FabSwingers.com forum: Jealous Fab Friends?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was chatting to a Fab friend of mine the other day whom I have met and will meet again and she recently put up a new verification. This was met with some right stroppy responses from some of her Fab ‘friends’.

Do you guys, male or female, have problems when you put up a new verification from your Fab friends who thought maybe they were next on the list, or thought they had you all to them self?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently took my verifications off because guys who I wouldnt meet were sending not very nice messages to both me and the guys I'd met

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I recently took my verifications off because guys who I wouldnt meet were sending not very nice messages to both me and the guys I'd met

Bang out of order messaging people you’d met!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was on the site before i told a guy who i wasnt attracted to that i wasnt looking to meet, then i had a meet a few days later and recieved a verification and this guy messaged me abuse about how i was a slag etc. So much for letting him down gently

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I don’t think we meet the type of people that are likely to do this. But if it happened they’d be blocked and wouldn’t meet them again. We are on Fab for fun not drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I've never encountered this. I choose people carefully and they have to be the sort of person that doesn't get caught up in drama with anyone.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No, never happened to me...I tend to chat to the more laidback ones - we’re here for fun and there’s no such thing as being on a promise here!

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By *eziahWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I have only been on here for a relatively short time, and I have already experienced this behaviour from several individuals. One even who created a series of four(!) profiles after I'd blocked him to stem the tirades of abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had it ourselves but have friends that were in contact with a couple who wanted our friends as exclusive swing buddies. Our friends had to keep it so quiet when we all met up.

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

Nope never happened to me and if it did they would get a straight block!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"I was chatting to a Fab friend of mine the other day whom I have met and will meet again and she recently put up a new verification. This was met with some right stroppy responses from some of her Fab ‘friends’.

Do you guys, male or female, have problems when you put up a new verification from your Fab friends who thought maybe they were next on the list, or thought they had you all to them self? "

I'm increasingly of the opinion there are a LOT of people who aren't suited to, or don't quite understand this swinging malarky.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

No drama, as they know better and I don't post verifications. That said, Ive told playmates who've asked to meet I was unable to as I'd other plans, ask why hadn't I asked them first in a sulky manner.

Didn't meet them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few who got arsey cos I said I wasn't meeting then actually had a meet. I never show my veris for discretion purposes. Plus a lot are police so have to be extra careful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I had a meet and she put a veri up she had 2 guys wanted to know every detail and get offended when she wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I had a meet and she put a veri up she had 2 guys wanted to know every detail and get offended when she wouldn't.

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lots of men want details. They just want dirty talk lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one person I was close to just come and and tell me they were jealous of it but wouldn’t try to stop as that was the reason we were on here. Said that she just wanted me to understand her feelings

Thiughtbit was a nice way to do it rather than getting nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i was on the site before i told a guy who i wasnt attracted to that i wasnt looking to meet, then i had a meet a few days later and recieved a verification and this guy messaged me abuse about how i was a slag etc. So much for letting him down gently

Iv had the same, then being called all the names under the sun

But yet they have meets aswell. Straight block

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We hid our verifications after receiving messages from profiles who had met the same people suggesting that we should meet them too. Never had jealousy though.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Do you guys, male or female, have problems when you put up a new verification from your Fab friends who thought maybe they were next on the list, or thought they had you all to them self? "

Yes; two women have given me snotty messages because I met someone else before them, and then blocked me. Another was enraged because I published a pic of my cock (it was 'Tackle out Tuesday'), which she assumed was me looking for other women, when apparently I was all hers (in her head anyway).

Don't think you women get all the wierd behaviour in here

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Yes I’ve had this lots of times.

Fab is hard for a lot of men. When they get chatting that can perceive that they’ve taken a ticket at the Tesco cheese counter and that it’s their turn next. Then, when they perceive that someone has jumped the queue, they’re angry and indignant (and sometimes abusive).

