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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering if it’s ‘the norm’

We received a message from a couple, answered that they were not for us but thanks anyway and they have blocked us straightaway??

Do many people do this??

Ms B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup a lot of people sulk. Even worse is when they block because you didn’t reply within 2 minutes

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By *ungrycplCouple
over a year ago

WORCESTER

Sometimes people block so they don't make the mistake of messaging you again so don't take it personally. It can actually be used as a way to respect you and not bother you again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they aren't for you then no need to look at their profile again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats a message lol

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I do block if is someone I don't plan to meet ever . That way I don't appear on their search. Also people forget and keep messaging . Is easier for both sides in my view .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, it's always Norman that does the blocking. We've stopped messaging couples where the guy is called Norm just for this reason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your answers makes sense about not messaging again and coming up in searches etc

I was just curious as I see so many people saying they don’t get messages back even if it’s a ‘no thanks’ and we always reply to messages to be polite but never got blocked instantly before lol

As for norm he’s an annoying twat

Ms B

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Just wondering if it’s ‘the norm’

We received a message from a couple, answered that they were not for us but thanks anyway and they have blocked us straightaway??

Do many people do this??

Ms B "

Yes, but it's not as sinister as you think.

Blocking is a good way of removing unsuitable people from your feed.

If a bloke or couple contact us, or even look at our profile, but they're not what we are after, we block them simply to avoid them muddying the water in future.

We've done this for a long time and it means our inbox, winks, friends requests and 'looked at you' lists have filled up with the people we think are hotties.

It's never gonna happen with some people, so blocking them is a good way of getting them out of the frame.

It's not a malicious thing. It's a data management thing, no different to ticking a box ensuring gay guys or people under/over a certain age can contact you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive said no to women and couples before but never blocked them, its always been the other way around to be honest, ive had a few nasty messages towards my no thank you and then been blocked before i can even respond, its a typical response when you cant handle a no and can dish it out but cant take it

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Ive said no to women and couples before but never blocked them, its always been the other way around to be honest, ive had a few nasty messages towards my no thank you and then been blocked before i can even respond, its a typical response when you cant handle a no and can dish it out but cant take it "

And that's exactly why so many choose to simply block instead of going through the hassle of saying 'no thanks'.

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By *adyLucknGamblersCouple
over a year ago

Harwich / Colchester

We use the 'Note' option helps instead of blocking lol

As we believe in never say never as There's been occasions when you can look at a profile or go by messages and think 'not for us' then bump into them at a club or house party and think completely different.

Using the note option you can copy and paste previous messages without giving to keep them as a reminder or add your Personal notes accordingly.

Lady x LLnG

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We use the 'Note' option helps instead of blocking lol

As we believe in never say never as There's been occasions when you can look at a profile or go by messages and think 'not for us' then bump into them at a club or house party and think completely different.

Using the note option you can copy and paste previous messages without giving to keep them as a reminder or add your Personal notes accordingly.

Lady x LLnG

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that's a really good option! Thanks for that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive said no to women and couples before but never blocked them, its always been the other way around to be honest, ive had a few nasty messages towards my no thank you and then been blocked before i can even respond, its a typical response when you cant handle a no and can dish it out but cant take it

And that's exactly why so many choose to simply block instead of going through the hassle of saying 'no thanks'."
I think its rude, id rather recieve a no thanks than recieve a block for no reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally block someone if I have messaged them and the message has been read and deleted,obviously they are not interested so saves me messaging them again in the future unknowingly that I have been ignored before

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Ive said no to women and couples before but never blocked them, its always been the other way around to be honest, ive had a few nasty messages towards my no thank you and then been blocked before i can even respond, its a typical response when you cant handle a no and can dish it out but cant take it

And that's exactly why so many choose to simply block instead of going through the hassle of saying 'no thanks'. I think its rude, id rather recieve a no thanks than recieve a block for no reason."

But it isn't for no reason - they don't want to meet you, so there's no point in or risking wasting yours and their time with any further contact. You've had nasty messages, so surely you can understand how they would rather block than risk receiving rejection abuse?

Or maybe they don't have all the time in the day to reply to every message they get?

All blocking is is a tool to stop wasting each other's time, that's it. It's nothing dodgy or sinister, personal or rude. It's just another, and much quicker, way of saying "No thank you".

If you would rather use the site's tools differently then that is your choice, others, myself included, find them very helpful to save time and remove the risk of shit getting thrown if a person thinks they are entitled to a shag just because they have set up an account.

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