FabSwingers.com forum: No social vs social

By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

For me I'm a:

no social.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

" For me I'm a:

no social. "

Misanthrope

Social bunny here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

No social. A normal meeting between reasonable civilised people in a public place with coffee within reach, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For me I'm a:

no social. "

Social (Phil)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social... Always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mix of both...I'm fickle like that

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

" For me I'm a:

no social.

Social (Phil)"

Ah that's interesting. I feel weird telling my wife I'm going out for a drink with another woman. How do you make it feel like less of a date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mix of both for me too! Had awesome meets with no social and awesome ones after an initial social!

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford

Definitely social for us.

Although they often don’t end up that way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet is always a social, no matter who I'm meeting.

And it's the same for my hubby, its just the way we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my own, social first with a male friend not so important

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Some element of social first for me - now that might mean arranging to meet at a club with a view to playing later if all agree, but couldn't go straight into a sex meet the first time of meeting - would just feel too cold and clinical for me.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve done both, you get a feel for what you’re comfortable with each time

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

If I fancy someone I don't need the social aspect or a loosener to get my motor running. But at the same time I enjoy that aspect. So either would work for me.

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

No rules as go with instincts but social with option to play if everyone happy seems best way for us ...especially when free time is difficult x

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Can you fuck on a social?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Social. Often more than one.

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By *av_55Man
over a year ago

Social,, coffee or drinks,, and even better, Fab socials , brilliant times had at these over the years and from other sites

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I love a good social!

Nothing builds expectation more if the chemistry is there and the flirting is free flowing and spontaneous.

The sex is so much better afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A mix of both...I'm fickle like that

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ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a social. A wee 10 minute chat (sometimes more) before play is as close to a social as I'll do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social always xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For me I'm a:

no social. "

Social . Coffee shop or pub.

Always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be a social on first meet...then see what happens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.

I also see how they behave when I walk away.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

"Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.

I also see how they behave when I walk away."

Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?

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By *alentino7Man
over a year ago

London

Social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also see how they behave when I walk away.

Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes? "

I have had men throw strops in the car park, they have brought a weekend bag to a Friday evening social. They fully expected to stay the weekend, as they were free. A social to them meant, meet, get on, move on to sex fuelled weekend.

I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...

I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gloryhole

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

I also see how they behave when I walk away.

Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?

I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...

I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc."

Jesus! Where do you live?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also see how they behave when I walk away.

Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?

I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...

I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc.

Jesus! Where do you live?!

In the central area for creepy men obviously

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

I also see how they behave when I walk away.

Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?

I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...

I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc.

Jesus! Where do you live?!

In the central area for creepy men obviously

Clearly. Carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carry on what ? Carry on with socials ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either way..

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

"Carry on what ? Carry on with socials ?"

Yes. Sounds like you need to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carry on what ? Carry on with socials ?

Yes. Sounds like you need to!"

I do indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Either way.."

Hell, I don't think I have ever seen such a short reply/view off you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also see how they behave when I walk away.

Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?

I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...

I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc."

One of the main reasons I do socials first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Either way..

Hell, I don't think I have ever seen such a short reply/view off you

Lol.. it was a simple answer

Not everything is 50 shades of Grey

Most is though.. so I try to pick those words carefully lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Either way..

Hell, I don't think I have ever seen such a short reply/view off you

Lol.. it was a simple answer

Not everything is 50 shades of Grey

Most is though.. so I try to pick those words carefully lol."

Well nobody can accuse you of being predictable

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

I'm cool either way. My girlfriend is wary of socials because to her they feel staged and artificial.

That's partly why she prefers to just go with the flow at a club or spa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you fuck on a social?

Not in Costa, you'll get thrown out, it's frowned upon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also see how they behave when I walk away.

Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?

I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...

I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc."

Bloody hell ! I would never presume that coffee guaranteed a 'sex fuelled weekend' !!

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By *ibertine_mindsCouple
over a year ago

Staffs/ Derbys/ Peak District

With two couples involved, we would want some social interaction to see how the chemistry works. As initial arrangements are actually made by one of each couple communicating, so only by meeting face to face can you weigh up how all four of you feel about playing.

