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"We do get a bad rep, every single lady I've arranged to meet on here has turned up. But every couple I've arranged to meet has let me down, and they seem to be the ones that whinge the most about timewasters. Ironic innit?" Exactly my experience on this site..... Although on other sites I have met couples.... I am pleased it's not just me, I was getting a complex | |||
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"We do get a bad rep, every single lady I've arranged to meet on here has turned up. But every couple I've arranged to meet has let me down, and they seem to be the ones that whinge the most about timewasters. Ironic innit? Exactly my experience on this site..... Although on other sites I have met couples.... I am pleased it's not just me, I was getting a complex " bugger I was too slow on this 1 if I had been quicker to post could have been sandwiched between you and max now that would have been a turn up xx | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers " No.. Its what you make of it... | |||
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"We do get a bad rep, every single lady I've arranged to meet on here has turned up. But every couple I've arranged to meet has let me down, and they seem to be the ones that whinge the most about timewasters. Ironic innit?" well now as a couple I can honestly say that this so far with regard to the single fellas has been very true, not complaining mind as we have been having a ball.......couples as yet though have only talked the talk | |||
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"Hi, we've been let down on more than one occasion on this site by singles! The main reason we joined this site was to remain in contact with friends we had met at our local swingers club (tease2). We have had no success stories to report from this site just a series of time wasting fools. Do remember! Other sites charge for services that are offered freely here and unfortunately with that you are going to have fake accounts with people misrepresenting themselves. Hazel." Stunning! x | |||
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"The honest answer is yes, there are time wasters and yes there are genuine people.... We have accept, that for every meet we can arrange there are probably 10 that blow up in our face... Just don't expect a meet every time is a good way of avoiding disappointment " Noooooooooooooooooo. Want great sex every time. | |||
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"The honest answer is yes, there are time wasters and yes there are genuine people.... We have accept, that for every meet we can arrange there are probably 10 that blow up in our face... Just don't expect a meet every time is a good way of avoiding disappointment Noooooooooooooooooo. Want great sex every time. " I wish you all the luck in the world | |||
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"The honest answer is yes, there are time wasters and yes there are genuine people.... We have accept, that for every meet we can arrange there are probably 10 that blow up in our face... Just don't expect a meet every time is a good way of avoiding disappointment Noooooooooooooooooo. Want great sex every time. I wish you all the luck in the world " Oh what a gent. I wiil take that luck (will need it) and return it thricefold (even though you keep having a go at us poor simple cornish folk) | |||
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"The honest answer is yes, there are time wasters and yes there are genuine people.... We have accept, that for every meet we can arrange there are probably 10 that blow up in our face... Just don't expect a meet every time is a good way of avoiding disappointment Noooooooooooooooooo. Want great sex every time. I wish you all the luck in the world Oh what a gent. I wiil take that luck (will need it) and return it thricefold (even though you keep having a go at us poor simple cornish folk) " Don't you buggers get an EC grant to assist with travel costs for swinging? As for the thrice fold luck, I bloody need it!! So cheers | |||
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"the really incredibly sexy ones seem to be mostly fakes (cries)" Yes. The old addage of if it looks too good to be true it is. Lol | |||
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"The honest answer is yes, there are time wasters and yes there are genuine people.... We have accept, that for every meet we can arrange there are probably 10 that blow up in our face... Just don't expect a meet every time is a good way of avoiding disappointment Noooooooooooooooooo. Want great sex every time. I wish you all the luck in the world Oh what a gent. I wiil take that luck (will need it) and return it thricefold (even though you keep having a go at us poor simple cornish folk) Don't you buggers get an EC grant to assist with travel costs for swinging? As for the thrice fold luck, I bloody need it!! So cheers" Oh I wish! Will ask court for human rights lol | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers " "people"? "genuine swingers?" whats them then? | |||
