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By *ampshirehotwife OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool."
Faf!!. (only joking sorry ) * runs and hides in a corner *

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't say that fab is a social setting that compares to any other though. I don't walk in to a bar in a corset and heels but I happily put pictures of myself in them on here. I expect different responses from fab than elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lesbians everywhere! That's why ladies never reply to me!

(Seriously, I'm joking. Rather sad that I have to state that, though, isn't it?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool."

If you bent over naked in a pub would you expect people to be discussing the weather?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually think that it is nice to be polite. I always try to reply to messages even if it is a no thanks.

Obviously I don’t get anywhere near the amount of messages that ladies & couples get on here so when I get a polite no thanks from them I appreciate the effort.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"I actually think that it is nice to be polite. I always try to reply to messages even if it is a no thanks.

Obviously I don’t get anywhere near the amount of messages that ladies & couples get on here so when I get a polite no thanks from them I appreciate the effort.

"

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I was going to send you a really nice message! It was all there, i was waxing lyrical about growing up in Lee. Sharing a few jokes about Gosport girls lol. You know all that kinda stuff! It would have been ace!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's because you're replying to testosterone charged males with aching balls on a site of a,sexual nature. XXX

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool."

Being 360 miles away, I couldn't play it any cooler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every guy knows that if a lady smiles at you in public she wants the D

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Even if you reply with a polite no thankyou they continue to message tying to change your mind. Had one today I said no to 3 times then I just hit the block button

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I wouldn't say that fab is a social setting that compares to any other though. I don't walk in to a bar in a corset and heels but I happily put pictures of myself in them on here. I expect different responses from fab than elsewhere."

I can walk into a bar in corset and heels and have done so on numerous occasions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool."
you're kidding guys actually think sex is on the cards here .......well I'm blowed .......im not but you know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say that fab is a social setting that compares to any other though. I don't walk in to a bar in a corset and heels but I happily put pictures of myself in them on here. I expect different responses from fab than elsewhere.

I can walk into a bar in corset and heels and have done so on numerous occasions. "

A swinging bar or a normal pub?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool."

Is there any social setting where you would bend over in your denim shorts as you are in one of your pictures and not expect any sort of sexual comment?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"

If you bent over naked in a pub would you expect people to be discussing the weather?"

This is why I have a man with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys don't worry its not just you that gets blanked off the single ladies, it can be hard work for us couples sometimes too you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advice far to many people are to pushy

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By *ampshirehotwife OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool.

Is there any social setting where you would bend over in your denim shorts as you are in one of your pictures and not expect any sort of sexual comment?

"

A sexual comment and expecting sex are two entirely different things.

Besides even if I was dressed up (or down) in a vanilla setting.

I would still expect manners.

Put it another way.

When you are out say in a pub or bar and a woman looks at you,do you automatically assume that she is going to fuck you,then you proceed to pester her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners cost nothing whether it's on Fab or in real life. There's far too many guys who come on here thinking the sites going to guarantee them a quick fuck and expecting the women on here not to have standards.

It's the age old thing of the idiots ruining it for the rest of us. Can't blame women and couples for being cautious when there's so many prats around.

The way a lot of men act on here is just creepy and desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners cost nothing whether it's on Fab or in real life. There's far too many guys who come on here thinking the sites going to guarantee them a quick fuck and expecting the women on here not to have standards.

It's the age old thing of the idiots ruining it for the rest of us. Can't blame women and couples for being cautious when there's so many prats around.

The way a lot of men act on here is just creepy and desperate.

"
theres always one white knight who tries this approach lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners cost nothing whether it's on Fab or in real life. There's far too many guys who come on here thinking the sites going to guarantee them a quick fuck and expecting the women on here not to have standards.

It's the age old thing of the idiots ruining it for the rest of us. Can't blame women and couples for being cautious when there's so many prats around.

The way a lot of men act on here is just creepy and desperate.

"

Some women here who are twats themselves, not all innocent.

But I agree fabs generally for a woman like talking to an erect penis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always respectful and it shocks me that anybody wouldn’t show the same respect. Especially to the fairer sex x

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"Guys don't worry its not just you that gets blanked off the single ladies, it can be hard work for us couples sometimes too you know "

Totally agree with this.

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

OP I have one question, and one question only. When are we going to fuck?

PS - Set in jest, do not take offence.

PPS - I'm not that stupid to use that as my opener. I usually send a cock pic.

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By *BelfastGuyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I pity the FOOL.

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"OP I have one question, and one question only. When are we going to fuck?

PS - Set in jest, do not take offence.

PPS - I'm not that stupid to use that as my opener. I usually send a cock pic.

"

Just a cock pic? No dirty toilet in the background or sky remote, deodorant can or other household object as a "comparison" tool?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool.

Is there any social setting where you would bend over in your denim shorts as you are in one of your pictures and not expect any sort of sexual comment?