To fuck everyone I’m friends with on Fab at the rate of one a week would take two years and it’s not possible. But it’s hard to be friendly and have a laugh without raising expectations.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

I know it can happen to men too around expectations of exclusivity.

(And I’m not above a little pang of jealousy when someone I really like is off having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Wasn’t meeting in December and November because I really wasn’t well, and was in and out of hospital. Being off work, I was bored and would still come on fab to read the forums, chat to friends etc. One man who lived quite local kept asking to meet - and I would tell him I really wasn’t well and would meet in the new year. He constantly asked if I was ‘really’ interested in meeting him. I eventually got fed up and told him I wasn’t sure if we would be meeting at all - and I would message him in a week as I was deleting the kik app (I didn’t want to hurt his feelings

Then my FB buddy made a new fab account. We met on fab previously, but he deleted his profile. He verified me, even stating that we hadn’t met in the past few weeks.

But this set the unnamed man off. Called me every horrible name under the sun, and basically threw a full blown tantrum. Quickly told him I really wasn’t interested, cannot be done with drama and blocked him.

So far, he’s went to the effort of making two new kik accounts and three fab accounts to contact me. (My own fault for having my kik on my profile, I know). As soon as I catch wind it’s him, instant block. Haven’t heard from him in a week actually!

Now I just hide my verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None at all.

What someone does with someone else is none of my business, and I'd never ask or presume someone to be exclusive while we wait to arrange a meet.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I don't show my verifications because of discretion and my meets are my business but I do show the number. I've had snotty remarks (mostly in good faith and jest) when I had a meet and the number moved forward. Sort of the "oh you had a meet, why not me, we've been talking for so long etc etc". I understand some of where that comes from. I'm not above feeling a bit envious when a fella I'm really into posts a meet but again all in good faith. I've been lucky to not have experienced anything beyond that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I’ve had this lots of times.

To fuck everyone I’m friends with on Fab at the rate of one a week would take two years and it’s not possible. But it’s hard to be friendly and have a laugh without raising expectations. "

We're British, we like standing in order in queues!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Yes I’ve had this lots of times.

To fuck everyone I’m friends with on Fab at the rate of one a week would take two years and it’s not possible. But it’s hard to be friendly and have a laugh without raising expectations.

We're British, we like standing in order in queues!"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It does happen occasionally and is something to be cautious about. In many ways, blocking people that you are not interested in is really helpful, as it can make things very clear. I've also had issues after meets that didn't really work for me, which should mean it does not for them either. It's potentially helpful to not discuss repeating until such time as you definitely want to.

Some people find it harder to meet others and their rose tinted spectacles can suffuse memories of your meet with wondrous tones of perfection, that contrast with their current lack of interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather any man who has met me, blocks me if he goes on to meet others.

I don't go all Fatal Attraction esque on their arse, i just feel deeply wounded that my fanny was not the cock magnet i was led to believe it was. I'm happier in denial.

That may make me weird, odd, whatever. I can live wirh that.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"I'd rather any man who has met me, blocks me if he goes on to meet others.

I don't go all Fatal Attraction esque on their arse, i just feel deeply wounded that my fanny was not the cock magnet i was led to believe it was. I'm happier in denial.

That may make me weird, odd, whatever. I can live wirh that."

Don't get it. You're on a swinging site. Why should a guy be obliged to only fuck you once he's met with you? Or have I misunderstood you completely?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'd rather any man who has met me, blocks me if he goes on to meet others.

I don't go all Fatal Attraction esque on their arse, i just feel deeply wounded that my fanny was not the cock magnet i was led to believe it was. I'm happier in denial.

That may make me weird, odd, whatever. I can live wirh that."

huh?!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'd rather any man who has met me, blocks me if he goes on to meet others.

I don't go all Fatal Attraction esque on their arse, i just feel deeply wounded that my fanny was not the cock magnet i was led to believe it was. I'm happier in denial.

