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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What have you learned from Fab and swinging that you didn’t know before?

Here’s our :-

1. Group sex is strangely more ‘normal’ than you imagine

2. Social meets are generally a lot less awkward than you would first imagine

3. There are always new sex positions/tricks to learn

4. When you meet other swingers in a public place not everyone recognises you as swingers . Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learnt that I’m a bit of an exhibitionist. Completely unexpected as I’m quite introverted and not usually the centre of attention in ‘normal’ life.

At a club I discovered I like to be watched whilst fucking. Discovering new play screnarios like CFNM has also made me realise I like putting on a bit of a performance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learnt that the site mainly consists of fakes , dreamers , pic collectors and bullshitters . The mind boggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that opinions are like arseholes..we've all got one and some of them stink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have learnt that the site mainly consists of fakes , dreamers , pic collectors and bullshitters . The mind boggles "
plus men who expect everything and show no respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't. "

Yep . You cant do right from wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men can be as sly as toe rags and the women seem to be bored housewives craving adoration down a sleazy coffee shop packed out with social swingers , leading men on that it will develop into a sexy romp on a future meet

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have learnt that the site mainly consists of fakes , dreamers , pic collectors and bullshitters . The mind boggles plus men who expect everything and show no respect "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have learnt that the site mainly consists of fakes , dreamers , pic collectors and bullshitters . The mind boggles plus men who expect everything and show no respect

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All get tarred with the same brush though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt that alot of the men I've spoken to, have very little in the way of sexual experience, and seem to exist in a little bubble of porn and wanking.

And most run away screaming at the mention of the word 'vibrator'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have learnt that the site mainly consists of fakes , dreamers , pic collectors and bullshitters . The mind boggles plus men who expect everything and show no respect

All get tarred with the same brush though "
the good guys have a hard time chipping away at the barriers built up by the knob heads and messes yes i agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That porn has a lot to answer for

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By *ibertine_mindsCouple
over a year ago

Staffs/ Derbys/ Peak District

... that there are some very attractive couples out there who share our tastes and do not expect us to drop everything and arrange a play meet at the first contact . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That everyone operates their own rules which you're meant to instinctively already know the first time you chat to them!!

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

People will say literally anything to get what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have learnt that the site mainly consists of fakes , dreamers , pic collectors and bullshitters . The mind boggles plus men who expect everything and show no respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That porn has a lot to answer for"

This

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Swinging has taught me that sexual freedom is liberating, whether you are having sex with others or not...it's all a state of mind. Fab hasn't taught me anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men use and abuse women and have cold hearts and alot could never have a relationship.Just a observation on reading old and new threads and messages I have received .respect has gone .Men used too be gentlemen (sad)

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learnt that individualism is often overlooked and ignored on the basis of being a single male, because we are all the same obviously

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

To trust my gut instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never believe you are going ANYWHERE until on the return journey....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt nothing really lifes what you make it if you live it then its always exciting and adventurous oh and people who generalise are ridiculous ,people can only be judged on their own merits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That there are a lot of bored house wives with fucked up marriages. Not all but some very odd relationships

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We've learnt alot about ourselves and have adapted, evolved as our boundaries move to new delights and we contiue to enjoy ourselves even more.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"What have you learned from Fab and swinging that you didn’t know before?

Here’s our :-

1. Group sex is strangely more ‘normal’ than you imagine

2. Social meets are generally a lot less awkward than you would first imagine

3. There are always new sex positions/tricks to learn

4. When you meet other swingers in a public place not everyone recognises you as swingers . Lol

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Swingers or not, getting a woman into bed is never easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Main thing what I've learnt is never believe everything people tell you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That there's some really great people here, who totally get the scene.

Then there's the others..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are many people (usually guys) sorry!

That are here in desperation, they believe that one cock pic and a one syllable message will land them some hot chick. The reality is, these people just can't comunicate, don't know what manners or etiquette mean and don't have the balls to say what they really think.

I am also suprised at just how skewed the women to men ratio is on these sites, but then again thinking about it, it's partly due to the reason stated in my first comment.

I have found the promiscuity in the gay and bi world can be quite alarming.

I have found there is an art in attracting single females on here (assuming I had a straight or bi guy profile). I would say it's far far easier to pick up someone on a night out though.

