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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi wondering if anyone else has had the same issue of your fuck buddy falling for you ? Any advice I don't want to hurt her feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi wondering if anyone else has had the same issue of your fuck buddy falling for you ? Any advice I don't want to hurt her feelings "

Just be honest, that's all you can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop having sex with her

1 she could get pregnant, accidentally or on purpose

2 it's not fair on her feelings if she's told you she has feelings for you,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was seeing a guy for a while. He was also married. We Both agreed it was all about the sex. After a while though things started to get messy. He started hitting of my phone if I didn't answer a message straight away. Started telling me how much he loved me and how I understood him better than his wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi wondering if anyone else has had the same issue of your fuck buddy falling for you ? Any advice I don't want to hurt her feelings "
oh yes not an easy one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just be honest with the person will save the upset after

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone. best man up then

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Honesty is the best policy as others have said. No need to be brutal though and allow her to leave the situation with her dignity in tact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FB can easily turn into love interest if you have frequent 121 meets, especially if they are more compatible than wife or husband. We are all vulnerable in some way. Only way to avoid it is group meets.

On your question. Honesty and then leave her alone. It hurts but you two started saying no emotion and if that changes you need to say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have. Two of them actually and it hasn't changed much between us.

With the one I've been seeing for almost 8 years, he has becoming more caring and giving. It's quite nice to be adored without having the relationship tethering.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I fell for mine big time after two years of seeing each other nearly every week and having the most amazing filthy sex! Problem was I was a naughty bit on the side for her and she was actually engaged so when it started getting close to her wedding she stopped it. Nobody ever found out about us but I'd developed a lot of feelings for her and it hurt way more than it should have for what started as a bit of fun, a grief I obviously had to keep to myself. Still miss her when I think about her, but hey ho that's life!

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Honesty is always the key x storm x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honesty is the best policy as others have said. No need to be brutal though and allow her to leave the situation with her dignity in tact "

So how do I do that she's a bit feisty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it not both ways ,walk away .

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond


"Hi wondering if anyone else has had the same issue of your fuck buddy falling for you ? Any advice I don't want to hurt her feelings "

My opinion is that you can't have regular, ongoing sex with someone without some feelings developing.

I was in a FWB/FB relationship with someone for several years. It was only about sex, we never went out together or met except for sex. Even so, I ended up with strong feelings for him (though not the "leave her and be with me" type of feelings). For me, it was a way to bond with someone I cared about without the hassle of shit that come with a relationship. We parted easily when I found a LTR.

If your FB wants more than you do, let her know where you want it to stay, and end it as quickly as possible (no contact whatsoever) if she's asking for more than you want.

It sucks on both sides, but I think the best way for all involved, in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honesty is the best policy as others have said. No need to be brutal though and allow her to leave the situation with her dignity in tact

So how do I do that she's a bit feisty? "

Be honest and she should respect you for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest and walk away ! don’t continue to message as it will make it harder for her to accept clean break let her move on with her self esteem in tact

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By *8m00kWoman
over a year ago

balby

Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually "

You're not a Mug! Just looking for more than most are willing to offer. Hold to your standards and you'll find everything you're looking for

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

It’s a tough one - and why I don’t have fb’s anywhere near my own age (Peachy the softest shite on earth! )

Just be kind but honest op. All you can do!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually "

There’ve been several attempts/suggestions to start a section for those seeking relationships (poly or otherwise) fwb’s etc - but so far admin haven’t responded!

I for one would welcome one as I’d also love to meet a lovely but highly sexed, kinky guy to spend lots of time with!

Onwards and upwards lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually

There’ve been several attempts/suggestions to start a section for those seeking relationships (poly or otherwise) fwb’s etc - but so far admin haven’t responded!

I for one would welcome one as I’d also love to meet a lovely but highly sexed, kinky guy to spend lots of time with!

Onwards and upwards lovely! "
oh meet me will you damnit

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By *8m00kWoman
over a year ago

balby


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually

There’ve been several attempts/suggestions to start a section for those seeking relationships (poly or otherwise) fwb’s etc - but so far admin haven’t responded!

I for one would welcome one as I’d also love to meet a lovely but highly sexed, kinky guy to spend lots of time with!

Onwards and upwards lovely! "

Thankyou... its so hard to keep regular intimate sex just as sex. But one day, maybe one day we will find our man!

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By *8m00kWoman
over a year ago

balby


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually

You're not a Mug! Just looking for more than most are willing to offer. Hold to your standards and you'll find everything you're looking for "

Thankyou

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By *llfoursWoman
over a year ago

north east

Be open and honest and stop fucking. It will just way over complicate things.

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By *LFB.Woman
over a year ago

Farnborough.