That may make me weird, odd, whatever. I can live wirh that.

Don't get it. You're on a swinging site. Why should a guy be obliged to only fuck you once he's met with you? Or have I misunderstood you completely?

If you have, so have I.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I was friends with a couple who were like this, they seemed to want exclusivity for me but lots of meets for them. They looked down on singles with lots of veris whilst having over 50 themselves lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there on many an occasion.

Even had a women create a male profile (filters) to abuse me!

I can't honestly say that I've never had pangs of jealousy, it's a natural emotion but I get over it.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

It’s rife on here and sometimes from people you least expect

Have to say if I have a particularly great meet I tend to not show their veri for ‘can’t deal with the bitches’ reasons

Sometimes tho its the guys that can dish out grief say if you show a veri from a new meet when you dared not to meet them

Can’t win really lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather any man who has met me, blocks me if he goes on to meet others.

I don't go all Fatal Attraction esque on their arse, i just feel deeply wounded that my fanny was not the cock magnet i was led to believe it was. I'm happier in denial.

That may make me weird, odd, whatever. I can live wirh that.

Don't get it. You're on a swinging site. Why should a guy be obliged to only fuck you once he's met with you? Or have I misunderstood you completely?

Nobody is obliged to fuck only me. I just take myself of the table if they do go on to meet others. And if they do meet others i'd rather not know about it.

It may be a swinging site but i'm not and have never proclaimed to be during this time (or my previous time) on site, a swinger and that's not how i use the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't, but then if my husband doesnt get jealous, then no one else can really, can they? They'd be blocked immediately if they were rude to me anyway.

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By *eek2findMan
over a year ago

Wigan

A bit much getting jealous over promiscuous people who regularly engage in licentious behaviour...

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By *iercedItMan
over a year ago

North West

This baffles me.

The nature of the beast, although I have been a little envious of some of lady friends meets.

More because as a single guy, there are so many blocks, and unicorn hunters that much isn't even an option for us (guys) but getting arsey, baffling.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

i had a few people get funny because i met someone.. but i soon fucked these people right off.. i hate control freaks.. also i found some petty jealousy from people because i started venturing out from the bedroom /hotel room.. and going to clubs...

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By *hellypantsWoman
over a year ago

Hayes

Had one get snotty when i got a verification after talking about meeting them but not happening due to timing. Told him I wasn't looking for the clingy boyfriend experience. Worse was a guy who expected me to meet at his demand, even when I told him i was unable. Blocked but received a rather nasty message from his other account. Thank goodness for the block button!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do get a bit of "Oh you had time to meet them but not me messages" off a few people that aren't even on friends list, and had only been generally chatting too

Considered just hiding veris again to save on the drama, but don't really see why I should have to hide anything.

It's when the odd messages drip over onto places like kik from people I don't even know I can get a bit pissy

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

#awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One reason we not meeting

We got friends we play with and if we play in future will be at a club as a 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I had a meet and she put a veri up she had 2 guys wanted to know every detail and get offended when she wouldn't.

lots of men want details. They just want dirty talk lol. "

That's true actually, had a few message asking for details cos I normally put a status up about going to cjs. So the next day I get floods of messages cos of it. They get ignored

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I had a good social with a man at the end of last year. It all went down hill after, he became very full on and it ended with me blocking him when he physically kept trying to grab my arm and pull me away from my friends in a bar.

Anyway, he must have a second account as he messaged my latest meet wanting to know what we’d got up to and then abused him when he wouldn’t tell him.

I thought my selection process was pretty good, apparently not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a few “Oh you’ve met him” type messages in the past from men & (forum) women but I would say that’s more being miffed than outright jealousy.

Heard some right ole tales from both genders though so I guess it’s pretty rife on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I’ve had this lots of times.

