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By *ekyllnHide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Just been chatting with the Hubby as feeling a bit body conscious right now as carry a few more pounds than normal and not feeling as confident as normal.

Do you men (or Ladies) really mind the curvier woman as I’m paranoid we’d arrange a meet and then the guy not fancy me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get where you’re coming from... am no skinny Minnie!

I’ve always had confidence issues about my body image... going to a club the first time (and second, third, etc) was daunting and still is for me, but once I’m in and settled I’m all good and always seem to do well for myself

I think a lot of men prefer us bubbly women (and a lot prefer slim girls too) so I wouldn’t worry xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sexiest thing is confidence. Easier said than done when you feel a bit low, but own it, strut your stuff and trust me you'll drive any man wild

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

m sorry...but whenever men post these threads they get the standard answer, so you'll have to have it too..

Men like ALL shapes and sizes, some like very slim, some like very large, if everyone said curvy would that make you super confident...I very much doubt it. Love yourself first.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I have a tendency to overthink on the very same issue so I do my due diligence beforehand. I make sure someone sees full length pics before we meet, and clarify I am podgy just in case they may find it a turn off. At clubs it is less of an issue; I always go with the regular squeeze or a fab friend who I already know finds me attractive so it takes all the pressure off. Plus I look good in lingerie and apparently have an alright face so the chances of someone thinking I look OK and then being flabbergasted (quite literally) is pretty slim (pun intended).

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By *ekyllnHide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Good for you - I genuinely don’t think I’d be able to walk into one of the clubs.....

I know it’s daft and it takes all sorts of shapes and sizes.....I’d love to have the confidence x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not that confident with fat me so I don't meet until I'm at a weight I'm comfortable with. Probably not the best way of dealing with it but it works for me and has the bonus of I never put on too much weight.

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"The sexiest thing is confidence. Easier said than done when you feel a bit low, but own it, strut your stuff and trust me you'll drive any man wild"

This is what I do every time !

I’m sure 99% of people have many hangups

But as already said

Strut your stuff with CONFIDENCE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What u have to remember is men dont have to fancy u. Its just sex after all. And a lot of guys who meet here would never dream of dating the women they have sex with. And vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love curves. Not a fan of skinny women.

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"Good for you - I genuinely don’t think I’d be able to walk into one of the clubs.....

I know it’s daft and it takes all sorts of shapes and sizes.....I’d love to have the confidence x"

Going to clubs dressed in sexy clothes or lingerie will help you with your confidence !

It did me

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

I adore curvy women

Can’t seem to keep my hands off them

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By *offee27Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Love curvy ladies. A girl with confidence goes a long way and is far sexier than you think

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Hi lovely!

I think the key is to be totally honest with your potential meet!

If you’re larger than your pictures, then tell them that and send a pic of what you look like now! I’m sure most guys (or ladies) probably wouldn’t mind - but I think it’s only fair to let people know so they can back out without upset/embarrassment on either side if you’re not for them!

If you’re going to a club and you’re lacking confidence t the moment, why not go to a curvy girls event where you know the gentlemen going are most likely to be attracted to your body type? Hopefully once you’ve attended one it would give you the confidence to attend any other type of club night!

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By *eziahWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"m sorry...but whenever men post these threads they get the standard answer, so you'll have to have it too..

Men like ALL shapes and sizes, some like very slim, some like very large, if everyone said curvy would that make you super confident...I very much doubt it. Love yourself first."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of us curvy girls lack confidence sometimes especially those of us whose curves are in the right places but the wrong ones too !! but so do skinny women too .. but as others say confidence is sexy so own it ! What ever your size ! So many women knock other women down when what they should be doing is boosting them up ! I worry men and women won’t like my body so it’s stated in my profile text my size and wobbly bits ! and in my friends folder pics of said bits ! That way people will know what to expect and can choose not to meet us if not for them . Xx

