FabSwingers.com forum: Outed

By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Im pretty certain It's an illegal offence and you can contact the police

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Im pretty certain It's an illegal offence and you can contact the police"

Thank you I will look into that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im pretty certain It's an illegal offence and you can contact the police

Thank you I will look into that. "

If anyone is sending messages with intent to cause distress they may be committing offences under the malicious communications act.

You can ask Facebook to take it down but I'd hide your profile to avoid strangers looking you up.

What a horrid individual.

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

OMG what a slimeball!! And a coward if it's done behind your back like that. I hope you can do something about it and there will be consequences for that scumbag.

Not the same thing, but I was mortified recently when comments I posted on a youtube account, somehow had been showing up on my facebook wall for some time, for anyone to see, even though it's a completely separate and unrelated account. And since I so rarely use facebook, I didn't know how to delete anything or get rid of it. I scheduled my profile for deletion in October and it's still there. Apparently my profile is now hidden/deactivated but I still don't know if anyone can see my profile. I'm done with facebook for good if I can ever get rid of my profile there.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

OP we had this after a fashion, someone local recognised us and wrote unpleasant mails threatening to send screenshots to work, kids schools, family etc then went UNLOS. Some sad flipping people on here

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

Don't use Facebook - simple really. It's just a platform to spy on you and nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omfg!

Do you have any idea who it could be??

Take screenshots and make sure they have a date and time on them otherwise they can't be used as evidence.

Then I'd definitely contact the police.

I'm so glad I deactivated my Facebook when I see stories like these. Hope you find the bastard beaut.

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Omfg!

Do you have any idea who it could be??

Take screenshots and make sure they have a date and time on them otherwise they can't be used as evidence.

Then I'd definitely contact the police.

I'm so glad I deactivated my Facebook when I see stories like these. Hope you find the bastard beaut. "

I rarely use the bloody thing and I was sticking up for someone as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are probably just jealous of you.

One they probably jealous of the strength of your relationship

Two, they probably wish they could do it themselves

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

we had the same, messaged all our family and friends. made no difference as they know what we do. so he just looked like a dickhead,lol. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it? "

Is this two separate things or the do you think it's the same person? Can you deny it or is too late?

Hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it? "
its a difficult one ,in this life people get jealous ,people judge you ,people get badly treated ,people are vindictive oh and Facebook is intrusive I don't have it and never have ,for me its simple I'm single I can do as I please but for couples with families etc not so good when this happens hopefully a lesson learned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody selfish people....makes my blood boil. Hope you're ok x

Karma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is just bloody nasty! And exactly why all my family and friends know what I do...anyone outside of that I couldn't care less about if they knew or not really...too many on here getting threats of being outted n stuff tho! What is wrong in these peoples lives that they can't just get on with them?!?

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By *raig130476Man
over a year ago

Hull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it? "

What a twat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is just bloody nasty! And exactly why all my family and friends know what I do...anyone outside of that I couldn't care less about if they knew or not really...too many on here getting threats of being outted n stuff tho! What is wrong in these peoples lives that they can't just get on with them?!?"
people get jealous or get badly treated ,people judge I got blocked yesterday by a woman for a jokey comment ,theirs a fine line between being liked and not ,their was a thread earlier about nasty reactions by in that case guys because the person wouldn't meet ,nice people react in an appropriate manner if treated in the same vein ,others don't this can apply to men or women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

What a twat! "

My sister accidentally outed me on Facebook.. thing is she doesn't know.. she thought she was being funny.. made some of my Fab friends hearts skip a beat though

I had to tell her after.. don't make jokes like that.. because it's true

My parents know as well

My bosses do as well.

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Our family and friends know, I'm just pissed off its been made public to how ever reads the page as it's got our names on.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Hope his knob rots off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's totally horrible. Sorry for your troubles 0P.

You can take the legal/ police route but that may put it more in the public domain especially if they decide to prosecute

You can ask Facebook to take it down but even then any other links it's attached to will also need to be taken down. and there is no guarantee it won't reappear elsewhere.

And sadly it's already out there.

It may help to do all the above and hide your profile here for some time.

But it may also be worth considering just fronting it out. People will soon lose interest and move on to messing with someone else's life.

I hope it works out for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sorry this happened to you guys. Some people are douchebags.

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it? "

This is just awful!!! Is it someone Dick works with???

B x

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

This is just awful!!! Is it someone Dick works with???

B x"

We don't know who it is this is the problem.

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

This is just awful!!! Is it someone Dick works with???