To fuck everyone I’m friends with on Fab at the rate of one a week would take two years and it’s not possible. But it’s hard to be friendly and have a laugh without raising expectations. "

Sounds like you need to go daily, with additional matinee performances at the weekend

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

There are lots of people on here that really like the idea of NSA sex, but for some it's just window shopping... they just aren't wired up to not get attached.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some jealousy is from unrealistic expectations and a mismatch of understanding between those that meet. Others forget what swinging actually is and are probably on the wrong site for what they actually want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recently took my verifications off because guys who I wouldnt meet were sending not very nice messages to both me and the guys I'd met

We've had this too!

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I make it clear from the start that I am meeting others and have no plans changing that. only one didn't like it and I eventually stopped meeting him (shame as he was really good with his hands...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly quite afew jealous people on here, I've had it from both men and women that got the arse from verifications.

The guys usually want to know all the details of the meet and ask to contact the female/couple on their behalf then get abusive when I decline

The women were supposedly friends, needless to say they went straight on the block list!

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"I'd rather any man who has met me, blocks me if he goes on to meet others.

I don't go all Fatal Attraction esque on their arse, i just feel deeply wounded that my fanny was not the cock magnet i was led to believe it was. I'm happier in denial.

That may make me weird, odd, whatever. I can live wirh that.

Don't get it. You're on a swinging site. Why should a guy be obliged to only fuck you once he's met with you? Or have I misunderstood you completely?

Nobody is obliged to fuck only me. I just take myself of the table if they do go on to meet others. And if they do meet others i'd rather not know about it.

It may be a swinging site but i'm not and have never proclaimed to be during this time (or my previous time) on site, a swinger and that's not how i use the site.

But again ......... Your profile doesn't indicate you expect someone you meet ot automatically become exclusive to you. Not sure that's a fair assumption even more so when you don't even specify it in your profile.

A little bit of jealousy is common ("oh you had a meet last night and didn't choose me" type of stuff) but you're being unreasonable by expecting monogamy on a sex site UNLESS you specify it in our profile and your lover agrees to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I’ve had this lots of times.

To fuck everyone I’m friends with on Fab at the rate of one a week would take two years and it’s not possible. But it’s hard to be friendly and have a laugh without raising expectations. "

Beautifully put!

I encountered this more when I was single.

I seem to be doing ok as a married woman? Or perhaps I'm quicker on the block button? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. One of the benefits of being unpopular!

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

If I like them (and if I’ve met them I probably do like them) then I love reading their verifications from others. I may be envious of their fun especially if I have been unable to go out... but I love that they have been having fun without me in the same measure.

No one has ever sent me abuse about my verifications. Well they may have done but it would be deleted before it had even registered in my consciousness

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris not on show now.

I displayed one from a guy I met and within a day had lots of horrid messages from one of his previous meets.

Basically she was not happy I had met her 'guy'!!!

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Veris not on show now.

I displayed one from a guy I met and within a day had lots of horrid messages from one of his previous meets.

Basically she was not happy I had met her 'guy'!!!

It's great isn't it.....NOT

My ex looks at my profile (he's blocked me) and when I get veris off new people they and my friends then get shitty nasty random messages about me!!! Real sad and much have a boring life lol

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'd been chatting with someone for a while, but due to timing & location arranging to meet, just for a social was proving pretty hard.

I have set free days when I'm childfree & I tend to plan those weeks in advance.

After a couple of recent social events, I received a couple of veris from people I'd chatted with there.

Then a shitty message from the guy, asking why I could find time to go out but not meet him.

I'd told him much earlier in our conversations, I'd already planned those nights out.

Oh well, block & move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you guys, male or female, have problems when you put up a new verification from your Fab friends who thought maybe they were next on the list, or thought they had you all to them self? "

Yes OP I have encountered this to an extent. Where I’ve met with guys had a verification and then received messages from people I’ve previously met questioning when my meet was and why didn’t I contact them first as they were free!

I ldo meet some people more than once but I like variety and shouldn’t have to think twice about posting a Veri for fear of offending someone

MrsK x

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