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"Should the female pay or the male or halves? I met someone recently, paid for lunch then he wanted half for a hotel lol, needless to say it was just the lunch on the menu, your thoughts please to this newbie x " Maybe its my, Tom's, age and the fact I was always brought up to be a gentleman but I would not have allowed you to pay for lunch, however, I do know when I go out with my daughters they seem to get pretty annoyed if they invite me and I want to pay for it all, they generally insist on going halves which I agree to because it appears to be the way independant ladies want it. In this case I think the tight fisted, mean bugger should have thanked you for treating him to lunch and paid for the hotel room. Tom | |||
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"perhaps he didnt wanna shag ya and that was his way out lmao...... " PMSL!!! Cheeky sod!! He should have sorted before he met you!! Can't believe he let you pay for lunch and then asked you for half of the money. Reminds me of the time when I met a couple. We split the hotel two ways and then the guy let me pay for three breakfasts in the pub the morning after! | |||
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" What about though if its a couple meeting a single,Do you go halves or thirds with the bill " the bill should be split into equal portions....ie into 3.....we often go out in large numbers and not always couples.....if 3 couples and 3 singles then its divided equally by the amount of bodies present....only seems fair.....as for the OP defo should have offered to go dutch | |||
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"lol thanks you guys and girls. Im not old fashioned but I did think the "left wallet in the car" was a bit much to swallow! As for any subsequent meets they wont be happening, he will probably invoice me for his time lol xxx" Ah the old left the wallet in the car ploy What a loser | |||
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" he will probably invoice me for his time lol xxx" I had not thought about that thanks lolxx | |||
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" Reality: If a single guy is meeting, he should be expecting to end up with the bill, unless it's agreed before. If there's an offer to pay half he then has the choice to accept it, depends on circumstances. I met a couple and paid for the meal/entertainment, they paid for the hotel and taxis. (All London central prices!) If 'felt' fair and that's the crux of the matter. It was a dam good evening!!! " I think you're right...its what feels fair and it worked out for you,each of you contributed to a great night Fallen angels meet obviously felt that it was "fair" that he should'nt contribute very much and therefore did not have a great night and won't ever be having a great night with her | |||
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"I would have been pleased if he had offered to pay half but he kind of expected me to pay for everything!!! Now, im a mature student, he knew this, he has a full time job, me thinks he was taking the pee totally. I would be more than happy to pay my own way in the form of halves, thats only decent but for him to assume I was going to pay is really not on, thanks for all your views guys and girls xxx" Does sound like he's taking the pee ...and good style - x Gran x | |||
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"I do wish I could just walk past but I can't. The fact that there are people writing that they consider it a man's place to pay - to me- is unbelievable. It should be a simple case of two adults agreeing beforehand regardless of gender and it makes no difference what is agreed as long as it's agreed beforehand. By this I mean I don't give two hoots who pays for what as long as both parties are happy with the arrangement. It should NEVER be expected that the man picks up the tab just cos he IS a bloke. It's old ideas like this that don't die that keep many women financially dependent and keep womens wages low. YES if I had the luck to meet a millionaire they can pay for EVERYTHING and I won't feel bad about it. Until then ... no one owns me or owes me zip. I'm not a prostitute. " Guilty of the above I'm afraid. Until recently I have always expected to pay for everything, even insisting that we travel to their area for their comfort and safety - for a single female to meet us halfway has never seemed right to me and never will. Lots of single females also have extra costs, baby sitters and.....removed as I have been assured I have been patronising...... It was not meant to be condescending, it comes naturally - I just see it as being considerate Chauvinistic yes, as has been pointed out to me by Mrs ride on many occasions along with another female with an equally forceful personality. We see it differently - Mrs ride is of the opinion that this is not a dating site and assures me that this is the 21st century and that there is no way this should be just expected - being a considered chap I choose not to disagree any longer. By the way - the ghost spooked horses chased me through the paddock. | |||
