FabSwingers.com forum: say no and become a munter

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It always makes me smile with the fake adorations and interest in the messages I receive.

Then if I send a polite no, I suddenly turn into the ugliest slut in town...

It's a miracle......

Some guys need to go to charm school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im never sure if its down to them taking their glasses off or putting them on, but something seems to change drastically within 30 seconds of a 'no thank you'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t bother even replying if it’s a no. Not my circus. Not my monkeys.

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I dream of a no thankyou, and when I get one I just reply with a kiss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They shpuld happy you actually bothered to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t bother even replying if it’s a no. Not my circus. Not my monkeys. "

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they hear that your vagina is off-limits, your face slowly morphs into Ann Widdicombe's before their very eyes.

True story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever had a no.

(I don't think I have ever asked to meet

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We went from 'Your pics and profile are amazing' to an 'Old gay faggot and ugly fat slut' by the time I'd made a cuppa after declining their original offer. One of the reasons we don't always reply now even to a well written message if it's clear they've not read our profile.

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By *anger69104Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

I would prefer a polite no thank you to no reply, however I understand that women and couples get a lot of messages and don't have time to reply always.

Also appreciate that I won't appeal to many so I always reply to a no thanks by saying thanks for the honesty, and hope you find what you are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today I got called a desperate pensioner... Apparently I didn't reply to his message a week ago.

I replied to the one he sent today but may have used big words so he's probably still working it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shows they were always fake...its not the best experience but what attracted in the first place shouldnt change and ffs respect folks choice...much love ??

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"I would prefer a polite no thank you to no reply, however I understand that women and couples get a lot of messages and don't have time to reply always.

Also appreciate that I won't appeal to many so I always reply to a no thanks by saying thanks for the honesty, and hope you find what you are looking for."

As threads like this show it's not just about the volume of messages some ladies get that means they don't reply. It's about the abuse too. So thank the abusive men for the lack of replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they hear that your vagina is off-limits, your face slowly morphs into Ann Widdicombe's before their very eyes.

True story."

Wow, just wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would prefer a polite no thank you to no reply, however I understand that women and couples get a lot of messages and don't have time to reply always.

Also appreciate that I won't appeal to many so I always reply to a no thanks by saying thanks for the honesty, and hope you find what you are looking for.

As threads like this show it's not just about the volume of messages some ladies get that means they don't reply. It's about the abuse too. So thank the abusive men for the lack of replies."

It’s not just men you know although I’m sure they do it all the more just by sheer volume of numbers. I once, and yes I once received a message, reued to a local lady with a polite no thanks and she replied with “you’re an ugly bastard anyway”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's us,own fault for opening your door to the filth and weirdos that are too tight for a brass so they message anything breathing on here and don't like a no so hurl insults.. the best women I find look themselves for somthing they like ,adjust the filters accordingly then change them back... it's easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had abuse for rejecting from couples and the odd women. It's usually when I refuse to jump through hoops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today I got called a desperate pensioner... Apparently I didn't reply to his message a week ago.

I replied to the one he sent today but may have used big words so he's probably still working it out. "

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I've had abuse for rejecting from couples and the odd women. It's usually when I refuse to jump through hoops. "

yep.... been there, done that....

gone from "you would be the perfect meet" to " well i only go in touch for a dare!"

seem peeps just don't do rejection well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name is Hine

And I am a munter...

That should keep my inbox empty

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"I would prefer a polite no thank you to no reply, however I understand that women and couples get a lot of messages and don't have time to reply always.

Also appreciate that I won't appeal to many so I always reply to a no thanks by saying thanks for the honesty, and hope you find what you are looking for.

As threads like this show it's not just about the volume of messages some ladies get that means they don't reply. It's about the abuse too. So thank the abusive men for the lack of replies.

In all my years on here I have never received an abusive message from a female. Mainly men and a few couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they hear that your vagina is off-limits, your face slowly morphs into Ann Widdicombe's before their very eyes.

True story."

And the men they morph into John Prescott XXX

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By *ustAnnieWoman
over a year ago

Tingley

My profile says I’m looking for ladies only, I don’t get any messages to ignore or respond to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would prefer a polite no thank you to no reply, however I understand that women and couples get a lot of messages and don't have time to reply always.

Also appreciate that I won't appeal to many so I always reply to a no thanks by saying thanks for the honesty, and hope you find what you are looking for.

