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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering what you guys think about this one? we prefer to reply with a no thanks/your not our type/ too far away rather than just delete a message. but even when we do this some of the responses we get arent very nice. We have taken the time to reply so why do people feel the need to be nasty? Mainly single guys :-/ yes we do look for single guys, but we are very picky, guess some of them assume they are gods gift lol No offense is meant to anyone by this thread so appologise in advance

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

say no thanks and block them, saves any repeat messaging.

good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowadays, I would say "No thanks, I am not interested in whatever you may have to offer. Therefore, to prevent further contacts and wasting each other's time and effort, I shall block you. Take care!"

And then I block him/them.

Simples!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nowadays, I would say "No thanks, I am not interested in whatever you may have to offer. Therefore, to prevent further contacts and wasting each other's time and effort, I shall block you. Take care!"

And then I block him/them.

Simples! "

i like this idea!!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Just wondering what you guys think about this one? we prefer to reply with a no thanks/your not our type/ too far away rather than just delete a message. but even when we do this some of the responses we get arent very nice. We have taken the time to reply so why do people feel the need to be nasty? Mainly single guys :-/ yes we do look for single guys, but we are very picky, guess some of them assume they are gods gift lol No offense is meant to anyone by this thread so appologise in advance "

Dont apologise,there are far too many people here that think being a swinger means you have to fuck them

As others have said,no thanks then blocking is the easiest way to avoid abuse...remember to report anyone who is abusive,if admin see a pattern of behavior they can act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually thank them for saying hello, but that they are not my type and hope they find fun through the site.

I've only had one being a prat in response and the cheeky fucker blocked me so I couldn't answer back lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..Oh I don't block often..only 3 people so far cos they scared me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i say no thanks or you arent my type

if they continue with pitiful winging i block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to thank them for the interest but sadly they are not our type but good luck we have had to block some but none to admin at the mo!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i tend to say thanks but no thanks happy swinging..have had some very nice replies but yes you still get the rude ones who start on with abuse so block...just had a guy block me this very second cos he keeps looking at me even tho he doesnt like bbw so i pointed this out politely...only to get abuse.....im ranting sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nowadays, I would say "No thanks, I am not interested in whatever you may have to offer. Therefore, to prevent further contacts and wasting each other's time and effort, I shall block you. Take care!"

And then I block him/them.

Simples!

i like this idea!!"

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Bear in mind that I do not receive many messages, less than 5 on a bad day, as I do not appear in searches by not indicating the type of person I am looking for.

It would get very tiresome to type that out if I get a lot of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"say no thanks and block them, saves any repeat messaging.

good luck x"

I do this saves lots hassle and saves lloking at profile again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally thank then for taking the time to reply and leave it at that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a thanks but no that's, at least they have taken the time to say something so, thanks for the reply and happy hunting, enjoy yourselfs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why people get into such a tiswas saying no to anonymous strangers. I can understand if the person meets your criteria but you don't fancy them, but it's usually someone outwith your criteria that contacts you.

My profile is hidden and I still get at least two messages a day asking to meet.

Block...delete. Why would I answer someone who asks "wanna chat babe?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just this sec blocked a chap who couldn't understand why I turned him down.

He send me a pic of him stretching his arse cheeks apart to show his bum hole in full HD

how terribly attractive

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By *iggerLuvWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Ewwwww not nice lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple fact is, no one likes to be rejected, especially from people that they feel are more "liberal" in terms of attraction.

I have just politely said no to an extremely attractive couple, because I wouldn't make their grade. For me it's about experience, there are some people I just wouldn't approach on account of their profile text, if they are looking for drop dead, hunky guys, with six packs and 10" dicks, well, there really isn't any point in me going down that road....

If you approach the guy first, you had a series of messages and then after "getting on well" asked for a face pic, and were disappointed, it points to be rather rather shallow.... Sorry..... If this wasn't the case, he sent a face pic and you said "not our type" then he has to get over it.

Simply put, if you put looks over personality, that's fine and hopefully you will have great meets. You might not have a great deal of new "friends" at the end of the year ( not saying that gorgeous people can't have gorgeous personalities) but different people are leased in different ways.

Experience teaches us which people we may get to meet, I have met some truly beautiful women, partly because they can see a bit further than a face pic, I believe we have had some great times......

I think I might have just said hat I am gopping, ooops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where is says leased it should say blessed, I would really like an edit function on the forums, I mean really really!

P xxx

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By *orflondonerMan
over a year ago

Wood Green

I much rather a polite refusal than just seeing my message deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can get 100's, nay 1000's of messages,

I try to be polite and reply and say: "thanks, but no thanks" but quite a percentage do launch into "why" and some get quite nasty in fact.

I will say in my opinion that 95% of single men just do not understand why the majority of women are on here and have no idea of what we are after and take no time to try to find out even when it's written on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"say no thanks and block them, saves any repeat messaging.

good luck x"

This works well for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we always ask for a face pic first, would feel awful if we were getting on good thru chatting but then if i saw a pic and i didnt fancy them it wud just be a waste of everyones time. Im not shallow but do think i have to be attractive to someone to allow to use their member on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We either dont reply to mails, or reply with no thanks and then block.

By blocking a profile you know in the future that when you come across them you weren't interested for whatever reason, and it prevents them from asking again a few weeks/months down the line.

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