I think this applies to the world outside of fab too, It is a great shame that so many people are in relationships that clearly are not complete, they have to constantly lie and cheat, also lead a double life. (I am not judging anyone here, it's just a shame it is very often this way)

My conclusion, never assume

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Swinging has really helped me in my mental development as regards relating to ladies. Now I understand how to state my mind.

It showed me my true value as a man and gave me the platform to play my game the way I want to.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’ve learnt from swinging over the past 13yrs that it’s not as easy as I thought it was to arrange and meet ... in this time I’ve been a couple and a single fem ... I’ve met some great people on the whole and a few dicks along the way .... humour works all the time ..... not the old line of I have a big dick come sit on it ive had great times but alas they are not Times I can tell everyone ... I’ve travelled to Cyprus and The Canaries for meets and had lots of laughs along the wa xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men use and abuse women and have cold hearts and alot could never have a relationship.Just a observation on reading old and new threads and messages I have received .respect has gone .Men used too be gentlemen (sad) "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of stuff including many positives but mainly that my disinterest in most people (in real life) is well placed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned to be more tolerant of others kinks (not that I wasn't previously). Not everyone is the same or the world would be a boring place.

Ive learned to enjoy my body more too thanks to my improved confidence x

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"People will say literally anything to get what they want "

Strongly agree with that!

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By *neoclockgunMan
over a year ago

London

That there are lots of wannabe swingers. Some genuinely want to and will get there. Others are dreamers/cowards/liars/whatever, but they’re usually easy to spot and filter.

The people I have actually got as far as meeting, on this site and others, have mostly been fantastic - polite, civilised, good company, and lots of fun. Even the few who just weren’t really for me were decent enough people... just not for me, or I for them.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Lots of Brexiteer/Daily Express types.

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"Learnt that I’m a bit of an exhibitionist. Completely unexpected as I’m quite introverted and not usually the centre of attention in ‘normal’ life.

At a club I discovered I like to be watched whilst fucking. Discovering new play screnarios like CFNM has also made me realise I like putting on a bit of a performance. "

What I've learnt is how few people on a swinger site, know about CFNM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of Brexiteer/Daily Express types. "

You just can't stop yourself can you hun?

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

I have learnt, much to my horror, how popular suck, fuck, pint, kiss, hot or not, snog, shag or kill with a fucking frying pan, really is.

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By *randMrsPCouple
over a year ago

Nr Salisbury

I (MrG) have learnt that MrsP never ceases to surprise me, always in a good way! Also that some people cannot read a profile. At all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt what pegging is

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

I have learned to respect others sexual believes don't knock it till you've tried it sort of thing so i still have a lot to learn and it's not wrong for anything goes fantasises

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

How many ignorant twats are out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have learnt, much to my horror, how popular suck, fuck, pint, kiss, hot or not, snog, shag or kill with a fucking frying pan, really is. "

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We’ve learnt that the last place to get any useful advice or information pertaining to swinging is the fabswingers forum .

The thing we have learnt is that getting out there and meeting up with real people is easily the best way forward .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

learnt never to ask/ take advice from other swingers and just go with our thing and its worked very well for 19 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

forgot the ascent of the far right BBC Is order of the day

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"lol snap

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Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learnt that swingers can be anyone, anywhere in any walk of life. Some people who look so sweet and innocent have been the most experimental! There’s not a person who looks the swinging type and it’s lovely to meet ordinary people that just like to let themselves go a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The up side I’ve learnt that I’m not shy and retiring at all, I learnt that I I’m multi faceted and have many different likes and tastes, I’ve learnt that I’m a switch,cuckquean,sub,dom,mistress and enjoy all side of me!

The down.... I’ve learnt that not everything is always as it seems, that jealousy does exist in swinging couples, that it’s not always a mutual decision to swing.

That fakes,time wasters, wannabes spoil it for the genuine people.

That lots of people assume that you play how they play!

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By *ream3.14159Man
over a year ago

Here & there

I've learnt that I have a small cock, but can be a massive dick sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt a lot:

That it's good to have a clear agenda for the site.

That a lot of people really *don't* treat others decently and with respect.

That its always good to have a back up plan for a new meet and not to get your hopes up.

That swinging can be very sociable.