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"plenty plenty plenty of non fakeytimewasters- just do ur research better, and effective judgement" this... sort of!! I do wonder sometimes how people do go about doing there "due diligence" on people they are looking at meeting... the people i meet at clubs don't tend to timewaste and the people I meet at socials don't tent to timewaste either... if I am not sure.. I keep talking to people till I am if people seem too good to be true.. I take my time.... has it possibly cost me meets.. probably, but I can also could the amount of timewasters I have had on one hand in the 7yrs ish I have been on sites like this.... | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers "people"? "genuine swingers?" whats them then? " i think yo have to attend the midnight initiation and get taught the secret handshake. | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers "people"? "genuine swingers?" whats them then? i think yo have to attend the midnight initiation and get taught the secret handshake. " sounds kinky..where ? when? | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers "people"? "genuine swingers?" whats them then? i think yo have to attend the midnight initiation and get taught the secret handshake. sounds kinky..where ? when? " Yo have to fuck a bi geordie woman to get invited | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers "people"? "genuine swingers?" whats them then? i think yo have to attend the midnight initiation and get taught the secret handshake. sounds kinky..where ? when? Yo have to fuck a bi geordie woman to get invited " ~~~~~~ not being a member of that club, last time I did that, I lost me watch..... | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers "people"? "genuine swingers?" whats them then? i think yo have to attend the midnight initiation and get taught the secret handshake. sounds kinky..where ? when? Yo have to fuck a bi geordie woman to get invited ~~~~~~ not being a member of that club, last time I did that, I lost me watch..... " Should take better care fisting then | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers "people"? "genuine swingers?" whats them then? i think yo have to attend the midnight initiation and get taught the secret handshake. sounds kinky..where ? when? Yo have to fuck a bi geordie woman to get invited ~~~~~~ not being a member of that club, last time I did that, I lost me watch..... Should take better care fisting then " Sorry about the 07.30am alarm by the way..... on a more positive note, at least its a vibrating alarm... | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers "people"? "genuine swingers?" whats them then? i think yo have to attend the midnight initiation and get taught the secret handshake. sounds kinky..where ? when? Yo have to fuck a bi geordie woman to get invited ~~~~~~ not being a member of that club, last time I did that, I lost me watch..... Should take better care fisting then Sorry about the 07.30am alarm by the way..... on a more positive note, at least its a vibrating alarm..." Its ok,i took it down the pawn shop,needed to refill the bath with coal | |||
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"hi everyone had them, and more and more it's happening and single guys get a bad rep for this but i've notice it from reading Ppl's threads that couples let ppl down too? so question is the site a place for ppl to mess around with genuine swingers " I have been on the site for quite a long time and have never had a Fake or Timewaster.....maybe you just have a different concept of what a Timewaster is than I do? To me it's not just someone who doesn't want to meet me. | |||
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"Why is there not a forum where members can name & shame timewasters? They will obviously have the right of reply & then everyone can make up their own mind about who to believe. The current arrangement is clearly unsatisfactory. The fact that there is so much talk about the problem suggests that it is an issue. Having reported people guilty of time wasting on the "Report Forum" nothing appears to have been done. I appreciate that its impossible from the outside to uncover the actual truth of an accusation which is why a new forum might provide a platform for people to vent their frustrations on timewasters but would importantly also allow the accused a right of reply. " A very small minority of people use the form,a small proportion of those call others timewasters and have a recurring problem.Hardly worth setting up an impossible to police form. As has been said before if you seem to have a number of meets that fall through its probably worth reconsidering your selection criteria. | |||
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"Good for you but the majority of people seem to have encountered timwasters. In our experience these are guys (usually single) who approach us assuring us of their enthusiasm & reliability only to not appear on the night they have virtually begged to obtain. We are not newbies at this and are far from gullible but there are clearly many people out there making this whole business extremely difficult for the genuine ones. The trouble is that at present they seem to be able to mess people about on this site with total impunity. They have anonimity " i find single guys the most reliable,not that i have ever found couples a problem,but there are more likely to be issues with work,babysitting ect.A single guy after establishing we are interested it tends to be a quick call and arrangements are made.Again,if this happens consistently i wud suggest look at how you choose meets. You say the majority have encountered timewasters...very few people i know have had more than one no show. | |||
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"I don't agree that this would be impossible to police. Nor do I think it is a minority problem. The fact that it gets regularly featured in postings suggests that it is most definitely not. Abusive, rude or threatening postings could be deleted without any great problem but it would provide an outlet for the deep frustrations caused by timewasters. Currently these people seem to be able to continue without incurring any penalties whatsoever. That cannot be right. As for those people lucky enou" Dependant on what your definition of said people are of course | |||