B x

We don't know who it is this is the problem. "

I hope they get blue waffle & their cock drops off!!! Vile creature

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

Absolute cowardly scumbags, I’d report to the police, revenge porn crimes are vigorously investigated now

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Absolute cowardly scumbags, I’d report to the police, revenge porn crimes are vigorously investigated now

HG"

It's not porn as it was just words saying we swing with allegations of bragging and sharing photos at work.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it? "

Yeah bein outed falls under hate crime I'm sure

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

Yeah bein outed falls under hate crime I'm sure "

Thank you

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By *kbloke_11Man
over a year ago

Hockley

"Don't use Facebook - simple really. It's just a platform to spy on you and nothing more "
I agree 100%, Facebook us a dangerous beast

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Damn! Terrible, absolutely terrible, what a douche. They why I try to stay pretty incognito on here.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Im pretty certain It's an illegal offence and you can contact the police"

Yes revenge porn is taken seriously

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Im pretty certain It's an illegal offence and you can contact the police

Yes revenge porn is taken seriously "

It's not someone we know or at least I don't think I know them and certainly not in a sexual way.

Proves being honest about the life style will still give you grief.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

This is just horrible - we’re open about our lifestyle as well but it’s not something you broadcast, is it? “Lovely to meet you, Mrs Hannigan, by the way, did you know we swing?” Not very likely.

By doing this, they have taken away your right to choose who knows about your private life.

Dick move, anonymous twerp, dick move.

*hugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there anything I can do about it? "

What a feckin arsehole.

Here's some info I've found about common law and confidentiality in health matters. Might apply here.

The Common Law Duty of Confidentiality

Topics:

Good management, good records Legal and professional obligations

Common law is not written out in one document like an Act of Parliament. It is a form of law based on previous court cases decided by judges.

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The Common Law

Common Law is also referred to as ‘judge-made’ or case law.

The law is applied by reference to those previous cases, so common law is also said to be based on precedent.

The general position is that if information is given in circumstances where it is expected that a duty of confidence applies, that information cannot normally be disclosed without the information provider’s consent.

In practice, this means that all patient/client information, whether held on paper, computer, visually or audio recorded, or held in the memory of the professional, must not normally be disclosed without the consent of the patient/client.

It is irrelevant for example how old the patient/client is, or what the state of his/her mental health is; the duty still applies.

Three circumstances making disclosure of confidential information lawful are:

where the individual to whom the information relates has consented

where disclosure is necessary to safeguard the individual, or others, or is in the public interest

where there is a legal duty to do so, for example a court order

Therefore, under the common law, a health or social care provider wishing to disclose a patient’s/client’s personal information to anyone outside the team providing care should first seek the consent of that patient/client.

Where this is not possible, an organisation may be able to rely on disclosure being in the overriding safeguarding interest of the individual or others or in the public interest.

However, whether a disclosure is in the public interest is not a decision to be taken lightly.

Solid justification is required before individual rights are set aside and specialist or legal advice should be sought before the information is disclosed.

Any decision to disclose should be fully documented.

Disclosures required by court order should be referred to the organisation’s legal advisors as promptly as possible, so that any necessary representations may be made to the court, for example to limit the information requested.

If a disclosure is made which is not permitted under common law the patient/client could possibly bring a legal action not only against the organisation but also against the individual responsible for the breach.

https://www.health-ni.gov.uk/articles/common-law-duty-confidentiality

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Have you tried asking the group or page admin to remove the comments and everything referring to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is just horrible - we’re open about our lifestyle as well but it’s not something you broadcast, is it? “Lovely to meet you, Mrs Hannigan, by the way, did you know we swing?” Not very likely.

By doing this, they have taken away your right to choose who knows about your private life.

Dick move, anonymous twerp, dick move.

*hugs*"
Facebook takes away your rights to privacy do you not know this already ,some naive people here

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Thanks for all the replies on here and in private

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I am also pretty sure thier is some law to protect you. For one you can contact Facebook and make your case Facebook are very proactive now regarding trolling and behaviour like this. So alongside of considering the police I’d def contact Facebook xx

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I am also pretty sure thier is some law to protect you. For one you can contact Facebook and make your case Facebook are very proactive now regarding trolling and behaviour like this. So alongside of considering the police I’d def contact Facebook xx"

Facebooks reply was in a nutshell, there is nothing wrong and did break any of their rules, so the post is still up and now the said person has been posting the same stuff on Dicks posts.

Theses too have been reported to no avail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Facebooks reply was in a nutshell, there is nothing wrong and did break any of their rules, so the post is still up and now the said person has been posting the same stuff on Dicks posts.

Theses too have been reported to no avail."

That is shocking. I would say their pattern of behaviour certainly constitutes harassment, which itself should be enough for Facebook (& the police) to act.

Big hugs.

Personally I'd hide your face pics, your veris & your verification summary. At least for a while, even if you don't choose to hide your profile until it dies down.

