FabSwingers.com forum: Club couple or private meet couple

By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

I'm an old school swinger and always loved the build up leading up to private meets. Be they social or otherwise. For me it was relaxing and added to the pleasure if everyone clicked.

However my relatively new to swinging girlfriend is the exact opposite. For her nothing could be more nerve wracking. She prefers no pressure go with the flow meets at clubs.

Naturally I will always put my girlfriend first but I do hope that she warms to the idea of private meets over time.

What kind of couple are you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Private meets. That is because I (f) don't really like the idea of club meets and my partner goes with what makes me comfortable

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

We started of with Private meets but now think clubs and especially parties are our thing.

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By *elaxed KinkCouple
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

We like both - depends how we feel. But will be going to clubs a lot less now Kestrels has closed. That was our favourite

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Meet new people at club's where there are many more options and lots more genuine people.

Those we really click with private meets inbetween the club visits. Makes both ways of playing much more relaxing and successful

We love both!

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Both for us too.

The first time at a larger gathering Mrs FGoS was the same as the OP's girlfriend, just reminding her that she doesn't have to do anything and if either of us want to leave then we will. No recriminations, its either both in 100% or not in at all. With that, she was able to relax and we had a great time meeting and playing with some lovely people we still chat with and hope to meet up in the very near future.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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"I'm an old school swinger and always loved the build up leading up to private meets. Be they social or otherwise. For me it was relaxing and added to the pleasure if everyone clicked.

However my relatively new to swinging girlfriend is the exact opposite. For her nothing could be more nerve wracking. She prefers no pressure go with the flow meets at clubs.

Naturally I will always put my girlfriend first but I do hope that she warms to the idea of private meets over time.

What kind of couple are you?"

We like private meets at clubs.

Clubs are not just a free for all orgy where anything goes.

We meet at clubs, where you can be social and drink and chat in person, you know the person is who they say they are, and not 30 wars over than their pic.

Then, if you want to play - you can go into a private, lockable room.

If the meet isn't going well, then you're in a safe place to be able to say no thanks, and you're also in a place with other swingers / friends you can hang out with.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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"I'm an old school swinger and always loved the build up leading up to private meets. Be they social or otherwise. For me it was relaxing and added to the pleasure if everyone clicked.

However my relatively new to swinging girlfriend is the exact opposite. For her nothing could be more nerve wracking. She prefers no pressure go with the flow meets at clubs.

Naturally I will always put my girlfriend first but I do hope that she warms to the idea of private meets over time.

What kind of couple are you?

We like private meets at clubs.

Clubs are not just a free for all orgy where anything goes.

We meet at clubs, where you can be social and drink and chat in person, you know the person is who they say they are, and not 30 wars over than their pic.

Then, if you want to play - you can go into a private, lockable room.

If the meet isn't going well, then you're in a safe place to be able to say no thanks, and you're also in a place with other swingers / friends you can hang out with. "

*30 years older

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By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

"We like both - depends how we feel. But will be going to clubs a lot less now Kestrels has closed. That was our favourite "

I've been wondering where Abfab/Kestrel regulars will end up going as an alternative venue.

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By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Meet new people at club's where there are many more options and lots more genuine people.

Those we really click with private meets inbetween the club visits. Makes both ways of playing much more relaxing and successful

We love both!

That's a good strategy and one that my girlfriend does warm to.

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By *reokink OP Man
over a year ago

London

"I'm an old school swinger and always loved the build up leading up to private meets. Be they social or otherwise. For me it was relaxing and added to the pleasure if everyone clicked.

However my relatively new to swinging girlfriend is the exact opposite. For her nothing could be more nerve wracking. She prefers no pressure go with the flow meets at clubs.

Naturally I will always put my girlfriend first but I do hope that she warms to the idea of private meets over time.

What kind of couple are you?

We like private meets at clubs.

Clubs are not just a free for all orgy where anything goes.

We meet at clubs, where you can be social and drink and chat in person, you know the person is who they say they are, and not 30 wars over than their pic.

Then, if you want to play - you can go into a private, lockable room.

If the meet isn't going well, then you're in a safe place to be able to say no thanks, and you're also in a place with other swingers / friends you can hang out with. "

That's what so funny. In a club she is totally relaxed and has no problem playing out in the open. Just as well seeing as our favorite club has no private areas.

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By *983RCCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We started out being strictly clubs only as we didn’t want the pressure of a private meet... after a few cancelled visits to clubs for various reasons we decided to chat with couples on here and go straight to a hotel meet instead as we felt they were the right couple.

Long story short we ended up full swapping which was a first for them too despite 30-odd previous meets. Would pretty much always do a private meet now unless a particular event at a club takes our fancy

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By *ipsxxCouple
over a year ago

We've had both and we sway more to club meets as we find them really relaxing xxx

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We meet socially with others rather than clubs. Mrs2 isn't keen on crowds so we don't go to clubs.

Mr2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started off doing private meets, but these days we prefer clubs and parties. We do always have 1 or 2 special men who we meet privately. But for more casual sexual encounters we find a group setting more fun.

Mrs

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