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Disasterous Meets.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having been on the site for a few months, we've stuck to our intention to try to spend time communicating with selected people to try and get to know them as best we can before contemplating meeting socially to see where that leads to. We consider that a basic precaution to increase the odds of a successful sexual encounter.

Is anyone willing to relate any of their bad experiences when meeting people as we're feeling quite close to taking the plunge and arranging our first meet and would enjoy the security of knowing that we've successfully avoided any pitfalls, obvious or otherwise......

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

be mindful not to over prepare, it may become clinical.

go with the flow, know your boundaries, communicate them, listen to those of others.. agree them and have fun.

and always avoid excessive alcohol.

have a great 1st meet... hope it is everything and more xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There`s only so much you can do online...

If I was to make a suggestion...meet socially first...a drink in a nice pub etc....

It doesn`t commit you in any way, and leads to great communication on the way home..and great foreplay to yer first meet, if they tick the boxes....if it doesn`t feel right....DON`T GO AHEAD...its not worth the risk of a dissappointment...and there`s plenty of time..

Best o luck..

P.S...Stay positive...

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

Take your time,meet socially with a _iew to playing if everyone is happy,dont be afraid to say no thanks...but dont bottle out if you feel good but nervous...everyone has a first time....have fun and dont feel pressured into doing anything that you dont feel comfortable with...there are other times ahead once the ice is broken.

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By *ssentialminx2011Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

A friend off another site ~ met a guy on here ,that stole £20 from her purse whilst she went to the lou @ his flat!!

She attempted to write about it~attempting to Warn other ppl to be far more careful(mentioning no names,dates,times etc) & was then banned for a 48hr period for "attempting to ("wash her dirty linen in public!") by the Monitors "seriously!!

Since that happened,we've both been far more careful ~after all ~ you DON'T really know these ppl do you?? ~ We've BOTH heard this b4 aswell off other members~ and TBH in cases as "cut and dried " as this 1 ~these ppl need to be "named and shamed" 100% ~ SURELY!!! ????? ~ i bet any money this message is pulled aswell ~ fingers X'e it's allowed to be published ~as it's really relevant x

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By *rica77Couple
over a year ago

Norwich

Oh for heavens sake.... just go for it. If it doesn't work out...then the next one will. Don't talk about it do it. I have no qualms about meets...it's all part of lifes rich tapestry..xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't over think it agree your bounderies before you meet and most of all have fun and enjoy.

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By *ssentialminx2011Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

I dont think there's any hard and fast rules with reguards Timwasters ~but reading throu ALL these tips ~there's plenty of excellent one's that are defo~ "toptips "and should be taken on board!!

After that ~ it's really down to commom sense and a Gr8 deal of FABluck!!;-);-)

I'd spoke for weeks to this gawjus guy,we'd texted,spoke on the phone and obviously had a lot in common and plenty of mutual chemistry "brilliant !!

~ Then came the date !! ~ i actually walked passed him and stood opposite,

and if HE hadn't have called my name,i still wouldn't have recognised him~seriously!! "his pix were 6 yrs outta D8!! and he was 5stone heavier!!!

OMGosh!! ~ 6yrs ago i was a size 12!!!

and blonde!!!

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By *ssentialminx2011Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

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By *rummpsMan
over a year ago

thanet

An acquaintance of mine from another site (and country) had a disastrous first meet. The guy she’d been chatting to for a while turned up at her house as arranged (a bad move in my opinion) and was at least a foot shorter than he’d claimed. Was probably ten or more years older and was in no fit state to fuck her all night as he’d boasted.

As he had driven over 100 miles she felt sorry for him. She gave him a BJ and a cup of coffee then sent him home. Bless!

_rummps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you take care to find out as much as you can about personality, wants and needs, you won't have a "bad" meet. Over time not all will be mind blowing but they'll still be good.

Taking your first step is like standing at the side of a pool wondering if the waters cold. Once you're in it's lovely! Take the plunge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all the preparation online/chat/phone before a meet will be meaningless if that "something" just isn't there, but don't despair, it isn't the end of the world and if all parties are aware of this, you've met someone socially, gained more experience and you all can move on from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend off another site ~ met a guy on here ,that stole £20 from her purse whilst she went to the lou @ his flat!!

She attempted to write about it~attempting to Warn other ppl to be far more careful(mentioning no names,dates,times etc) & was then banned for a 48hr period for "attempting to ("wash her dirty linen in public!") by the Monitors "seriously!!

Since that happened,we've both been far more careful ~after all ~ you DON'T really know these ppl do you?? ~ We've BOTH heard this b4 aswell off other members~ and TBH in cases as "cut and dried " as this 1 ~these ppl need to be "named and shamed" 100% ~ SURELY!!! ????? ~ i bet any money this message is pulled aswell ~ fingers X'e it's allowed to be published ~as it's really relevant x "

bet we know the site!!!!!..........did the same to us for nowt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend off another site ~ met a guy on here ,that stole £20 from her purse whilst she went to the lou @ his flat!!

She attempted to write about it~attempting to Warn other ppl to be far more careful(mentioning no names,dates,times etc) & was then banned for a 48hr period for "attempting to ("wash her dirty linen in public!") by the Monitors "seriously!!

Since that happened,we've both been far more careful ~after all ~ you DON'T really know these ppl do you?? ~ We've BOTH heard this b4 aswell off other members~ and TBH in cases as "cut and dried " as this 1 ~these ppl need to be "named and shamed" 100% ~ SURELY!!! ????? ~ i bet any money this message is pulled aswell ~ fingers X'e it's allowed to be published ~as it's really relevant x "

Im confused just for a change ,your friend from another site met a guy from this site who you say stole money and she wants to name and shame on this site , yes no ? How did she meet him then and how was she going to name and shame on here or am I just being blonde ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the info guys, don't want to be another disasterous meet statistic!

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