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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I had a message from a guy wanting to take me on a dinner date, which is great, he’d read my profile and seemed (at face value) a possible match for what I’m looking for. Within 4 messages that dinner date had changed without any encouragement or flirting to asking if the first meet could be me naked and blindfolded waiting for him and couldn’t remove my blindfold until after.

How much to people just say they want what your profile says but actually want something very different? Is it so hard for guys on here that they’ll try to meet anyway they can and under false pretences?

For me, honesty all the way. Cba with games

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find saying what I mean just gets me in too much trouble....

But then as I don't usually txt anyone first on here...thst may not be what you want to know

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"I had a message from a guy wanting to take me on a dinner date, which is great, he’d read my profile and seemed (at face value) a possible match for what I’m looking for. Within 4 messages that dinner date had changed without any encouragement or flirting to asking if the first meet could be me naked and blindfolded waiting for him and couldn’t remove my blindfold until after.

How much to people just say they want what your profile says but actually want something very different? Is it so hard for guys on here that they’ll try to meet anyway they can and under false pretences?

For me, honesty all the way. Cba with games "
every guy on here lol, been here for 8 years, know and experience D it all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed I get many messages asking for innocent socials. I’m always upfront about things, and explain why it’s will only be a social.

Then it starts with what will you wear, can you not wear undies.

If you like me can we go back to yours etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a message from a guy wanting to take me on a dinner date, which is great, he’d read my profile and seemed (at face value) a possible match for what I’m looking for. Within 4 messages that dinner date had changed without any encouragement or flirting to asking if the first meet could be me naked and blindfolded waiting for him and couldn’t remove my blindfold until after.

How much to people just say they want what your profile says but actually want something very different? Is it so hard for guys on here that they’ll try to meet anyway they can and under false pretences?

For me, honesty all the way. Cba with games "

Jesus, was that on the menu, some restaurant!

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"I find saying what I mean just gets me in too much trouble....

"

I’m a northerner so my honesty and directness often gets me in trouble

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"I had a message from a guy wanting to take me on a dinner date, which is great, he’d read my profile and seemed (at face value) a possible match for what I’m looking for. Within 4 messages that dinner date had changed without any encouragement or flirting to asking if the first meet could be me naked and blindfolded waiting for him and couldn’t remove my blindfold until after.

How much to people just say they want what your profile says but actually want something very different? Is it so hard for guys on here that they’ll try to meet anyway they can and under false pretences?

For me, honesty all the way. Cba with games

Jesus, was that on the menu, some restaurant! "

Yeah but don’t worry the restaurant comes with a view. Oh sorry you can’t see it with that blindfold on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a message from a guy wanting to take me on a dinner date, which is great, he’d read my profile and seemed (at face value) a possible match for what I’m looking for. Within 4 messages that dinner date had changed without any encouragement or flirting to asking if the first meet could be me naked and blindfolded waiting for him and couldn’t remove my blindfold until after.

How much to people just say they want what your profile says but actually want something very different? Is it so hard for guys on here that they’ll try to meet anyway they can and under false pretences?

For me, honesty all the way. Cba with games

Jesus, was that on the menu, some restaurant!

Yeah but don’t worry the restaurant comes with a view. Oh sorry you can’t see it with that blindfold on

"

Obviously the only answer to that is predictably...."who'd be looking at the restaurant view with you there"...I'll fetch my coat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it speaks volumes about the level of control someone has of their own mouth. I find self censorship really difficult, but I know when to stop flirting and bring the pace of stuff down.

She's much the same, we don't beat around the bush, but we are on a swinging website, so we are at least thinking about taking things further if we're thinking about a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so many new things happens in here.. one cannot imagine.i learn a new thing every day here. thanks to fab having concept of forum designed well.. and contributions from us which makes others know better about our surroundings, experiences and fantasies..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Personally I am usually so backwards in coming forwards (unless prompted) that it'd probably be me meaning a dinner date while she's wishing I'd get round to suggesting other stuff!!

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Personally I am usually so backwards in coming forwards (unless prompted) that it'd probably be me meaning a dinner date while she's wishing I'd get round to suggesting other stuff!! "

I’m not afraid of saying get your cock out love . At least be upfront about what you want, don’t hide behind what you think someone wants to hear would be good

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Personally I am usually so backwards in coming forwards (unless prompted) that it'd probably be me meaning a dinner date while she's wishing I'd get round to suggesting other stuff!!

I’m not afraid of saying get your cock out love . At least be upfront about what you want, don’t hide behind what you think someone wants to hear would be good "

Oh I agree 100% about being upfront - I'm just old school in believing in waiting for the right moment and also a little shy in that respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pretty much always say exactly what I mean.

It gets me into trouble from time to time, but it's much preferable to the alternative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a message from a guy wanting to take me on a dinner date, which is great, he’d read my profile and seemed (at face value) a possible match for what I’m looking for. Within 4 messages that dinner date had changed without any encouragement or flirting to asking if the first meet could be me naked and blindfolded waiting for him and couldn’t remove my blindfold until after.

How much to people just say they want what your profile says but actually want something very different? Is it so hard for guys on here that they’ll try to meet anyway they can and under false pretences?

For me, honesty all the way. Cba with games "

It sounds like his inner fantasist escaped and he couldnt get him back in the box

I really don't like lies and think they are so unnecessary.. What's the point? How can you ever find people that want what you want, if you can't be honest about it!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agreed I get many messages asking for innocent socials. I’m always upfront about things, and explain why it’s will only be a social.

Then it starts with what will you wear, can you not wear undies.

If you like me can we go back to yours etc.