I would also ask them calmly to stop, then ignore them: don't give them the reaction they are feeding off.

If it is any consolation, the last public survey showed that the general public are generally supportive of swingers, it is just that those who aren't are more vocal.

Sadly a court case ruled a couple of years ago that putting anything on here meant it could be republished anywhere, including newspapers, along with your real name. We deleted our face pics at that point, along with any other pics with recognisable backgrounds unique to us.

Big hugs again.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww gosh what an awful thing to do to such a lovely couple .

I hope your ok and I am very sure you can seek advice and help from the police as thier messages add up to malicious communications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats why face pics and real names are a no no for us ..

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Please don’t take this the wrong way but why are you still sharing face pics on your profile? I know everybody is entitled to do as they wish but that would be the first thing we remove. Just saying.

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Please don’t take this the wrong way but why are you still sharing face pics on your profile? I know everybody is entitled to do as they wish but that would be the first thing we remove. Just saying.

Ed"

I thought I'd put them all in friends only will change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be fuming with that individual but I still wouldn't let it spoil my fun! x

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I'd be fuming with that individual but I still wouldn't let it spoil my fun! x"

I'm not letting it spoil our fun. I was tempted to ask if they wanted to come to a club with us, so they could find out what it's all about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be fuming with that individual but I still wouldn't let it spoil my fun! x

I'm not letting it spoil our fun. I was tempted to ask if they wanted to come to a club with us, so they could find out what it's all about. "
maybe they already have and that's the problem

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By *eziahWoman
over a year ago

Hull

If you made the post, then you can delete it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be fuming with that individual but I still wouldn't let it spoil my fun! x

I'm not letting it spoil our fun. I was tempted to ask if they wanted to come to a club with us, so they could find out what it's all about. "
you don't know who they are or why they've done it but generally theirs a reason why people do this sort of thing ,it maybe as little a thing as you saying you weren't interested and let's face it it isn't the major crime that its being made out to be ,you're not embarrassed about the lifestyle you lead just the fact they've promoted it on a wider scale using the oh so private medium of Facebook ,my own opinion is that Facebook is the problem it allows people to do things many don't agree with and it gets away with it

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I'd be fuming with that individual but I still wouldn't let it spoil my fun! x

I'm not letting it spoil our fun. I was tempted to ask if they wanted to come to a club with us, so they could find out what it's all about. you don't know who they are or why they've done it but generally theirs a reason why people do this sort of thing ,it maybe as little a thing as you saying you weren't interested and let's face it it isn't the major crime that its being made out to be ,you're not embarrassed about the lifestyle you lead just the fact they've promoted it on a wider scale using the oh so private medium of Facebook ,my own opinion is that Facebook is the problem it allows people to do things many don't agree with and it gets away with it

They've done it because I was being supportive of someone else so they are trying to upset me.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

"I'd be fuming with that individual but I still wouldn't let it spoil my fun! x

They've done it because I was being supportive of someone else so they are trying to upset me. "

So there’s a high chance of you knowing exactly who it is?

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

Disgusting, I hope you find who this anonymous coward is. I can imagine them sniveling in fear if they come face to face with you. x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it? "

Don't you need a profile for Facebook? Can't you see who posted?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am guessing unless it is against FB rules then there is not much you can do.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

This is just awful!!! Is it someone Dick works with???

B x

We don't know who it is this is the problem. "

How can you not know?

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I thought only friends can tag friends on Facebook? I might be wrong, we haven’t used it for years. Was it actually ‘tagging’? How did you gain visibility of the post?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

PS Reading your posts again, it sounds like a workmate of your OH to me if pics are being shown at work

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Don't use Facebook - simple really. It's just a platform to spy on you and nothing more I agree 100%, Facebook us a dangerous beast"

I've made contact and caught up with friends I've not seen in years. Everyone who's a friend on Facebook are people I know from primary school upwards.

When I travel alone it gives my family especially, peace of mind to see I'm okay and enjoying myself...love it!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I thought only friends can tag friends on Facebook? I might be wrong, we haven’t used it for years. Was it actually ‘tagging’? How did you gain visibility of the post?

Ed"

That's what's confusing me.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I’m a little lost here...

Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They should have a profile name.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

Post you made on Fab or Facebook?

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

You were talking to them? Photos are common where your other half works, my money is on someone there.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

Why should this worry you?

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

Immediately remove face pics from the profile and not leave them up for nearly a day after flagging this.

This whole thing just seems very odd to me, sorry.

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"PS Reading your posts again, it sounds like a workmate of your OH to me if pics are being shown at work"

That's it though pictures have not been shown at work and his work colleagues are aware we swing.

No details of what we do are given to anyone.