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By *offee27Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"I think a lot of us curvy girls lack confidence sometimes especially those of us whose curves are in the right places but the wrong ones too !! but so do skinny women too .. but as others say confidence is sexy so own it ! What ever your size ! So many women knock other women down when what they should be doing is boosting them up ! I worry men and women won’t like my body so it’s stated in my profile text my size and wobbly bits ! and in my friends folder pics of said bits ! That way people will know what to expect and can choose not to meet us if not for them . Xx "

I assure you, you are very sexy and have nothing to worry about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of us curvy girls lack confidence sometimes especially those of us whose curves are in the right places but the wrong ones too !! but so do skinny women too .. but as others say confidence is sexy so own it ! What ever your size ! So many women knock other women down when what they should be doing is boosting them up ! I worry men and women won’t like my body so it’s stated in my profile text my size and wobbly bits ! and in my friends folder pics of said bits ! That way people will know what to expect and can choose not to meet us if not for them . Xx

I assure you, you are very sexy and have nothing to worry about "

Thankyou

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Try searching the net for BBW

You'll see that lots of men like larger ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much single male attention do you get on here? That's all the answer you should need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have any problem at all with people being judgemental. I find the men that contact me to be lovely, polite and complimentary.

Remember though OP, beauty comes from within xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been chatting with the Hubby as feeling a bit body conscious right now as carry a few more pounds than normal and not feeling as confident as normal.

Do you men (or Ladies) really mind the curvier woman as I’m paranoid we’d arrange a meet and then the guy not fancy me!!! "

We both love a curvier woman and they tend to go to the top of our list lol

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I've been all kinds of shapes and siuzes ranging from a size 10 at my slimmest and a size 32 at my largest I'm actually at my most confident where I am now even though I know my body's not perfect (but who's are really?) I've found the confidence I currently have is one of my most attractive qualities to most people

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By *ameoneMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Imo it's how u carry it. But for me if yr easy n not very proud, it's all good. I intend to give this comment in a positive attitude. But yes the curves naturally sexy

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By *ekyllnHide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Thanks JustPeachy....I’m not massively bigger than my pics, just take a them at a good angle and avoid my Mummy tummy lol!!

It’s nice to ask as it’s not something I can talk about with my friends lol.....don’t think they would really understand. X

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By *ekyllnHide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Loads - however I just think sometimes as another poster said, they don’t care what you look like, it’s just a shag!!

I, don’t think some men really care as long as they are getting their end away lol.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love curvy woman so don’t even worry about it op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a bigger girl and used to be and still am to a point body conscious, however being on here as also given me so much more confidence and alot of men and woman don't mind it at all and actually Quite like it which surprised me, the longer I'm on here to more i realise im normal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads - however I just think sometimes as another poster said, they don’t care what you look like, it’s just a shag!!

I, don’t think some men really care as long as they are getting their end away lol....."

Someone said earlier.. beauty is on the inside. Somebody else said, it's he pays attention to how a woman holds herself. I'd hazard a guess he's talking about Body Confidence.

For me, both these statements ring true. Only it's not so easy finding someone who is Body Confident. Unfortunately you're not alone it seems. In my experience, nearly every woman I've been romantically and/or physically involved with dislikes her own body, that upsets me.

I started a thread on body dysmorphia a long time ago. You'd be surprised at the number and the bodies of some of the women who joined the thread and admitted they didn't feel comfortable about their body. Some of the most "Traditionally attractive" Physiques were on show and these women felt ashamed. They said they weren't happy about their bums, buns, boobs, thighs, stretch marks, scars, cellulite and so on.

It's quite upsetting, if I'm honest.

I don't know if it's porn, fashion, advertising, film, music or the result of men's shallowness as a whole. Women tend to be less fussy about a man's body and less shallow as a general rule of thumb (I think).

I spent most of the thread trying to point out that they are being silly. Look at the attention all women get on here, yes, in a majority of cases... the man might just be after a shag. He's considered you though, you can't be that unattractive - unless you reject him ofcourse Then obviously you've suddenly become a fat pig! That he never wanted anyway.. funny that.. Only it's not, is it?

