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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had a situation recently which I thought wad really weird and wrong.

I met a man (with his wife's permission) a couple of times. I then got a PM from another man who said he had been recommended me by the man's wife apparently she had met him and thought that I should too. She even showed him mu pictures

I told him sorry but I was quite capable of finding meets on my

Do you think she was out of order ?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YES!!!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Have you spoken to her, it may be the guy chancing it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After I said no to the bloke she wrote to me and said I didn't know what I was missing !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but what _iew said also xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you did the right thing .... and you dont need her help to find your men .. you and only you know what your looking for here xx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd take it as a compliment. I've had a few meets off the backs of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And _iews right i have had men mailing saying its wife and how good thay was in bed and i should meet , lol can tell its the man mailing ,

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"After I said no to the bloke she wrote to me and said I didn't know what I was missing !"

she did wrong... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is wrong to discuss previous meets by name and therefore "recommend" someone.

Unless touchy is one of the Little Miss, in which case if you are Little Miss Touchy, I would like to be Mr Feely

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I'd take it as a compliment. I've had a few meets off the backs of others."

That's what I thought.

I have recommended friends check out another person's profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with the compliment thing.. i would recommend a great guy to another woman-doesnt mean she has to do anything about it!

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Nah thats sounds so wrong shes pimping you out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, its called socialising...and a great antidote to the timewasting malarky..

How did people meet other swingers ...pre internet ...

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

maybe ok to say so and so are nice but to show pics it soo out of order simple as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe ok to say so and so are nice but to show pics it soo out of order simple as"

I didn`t read the OP properly..I can`t be bothered at the mo...

I wouldn`t disagree that sharing pics might well be insensitive and indiscreet ( sic )??..

A heads up that someone called XYZ, might be contacting you, is always a good introduction..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very careful about who I play with and am very discrete, I would never give out anyones name without prior consent and expect the same.

There is a fine line between recomendation and gossip - disclosing my personal business.

When I hear someone discussing someone else it puts me off, so I think she was bang out of order, it's not her business and its not like you were even friends with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a situation recently which I thought wad really weird and wrong.

I met a man (with his wife's permission) a couple of times. I then got a PM from another man who said he had been recommended me by the man's wife apparently she had met him and thought that I should too. She even showed him mu pictures

I told him sorry but I was quite capable of finding meets on my

Do you think she was out of order ?"

i think suggesting you to someone is fine, saying ive met this woman shes really nice etc etc i thinks ok

Sending him your pics is well out of order tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get men saying i know so and so and i get on with them so i know i will get on with you

this is sadly not the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to her, it may be the guy chancing it.

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thats a very good point

ive had guys mail me saying id said i would meet them last time we spoke when we have never mailed each other before

some peopel will go to any lenths

The woman could have mearly said she had met you and hes added the rest on for good measure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your replies - makes me feel a bit better

The wife has never met me but I was a friend on their profile (not now) which is how she showed him the pics

Obviously her husband discussed me with her and she decided to 'pass' me on lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Out of order....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

showing the pics, well thats pretty invasive, as for recommending others, networking cuts ou half the battle of meeting fuds+cunts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

recommendation, yes, showing the pics, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"recommendation, yes, showing the pics, no."

I'm in total agreement with ^^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She should of asked you first before showing pics and trying to arrange a date total lack of respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think recommending someone is out of order no. Ive met people and instantly thought that they would be a good match for someone i know or have played with before. Ive also been recommended to a guy and its turned out to be a great meet!

If you have pics on your profile then you need to be prepared that anyone can see them. I really dont see the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd take it as a compliment. I've had a few meets off the backs of others.

That's what I thought.

I have recommended friends check out another person's profile."

+1

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

i think that she should have raised the issue with the op before he got an approach from her oh. but the thing that people seem to miss is that it was her husband and therefore i assume they live together - surely many couples share the mails and pics they exchange with others with their partners as part of the fun??

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I don't think that recommending someone as such is wrong. To be honest that's how we have met quite a few lovely people through friends.

BUT showing someone your private pictures without permission is wrong!

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

There's nothing wrong with recommending someone a good match, many people do meet this way....

BUT,

Showing them your pics is a big no no, unless they ask you first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"recommendation, yes, showing the pics, no.

I'm in total agreement with ^^^^^^"

So am I , if it wasn't for a recommendation I wouldn't have meet Jet the other half over a yr ago now.

Just to clarify I use my single profile in here from which I am not meeting as it's my opinions I post not his. Don't want to be called a fake or timewaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had actually the same thing happen to me a while back,,we had met a cpl and then i had a txt mesage from some random bloke id never met sayn the fem from the cpl "recomended" me to meet him

i txt back sorry i dont know you please delete my number i then txt the fem to say please dont give my number out to random blokes please,

needless to say we have never met them again,total cheek!!

id say verifications are sort of recomendations so thats all i need

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all your replies - makes me feel a bit better

The wife has never met me but I was a friend on their profile (not now) which is how she showed him the pics

Obviously her husband discussed me with her and she decided to 'pass' me on lol

"

I don't think what you've been saying is the actions of a woman here. Unless they had veris (which even then can be faked) it's impossible to say if he was part of a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont think recommending someone is out of order no. Ive met people and instantly thought that they would be a good match for someone i know or have played with before. Ive also been recommended to a guy and its turned out to be a great meet!

If you have pics on your profile then you need to be prepared that anyone can see them. I really dont see the issue."

Agreed, if you have public profile pics and these were showed it no different than someone else just checking your profile.

However, if she showed private pics that people only you want to see then yes thats wrong..

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

It's how the world works to a larger degree.

it's always good to meet through recommendation although a heads up first before hearing from the the new chap is preferable.

There does need to be an attraction.

Pics shouldn't really be shown without prior permission, especially if the face is visible.

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