"

I never thought about that. I chat with a few lovely ladies on here and have suggested completely no obligation meets purely because I prefer chatting face to face over a coffee or whatever. Now I see maybe why they have politely declined...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use fab as a sandpit to practice my tact and diplomacy skills (which are not highly developed), but yes, guys often parrot my profile back to me with no intention of carrying thro, then seem very surprised when I call them on their bs.

On a slight tangent, I am often shocked by the lack of consideration and respect that men show on here. I am seriously wondering how much guys get away with when dealing with others.

Disappearing 48 hours before a meet is a favourite. Because we all now hard it can be to fit that 20 second text into a busy business day..

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Agreed I get many messages asking for innocent socials. I’m always upfront about things, and explain why it’s will only be a social.

Then it starts with what will you wear, can you not wear undies.

If you like me can we go back to yours etc.

I never thought about that. I chat with a few lovely ladies on here and have suggested completely no obligation meets purely because I prefer chatting face to face over a coffee or whatever. Now I see maybe why they have politely declined..."

I was chatting to a guy and we agreed to have a social. That for me is a neutral and public place. He then asked when I was popping round to his for a quick coffee. Two of his veris both said it was only meant to be a social at his but...yeah I didn’t fall for that one

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"I use fab as a sandpit to practice my tact and diplomacy skills (which are not highly developed), but yes, guys often parrot my profile back to me with no intention of carrying thro, then seem very surprised when I call them on their bs.

On a slight tangent, I am often shocked by the lack of consideration and respect that men show on here. I am seriously wondering how much guys get away with when dealing with others.

Disappearing 48 hours before a meet is a favourite. Because we all now hard it can be to fit that 20 second text into a busy business day.."

That 20 second text! Really depends on your job and state of mind at the time, I have been there and have been left with ball breaking pain and an erection leaving me unable to walk properly! So sometimes....that 20 second text can wait!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think, why lie on here. No one knows who you are anyway, what's the point in lying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always think, why lie on here. No one knows who you are anyway, what's the point in lying?"

Because all men are absolutely desperate apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I use fab as a sandpit to practice my tact and diplomacy skills (which are not highly developed), but yes, guys often parrot my profile back to me with no intention of carrying thro, then seem very surprised when I call them on their bs.

On a slight tangent, I am often shocked by the lack of consideration and respect that men show on here. I am seriously wondering how much guys get away with when dealing with others.

Disappearing 48 hours before a meet is a favourite. Because we all now hard it can be to fit that 20 second text into a busy business day..

That 20 second text! Really depends on your job and state of mind at the time, I have been there and have been left with ball breaking pain and an erection leaving me unable to walk properly! So sometimes....that 20 second text can wait!"

I see your point if it's a sext. I'm talking about the courteous 'looking forward to tomorrow, just reconfirming arrangements' text. I wouldn't expect you to need a full on erection to send that...unless you don't text with your fingers..

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Agreed I get many messages asking for innocent socials. I’m always upfront about things, and explain why it’s will only be a social.

Then it starts with what will you wear, can you not wear undies.

If you like me can we go back to yours etc.

I never thought about that. I chat with a few lovely ladies on here and have suggested completely no obligation meets purely because I prefer chatting face to face over a coffee or whatever. Now I see maybe why they have politely declined...

I was chatting to a guy and we agreed to have a social. That for me is a neutral and public place. He then asked when I was popping round to his for a quick coffee. Two of his veris both said it was only meant to be a social at his but...yeah I didn’t fall for that one "

It so irritates me when I agree to a social, suggest a pub in the middle and then they want to meet in the pub just round the corner from them 'cos it's really nice' (yeah right) even though I have told them a social means a social, they obviously do not accept that. It puts me right off.

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"I use fab as a sandpit to practice my tact and diplomacy skills (which are not highly developed), but yes, guys often parrot my profile back to me with no intention of carrying thro, then seem very surprised when I call them on their bs.

On a slight tangent, I am often shocked by the lack of consideration and respect that men show on here. I am seriously wondering how much guys get away with when dealing with others.

Disappearing 48 hours before a meet is a favourite. Because we all now hard it can be to fit that 20 second text into a busy business day..

That 20 second text! Really depends on your job and state of mind at the time, I have been there and have been left with ball breaking pain and an erection leaving me unable to walk properly! So sometimes....that 20 second text can wait!

I see your point if it's a sext. I'm talking about the courteous 'looking forward to tomorrow, just reconfirming arrangements' text. I wouldn't expect you to need a full on erection to send that...unless you don't text with your fingers.."

That's different and being an ageing 'fecker,' prefer to text with my fingers....the thought of using my penis and the problems of predictive text...I would not dare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I use fab as a sandpit to practice my tact and diplomacy skills (which are not highly developed), but yes, guys often parrot my profile back to me with no intention of carrying thro, then seem very surprised when I call them on their bs.

On a slight tangent, I am often shocked by the lack of consideration and respect that men show on here. I am seriously wondering how much guys get away with when dealing with others.

Disappearing 48 hours before a meet is a favourite. Because we all now hard it can be to fit that 20 second text into a busy business day..

That 20 second text! Really depends on your job and state of mind at the time, I have been there and have been left with ball breaking pain and an erection leaving me unable to walk properly! So sometimes....that 20 second text can wait!

I see your point if it's a sext. I'm talking about the courteous 'looking forward to tomorrow, just reconfirming arrangements' text. I wouldn't expect you to need a full on erection to send that...unless you don't text with your fingers..

That's different and being an ageing 'fecker,' prefer to text with my fingers....the thought of using my penis and the problems of predictive text...I would not dare"

Plus the issues about finding a quiet corner at work to do the penis texting...

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