I believe it is someone who worked for the company and no longer does.

The page in question is an open page for anyone to see, so it's the wider public seeing the post that's annoyed me.

I have no shame in what we do.

The matter is in police hands now.

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Don't use Facebook - simple really. It's just a platform to spy on you and nothing more I agree 100%, Facebook us a dangerous beast

I've made contact and caught up with friends I've not seen in years. Everyone who's a friend on Facebook are people I know from primary school upwards.

When I travel alone it gives my family especially, peace of mind to see I'm okay and enjoying myself...love it!

This us what I use Facebook for on the rare occasions I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be fuming with that individual but I still wouldn't let it spoil my fun! x

They've done it because I was being supportive of someone else so they are trying to upset me. "
well like I said vindictive but for a reason they obviously didn't appreciate your intervention

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I'd be fuming with that individual but I still wouldn't let it spoil my fun! x

They've done it because I was being supportive of someone else so they are trying to upset me. well like I said vindictive but for a reason they obviously didn't appreciate your intervention "

I would appear so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im pretty certain It's an illegal offence and you can contact the police

Thank you I will look into that. "

sadly no its not illegal unless they have pinched photos and used it a revenge porn

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"PS Reading your posts again, it sounds like a workmate of your OH to me if pics are being shown at work

That's it though pictures have not been shown at work and his work colleagues are aware we swing.

No details of what we do are given to anyone.

I believe it is someone who worked for the company and no longer does.

The page in question is an open page for anyone to see, so it's the wider public seeing the post that's annoyed me.

I have no shame in what we do.

The matter is in police hands now. "

As I said I assumed it would be a workmate as he says he has seen pics at your partners work.... someone must have shown him them for him to know this.

If you are not bothered about people knowing you swing then I don't see what the problem is that strangers now know too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear what's happened to you, there's definitely grounds for criminal and civil proceeding. My advice would be to contact a solicitor as unfortunately in this day and age nothing gets done without done!

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By *eziahWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it? "

"Facebooks reply was in a nutshell, there is nothing wrong and did break any of their rules, so the post is still up and now the said person has been posting the same stuff on Dicks posts.

Theses too have been reported to no avail."

Once again may I ask....you have referred to 'a post I made' and to 'Dicks posts'. Why did you not simply just screencap the comments and delete the posts?

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it? "

Ummmmm...if your family and friends know, then you haven't been outed have you?

Surely being outed would mean no one knew?

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By *uxom red OP Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

Ummmmm...if your family and friends know, then you haven't been outed have you?

Surely being outed would mean no one knew? "

Outed to the public that is not people we know

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"PS Reading your posts again, it sounds like a workmate of your OH to me if pics are being shown at work

That's it though pictures have not been shown at work and his work colleagues are aware we swing.

No details of what we do are given to anyone.

I believe it is someone who worked for the company and no longer does.

The page in question is an open page for anyone to see, so it's the wider public seeing the post that's annoyed me.

I have no shame in what we do.

The matter is in police hands now. "

That's good hear, really do dislike stories like this and hope it all gets resolved in the right way. Take our hats off to you both, not sure we'd have been so calm. They'll get their dues.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

This is a strange thread. If you were bothered about privacy or being outed, you wouldn't have so many public pics on display after two (near three) days of being able to review your profile. You are still pretty recognisable both as Mrs and Mr, and have your town and height etc as further descriptors.

The guy is obviously wrong in posting you stuff up publicly but everything on the net is public really - just not for distribution. You could mitigate it though by not letting the world know you swing should anyone want to verify what the guy is saying.

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

"Some vindictive little faceless person has just outed as swingers on Facebook.

They have named my partner on a post I made.

They asked if may family and friends knew we swing and apparently our sexual meets and photos are common place at Dicks works.

I am a tad pissed off, yes my family and friends know what we do.

How would you deal with being outed in such a public fashion?

Is there anything I can do about it?

Ummmmm...if your family and friends know, then you haven't been outed have you?

Surely being outed would mean no one knew?

Outed to the public that is not people we know "

Then I have to ask, why do you care about the opinions of people you don't know?

Not condoning what this person did, he/she obviously thought they were outing you and that is unacceptable. But this is one of the rare cases when outing backfires, and you can take glee in rubbing it in their faces.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I recently had the same thing happen ( a not so honest man got caught out and his girlfriend held onto screenshots and details FOR A YEAR then sent them to my brother and other family memebers via inbox on Facebook

) and it’s illegal. I’m still in the process of prosecuting for it. If you feel you need to go ahead and contact the police then you shouldn’t hesitate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block the Facebook poster.

Change your settings

Check WhatsApp contacts... Fb own it.....

Check who has friends access.

But be aware any public pics can be saved by anyone.

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