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"Dependant on what your definition of said people are of course " Of course there are different definitions of what timewasting is. Which is why the site administrators have a thankless task in trying to adjudicate on cases brought to their attention - leaving people who do bring complaints to their attention with the feeling that nothing is done. My suggestion is therefore that they do not entertain any complaints of this type & simply allow the members themselves to place their complaints in a public domain. With a right to reply everyone can therefor judge whether there is any merit in the complaint. My view is that this would be better than allowing this sort of behaviour to continue unchallenged. | |||
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"Dependant on what your definition of said people are of course Of course there are different definitions of what timewasting is. Which is why the site administrators have a thankless task in trying to adjudicate on cases brought to their attention - leaving people who do bring complaints to their attention with the feeling that nothing is done. My suggestion is therefore that they do not entertain any complaints of this type & simply allow the members themselves to place their complaints in a public domain. With a right to reply everyone can therefor judge whether there is any merit in the complaint. My view is that this would be better than allowing this sort of behaviour to continue unchallenged." A kangaroo court will not work in my opinion...now just before i mull over what you have put, will there be stocks n public floggings? | |||
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"Some people must have a knack for attracting timewasters....like a magnet. Because I have enjoyed many succesful meets through the site, with both men and couples, but I seem to be immune from this 'massive' problem. Or maybe, just maybe, I go about the whole chatting/phoning/meeting people thing in a more sensible way than some?" Havent had one either, im beginning to feel left out | |||
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"Some people must have a knack for attracting timewasters....like a magnet. Because I have enjoyed many succesful meets through the site, with both men and couples, but I seem to be immune from this 'massive' problem. Or maybe, just maybe, I go about the whole chatting/phoning/meeting people thing in a more sensible way than some?Havent had one either, im beginning to feel left out " We should take it up with Admin....they might just be neglecting our rights. Feckers! | |||
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"Dependant on what your definition of said people are of course Of course there are different definitions of what timewasting is. Which is why the site administrators have a thankless task in trying to adjudicate on cases brought to their attention - leaving people who do bring complaints to their attention with the feeling that nothing is done. My suggestion is therefore that they do not entertain any complaints of this type & simply allow the members themselves to place their complaints in a public domain. With a right to reply everyone can therefor judge whether there is any merit in the complaint. My view is that this would be better than allowing this sort of behaviour to continue unchallenged.A kangaroo court will not work in my opinion...now just before i mull over what you have put, will there be stocks n public floggings? " Oh maybe an online judge judy too...I would love that lol. Public flogging? There are plenty on here who would sign up for that without committing any misdemeners. Lol | |||
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"Some people must have a knack for attracting timewasters....like a magnet. Because I have enjoyed many succesful meets through the site, with both men and couples, but I seem to be immune from this 'massive' problem. Or maybe, just maybe, I go about the whole chatting/phoning/meeting people thing in a more sensible way than some?" I think you have actually supported my contention. Why is it the responsibility of those of us who are on the site for genuine reasons to have to take so much effort to ensure we avoid timewasters? We all discuss our strategies but ultimately it involves some degree of luck whether the person(s)actually bother turning up on the night. If I deliberately misled you, jumping through all your "sensible" hoops & then simply not appeared as agreed why should my behaviour not be brought to wider attention? | |||
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"Yes....." I was undecided, but your argument has won me over | |||
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"Some people must have a knack for attracting timewasters....like a magnet. Because I have enjoyed many succesful meets through the site, with both men and couples, but I seem to be immune from this 'massive' problem. Or maybe, just maybe, I go about the whole chatting/phoning/meeting people thing in a more sensible way than some? I think you have actually supported my contention. Why is it the responsibility of those of us who are on the site for genuine reasons to have to take so much effort to ensure we avoid timewasters? We all discuss our strategies but ultimately it involves some degree of luck whether the person(s)actually bother turning up on the night. If I deliberately misled you, jumping through all your "sensible" hoops & then simply not appeared as agreed why should my behaviour not be brought to wider attention? " Errrrr....because I might be making up the fact that you let me down? | |||