That clubs are great fun, as are threesomes and group sex.

That I'm not greedy, just enthusiastic.

And pegging is awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt its clicky,judgemental ,crude ,sometimes interesting ,funny ,sad and addictive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that no matter how hard you try single guys are total pariahs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I`ve learnt that a person can put on 4 stones in weight from when a photo was (allegedly) taken on the 1st of the month to you meeting them on the 15th of the month

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I've learned that when someone warns you on the forum NOT to google something...DON'T FRIKKIN GOOGLE IT! No amount of bleach or eye gouging tools can ever make the image dissapear...space docking anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve learnt that the last place to get any useful advice or information pertaining to swinging is the fabswingers forum .

The thing we have learnt is that getting out there and meeting up with real people is easily the best way forward .

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True true, so many live in the cyber swinging world and met rarely if not at all in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree to all it is quiet happening to me

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By *fcdTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend

I've learned an awful lot of men are really bad at sending decent emails or reading profiles.

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By *atexbisexTV/TS
over a year ago

Central London


"I've learned an awful lot of men are really bad at sending decent emails or reading profiles. "

And often send abusive messages when you point that out to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that I'm neither an exhibitionist or a voyeur

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

Don't share photos of your playtime with the other party... You never know where they'll end up!

Recently learned this the hard way and it's put me right off fab altogether now. I'm so upset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Full of timewasters, fantasists etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't share photos of your playtime with the other party... You never know where they'll end up!

Recently learned this the hard way and it's put me right off fab altogether now. I'm so upset "

That’s terrible. Been asked many times for photos in lingerie with face showing. But that’s never going to happen. Too many people can’t be trusted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Learnt that I’m a bit of an exhibitionist. Completely unexpected as I’m quite introverted and not usually the centre of attention in ‘normal’ life.

At a club I discovered I like to be watched whilst fucking. Discovering new play screnarios like CFNM has also made me realise I like putting on a bit of a performance.

What I've learnt is how few people on a swinger site, know about CFNM "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have learned

1) That although we thought we were worldly wise in the sex department wow a whole new world has opened up.

2) To love ourselves a little more and that actually we arent as bad body or luckimg wise as we thought. We have gained so much body confidence its unreal.

3) swinging is not repulsive or dirty and there are some pretty amazing, normal, down to earth people who we are so glad to have met and spoken too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*looking** god damm fat fingers doh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

trying to be a new single guy is pointless!

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By *irtywildsideMan
over a year ago

Barry

I’ve learned ...from my mistakes. And I’ve also learned subsequently that patience is a virtue Not always possessed by some on here in the required amount especially if you are of the single male variety regardless of orientation

The early bird might catch the worm but on fab the early bird usually gets terrorised by 50 messages all containing no more than three words per message with one of those usually being ‘u’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had I sent out one of those 50 messages I would agree.... patience is my strongest virtue however its quite obvious single guys here struggle to be a 'part' of it... its not my last hope....! thankfully

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People have surprising choices of photographs used for self promotion

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By *eneral_NoStringsMan
over a year ago

Northampton

You could identify as everything someone is looking for and they'll still delete your message/not reply lol.

The area you live in really matters.

You can be really genuine, but if you're a single guy, hahahaha... good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That some people are sadly rascist

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"That some people are sadly rascist "

And it works both ways !! I've just had some abuse for this very reason

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

a lot of munters think+talk like they're 'it',just because they have boobs.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

To bite my tongue - there are a lot of forum replies I've typed out and never posted!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"a lot of munters think+talk like they're 'it',just because they have boobs.

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And that there are more charming men out there than you realise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some people are sadly rascist

And it works both ways !! I've just had some abuse for this very reason "

Sorry too hear that , I got told to fck off back to my own country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

As open minded as you'd expect a swinging community to be, i learnt there's still an awful lot of homophobes, transphobes and general bigots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not only guys but girls like to have fun too ys but intensity and limits are different ofcourse

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"That some people are sadly rascist

And it works both ways !! I've just had some abuse for this very reason

Sorry too hear that , I got told to fck off back to my own country "

I wouldn't repeat what was said to me. I was very polite back though then I blocked him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some people are sadly rascist

And it works both ways !! I've just had some abuse for this very reason

Sorry too hear that , I got told to fck off back to my own country

I wouldn't repeat what was said to me. I was very polite back though then I blocked him "

Probably for the best...not all us guys are that bad..lol

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"a lot of munters think+talk like they're 'it',just because they have boobs.