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"I do wish I could just walk past but I can't. The fact that there are people writing that they consider it a man's place to pay - to me- is unbelievable. It should be a simple case of two adults agreeing beforehand regardless of gender and it makes no difference what is agreed as long as it's agreed beforehand. By this I mean I don't give two hoots who pays for what as long as both parties are happy with the arrangement. It should NEVER be expected that the man picks up the tab just cos he IS a bloke. It's old ideas like this that don't die that keep many women financially dependent and keep womens wages low. YES if I had the luck to meet a millionaire they can pay for EVERYTHING and I won't feel bad about it. Until then ... no one owns me or owes me zip. I'm not a prostitute. Guilty of the above I'm afraid. Until recently I have always expected to pay for everything, even insisting that we travel to their area for their comfort and safety - for a single female to meet us halfway has never seemed right to me and never will. Lots of single females also have extra costs, baby sitters and.....removed as I have been assured I have been patronising...... It was not meant to be condescending, it comes naturally - I just see it as being considerate Chauvinistic yes, as has been pointed out to me by Mrs ride on many occasions along with another female with an equally forceful personality. We see it differently - Mrs ride is of the opinion that this is not a dating site and assures me that this is the 21st century and that there is no way this should be just expected - being a considered chap I choose not to disagree any longer. By the way - the ghost spooked horses chased me through the paddock. " Oh now NOTHING is simple. It is perfectly okay to pay for everything with good reason. If someone cannot come because the expense is prohibitive and another can afford to foot the bill ......that's FINE. I did say that as long as things are agreed before hand and everyone is happy then it's between no one but the concerned parties. I have paid for lunch when a gent has travelled ( nothing expensive ) but then I don't like being beholden to anyone. Chased you indeed. I think you overtook them x | |||
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"I do wish I could just walk past but I can't. The fact that there are people writing that they consider it a man's place to pay - to me- is unbelievable. It should be a simple case of two adults agreeing beforehand regardless of gender and it makes no difference what is agreed as long as it's agreed beforehand. By this I mean I don't give two hoots who pays for what as long as both parties are happy with the arrangement. It should NEVER be expected that the man picks up the tab just cos he IS a bloke. It's old ideas like this that don't die that keep many women financially dependent and keep womens wages low. YES if I had the luck to meet a millionaire they can pay for EVERYTHING and I won't feel bad about it. Until then ... no one owns me or owes me zip. I'm not a prostitute. Guilty of the above I'm afraid. Until recently I have always expected to pay for everything, even insisting that we travel to their area for their comfort and safety - for a single female to meet us halfway has never seemed right to me and never will. Lots of single females also have extra costs, baby sitters and.....removed as I have been assured I have been patronising...... It was not meant to be condescending, it comes naturally - I just see it as being considerate Chauvinistic yes, as has been pointed out to me by Mrs ride on many occasions along with another female with an equally forceful personality. We see it differently - Mrs ride is of the opinion that this is not a dating site and assures me that this is the 21st century and that there is no way this should be just expected - being a considered chap I choose not to disagree any longer. By the way - the ghost spooked horses chased me through the paddock. Oh now NOTHING is simple. It is perfectly okay to pay for everything with good reason. If someone cannot come because the expense is prohibitive and another can afford to foot the bill ......that's FINE. I did say that as long as things are agreed before hand and everyone is happy then it's between no one but the concerned parties. I have paid for lunch when a gent has travelled ( nothing expensive ) but then I don't like being beholden to anyone. Chased you indeed. I think you overtook them x " Being at one time addicted to spontaneity, there wasn't always time to make any arrangements other than leaping into the car and heading towards our desires. By the way - I stood my ground before fleeing, his veins were enlarged and pulsating, there was madness in his eyes. I prayed that he would stop, it was certain to be painful, but it was also so thrilling. Part of me wanted him to continue, after all we were face to face, engaged in this dangerous spirit induced test of wills. It was the ghost that I overtook silly | |||
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"I think its very chivalrous and very considerate that you think like that I don't believe its condescending at all Hubby would be the same,its the way he was brought up with some really old fashioned values and I think its nice to think that way On the one hand women are a force to be reckoned with and quite rightly they should have equal rights to men and equal pay for the same work....but is'nt it nice if a gent holds a door open for a lady or pulls a chair out for her to sit on? I like that..........Ive gone off on a complete tangent and really off topic now Your horses fault slidenride " I wouldn't consider myself old fashioned, in fact I still frequent the odd disco and strut my funky stuff to my daughters' clear joy By the way - my horse hadn't been drinking - I think the alien had been though. PS guess who I have renamed - walls with balls ? | |||