As threads like this show it's not just about the volume of messages some ladies get that means they don't reply. It's about the abuse too. So thank the abusive men for the lack of replies.

In all my years on here I have never received an abusive message from a female. Mainly men and a few couples."

Lucky old you. I have, as have others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then if I send a polite no, I suddenly turn into the ugliest slut in town...

It's a miracle...... *"

Ironically we get the same whenever we decline sending face pics.

But then, I am a munter so... *shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, men’s insults are often silly, playground lines. Laughable, really.

The worst, most upsetting message I’ve ever received was from a woman.

Not an instinctive insult, but a carefully calculated message, cleverly phrased to make me feel inferior and awful. And I did. For weeks.

First message. Out of the blue. The hatred someone can muster toward a stranger is mind-blowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree, men’s insults are often silly, playground lines. Laughable, really.

The worst, most upsetting message I’ve ever received was from a woman.

Not an instinctive insult, but a carefully calculated message, cleverly phrased to make me feel inferior and awful. And I did. For weeks.

First message. Out of the blue. The hatred someone can muster toward a stranger is mind-blowing."

Just laughed..you put average about yourself ,if you are average then it's super models that rank higher only..

Average haha I bet the thing that upset you was a bloke with a useless degree in barrage abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a theory about this. And it's proved right over and over.

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

"It always makes me smile with the fake adorations and interest in the messages I receive.

Then if I send a polite no, I suddenly turn into the ugliest slut in town...

It's a miracle......

Some guys need to go to charm school."

I go from being absolutely gorgeous to just a bloke in a dress x

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

"I agree, men’s insults are often silly, playground lines. Laughable, really.

The worst, most upsetting message I’ve ever received was from a woman.

Not an instinctive insult, but a carefully calculated message, cleverly phrased to make me feel inferior and awful. And I did. For weeks.

First message. Out of the blue. The hatred someone can muster toward a stranger is mind-blowing."

Hunni Kate Moss couldn't make you look inferior x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few like that. I once had a reply to a 'polite not for us' message, which was so vile and personal, that it left me really shaken for a while...it was horrible.

It's a sad fact that abuse like that has changed the way I interact with people on here, but if people are polite when they message us, I'll still always respond the same way. The ones who aren't, get deleted and blocked to minimise the risk of more abuse.

V x

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By *omightMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Think it just proves you were right in the first place

Woman should be reporting these messages more often

It's a complaint I see on update status all the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It always makes me smile with the fake adorations and interest in the messages I receive.

Then if I send a polite no, I suddenly turn into the ugliest slut in town...

It's a miracle......

Some guys need to go to charm school.

I go from being absolutely gorgeous to just a bloke in a dress x"

I've got high heel envy

Cannot walk in them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t as a female on here lol.

If you replying to a guy saying a polite, thank you but no thank you. You get replied with abuse, and if you don’t reply then you are still in the wrong.

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

"It always makes me smile with the fake adorations and interest in the messages I receive.

Then if I send a polite no, I suddenly turn into the ugliest slut in town...

It's a miracle......

Some guys need to go to charm school.

I go from being absolutely gorgeous to just a bloke in a dress x

I've got high heel envy

Cannot walk in them!"

Lol I sometimes end up carrying mine x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I would prefer a polite no thank you to no reply, however I understand that women and couples get a lot of messages and don't have time to reply always.

Also appreciate that I won't appeal to many so I always reply to a no thanks by saying thanks for the honesty, and hope you find what you are looking for.

As threads like this show it's not just about the volume of messages some ladies get that means they don't reply. It's about the abuse too. So thank the abusive men for the lack of replies.

In all my years on here I have never received an abusive message from a female. Mainly men and a few couples."

I have she told me to get back on my broomstick lol

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I really despise this, they'd never say it to someone's face.

Unfortunately, it's ingrained in how some men act online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t as a female on here lol.

If you replying to a guy saying a polite, thank you but no thank you. You get replied with abuse, and if you don’t reply then you are still in the wrong. "
yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need for any abuse on here whatsoever, be nice people xx

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By *llfoursWoman
over a year ago

north east

I usually just mark them as unread and leave them there. Or delete

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Had to say no just now and we don't block because of it so pretty sure we'll wake up to such.

Meh!