And that there are more charming men out there than you realise. "

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

What have we learned?

1. Trust your instincts there rarely wrong.

2. So many guys with issues, esp around rejection judging by some of the mail we get from guys who you really wouldn't want to meet in any walk of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I`ve learnt that a person can put on 4 stones in weight from when a photo was (allegedly) taken on the 1st of the month to you meeting them on the 15th of the month "
noooooo must have been over Xmas and were the scales in the pic?

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By *8m00kWoman
over a year ago

balby

Never to fall for your fb. There all liars or are never gonna commit to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never to fall for your fb. There all liars or are never gonna commit to you "
did you hey its difficult if you have emotion then its easy done

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By *eased n pleasedCouple
over a year ago

wickford


"Never to fall for your fb. There all liars or are never gonna commit to you "

It's in the name really and the nature of the relationship..Although saying that we have met some amazing couple's who actually met on here..Im sure you will find true love that doesn't even remotely feel like an FB..

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By *opaz12Woman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

That people don't read profiles, even their own.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Ive learnt:

Lots of acronyms BBW BBC CFNM FWB FB etc

There are some really lovely people out there

The difference between Pegging and Figging

And finally, that it really does take all sorts to make this wonderful community/lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That men will say anything, truth or lie not easy to determine! to get their rocks off and once they do communication lessens...

You can only judge by actions and men are too stupid to realise most ladies are a step ahead but the bullshit keeps coming!

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I have learned with fab:

1-Guys have adoration for their own dick pictures!

2- How danger can be allow people taking intimate photos of you.Next they are online.(without consent)

3-How people can easily can start to stalk you!

4-some not nice looking people ,they thing they are a gift of God!

5- people are not honest or real ! much more!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That men will say anything, truth or lie not easy to determine! to get their rocks off and once they do communication lessens...

You can only judge by actions and men are too stupid to realise most ladies are a step ahead but the bullshit keeps coming! "
damn didn't he do well .......will he Get a brucie bonus though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What have you learned from Fab and swinging that you didn’t know before?

Here’s our :-

1. Group sex is strangely more ‘normal’ than you imagine

2. Social meets are generally a lot less awkward than you would first imagine

3. There are always new sex positions/tricks to learn

4. When you meet other swingers in a public place not everyone recognises you as swingers . Lol

"

GREAT QUESTION-

first one was the killer for us. We were amazed at how quickly outrageous scenes of lascivious sexual theatre became... well 'normal'

Secondly how absolutly turned on we were to have Hillie covered in the semen of several greatful gents..

And thirdly the fact that it improved our domestic sex life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been surprised how many great long-term friends we have made on the scene who we have never had sex with for one reason or another. We tend to get on with those who ignore what society promotes and live out on the edge.

We've learned also that there are many 'damaged' people on the scene and those unscrupulous enough to take advantage of them. Like life the scene has it's good points and bad points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so many sad people on here

people who dont read profiles

so mant dreamers and time wasters

then again some great people who I have known for years and the fun has continued to develop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm........I’ve learnt that there are as many couples on here that are either time wasters or are just fake profiles.... as men get moaned about for. Think you should be able to name and shame them, or have ratings on profiles.... would make things a lot better on here.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't. "

No it doesn't at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't.

No it doesn't at all. "
it can do here people that know each other stick together here, if they take offence sometimes everyone does ,no matter how nice or polite you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt that I'm more likely to get meets with couples than single ladies but I don't mind either way

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In general terms I've learned a lot about myself, about others and sex and sexuality in general - and think I'm a lot more open minded than I already was as a result.

I've learned that actually I am quite attractive and do have an appeal to others despite my advancing years and distinctly Dad bod - something that before stepping into *this* life I had thought was long behind me.

I've learned that some people (and sadly it is mostly men) have completely unrealistic expectations when it comes to sex and sexuality, and in fact some can be completely vile - I've seen and heard of things since being on Fab that really have made my toes curl.

I've come to see that sex and emotions can be separate things, although there still has to be attraction, connection and chemistry for sex to be satisfying.