I've hidden my Veri' s now I'm back on the Forum, I can be quite opinionated and don't shy from confrontation, so it's in an effort to shield my friends from my honesty and openness.

My very first Verification is from a larger woman. She was so confident and I was putty in her hands. She gave me back some of my confidence after a difficult break up. Taught me how to be tactile again, without it having to involve emotional feelings. We're still friends, she's not really on Fab anymore, she's in a relationship with a guy with a better body than I have and they are both very much in love.

The male attention you get on here tells you all you need to know. There are plenty of threads on here that cater to all shapes and sizes.

There's nothing wrong with being concerned about your appearance, a little care and attention and desire to self improve is healthy. If it's beginning to upset you, or hold you back till you're the ideal figure.. Then maybe try and relax a little, think about what I've said and consider looking for a different kind of person, instead of waiting for them to come to you.

I like wandering around naked, I'm more than comfy in my dad bod, I like my scars, they're memories and lessons learned. I like exploring other bodies, stretch marks can be rather beautiful if you think about what caused them in the first place.

Obviously I got called a White Knight for suggesting such blasphemy and no doubt I'll attract it again. I stand by what I say though.

I hope you start to see the beauty that all your admirers see in you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads - however I just think sometimes as another poster said, they don’t care what you look like, it’s just a shag!!

I, don’t think some men really care as long as they are getting their end away lol.....

Someone said earlier.. beauty is on the inside. Somebody else said, it's he pays attention to how a woman holds herself. I'd hazard a guess he's talking about Body Confidence.

For me, both these statements ring true. Only it's not so easy finding someone who is Body Confident. Unfortunately you're not alone it seems. In my experience, nearly every woman I've been romantically and/or physically involved with dislikes her own body, that upsets me.

I started a thread on body dysmorphia a long time ago. You'd be surprised at the number and the bodies of some of the women who joined the thread and admitted they didn't feel comfortable about their body. Some of the most "Traditionally attractive" Physiques were on show and these women felt ashamed. They said they weren't happy about their bums, buns, boobs, thighs, stretch marks, scars, cellulite and so on.

It's quite upsetting, if I'm honest.

I don't know if it's porn, fashion, advertising, film, music or the result of men's shallowness as a whole. Women tend to be less fussy about a man's body and less shallow as a general rule of thumb (I think).

I spent most of the thread trying to point out that they are being silly. Look at the attention all women get on here, yes, in a majority of cases... the man might just be after a shag. He's considered you though, you can't be that unattractive - unless you reject him ofcourse Then obviously you've suddenly become a fat pig! That he never wanted anyway.. funny that.. Only it's not, is it?

I've hidden my Veri' s now I'm back on the Forum, I can be quite opinionated and don't shy from confrontation, so it's in an effort to shield my friends from my honesty and openness.

My very first Verification is from a larger woman. She was so confident and I was putty in her hands. She gave me back some of my confidence after a difficult break up. Taught me how to be tactile again, without it having to involve emotional feelings. We're still friends, she's not really on Fab anymore, she's in a relationship with a guy with a better body than I have and they are both very much in love.

The male attention you get on here tells you all you need to know. There are plenty of threads on here that cater to all shapes and sizes.

There's nothing wrong with being concerned about your appearance, a little care and attention and desire to self improve is healthy. If it's beginning to upset you, or hold you back till you're the ideal figure.. Then maybe try and relax a little, think about what I've said and consider looking for a different kind of person, instead of waiting for them to come to you.

I like wandering around naked, I'm more than comfy in my dad bod, I like my scars, they're memories and lessons learned. I like exploring other bodies, stretch marks can be rather beautiful if you think about what caused them in the first place.

Obviously I got called a White Knight for suggesting such blasphemy and no doubt I'll attract it again. I stand by what I say though.