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By *anger69104Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

I didn't say it was wrong. I said my preference, but that I can fully understand the lack of replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a theory about this. And it's proved right over and over. "

Spill x

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

AESOP'S FABLES

The Fox and the Sour Grapes:

"Driven by hunger, a fox tried to reach some grapes hanging high on the vine but was unable to, although he leaped with all his strength.

As he went away, the fox remarked 'Oh, you aren't even ripe yet! I don't need any sour grapes.'

People who speak disparagingly of things that they cannot attain would do well to apply this story to themselves."

So if anyone didn't know, this is where the phrase 'sour grapes' originated from.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"AESOP'S FABLES

The Fox and the Sour Grapes:

"Driven by hunger, a fox tried to reach some grapes hanging high on the vine but was unable to, although he leaped with all his strength.

As he went away, the fox remarked 'Oh, you aren't even ripe yet! I don't need any sour grapes.'

People who speak disparagingly of things that they cannot attain would do well to apply this story to themselves."

So if anyone didn't know, this is where the phrase 'sour grapes' originated from.

Well every days a school day. Thanks for posting that. Interesting stuff.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t as a female on here lol.

If you replying to a guy saying a polite, thank you but no thank you. You get replied with abuse, and if you don’t reply then you are still in the wrong. yep

And even if you dont receive a message to respond to you can still get abuse. Especially if you don't meet single men (and yes I could put filters on but I go to clubs and socials so I do correspond with those going).

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I had a 'well with that attitude you must be a fuckwit with no friends' last night. I mean I was polite so didn't really deserve that response.

You've just got to laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As threads like this show it's not just about the volume of messages some ladies get that means they don't reply. It's about the abuse too. So thank the abusive men for the lack of replies."

I'm sure it's not just guys that are sometimes a bit harsh with responses

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

As threads like this show it's not just about the volume of messages some ladies get that means they don't reply. It's about the abuse too. So thank the abusive men for the lack of replies.

I'm sure it's not just guys that are sometimes a bit harsh with responses"

I've been here over 6 years. Never had an abusive message from a female but plenty from men and a few frim couples. My response is based on my experiences, nobody elses.

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I have had abusive messages from both sexes unfortunately mainly the fems out of cpls. Even though I sent them a very polite message to say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner got this last week a polite No , next thing is a reply with Why would I have sex with you as your Ugly. Felt bad for my partner to be honest, but then again if she'd said yes think the response would have been different, if you can't handle polite rejection then leave the site !!

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I had a 'well with that attitude you must be a fuckwit with no friends' last night. I mean I was polite so didn't really deserve that response.

You've just got to laugh

There's just no need to send a reply like that...pathetic.

At least you let it just go over your head which makes you a much better person

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"My partner got this last week a polite No , next thing is a reply with Why would I have sex with you as your Ugly. Felt bad for my partner to be honest, but then again if she'd said yes think the response would have been different, if you can't handle polite rejection then leave the site !!"

Well said

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"AESOP'S FABLES

The Fox and the Sour Grapes:

"Driven by hunger, a fox tried to reach some grapes hanging high on the vine but was unable to, although he leaped with all his strength.

As he went away, the fox remarked 'Oh, you aren't even ripe yet! I don't need any sour grapes.'

People who speak disparagingly of things that they cannot attain would do well to apply this story to themselves."

So if anyone didn't know, this is where the phrase 'sour grapes' originated from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they hear that your vagina is off-limits, your face slowly morphs into Ann Widdicombe's before their very eyes.

True story."

Either that or the maturity levels reduce to what is their norm and even though they usually get deleted they can’t handle a polite no thank you.

Oh to find common decency and maturity in one neat package

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"My profile says I’m looking for ladies only, I don’t get any messages to ignore or respond to lol"

Really? Mine says I'm only looking for women and I get 10-15 messages a day from guys... And possibly a couple a week from guys obviously pretending to be women...

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By *C500Man
over a year ago

Preston

Ive had a guy ask me to meet him two weekends in a row and because i said i cant because i work 6 days a week and would let him know when i could meet a he then decided to send me a long drawn out abusive message calling me a time waster ect and that i was on his time wasters list that everyone gets to see and i womt ever get a meet on here amd block me before i could reply ...not my fault the guy dont have a job and is on here everyday askin to meet anyone and everyone

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I have a theory about this. And it's proved right over and over. "

Go on.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Least ya don't get told to fuck off back to my own country ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bruise an ego and beware

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