FabSwingers.com forum: winks

By *ensherman OP Man
over a year ago

Durham

Are they just a waste of time?

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By *anrteeCouple
over a year ago

London

probably. Our take on them too lazy to compose a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are if you are a single man I think

I've winked people and they have winked back

But if I was searching for a man and they only sent a wink I don't think I'd bother with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surely it breaks the ice and indicates interest and invites the other party to view and hey ho start chatting. but I don't think many view it that way and ladies find them annoying do they not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like the real world: lady gives you a look or wink in this case, then you do all the leg work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind winks. It shows interest without a deluge of messages.

I can check out a profile and wink back if I'm interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We delete them."

I'm not surprised if you get loads of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind winks. It shows interest without a deluge of messages.

I can check out a profile and wink back if I'm interested. "

see perfect, pity others don't have the time

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Are they just a waste of time?"

Yes I just delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink back if interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think they are a good show of interest like catching some ones eye in a bar or club x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t check mine! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t check mine! X"

Knew it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get any winks didn't even know this was a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind winks. It shows interest without a deluge of messages.

I can check out a profile and wink back if I'm interested. "

That's how I use them. It's not that far removed from real life.. a little mutual eye contact and smile across the room.

A return wink means I've pretty much got the Green light to say "Hello" Without causing mass offence and gives me some indication if I'm likely to get a response.

The ones who don't use it that way.. probably aren't my type, nor me theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a wink I run around the room blushing

But I have used it to good effect sometimes and people have responded but most of the time it’s a waste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t check mine! X

Knew it lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I get a wink I run around the room blushing

But I have used it to good effect sometimes and people have responded but most of the time it’s a waste. "

If I get one in real life I blush - big time

I can't wink back either, I end up blinking... or looking like I'm having a stroke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

waste of time foe me...never look at them anymore because when i did,they were always from people mlies away so pointless to me..

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I don’t mind them. If someone winks and I like them, I’ll wink back. Likewise, if I’m not sure someone would like me I’ll wink and if they decide to wink back, I’ll message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look. I only notice if I click on a profile and see that they winked, way back when

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

"surely it breaks the ice and indicates interest and invites the other party to view and hey ho start chatting. but I don't think many view it that way and ladies find them annoying do they not ?"

Think you are right not many view it that way, it is also a good indicator if the person that does the Winking is actually a reader. Our profile says we dont do winks , but still they come...

just an observation

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"I don't mind winks. It shows interest without a deluge of messages.

I can check out a profile and wink back if I'm interested. "

If we do wink back we still expect a decent message from the winkee though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"waste of time foe me...never look at them anymore because when i did,they were always from people mlies away so pointless to me.."

Sometimes it's worth travelling to meet someone special. I did and she was pretty special.

If you can't, you can't, if you can, it's worth a go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind winks. It shows interest without a deluge of messages.

I can check out a profile and wink back if I'm interested.

If we do wink back we still expect a decent message from the winkee though

Oh goes without saying..

My rule is.. the first person to wink.. is the one who must send the first message if they receive one back.. Well frustrating if I fancy the pants off her and she doesn't message for a while.. I'm kept on edge.. which is part of the fun.. I like a good flirt.. anticipation.. build up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will say though, I did message someone off the back of a wink, when I realised this person had winked me, when I nosed his profile. So they are not always a waste of time OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind winks. It shows interest without a deluge of messages.

I can check out a profile and wink back if I'm interested. "

Just like to add, just because I don't mind winks, doesn't mean that I will respond if you're too far away!!!

Think before you wink!

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I don't look at them. From what I've seen the majority are from people with no profile/pics/text so rather pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don’t think so

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We are sick of sending a nice message back to couples that wink. We check out their profile and if its what we are looking for a nice message back, but alas no more, as 99.9% of the time we never get a reply so we have now put a stop to messaging back. We only sent a quick message, who we are and a nice hello, nothing heavy or demanding as that's not what we are about.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"I don't mind winks. It shows interest without a deluge of messages.

I can check out a profile and wink back if I'm interested.

If we do wink back we still expect a decent message from the winkee though

Oh goes without saying..

That's how we use winks too and saves people moaning about deleted/unanswered messages.

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By *offee300Man
over a year ago

Paisley

"surely it breaks the ice and indicates interest and invites the other party to view and hey ho start chatting. but I don't think many view it that way and ladies find them annoying do they not ?"
same here agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they just a waste of time?"

yes i think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind winks. It shows interest without a deluge of messages.

I can check out a profile and wink back if I'm interested.

If we do wink back we still expect a decent message from the winkee though

Oh goes without saying..

That's how we use winks too and saves people moaning about deleted/unanswered messages."

It may not work everytime and I can understand some people disliking it.. but it works ok for me I find.

I don't send an essay.. just a couple of lines to test the water.. essays come later if we click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they just a waste of time?"

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By *uggiedMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

So its ok for the ladys to wink the men but not the other way round .i Get winks of the ladys then follow with a message

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

It's good to receive a wink

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

For me a wink is only a waste of time for the sender if their profile is shit and/or they have completely ignored mine.

If they have made an effort with their profile, so I can see if they are the type of person I'm looking for, and they are the type of person I am looking for, then I may respond.

So it all depends really. A wink on its own is a potential waste of time, but coupled with a decent profile could lead to a lot of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I get a wink I run around the room blushing

But I have used it to good effect sometimes and people have responded but most of the time it’s a waste.

If I get one in real life I blush - big time

I can't wink back either, I end up blinking... or looking like I'm having a stroke."

Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That or actually message to say thanks. Nowt like manners that many forgot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree curvyalways1 I message back if someone winks at me - say thanks then pay em a compliment but chivalry or just plain good manners seems to be wasted

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By *ongueNcheek33Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

We don't mind winks but most tend to come from chansers who clearly haven't read our profile

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