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" PS guess who I have renamed - walls with balls ?" I have had the required sugar rush and it still does'nt make sense to me | |||
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"I think its very chivalrous and very considerate that you think like that I don't believe its condescending at all Hubby would be the same,its the way he was brought up with some really old fashioned values and I think its nice to think that way On the one hand women are a force to be reckoned with and quite rightly they should have equal rights to men and equal pay for the same work....but is'nt it nice if a gent holds a door open for a lady or pulls a chair out for her to sit on? I like that..........Ive gone off on a complete tangent and really off topic now Your horses fault slidenride " Noooooo it's not 'off on a tangent' all part and parcel of the same thing. Sometimes sexism , upbringng and manners get confused. We can all hold a door open for each other regardless of gender. I was helped at the tip with heavy bags by some blokes who were laughing cos I couldn't lift them and get them over the rails. I was laughing too. There's no point in me denying that they had greater height, weight and muscle power. It WAS funny to watch me tottering like a mad ole tart. I was really glad they were there and nice people too. I can accept differences in everyone and see the benefits in using everyones skills, talents and strengths but there is NO way on this earth that I can see why a man should pay for a woman where both are similarly salaried. | |||
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"Well if anyone is offering to pay for a log cabin, forest setting, outdoor hot tub, dry white Chilean wine, candles, chocolate, they can have me all weekend! lol xxx " Hang on ....im just gonna look at your profile!! I might just pay | |||
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"Can I assume that your in a bad mood? Coz if thats your attitude generally then I's be suprised if you get any meets and the ones that you do would doubtless be with a certain type, which would then reinforce your attitude. Kinda a self fulfilling prophecy. As for me. I'm always going to end up paying I've a 45 min journey before I even start traveling to a meet (and I always have to travel) I'll buy the icebreaker drinks and when itsbeen necessary paid for the Travelodge room. But an offer to go halfs is always appreciated and accepted. Its already beend said its a meet for sex not a relationship we all know what were going to a meet for." nope not in bad mood. never paid for a thing never will, let the stupid men pay. the day i put my hand in my pocket is the day,..... lets just say not gonna happen!! nevvvvvvvvvvvvver pay ever let the silly men do it | |||
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" nope not in bad mood. never paid for a thing never will, let the stupid men pay. the day i put my hand in my pocket is the day,..... lets just say not gonna happen!! nevvvvvvvvvvvvver pay ever let the silly men do it " Only a few hours ago you were telling us "a single should always pay your way. sell ya body if u want it for free lol" | |||
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" nope not in bad mood. never paid for a thing never will, let the stupid men pay. the day i put my hand in my pocket is the day,..... lets just say not gonna happen!! nevvvvvvvvvvvvver pay ever let the silly men do it Only a few hours ago you were telling us a single should always pay your way. sell ya body if u want it for free lol " yea but i thought i best not lie on the forums so thought i should be honest. dont wanna get in trouble. never pay, not even half, i am the cheapest person u will ever meet. i dont think i have ever bought a meet a drink? and i dont care whoohoooo | |||
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" yea but i thought i best not lie on the forums so thought i should be honest. dont wanna get in trouble. never pay, not even half, i am the cheapest person u will ever meet. i dont think i have ever bought a meet a drink? and i dont care whoohoooo " If you're in an honesty mood it might be worth putting the above on your profile so everyone knows where they stand. | |||
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" yea but i thought i best not lie on the forums so thought i should be honest. dont wanna get in trouble. never pay, not even half, i am the cheapest person u will ever meet. i dont think i have ever bought a meet a drink? and i dont care whoohoooo If you're in an honesty mood it might be worth putting the above on your profile so everyone knows where they stand." who are u profile cops. jog on cheap dude and pay the drinks. i tell people when they need to know IE when the bill comes in!!!! | |||