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"Dependant on what your definition of said people are of course Of course there are different definitions of what timewasting is. Which is why the site administrators have a thankless task in trying to adjudicate on cases brought to their attention - leaving people who do bring complaints to their attention with the feeling that nothing is done. My suggestion is therefore that they do not entertain any complaints of this type & simply allow the members themselves to place their complaints in a public domain. With a right to reply everyone can therefor judge whether there is any merit in the complaint. My view is that this would be better than allowing this sort of behaviour to continue unchallenged.A kangaroo court will not work in my opinion...now just before i mull over what you have put, will there be stocks n public floggings? Oh maybe an online judge judy too...I would love that lol. Public flogging? There are plenty on here who would sign up for that without committing any misdemeners. Lol" Me me me me !!!! | |||
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"Incidentally I am not talking about a "kangeroo court". A court has the power to decide guilt & impose penalties. This would be a forum where both sides would be able to post a problem leaving readers to come to form their own decision. If however regular complaints were posted about the same individual then you could draw a conclusion. It would certainly be useful information if you are considering a meeting with this person. " So whats to stop people from fibbing? | |||
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"Some people must have a knack for attracting timewasters....like a magnet. Because I have enjoyed many succesful meets through the site, with both men and couples, but I seem to be immune from this 'massive' problem. Or maybe, just maybe, I go about the whole chatting/phoning/meeting people thing in a more sensible way than some? I think you have actually supported my contention. Why is it the responsibility of those of us who are on the site for genuine reasons to have to take so much effort to ensure we avoid timewasters? We all discuss our strategies but ultimately it involves some degree of luck whether the person(s)actually bother turning up on the night. If I deliberately misled you, jumping through all your "sensible" hoops & then simply not appeared as agreed why should my behaviour not be brought to wider attention? Errrrr....because I might be making up the fact that you let me down?" Errrr....that is why there needs to be a right of reply!!! | |||
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"Incidentally I am not talking about a "kangeroo court". A court has the power to decide guilt & impose penalties. This would be a forum where both sides would be able to post a problem leaving readers to come to form their own decision. If however regular complaints were posted about the same individual then you could draw a conclusion. It would certainly be useful information if you are considering a meeting with this person. So whats to stop people from fibbing?" They haven't thought that bit out Femme! | |||
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"Some people must have a knack for attracting timewasters....like a magnet. Because I have enjoyed many succesful meets through the site, with both men and couples, but I seem to be immune from this 'massive' problem. Or maybe, just maybe, I go about the whole chatting/phoning/meeting people thing in a more sensible way than some? I think you have actually supported my contention. Why is it the responsibility of those of us who are on the site for genuine reasons to have to take so much effort to ensure we avoid timewasters? We all discuss our strategies but ultimately it involves some degree of luck whether the person(s)actually bother turning up on the night. If I deliberately misled you, jumping through all your "sensible" hoops & then simply not appeared as agreed why should my behaviour not be brought to wider attention? Errrrr....because I might be making up the fact that you let me down? Errrr....that is why there needs to be a right of reply!!!" Have you seen some of the replies in the club review section? It gets really childish and petty when someone gives their favourite club or host a bad or nediocre review, then it all seems to descend into petty squabbling and insults...makes me feel our decision not to ever use clubs is entirely justified...it would be exactly the same with that... Anyway-we're grown ups using and adult site to choose potential sexual partners, why isn't it our own responsibility to use our own judgement and common sense to pick and choose who we meet? You may get the odd bad penny but ultimately, it's our responsibility to take care of ourselves-not the site owners who after all only provide the means for like minded people to contact each other to form their own contracts and agreements...all the site is is a conduit-pure and simple...not a dating agency who vet users from the off | |||
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" Have you seen some of the replies in the club review section? It gets really childish and petty when someone gives their favourite club or host a bad or nediocre review, then it all seems to descend into petty squabbling and insults...makes me feel our decision not to ever use clubs is entirely justified...it would be exactly the same with that... Anyway-we're grown ups using and adult site to choose potential sexual partners, why isn't it our own responsibility to use our own judgement and common sense to pick and choose who we meet? You may get the odd bad penny but ultimately, it's our responsibility to take care of ourselves-not the site owners who after all only provide the means for like minded people to contact each other to form their own contracts and agreements...all the site is is a conduit-pure and simple...not a dating agency who vet users from the off" Don't be daft. That would involve effort. Has anyone received the plate they were hoping it was going to be handed on yet? | |||