That said, if everyone was open and honest about their views and tastes, the social should just be a formality and a chance to explore equally imaginative minds before the main event . . .

I did have a different approach though when on sites as a single male some years ago. Often received direct invitations from couples to drop everything and travel for a meet - an offer only available for that evening on their terms. Needless to say the journey was often a mixture of nervous excitement and increasing _icentious lust . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always offer a social. One accepted and things nearly got out of hand but we didn't have the opportunity. The other invited me to her house for our first meeting and things got severely out of hand...The thing was I had chatted to both for quite a while before we met so we were both pretty comfortable. .

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Social first always. Just to have a quick coffee and to check them out, make sure they are who they say they are etc.

Nothing worse than turning up for a sex meet with someone you've not met previously only to find you dont fancy them. Unless you're happy to take one for the team that's bloody awkward and frustrating!!

Which makes me wonder how many people actually do that (men and women) rather than being honest!

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By *eterbeebeeMan
over a year ago

Derby

Depends entirely what the lady would like

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I only meet at mine and normally offer a drink before I drag them upstairs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learnt from experience socials should always happen first. Been in some awkward situations when I've had to fuck/play with someone I don't fancy or vice versa. Took several of those to get into my head - social first!

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

"I only meet at mine and normally offer a drink before I drag them upstairs lol"

Are you East or West of the Itchen?

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I like to at least say hello and take my coat off

Serious answer is that it depends on the other party and the agreed intention of the participants.

Sometimes it's all about an almost unexpected itch that needs scratching, there is no intention of repeated meets or longer term relationships - so a quick arrangement through fab or wherever, swap photos to make sure no one will be totally repulsed, and go for it. The itch gets scratched, sometimes its good, sometimes its bad, but I don't think its ever got a chance of being amazing.

Much better for me though is when there is a longer term build up, maybe a random hello message initially, leading to online chat over a period, eventually a social by which time we know quite a bit about each other anyway... Can still end up being good, bad or indifferent, but now there's a possibility that it could be amazing

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Sexdate! A word I nicked but describes perfectly ..... it’s a bit like a social, but I’m a trollop and have been known to out on the first date.

V x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

No social here .

Never done one , never will , there has to be the option to play if we click on a meet or we won’t bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost always a social for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always for me / us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social first always. Just to have a quick coffee and to check them out, make sure they are who they say they are etc.

Which makes me wonder how many people actually do that (men and women) rather than being honest!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definite social for me too....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't used to but these days I do after a nasty and weird encounter.

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"No social. A normal meeting between reasonable civilised people in a public place with coffee within reach, yes."

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

It’s hard to have a social with a blindfold on so no socials for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

who fancies a social??

......or not?!

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Some element of social first for me - now that might mean arranging to meet at a club with a view to playing later if all agree, but couldn't go straight into a sex meet the first time of meeting - would just feel too cold and clinical for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexdate! A word I nicked but describes perfectly ..... it’s a bit like a social, but I’m a trollop and have been known to out on the first date.

V x "

love trollop xx

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"I only meet at mine and normally offer a drink before I drag them upstairs lol

Are you East or West of the Itchen?"

West End

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No social... but you know that already op

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

"No social... but you know that already op

Oooo but its so clinical and like prostitution! Meh meh,meh meh meh meh!

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Social, although absolutely dread them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first ! My friend went to meet this handsome Greek from another site! He was not who he claim he was , he claimed he had a car accident the reason he looked different !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social first ! My friend went to meet this handsome Greek from another site! He was not who he claim he was , he claimed he had a car accident the reason he looked different ! "

Depends how savvy you are I guess. I've never had a social and never had anything like that happen.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

I am happy with either, but a separate social is often a bit dependent on distance between one another.

Even if I do not meet with a single woman or a couple beforehand, there is always (and quite naturally) a period (often quite prolonged) of social interaction/getting to know one another/flirtation...this might be in a separate location (ie a pub or hotel bar) before going to a private place for play, or it might just be in the living room before moving things to the bedroom...(although often its already well under way at that stage

Of course, be it on a separate day, in a different location, or simply in a living room, there is never (an nor should there be ever) any obligation to take things to the next level unless all concerned are totally comfortable and equally keen to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social first ! My friend went to meet this handsome Greek from another site! He was not who he claim he was , he claimed he had a car accident the reason he looked different !