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"Im going to follow Kitty-Kat!! She is right, at the end of the day look how many single females they are to single men!! There has to be some form of lure there. Who else wants to join the "Kitty-Kat Appreciation Society" lol shes damn right! " You realise we're in the 21st century, don't you? | |||
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"Im going to follow Kitty-Kat!! She is right, at the end of the day look how many single females they are to single men!! There has to be some form of lure there. Who else wants to join the "Kitty-Kat Appreciation Society" lol shes damn right! You realise we're in the 21st century, don't you?" yawwwwwn when u have a womb u get free drinks untill then tough!!!! | |||
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" yea but i thought i best not lie on the forums so thought i should be honest. dont wanna get in trouble. never pay, not even half, i am the cheapest person u will ever meet. i dont think i have ever bought a meet a drink? and i dont care whoohoooo If you're in an honesty mood it might be worth putting the above on your profile so everyone knows where they stand. who are u profile cops. jog on cheap dude and pay the drinks. i tell people when they need to know IE when the bill comes in!!!!" There's a world of different between cheap and stupid. Any guy stupid enough to shell out for the entire cost of a 'swing' needs his head looked. | |||
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" yea but i thought i best not lie on the forums so thought i should be honest. dont wanna get in trouble. never pay, not even half, i am the cheapest person u will ever meet. i dont think i have ever bought a meet a drink? and i dont care whoohoooo If you're in an honesty mood it might be worth putting the above on your profile so everyone knows where they stand. who are u profile cops. jog on cheap dude and pay the drinks. i tell people when they need to know IE when the bill comes in!!!! There's a world of different between cheap and stupid. Any guy stupid enough to shell out for the entire cost of a 'swing' needs his head looked." with a man, the words cheap and stupid come in my head weither paying or not, dont be upset u aint got a womb and have to pay, its ok. someone will take pity on u and buy u a happy meal. now get to it man and sort out paying for all the girls | |||
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" yea but i thought i best not lie on the forums so thought i should be honest. dont wanna get in trouble. never pay, not even half, i am the cheapest person u will ever meet. i dont think i have ever bought a meet a drink? and i dont care whoohoooo If you're in an honesty mood it might be worth putting the above on your profile so everyone knows where they stand. who are u profile cops. jog on cheap dude and pay the drinks. i tell people when they need to know IE when the bill comes in!!!! There's a world of different between cheap and stupid. Any guy stupid enough to shell out for the entire cost of a 'swing' needs his head looked. with a man, the words cheap and stupid come in my head weither paying or not, dont be upset u aint got a womb and have to pay, its ok. someone will take pity on u and buy u a happy meal. now get to it man and sort out paying for all the girls" I'm genuinely astonished by your attitude. | |||
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" yea but i thought i best not lie on the forums so thought i should be honest. dont wanna get in trouble. never pay, not even half, i am the cheapest person u will ever meet. i dont think i have ever bought a meet a drink? and i dont care whoohoooo If you're in an honesty mood it might be worth putting the above on your profile so everyone knows where they stand. who are u profile cops. jog on cheap dude and pay the drinks. i tell people when they need to know IE when the bill comes in!!!! There's a world of different between cheap and stupid. Any guy stupid enough to shell out for the entire cost of a 'swing' needs his head looked. with a man, the words cheap and stupid come in my head weither paying or not, dont be upset u aint got a womb and have to pay, its ok. someone will take pity on u and buy u a happy meal. now get to it man and sort out paying for all the girls I'm genuinely astonished by your attitude." i dont care what u think as long as u buy the drinks son | |||
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" I'm genuinely astonished by your attitude. i dont care what u think as long as u buy the drinks son" I suspect you don't care what ANYONE thinks so I'll happily keep this going for a wee while longer | |||
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" I'm genuinely astonished by your attitude. i dont care what u think as long as u buy the drinks son I suspect you don't care what ANYONE thinks so I'll happily keep this going for a wee while longer " your right i dont, as long as i get free drinks free food and a free bed for the night, why should i care, cos i donnnnnnnnnnt never ever pay. never never never | |||
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"pmsl I love the "womb" bit lol being serious now though, I think if all parties are happy well then thats the main thing, BUT, im never footing the bill again, that was just damn cheek and rudeness on his part, cheapskate springs to mind " He was trying it on and got a free lunch out of it He's not the only cheapskate on Fab - there's women insist men pay for everything. Just because we can doesn't mean we will. | |||