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" To me it's not just someone who doesn't want to meet me." Couldn't agree more... | |||
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"A very small minority of people use the forum,a small proportion of those call others timewasters and have a recurring problem.Hardly worth setting up an impossible to police forum. As has been said before if you seem to have a number of meets that fall through its probably worth reconsidering your selection criteria. " I totally agree. This is not an issue for members who take responsibility for their own selection of sexual partners. I only meet single males, and in three and a half years, I've NEVER had someone fail to turn up. Likewise, I have NEVER failed to turn up. But I choose my meets carefully As for a 'name and shame' forum, I most certainly do not support such a thing. As earlier posters have said, this would be open to malicious postings from people who are disappointed to be turned down for a meet. And a 'right of reply' is all very well, but since I'm not a timewaster, I wouldn't read such a Forum, so people could be slagging me off every day, for all I would know about it. And yes, I guess Admin could put in place a form of 'alert' to tell us when we've been named and shamed, but why on earth should they invest in this, when the site is mostly free (I note the OP is not a Site Supporter). There is already a way to report to Admin if someone has arranged a meet and failed to turn up. I'm sure Admin won't act on a single report, which could be malicious, but WILL act if they see a pattern of the same member being reported as a 'no show' by several different members. | |||
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" Have you seen some of the replies in the club review section? It gets really childish and petty when someone gives their favourite club or host a bad or nediocre review, then it all seems to descend into petty squabbling and insults...makes me feel our decision not to ever use clubs is entirely justified...it would be exactly the same with that... Anyway-we're grown ups using and adult site to choose potential sexual partners, why isn't it our own responsibility to use our own judgement and common sense to pick and choose who we meet? You may get the odd bad penny but ultimately, it's our responsibility to take care of ourselves-not the site owners who after all only provide the means for like minded people to contact each other to form their own contracts and agreements...all the site is is a conduit-pure and simple...not a dating agency who vet users from the off Don't be daft. That would involve effort. Has anyone received the plate they were hoping it was going to be handed on yet?" So who is asking this site to be anything other than a conduit? All I am asking is that they provide a forum where we can report bad experiences as well as good. Other sites manage to do this without it descending into vitriolic abuse. Why cant this one?? That would allow us a better platform for making a judgement when currently abusers can continue enjoying anonymity. Dont talk to me about making a common sense decision when there is information known to other people on this site (but not to me) about the bad penny's. This site is a soft touch for timewasters & it is putting genuine people off. A little bit more attention needs to be paid to finding a way to remove the abusers so as to improve the experience for us all. If anyone can come up with a better solution then great but to simply say "nothing can be done" is a cop out. | |||
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". " if you have that many problems then you could always retreat to those sites where you have the ability to name & shame | |||
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". if you have that many problems then you could always retreat to those sites where you have the ability to name & shame " Thats a constructive response | |||
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"Some people must have a knack for attracting timewasters....like a magnet. Because I have enjoyed many succesful meets through the site, with both men and couples, but I seem to be immune from this 'massive' problem. Or maybe, just maybe, I go about the whole chatting/phoning/meeting people thing in a more sensible way than some?Havent had one either, im beginning to feel left out " I've been on this site two years and not once encountered a fake or timewaster. I had a wonderful time when I was meeting...I think if I were constantly being stood up I'd look to how I was selecting people. | |||
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" If these people have time to spend giving others the runaround they can just close their account after every bit of malicious behaviour then open another and another and another.... " Exactly, those named and shamed would never be pinned down. At least if they are reported to admin under the current system, admin have the opportunity to delete their profile. | |||