A sexual comment and expecting sex are two entirely different things.

Besides even if I was dressed up (or down) in a vanilla setting.

I would still expect manners.

Put it another way.

When you are out say in a pub or bar and a woman looks at you,do you automatically assume that she is going to fuck you,then you proceed to pester her.

"

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never assume anything I'm the perfect gentleman always

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

When we get messages saying hey I would love to fuck you etc I send back hey thanks but I’m straight, they always reply with I thought this was a couples profile to a swift reply from us that reads...it is Dickhead so address both of us and then block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we get messages saying hey I would love to fuck you etc I send back hey thanks but I’m straight, they always reply with I thought this was a couples profile to a swift reply from us that reads...it is Dickhead so address both of us and then block them "
oh my friendly couple then

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"When we get messages saying hey I would love to fuck you etc I send back hey thanks but I’m straight, they always reply with I thought this was a couples profile to a swift reply from us that reads...it is Dickhead so address both of us and then block them oh my friendly couple then "

We’re very friendly tbh but as most couples will vouch for it is a bit annoying when guys address 1 person and not both of you and go straight for I want to fuck you so bad line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just the single men that do this couples and single females can be just as bad. There’s a lot of people that just think of this as a get your leg over site. Just have to keep filtering through to find the good ones xx

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It’s not just the single men that do this couples and single females can be just as bad. There’s a lot of people that just think of this as a get your leg over site. Just have to keep filtering through to find the good ones xx"

That’s very very true, etiquette has gone out the window, we were in a club and a guy came over o Mrs L2 and told her there was space on the couch next to him and his wife, not once did he look at me or try to engage into any conversation with us as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not just the single men that do this couples and single females can be just as bad. There’s a lot of people that just think of this as a get your leg over site. Just have to keep filtering through to find the good ones xx

That’s very very true, etiquette has gone out the window, we were in a club and a guy came over o Mrs L2 and told her there was space on the couch next to him and his wife, not once did he look at me or try to engage into any conversation with us as a couple"

Thee biggest bug hater of all time. i just don’t get it. Manners and pleasentries cost nothing. Mrs L2 is a beautiful woman and your a lucky guy, I don’t see why people don’t engage both parties it’s a more relaxed and fun atmosphere if all three, four or how ever many all get on and can enjoy

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It’s not just the single men that do this couples and single females can be just as bad. There’s a lot of people that just think of this as a get your leg over site. Just have to keep filtering through to find the good ones xx

That’s very very true, etiquette has gone out the window, we were in a club and a guy came over o Mrs L2 and told her there was space on the couch next to him and his wife, not once did he look at me or try to engage into any conversation with us as a couple

Thee biggest bug hater of all time. i just don’t get it. Manners and pleasentries cost nothing. Mrs L2 is a beautiful woman and your a lucky guy, I don’t see why people don’t engage both parties it’s a more relaxed and fun atmosphere if all three, four or how ever many all get on and can enjoy "

Exactly! We love nothing more than group play!

You have the right attitude and will obviously stand out from the rest with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we get messages saying hey I would love to fuck you etc I send back hey thanks but I’m straight, they always reply with I thought this was a couples profile to a swift reply from us that reads...it is Dickhead so address both of us and then block them oh my friendly couple then

We’re very friendly tbh but as most couples will vouch for it is a bit annoying when guys address 1 person and not both of you and go straight for I want to fuck you so bad line "
I agree on that score and unless I actually know who's talking I'm specific who I'm referring my comment to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not just the single men that do this couples and single females can be just as bad. There’s a lot of people that just think of this as a get your leg over site. Just have to keep filtering through to find the good ones xx

That’s very very true, etiquette has gone out the window, we were in a club and a guy came over o Mrs L2 and told her there was space on the couch next to him and his wife, not once did he look at me or try to engage into any conversation with us as a couple

Thee biggest bug hater of all time. i just don’t get it. Manners and pleasentries cost nothing. Mrs L2 is a beautiful woman and your a lucky guy, I don’t see why people don’t engage both parties it’s a more relaxed and fun atmosphere if all three, four or how ever many all get on and can enjoy

Exactly! We love nothing more than group play!

You have the right attitude and will obviously stand out from the rest with it"

i certainly like to think i hold the right attitude. Hope you have many a fantastic time xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys don't worry its not just you that gets blanked off the single ladies, it can be hard work for us couples sometimes too you know "

This definitely

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By *esjMan
over a year ago

salford

Men don’t get many replies its mostly delete or just read then left at that when they do then it’s exciting times hahaha

But seriously i always reply with a thank you or happy fabbing to you

There’s no point being rude there will be someone out there that will want to talk to you and not just judge you on your pics

Play it cool guys

Happy fabbing

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"I wouldn't say that fab is a social setting that compares to any other though. I don't walk in to a bar in a corset and heels but I happily put pictures of myself in them on here. I expect different responses from fab than elsewhere.