I hope you start to see the beauty that all your admirers see in you x"

Thank you for this comment this made me think and actually yes every scar and stretch mark does have a story and is part of me. Thank you we dont often sit and think about it like that x

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Thanks JustPeachy....I’m not massively bigger than my pics, just take a them at a good angle and avoid my Mummy tummy lol!!

It’s nice to ask as it’s not something I can talk about with my friends lol.....don’t think they would really understand. X"

Tell me about it!

Fab is a secret fun life for most of us! My friends would never understand why I spend twice as much on lingerie as I do on clothes!

Ps - most mothers have some kind of mummy tummy - myself included! The ones that don’t (*probably) did a deal with the devil!

Seriously - since joining fab I’ve realised that most of us are far more critical of ourselves than others are!

Just be honest about yourself, relax and enjoy!

Big hugs

Peachy xxx

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By *ekyllnHide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Thanks.....your very sweet and possibly very wise!!!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Thanks.....your very sweet and possibly very wise!!! "

Thanks lovely - the wisdom seems to be an inevitable result of being an old fart!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been chatting with the Hubby as feeling a bit body conscious right now as carry a few more pounds than normal and not feeling as confident as normal.

Do you men (or Ladies) really mind the curvier woman as I’m paranoid we’d arrange a meet and then the guy not fancy me!!! "

It wouldn't put me off at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a pussy is available, believe me, men don't give a hoot!!!!!!! "You don't look at the mantle piece while you're stroking the fire"

Harsh maybe, but true.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Even us with dad bods are body conscious

I love wearing jackets and tshirts - get me naked and unless I am shagging I am body conscious

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

You're already one up on me with someone who clearly loves you as you are. Remember that next time.

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By *ekyllnHide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Dad bods are more attractive than chiselled abs and muscles - yes they look nice in glossy magazines but I, personally, would prefer a chunkier man than one who spends every waking hour in the gym or in Lycra on his bike.....in fact if there is ever any mention of bikes, that’s it - blocked!!

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By *ameoneMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Lot or most men are not body confident but also penis size lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just put on your best underwear, and fake confidence until you realise no one is judging you for your clothes size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been chatting with the Hubby as feeling a bit body conscious right now as carry a few more pounds than normal and not feeling as confident as normal.

Do you men (or Ladies) really mind the curvier woman as I’m paranoid we’d arrange a meet and then the guy not fancy me!!! "

Some guys only like skinny girls, but they are fewer than most girls think. Most guys like a girl with curves and female perception of guys tastes are usually well off the mark.

As long as u have decent pics on your profile that are relatively recent then nobody can have any complaints really. Trust me, us guys worry about stuff like this too. So just keep the pics recent and representative and unless you are meeting an arsehole or someone stupid you should be absolutely fine, get meeting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lot or most men are not body confident but also penis size lol."

Well said that man!

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

I can only answer the original question with another question and that is why do you ladies stress so much about your shape?

Its not a competition!!!

The most attractive feature about any woman lies between her ears. If her attitude is right than her physical appearance is virtually irrelevant.

We have preferences but these are only preferences.

Last week in our local club we met a West Indian lady with an hour glass figure and an attractive smile. Was I tempted? No!

This had nothing to do with her colour, her figure, or nationality it was all about her smelling of having smoked cannabis. A massive turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are as sexy as you feel, I'm plus size (20), if someone doesn't find me attractive well their choice, however looks aren't just the attraction, you could be a God or goddess body type or wobbly wobbly bits and still have the personality of a broom..

The brain is the largest sex organ in the human body, turn my brain on, turn me on simples.

Mrs Y

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"The sexiest thing is confidence. Easier said than done when you feel a bit low, but own it, strut your stuff and trust me you'll drive any man wild

This is what I do every time !

I’m sure 99% of people have many hangups

But as already said

Strut your stuff with CONFIDENCE "

Definitely this!! You’re gorgeous as you are, you just have to believe it!! xx

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