree here

iam sure these guys that ask you for an MFF wouldn’t be to quick in saying about an MMF

Yeah true. Thing is, it's not like I would say to a guy " I want an MMF, do you have an friends we could do this with?"

You have to arrange it yourself"

Yeah it’s just not good etiquette but if you fancy it

hahah just joking

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I don't think it's selfish, only cause of the amount of times women ask me if I have a friend/s to bring along with me.

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I don't think it's selfish, only cause of the amount of times women ask me if I have a friend/s to bring along with me. "

It's selfish for those women in your case then? Not all women are like that, just as am men aren't like this either. I arrange my own meets.

Are these women you have played with often or only talk to or have met only once?

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"I don't think it's selfish, only cause of the amount of times women ask me if I have a friend/s to bring along with me.

It's selfish for those women in your case then? Not all women are like that, just as am men aren't like this either. I arrange my own meets.

Are these women you have played with often or only talk to or have met only once?

Some often, some once. I usually meet with them first, see how that session goes. And if the vibe ain't right I'll still arrange some guys for her, minus myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a man ask if I would meet him with a larger lady friend once, I said yes okay if you can host A couple of days later he messaged and asked how I was getting on finding the lady!

I blocked him swiftly.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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It drives me mad and they often ask on the first night, even at a social.

I now let it serve as a filter.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd say 80% of blokes I've met from here ask that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get them told woman x

I get "can't you make it a 3 some?" requests if I'm meeting someone.

Or "can I watch"

No you can't you cheeky twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv never asked this, its hard enough to catch one womens attension on here never mind 2 at the same time haha

Although have had fmf a couple of times in real world and is fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So as a bisexual single lady I've had a lot of guys, either those that I have just talked to or have played with that ask me to arrange an MFF for them.

Is that a selfish thought on my part? Or do other single girls get this too?"

Lost count of the number of guys who ask if I have a friend, in so many words I say NO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i kind of can believe this but at the same time i can’t.

Some people have so serious cheek haha but yeah women do ask some times if you have any make friends to join the fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So as a bisexual single lady I've had a lot of guys, either those that I have just talked to or have played with that ask me to arrange an MFF for them.

Is that a selfish thought on my part? Or do other single girls get this too?"

I actually done someone a favour and arranged one once, only for him not to actually turn up and then he block me when I sent him photos of both of us led on the bed asking where he was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So as a bisexual single lady I've had a lot of guys, either those that I have just talked to or have played with that ask me to arrange an MFF for them.

Is that a selfish thought on my part? Or do other single girls get this too?

I actually done someone a favour and arranged one once, only for him not to actually turn up and then he block me when I sent him photos of both of us led on the bed asking where he was

What the actually fuck haha he missed out bigtime there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TBH I don’t think I could handle 2 woman on my own lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on here a few years back, I had a regular fwb who asked if I could arrange it. I found someone and he kicked off, saying I was too enthusiastic about it and he obviously wasn't enough for me, if I wanted more to join the party. WTF?? I pointed out that he was the one who asked me and he said it was a test, to see if I wanted only him. Suffice to say, we broke it off after that. If anyone ever asks me to arrange one again, they can feck off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only ever played MFF. I ask the OH to orgnaise things as she's the same gender as the person we're trying to meet and I want her to be happy with whoever it is first and foremost.

If we met guys I'd look and arrange them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This does my head in! 1) What makes them think that it is easier for me to find a single bi fem? 2) I am not that into mff, unless it is with my fwb as I like watching him with other girls, anyone else I'm not that bothered, would rather just ff tbh...

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I love the assumption that being a bi woman, i have lots of bi female friends just waiting for a call to come fuck a guy ive just met.

Yeah dude, we have regular tuppywear parties where we all sit in a circle in our lingerie just waiting for that call for duty!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

There’s definitely a feeling some men give that you’re a golden ticket - great, MFF, MMF, clubs - got it all sorted. There’s a difference between getting to know someone and feeling relaxed enough to try things together versus using someone to get your list ticked off and that’s the subtlety that some men miss.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Cake and ear it springs to mind.

Just using you as bait.

Not a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think men kind of assume that just because I'm bi, I have tons of female friends available to fulfil their mff fantasy. It does not work that way! So no, OP, it's not you, it's the men that are selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the damn time.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I used to get this when I had bi mmf,bi curious guy's asking if I knew any other guy's. Find your own men don't use me!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"This does my head in! 1) What makes them think that it is easier for me to find a single bi fem? 2) I am not that into mff, unless it is with my fwb as I like watching him with other girls, anyone else I'm not that bothered, would rather just ff tbh..."

This

Usually if I DO feel nd a bi fem after much searching etc I just want to meet her myself after I put all the effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads of messages from single guys with new profiles who ask me for help etc with their profile which I try my best to help them with, then as soon as I do that most of then immediately ask if I know any girls who would be up for meeting them and if I can arrange it for them

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I get loads of messages from single guys with new profiles who ask me for help etc with their profile which I try my best to help them with, then as soon as I do that most of then immediately ask if I know any girls who would be up for meeting them and if I can arrange it for them "

Someone once mailed some bloke in my veris to ask if he wanted to ‘team up’ for a MMF... like I had no say haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone once mailed some bloke in my veris to ask if he wanted to ‘team up’ for a MMF... like I had no say haha"

Haha it's at point that I just stop replying to them

The cheek of it!

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