Depends how savvy you are I guess. I've never had a social and never had anything like that happen. "

Lucky you ! I only meet at clubs and establish contact. That's was not here,if I would to meet a guy first social.

But we all different.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Does it count as a social if you have sex that same night too? If not, I've never had a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexdate! A word I nicked but describes perfectly ..... it’s a bit like a social, but I’m a trollop and have been known to out on the first date.

V x "

I prefer no socials, this is the trollop, Oh sorry lady of the couple speaking, I often play alone with hubby's full knowledge and agreement, never had any issues with the guys I've met. Having said that hubby is really good at ing out the cretins beforehand x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social definitely...from bitter experience it helps out the 'couples' where only the guy is interested and the lady really doesn't want to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social first always. Just to have a quick coffee and to check them out, make sure they are who they say they are etc.

Which makes me wonder how many people actually do that (men and women) rather than being honest!"

Going by previous posts on similar threads, quite a few. Bizarre!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

A wise starring point But Socials don't have to end as a socials if all is going well in my experience.

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

When we first started we always had a social meet first. Now however we don't have as much time so we always meet somewhere public but will play as long as everyone is happy.

It does make the 'thanks but no thanks' a bit more awkward though! awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where possible - Social

If it’s a logistical nightmare and I really want right meet then I will combine the two with the proviso if I not likey then it goes no further & vice versa.

So far so good but I do take the time to get ro know someone beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I don't mind going for a drink before sex, I don't usually have a social.

A few times I did-when I first joined Fab-they were only after a grope in the pub or a blow job in an alley by the pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you fuck on a social?

Not in Costa, you'll get thrown out, it's frowned upon.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

" For me I'm a:

no social.

Social (Phil)

Ah that's interesting. I feel weird telling my wife I'm going out for a drink with another woman. How do you make it feel like less of a date?"

Ask your wife

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Social in most cases for me. Never say never but i prefer the opportunity to check for chemistry then take a little time to process before making arrangements to meet and play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials can sometimes takes the element of fun away for me.

a chat on cam is enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 or 5 messages on here is enough to tell if we stand a chance of having good naughty fun with people on a similar wavelength, social only meets are a waste of time and energy, if you don’t want to rip each other’s clothes off soon after meeting then it won’t happen in the future, you can click socially and it can still be a disaster in the play

So get out there and play if you have a wonderful time, build on that and play again & again.

Never see the point of arranging socials, spending time with people, chatting endlessly on here, then arranging abolay meet only for it to be crap

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I advocate social however all my meet except one where the mom had to pick up her kid have lead to sex.

Either...but I don't like my time wasted.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

" For me I'm a:

no social.

Social (Phil)

Ah that's interesting. I feel weird telling my wife I'm going out for a drink with another woman. How do you make it feel like less of a date?

Ask your wife

Well she's really never had a social. I'm not sure what advice she could give me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not done a social first no.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP Man
over a year ago

salisbury

"I've not done a social first no.

That's the spirit!

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By *.Watford-AmericanMan
over a year ago

St Albans / Bournemouth

Would always want a social first as need to see if your compatible with the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wondering what qualifies as a social.

My room numbers .... and the wine is in the chiller perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always had a social first before a play meet. Mainly because we never send face pics. Its usually just a quick drink and chat. It worked well for us. The only time we didnt was if we clicked with someone while at a club.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Social first for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For me I'm a:

no social.

Social (Phil)

Ah that's interesting. I feel weird telling my wife I'm going out for a drink with another woman. How do you make it feel like less of a date?

Ask your wife

Well she's really never had a social. I'm not sure what advice she could give me."

Meet for a coffee then, hardly date like material discussing why your on a swingers / sex site whilst sipping a latte...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love a good social!

Nothing builds expectation more if the chemistry is there and the flirting is free flowing and spontaneous.

The sex is so much better afterwards

This.

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