I've learned the pleasures of having sexual experiences with more than one person at the same time, and not finding it odd - little things like feeling more than one set of hands on you and not being quite sure whose is where.

I've discovered I don't appear to have a gag reflex

Oh and I have realised I really don't need Facebook when I have Fab

And that's barely touched the tip of it all....Fab and the swinging lifestyle has opened my eyes to so much - some of it positive and some negative but I'm not totally sure I could be without it now.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't.

No it doesn't at all. it can do here people that know each other stick together here, if they take offence sometimes everyone does ,no matter how nice or polite you are "

A lot will look at a profile to see if there are common interests before deciding whether to message back. Enough said. No elbowing out of the way needed in many cases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't.

No it doesn't at all. it can do here people that know each other stick together here, if they take offence sometimes everyone does ,no matter how nice or polite you are

A lot will look at a profile to see if there are common interests before deciding whether to message back. Enough said. No elbowing out of the way needed in many cases. "
well yes I kind of agree with that but what can you tell about a person from their profile ....very little I would say .......so many people aren't entertained because time is of an essence,the words didn't fit so bye

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't.

No it doesn't at all. it can do here people that know each other stick together here, if they take offence sometimes everyone does ,no matter how nice or polite you are

A lot will look at a profile to see if there are common interests before deciding whether to message back. Enough said. No elbowing out of the way needed in many cases. well yes I kind of agree with that but what can you tell about a person from their profile ....very little I would say .......so many people aren't entertained because time is of an essence,the words didn't fit so bye "

One thing I have learned is to check a profile before messaging back for distance, preferences age range etc. As I see no point in engaging in a long conversation with someone I'm never going to meet. It saves time on both sides. Having said that I love using the forums as there's a couple of people that I will be meeting from forums. I guess people learn new things everyday on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've learnt that alot of the men I've spoken to, have very little in the way of sexual experience, and seem to exist in a little bubble of porn and wanking.

And most run away screaming at the mention of the word 'vibrator'"

aaaaghhhhhhh

*sprints past Usain Bolt*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learnt to judge and hate myself with extra scrutiny.

Dxxx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've learnt 99 percent of couples who contact you will be the male half with no intention of meeting as a couple....

Or just a random single male....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are far far naughtier than men

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you


"What have we learned?

1. Trust your instincts there rarely wrong.

2. So many guys with issues, esp around rejection judging by some of the mail we get from guys who you really wouldn't want to meet in any walk of life"

Should also add that we have met some very sound, sane and down to earth people as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that most men are full of bullshit

they will fuck anything with a pulse

most married men are cheats on their wives

going off men fast lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

That I'd rather give up meeting than waste any more time endlessly wading through timewasting messages and arrange meets with people who have no intention of turning up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That being nice gets you no where. A no thank you can lead to abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That being nice gets you no where. A no thank you can lead to abuse. "
really

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"That being nice gets you no where. A no thank you can lead to abuse. "

Or a barrage of why not, or trying to make you change your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt something today ,life is learning about people and their tolerences ,some see life with rose tinted glasses some are blinkered ,some burn bridges some grasp fun and run with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was introduced to swinging 16 years ago then to nudist spas and now I'm only clothed in normal public settings. Liberating! even with my jiggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently learned to block instantly when you reply with a 'not for me' message.

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By *itnkatCouple
over a year ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston

We learned single guys increased when Fab became available on phones not just a PC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We learned single guys increased when Fab became available on phones not just a PC "
fab has been attainable by phone for years

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

That people get offended instantly if you say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have learnt that the site mainly consists of fakes , dreamers , pic collectors and bullshitters . The mind boggles plus men who expect everything and show no respect "

Agree massively with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've learnt that alot of the men I've spoken to, have very little in the way of sexual experience, and seem to exist in a little bubble of porn and wanking.

And most run away screaming at the mention of the word 'vibrator'"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That being a polite gentleman goes a long way.

That it's a real pleasure watching your loved one enjoy another man or lady.