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" Dont talk to me about making a common sense decision when there is information known to other people on this site (but not to me) about the bad penny's. This site is a soft touch for timewasters & it is putting genuine people off. A little bit more attention needs to be paid to finding a way to remove the abusers so as to improve the experience for us all. " just wanted to pull this bit out, because if for example someone is encountering timewasters... then isn't the common denominator in affect "you" as the person writing to them? so since "you" are in effect part of the problem, then "you" have to be part of the solution... so if you see a bench and it has a "wet paint" sign on it... and you touch it.... and its wet.... are you going to blame the bench, or the people who painted it??? there has to be an amount of personal responsibilty in all of this... and putting it all on "timewaster" doesn't always tackle the larger issue... if someone isn't working, then why is it not working? what can you change to make it work? ect ect ect.... I am not saying that anything is "100% proof" but for someone to try and say they are blameless doesn't help in the long run either... maybe i take things slower, maybe i get to know people more, maybe if there is a doubt in my head i listen to it.... and do you know what... I have learnt thru my mistakes and acted to say "thats not happening to me again" | |||
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" If anyone can come up with a better solution then great but to simply say "nothing can be done" is a cop out. " That isn 't what I said...what I said was that we personally don't need the site to nanny us...we haven't had any real problems with time wasters in our definition of the word and we take responsibility for our own choices and actions...it seems to work for us... | |||
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"Some people must have a knack for attracting timewasters....like a magnet. Because I have enjoyed many succesful meets through the site, with both men and couples, but I seem to be immune from this 'massive' problem. Or maybe, just maybe, I go about the whole chatting/phoning/meeting people thing in a more sensible way than some?Havent had one either, im beginning to feel left out I've been on this site two years and not once encountered a fake or timewaster. I had a wonderful time when I was meeting...I think if I were constantly being stood up I'd look to how I was selecting people. " Glad to hear that your experiences have been an unqualified success - genuinely. Are you suggesting however that the great many people who complained about this problem are all authors of their own misfortune? We are many things but naive & gullible is not one of them. Nor do we think that the other people who have complained are either. Incidentally we have been members of this site for a number of years and can assure you that there are, sadly, a number of problematic members out there. We are wily enough to avoid them in virtually all occasions but the time it takes is massive. Whilst being genuine enthusiasts of this site we are not blind to its flaws. Yes there might be a cost to providing some type of forum for publicly logging negative reviews but there is a higher price in allowing timewasters & phoneys to remain members. | |||
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"Dependant on what your definition of said people are of course Of course there are different definitions of what timewasting is. Which is why the site administrators have a thankless task in trying to adjudicate on cases brought to their attention - leaving people who do bring complaints to their attention with the feeling that nothing is done. My suggestion is therefore that they do not entertain any complaints of this type & simply allow the members themselves to place their complaints in a public domain. With a right to reply everyone can therefor judge whether there is any merit in the complaint. My view is that this would be better than allowing this sort of behaviour to continue unchallenged.A kangaroo court will not work in my opinion...now just before i mull over what you have put, will there be stocks n public floggings? " ohhhhh please..... | |||
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" Reading over this topic it seems to be the general view that the status quo remains meaning that the timewasters can continue to mess people around without either interference or fear of identification. Nothing can be done & indeed there are now a couple of suggestions that we disappear to other sites for pushing the argument that there is a problem. Lets put this simply. We are a real couple who are absolutely reliable (have a look at our verifications). WE ARE NOT THE ENEMY. In fact we are committed supporters of this site and have been for a number of years. Dont waste your time assaulting us when there is a very real problem with people abusing the very concept of this site by wasting the time of the genuine members. Get upset at them - not us. And if my suggestion is not supported then come up with something better. " HOLD YA HORSES No one is attacking or trying to assault you at all, we are merely disagreeing with the idea of a Kangaroo court. It can cause more harm than good. Yes there are a problem with folks who waste other peoples time but although a nuisance surely it makes the time you spend with genuine couples more exciting. I am afraid until we get a system in place then it a case of put up and shut up. Not Ideal but your idea will villa fie people who may not necessarily deserve that sort of hassle. This after all is suppose to be a sideline ( excuse that couldn't think of anything better to use) than a way of life. Maybe playing means more to some than to others??? | |||
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