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"pmsl I love the "womb" bit lol being serious now though, I think if all parties are happy well then thats the main thing, BUT, im never footing the bill again, that was just damn cheek and rudeness on his part, cheapskate springs to mind He was trying it on and got a free lunch out of it He's not the only cheapskate on Fab - there's women insist men pay for everything. Just because we can doesn't mean we will." the men who wont are the men who CANT their dole money dont strech that far make any excuse u want we all know it means tight arse hahahahahahh | |||
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" the men who wont are the men who CANT their dole money dont strech that far make any excuse u want we all know it means tight arse hahahahahahh" Anyone THAT desperate for a shag should do the math and work out that it's probably cheaper to head for a massage parlour or the local red light district. | |||
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" the men who wont are the men who CANT their dole money dont strech that far make any excuse u want we all know it means tight arse hahahahahahh Anyone THAT desperate for a shag should do the math and work out that it's probably cheaper to head for a massage parlour or the local red light district." i guess u do that a lot then seeing as u know the prices, but at least with swinging most will have a full set of teeth eh, now stop being cheap and pay for some bitches | |||
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"Have you ever swung with a Scottish bird - they aint tight Comes from years of transporting large haggis invisibly " One should never underestimate the depths of the Scottish female. | |||
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" the men who wont are the men who CANT their dole money dont strech that far make any excuse u want we all know it means tight arse hahahahahahh Anyone THAT desperate for a shag should do the math and work out that it's probably cheaper to head for a massage parlour or the local red light district. i guess u do that a lot then seeing as u know the prices, but at least with swinging most will have a full set of teeth eh, now stop being cheap and pay for some bitches" Almost exactly the response I predicted. Keep it up. | |||
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" . One should never underestimate the depths of the Scottish female." Or the shallowness of those who want everything bought and paid for for them. | |||
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" the men who wont are the men who CANT their dole money dont strech that far make any excuse u want we all know it means tight arse hahahahahahh Anyone THAT desperate for a shag should do the math and work out that it's probably cheaper to head for a massage parlour or the local red light district. i guess u do that a lot then seeing as u know the prices, but at least with swinging most will have a full set of teeth eh, now stop being cheap and pay for some bitches Almost exactly the response I predicted. Keep it up." you must be rich being able to see in the future, oh no your not cos u cant afford a drink ahahhaha just stop winging about it and buy some things. treat your woman good lol | |||
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" . you must be rich being able to see in the future, oh no your not cos u cant afford a drink ahahhaha just stop winging about it and buy some things. treat your woman good lol" I treat the women in my life just fine and have never felt the need to buy their time or their company. | |||
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"Should the female pay or the male or halves? I met someone recently, paid for lunch then he wanted half for a hotel lol, needless to say it was just the lunch on the menu, your thoughts please to this newbie x " Dont meet him again he is taking the mick, bloody cheek, Have we fogotten what the word Gentlmen means. Gaz | |||
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"Was a bit naughty of him to ask you to pay half. I assume this wasn't talked about before you met him and he invited you? I'm all for equality but would have thought that cheeky too " Lets hope he reads this thread if he is any kind of gent he will see this and blush. lol Gaz | |||
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" . you must be rich being able to see in the future, oh no your not cos u cant afford a drink ahahhaha just stop winging about it and buy some things. treat your woman good lol I treat the women in my life just fine and have never felt the need to buy their time or their company." awwww spoken like a true pimp hhahahaha | |||
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" . you must be rich being able to see in the future, oh no your not cos u cant afford a drink ahahhaha just stop winging about it and buy some things. treat your woman good lol I treat the women in my life just fine and have never felt the need to buy their time or their company. awwww spoken like a true pimp hhahahaha " I wouldn't want your inane rantings languishing too far down the page. | |||
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