That love and sex are totally separate things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learnt that I’d be rubbish as part of a proper swinging couple. I’ll stick to swinging with my fuck friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything and taking it hard to swallow it seem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Site is an utter waste of time. Clearly though i have lots of time to waste. Ha ha

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By *ery curious maleMan
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

I've learnt that I'm more outgoing than I thought

I've learnt to be a lot more understanding of people with different kinks to me

I have learnt to embrace my sexuality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everything and taking it hard to swallow it seem "
what ......tablets?

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We joined thinking we were looking for couples and within a couple of months realised what we were actually looking for was guys and er lots of guys Which was an eye opener but site has been excellent for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That people get offended instantly if you say no thanks "

And if you disagree with them in a fourm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People want very attractive twats over not as attractive nice ad respectful people

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"People want very attractive twats over not as attractive nice ad respectful people"

That's not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That being nice gets you no where. A no thank you can lead to abuse.

Or a barrage of why not, or trying to make you change your mind. "

Exactly this. The things men do come up with.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

That preferences aren't allowed according to some !

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

In my case

1. It's not all about sex, social side is just as important.

2. Respect is everything. (real swingers know how many things that line actually covers.)

3. I'm me but a rather more open and confident me than I knew.

4. I am often still surprised, which is surprising.

5. My "swinging friends" know more about me than my "real friends".

6. I have yet more to learn and discover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that being myself and demonstrating manners and respect gets you a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People want very attractive twats over not as attractive nice ad respectful people

That's not true. "

I should rephrase, the better looking you are the more forgiving people are when they treat them like shit

The amount of times ive heard (mostly woman as i mostly talk to woman on here and at clubs) woman tell stories of them going back to the same guy who treated them like shit for no other reason then "hes really fit"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my case

1. It's not all about sex, social side is just as important.

2. Respect is everything. (real swingers know how many things that line actually covers.)

3. I'm me but a rather more open and confident me than I knew.

4. I am often still surprised, which is surprising.

5. My "swinging friends" know more about me than my "real friends".

6. I have yet more to learn and discover."

Also this

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

If in doubt, don't. And also learned I'm really quite greedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that a lot of couples are single men ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't. "

reminds me of real life , treat em mean keep em keen

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"That there are a lot of bored house wives with fucked up marriages. Not all but some very odd relationships "

And there are a lot of "single males" who put screwing around before their wives and kids too.

Maybe they're responsible for the fucked up marriages...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"That preferences aren't allowed according to some !"
most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What have you learned from Fab and swinging that you didn’t know before?

Here’s our :-

1. Group sex is strangely more ‘normal’ than you imagine

2. Social meets are generally a lot less awkward than you would first imagine

3. There are always new sex positions/tricks to learn

4. When you meet other swingers in a public place not everyone recognises you as swingers . Lol

"

Agree with 1 - 4.

In addition we found being yourselves on here / not too forward/ being reliable/ and above all being open chatty and pleasant gets meets with some really filthy and fantastic couples

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill

That a lot of people talk about swinging and fucking but actually don't get any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing new I have learnt today, there are a few people who actually read and like my posts and sometimes they actually message me to say so!

Who'da thunk it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men use and abuse women and have cold hearts and alot could never have a relationship.Just a observation on reading old and new threads and messages I have received .respect has gone .Men used too be gentlemen (sad)

this "

That's the saddest thing I've read on this site

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

...this one should never ignore one's instincts and that my sexuality has a bi side too.

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By *jl1972Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

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By *jl1972Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"I've learned that being polite and respectful gets you elbowed out of the way by those who aren't.

reminds me of real life , treat em mean keep em keen"

Does seem to be the case sometimes, sadly.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

That I am straight. Very straight. But then I knew that.

That I dislike bodily hair and bodily fluids.

That more than two men is a queue.

That one man can do what two or three can do, except better.

That I have a lot of respect for the male humanity. They are much better than I thought.

That you can meet bad people in good places and good people in bad places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that being a tgirl i am only seen as a sex object

im treated like a shame fuck by most men

is it all worth it ? the jury is still out for now

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By *enshermanMan
over a year ago

Durham


"What have you learned from Fab and swinging that you didn’t know before?

Here’s our :-

1. Group sex is strangely more ‘normal’ than you imagine

2. Social meets are generally a lot less awkward than you would first imagine

3. There are always new sex positions/tricks to learn

4. When you meet other swingers in a public place not everyone recognises you as swingers . Lol

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I am not actually swinger. (K)

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock


"People will say literally anything to get what they want "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That there are some very interesting intelligent kinky fun kind people who swing.