I can walk into a bar in corset and heels and have done so on numerous occasions. "

Mrs F too. A normal bar, if you can call them normal. Swing clubs are more normal than the local night clubs.

To be honest heels and corset is more normal dress for Mrs F. Don't think she'd be comfortable in a long dress

As for single men messaging it states several times on our profile we don't meet single men so why would we message back stating this again if they couldn't be bothered to read it. It's only the second line in and in CAPITALS so not difficult to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say that fab is a social setting that compares to any other though. I don't walk in to a bar in a corset and heels but I happily put pictures of myself in them on here. I expect different responses from fab than elsewhere.

I can walk into a bar in corset and heels and have done so on numerous occasions.

Mrs F too. A normal bar, if you can call them normal. Swing clubs are more normal than the local night clubs.

To be honest heels and corset is more normal dress for Mrs F. Don't think she'd be comfortable in a long dress

As for single men messaging it states several times on our profile we don't meet single men so why would we message back stating this again if they couldn't be bothered to read it. It's only the second line in and in CAPITALS so not difficult to see. "

I agree with you here also. after reading some ones profile, if i come into their not looking for areas then i wouldn’t message them, yeah i’d speak to any one when out at a club or party because i like to be socialble and polite but still read things and respect what people like and dislike xx

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"I wouldn't say that fab is a social setting that compares to any other though. I don't walk in to a bar in a corset and heels but I happily put pictures of myself in them on here. I expect different responses from fab than elsewhere.

I can walk into a bar in corset and heels and have done so on numerous occasions.

Mrs F too. A normal bar, if you can call them normal. Swing clubs are more normal than the local night clubs.

To be honest heels and corset is more normal dress for Mrs F. Don't think she'd be comfortable in a long dress

As for single men messaging it states several times on our profile we don't meet single men so why would we message back stating this again if they couldn't be bothered to read it. It's only the second line in and in CAPITALS so not difficult to see. "

Quite a few men appear to read using their cocks, this appears to somewhat limit the words they do and don't see

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"I wouldn't say that fab is a social setting that compares to any other though. I don't walk in to a bar in a corset and heels but I happily put pictures of myself in them on here. I expect different responses from fab than elsewhere.

I can walk into a bar in corset and heels and have done so on numerous occasions.

Mrs F too. A normal bar, if you can call them normal. Swing clubs are more normal than the local night clubs.

To be honest heels and corset is more normal dress for Mrs F. Don't think she'd be comfortable in a long dress

As for single men messaging it states several times on our profile we don't meet single men so why would we message back stating this again if they couldn't be bothered to read it. It's only the second line in and in CAPITALS so not difficult to see.

I agree with you here also. after reading some ones profile, if i come into their not looking for areas then i wouldn’t message them, yeah i’d speak to any one when out at a club or party because i like to be socialble and polite but still read things and respect what people like and dislike xx "

Same here, we speak to all in clubs, very quickly drop in Mrs F is Bi and we don't look for single guys as we wouldn't want to take up their time if they are looking for a match anyone can stay and be sociable or move on. Always polite and sociable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say that fab is a social setting that compares to any other though. I don't walk in to a bar in a corset and heels but I happily put pictures of myself in them on here. I expect different responses from fab than elsewhere.

I can walk into a bar in corset and heels and have done so on numerous occasions.

Mrs F too. A normal bar, if you can call them normal. Swing clubs are more normal than the local night clubs.

To be honest heels and corset is more normal dress for Mrs F. Don't think she'd be comfortable in a long dress

As for single men messaging it states several times on our profile we don't meet single men so why would we message back stating this again if they couldn't be bothered to read it. It's only the second line in and in CAPITALS so not difficult to see.

I agree with you here also. after reading some ones profile, if i come into their not looking for areas then i wouldn’t message them, yeah i’d speak to any one when out at a club or party because i like to be socialble and polite but still read things and respect what people like and dislike xx

Same here, we speak to all in clubs, very quickly drop in Mrs F is Bi and we don't look for single guys as we wouldn't want to take up their time if they are looking for a match anyone can stay and be sociable or move on. Always polite and sociable. "

That’s my feelings exactly stay chat socialise or say no thank you etc,

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By *arouWoman
over a year ago

West Lothian

*Welcomes your polite-est chat up lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Familiar this.

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By *ampshirehotwife OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Familiar this. "

As is this ^

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Ended up at lee tandoori.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to be polite and respectful, reply when possible or just read your message.

But there are a vast amount of guy's who assume this is a green light and a shag is certain.

Is there any social setting that you would jump straight in for "when we going to fuck" if a woman says hello back?

Guy's play it cool."

Like I said on your other thread, I prefer it when they get like this in early messages. It means I definitely won't be meeting them so I don't waste my time chatting. If they get rude or pushy early on, imagine how they'd be in person.

Try and see it as a positive thing.

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