Be honest first and foremost, if necessary stop all contact unless you want to remain friends, but by being friends it means no sex. Ive been there and it hurts like hell. But now i have a true friend.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually "

Good luck ,, hope it happens for you x storm x

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By *8m00kWoman
over a year ago

balby


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually

Good luck ,, hope it happens for you x storm x

"

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had this in the past with 2 different guys. As soon as I realised their feelings had gone past friendship I had to break all ties with them which wasn't nice . With both guys though I think it had got too personal so I now I learn from my mistakes xx

Alabama x

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Stop having sex with her

1 she could get pregnant, accidentally or on purpose

2 it's not fair on her feelings if she's told you she has feelings for you, "

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually

There’ve been several attempts/suggestions to start a section for those seeking relationships (poly or otherwise) fwb’s etc - but so far admin haven’t responded!

I for one would welcome one as I’d also love to meet a lovely but highly sexed, kinky guy to spend lots of time with!

Onwards and upwards lovely! oh meet me will you damnit "

You’re hundreds of miles away my lovely! Way too far for a relationship!

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

We were singles on here. Cheffy was married and just looking for a bit of fun, I was single and happy playing the field with a variety of FWBs.

We became relgular FWBs... it just grew from there. Gradually. Neither of us was looking for a relationship but after around a year we had a naughty weekend away together and laying in bed one morning we just turned to ach other and asked what we were doing? He was spending 4 or 5 out of 7 evenings with me.

His wife lived her own life and worked odd hours. He said they'd nothing in common anymore.

He left her and moved in with me and here we are 3 years on, blissfully happy and so very in tune with each other.

I can work. If both parties are honest and want it.

If the feelings are only one way though its important (and fairest!) to be honest and walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a tough one - and why I don’t have fb’s anywhere near my own age (Peachy the softest shite on earth! )

Just be kind but honest op. All you can do! "

I thought I was safe with my preferred age range but my 36 years old buddy thinks he loves me. As does the 32 year old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...I can work. If both parties are honest and want it.

If the feelings are only one way though its important (and fairest!) to be honest and walk away."

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

Ooo, I'm going through this at the moment, Ok I developed feelings for him.

I went a whole month with no contact, was hell and over Christmas too. Then early Jan he got back in contact with me.... A month later and I need to make the break and move on. He cannot give me what I want, but the sex is amazing...

So hard, least I've not gone into bunny boiler mode...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well met her Sat down and chatted told her honestly it's not going to work and got a smashed front window on the house .So I'm thinking a lucky escape and not going to be friends without benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did we are now in a realtionship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well met her Sat down and chatted told her honestly it's not going to work and got a smashed front window on the house .So I'm thinking a lucky escape and not going to be friends without benefits"

Yeah, looks like you dodged a bullet there.

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By *8m00kWoman
over a year ago

balby


"Well met her Sat down and chatted told her honestly it's not going to work and got a smashed front window on the house .So I'm thinking a lucky escape and not going to be friends without benefits

Yeah, looks like you dodged a bullet there. "

Jeez not good although could of been much worse...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bloody cold cant get anyone out for another half hour to fix it .I won't call the police best just leave it be I think .Thanks for everyone comments

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom


"Well met her Sat down and chatted told her honestly it's not going to work and got a smashed front window on the house .So I'm thinking a lucky escape and not going to be friends without benefits"

Wow, I book holidays, get a tattoo or a piercing when I get 'dumped' I would never dream of destroying someones property...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good post. im sick of been hurt on fab by all means it isn't a dating site but regular ongoing sex leads to feelings as we all know... iv had men who havent told me they are married and iv developed feelings for them only to be let down. Must have mug on my head or something id love nothing more than to find my lover soulmate and swinging partner eventually

There’ve been several attempts/suggestions to start a section for those seeking relationships (poly or otherwise) fwb’s etc - but so far admin haven’t responded!

I for one would welcome one as I’d also love to meet a lovely but highly sexed, kinky guy to spend lots of time with!

Onwards and upwards lovely! oh meet me will you damnit

You’re hundreds of miles away my lovely! Way too far for a relationship! "
hey my ex was Scottish I made that work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel really bad for her now husband.

If I’d found out she was getting engaged I’d have broke it off and got word to the husband to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop having sex with her

1 she could get pregnant, accidentally or on purpose

2 it's not fair on her feelings if she's told you she has feelings for you, "

Maybe the OP feels the same

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By *wistedBoudoirCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

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By *wistedBoudoirCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

Wrote a long reply about talking to her to work it out. Then read back through sone of the thread that I skipped and discovered the violence against the front window and decided to delete.

Note to self. - read the entire thread before replying lol.

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By *sexypairCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Can't believe she smashed your window a lucky escape I say!

Had a little experience of this and and now my feelings are all for my husband just the way it should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop having sex with her

1 she could get pregnant, accidentally or on purpose

2 it's not fair on her feelings if she's told you she has feelings for you, "

This sounds like sound advice to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No fb....

No problem ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi wondering if anyone else has had the same issue of your fuck buddy falling for you ? Any advice I don't want to hurt her feelings "
it happens to many if you have feelings,you're being intimate after all and over time some nuts are just harder to crack

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