That swingers as a whole are as casually bi/homophobic and racist as society is. And then deny it! Expecting enlightened inclusive thinking was naive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That a lot of people talk about swinging and fucking but actually don't get any. "
that true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everything and taking it hard to swallow it seem what ......tablets? "
the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt that all women have lumps bumps scars marks and stray hairs.

No one is perfect but they are all beautiful in their own way.

Even me.

Men are funny creatures. Women more so.

I've been surprised to make genuine friends on here. I never expected that. I get random messages and phone calls which is lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I am far less attractive than even my meagre estimations had contemplated haha

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By *espectful 1Man
over a year ago

DY8

Waste way too much time, when I could be doing something more useful/ constructive

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By *and1009Man
over a year ago

borders


"Most men use and abuse women and have cold hearts and alot could never have a relationship.Just a observation on reading old and new threads and messages I have received .respect has gone .Men used too be gentlemen (sad) "

Some of us still are. Were in the friend zone, still jealous AF of Ron weasly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That 99% of the time I'd rather just have a wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learned a lot:

1- men pretend to be couples and women

2 - there is generally a greater attitude towards safe sex with the people I meet on fab (I’m aware people like bareback) in comparison to vanilla

3 - when arranging a group session, women are reliable, men are not. Average male turn out rate 20%, female 100%

4 - I’ve pretty much seen every variety of male and female anatomy through the photos on here. I didn’t realise there was that much variance

5 - some men will sleep with women on here that they wouldn’t batter an eye lid at in a pub

6 - some (not all) of those women let that get to their head and become quite the narcissist

7 - the pictures you receive are not always recent and on occasion not even the person you are talking

8 - people have bizarre fetishes

9 - the people mentioned in 8 tend to appear online around 11:30pm

10 - they also offer money

11 - they are persistent, even after being blocked, they reappear

12 - there are some amazing people on here

13 - be patient and you will find amazing people

14 - trust your gut with people

15 - if the profile seems too good to be true, it probably isn’t real

16 - use a reverse image search

17 - never give out your mobile number

18 - never divulge too much personal information, not everyone is discreet

19 - I love threesomes more than I thought

20 - meet right now can be a disaster

21 - plan too far ahead and it won’t happen

22 - invest the time in getting to know people

I could go on but I won’t bore you all

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"I’ve learned a lot:

1- men pretend to be couples and women

2 - there is generally a greater attitude towards safe sex with the people I meet on fab (I’m aware people like bareback) in comparison to vanilla

3 - when arranging a group session, women are reliable, men are not. Average male turn out rate 20%, female 100%

4 - I’ve pretty much seen every variety of male and female anatomy through the photos on here. I didn’t realise there was that much variance

5 - some men will sleep with women on here that they wouldn’t batter an eye lid at in a pub

6 - some (not all) of those women let that get to their head and become quite the narcissist

7 - the pictures you receive are not always recent and on occasion not even the person you are talking

8 - people have bizarre fetishes

9 - the people mentioned in 8 tend to appear online around 11:30pm

10 - they also offer money

11 - they are persistent, even after being blocked, they reappear

12 - there are some amazing people on here

13 - be patient and you will find amazing people

14 - trust your gut with people

15 - if the profile seems too good to be true, it probably isn’t real

16 - use a reverse image search

17 - never give out your mobile number

18 - never divulge too much personal information, not everyone is discreet

19 - I love threesomes more than I thought

20 - meet right now can be a disaster

21 - plan too far ahead and it won’t happen

22 - invest the time in getting to know people

I could go on but I won’t bore you all

"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And one more sorry to go on (this is a good one)....

Treat fab like food shopping. If you go food shopping when hungry, you’ll buy the whole shop, where as if you’re not hungry, you will only buy what you need.

If you go looking for a meet when you’re horny, you’ll meet people you wouldn’t consider if you’d just had a wank and then started looking.

Have a wank, start looking and plan for a meet a little later on otherwise you’ll probably regret it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt you can't please all of the people all of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I’ve learnt (and finally accepted) is that monogamy is totally unnatural to me. I’ve also learnt that group sex is so much fun.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That just occasionally someone can really....

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