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Why use ‘Cuckold’ in swinging ?

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By *ootle OP   Couple
over a year ago

Romford, Essex

Ok this may be a bit deep, but it does make me wonder why we use the word Cuckold in swinging circles. The word Cuckold originally comes from the French word for cuckoo (as in bird), because the female bird would often change mates (adulterer) and leave her eggs in another bird’s nest.

• The definition of cuckold in the modern dictionary is a man’s wife who has committed adultery, or is an unfaithful wife.

• An archaic term for a cuckold is a man who knows about his wife's infidelity but tolerates it.

Now, here’s the crux (if you haven't glazed over yet lol)

1. I neither see myself as unfaithful, as we are doing this together

2. We don’t consider swinging as committing adultery

3. My husband doesn’t ‘tolerate it’ he loves being part of it so he wouldn’t call or define himself as a ‘cuck’

So, what’s your opinion fabbers ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a phrase, I don't really care 2bh XXX

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

It means you aren't in the cuck scenario of play, like we aren't.

Hotwife = Yes.

Cuck = No.

Does Fab need a Hotwife interest = Absolutely (well over due, and well over looked...)

The term in swinging is absolutely right, just doesn't apply to all swinging scenarios.

IMHO.

Flames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you are reading too much into what is no one else's business but you own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you think it doesn't have a place in swinging? Just because it's not something you're into?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I thought the cuckold was the man who has to watch the bull fuck his wife?

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Words and phrases change meaning over time.

In today's swinging it doesn't have the archaic meaning. People are using one of many evolved meanings of the word.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Cuckold and swingers aren't synonymous. They are different activities. You can enjoy them separately or just one and not the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuckold in the swinging scene is a little more specific, and often has a lot to do with simulated humiliation of the husband, caged cock and verbally humiliated. Whilst his wife has sex with her boyfriend/bull in front of him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the word has evolved in to to well-documented, specific sexual scenario. Fairly obvious really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this may be a bit deep, but it does make me wonder why we use the word Cuckold in swinging circles. The word Cuckold originally comes from the French word for cuckoo (as in bird), because the female bird would often change mates (adulterer) and leave her eggs in another bird’s nest.

• The definition of cuckold in the modern dictionary is a man’s wife who has committed adultery, or is an unfaithful wife.

• An archaic term for a cuckold is a man who knows about his wife's infidelity but tolerates it.

Now, here’s the crux (if you haven't glazed over yet lol)

1. I neither see myself as unfaithful, as we are doing this together

2. We don’t consider swinging as committing adultery

3. My husband doesn’t ‘tolerate it’ he loves being part of it so he wouldn’t call or define himself as a ‘cuck’

So, what’s your opinion fabbers ?

"

What dictionary are you using?

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield


"Cuckold in the swinging scene is a little more specific, and often has a lot to do with simulated humiliation of the husband, caged cock and verbally humiliated. Whilst his wife has sex with her boyfriend/bull in front of him."

Only in your interpretation of what a cuckold relationship is.

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield


"Because the word has evolved in to to well-documented, specific sexual scenario. Fairly obvious really."

Except it hasn't... there is no universally accepted definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you say it is ? Or does it matter really...I suppose it does matter as its used by people and we might as well be clear!

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By *ootle OP   Couple
over a year ago

Romford, Essex

I would say it is a word that has been 'adopted' to identify a certain sexual practice/preference but would have to disagree that it is a well-documented sexual scenario.

For example, If we look at the word Gay – fifty years ago it meant to be happy or bright, and the word evolved to become something different and is now the accepted norm for something else and [gay] is clearly defined in many dictionaries.

But with the word Cuckold – it seems to me that it has not yet ‘evolved’ enough to warrant other definitions in the dictionary (Oxford and others), and I wondered why that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

English 101....

Words mean what you want them to mean

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London


"Because the word has evolved in to to well-documented, specific sexual scenario. Fairly obvious really.

Except it hasn't... there is no universally accepted definition."

So very true. Back when I was still single I was primarily interested in meeting couples into cuckolding roleplay. I learnt that it never meant the same thing twice. Every couple had their own interpretation and as an experienced Bull I saw it as my role to get to know the couple (which for me was part of the fun) and see what made them tick rather than make assumptions about what they wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the cuckold was the man who has to watch the bull fuck his wife? "

We understood cuckold to involve more than just watching. It includes humiliation of the cuck. Hence the term 'bull' - against some y, no-mark husband...

Just watching your wife being fucked is hot-wifing... which is what we enjoy most... that doesn't involve a 'bull'. In fact, we would avoid any male who uses that term in their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP is indeed correct in the origin of the word ‘cuckold’. Taken from the practices of the cuckoo bird who lays her eggs in another bird’s nest so that it is that hard labour of another bird to incubate the eggs and raise the chicks at the expense of their own chicks. I believe this word was used in yesteryear to describe the husband of an unfaithful wife who becomes pregnant with her lover’s child and passes the child off as as her husband’s, who then proceeds to put his own resources into raising another man’s child. It seems this word has been adopted by the swing and fetish’s scene as this scenario is quite a turn on for some. Obviously the word has evolved to cover a variety of scararios associated with a married woman having sex with other men with her partners enjoyment. However the word ‘cuckold’ is more associated with the more extreme, hence probably the introduction of the word ‘hotwifing’.

Mrs

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Ok this may be a bit deep, but it does make me wonder why we use the word Cuckold in swinging circles. The word Cuckold originally comes from the French word for cuckoo (as in bird), because the female bird would often change mates (adulterer) and leave her eggs in another bird’s nest.

• The definition of cuckold in the modern dictionary is a man’s wife who has committed adultery, or is an unfaithful wife.

• An archaic term for a cuckold is a man who knows about his wife's infidelity but tolerates it.

Now, here’s the crux (if you haven't glazed over yet lol)

1. I neither see myself as unfaithful, as we are doing this together

2. We don’t consider swinging as committing adultery

3. My husband doesn’t ‘tolerate it’ he loves being part of it so he wouldn’t call or define himself as a ‘cuck’

So, what’s your opinion fabbers ?

"

I bet you're fun at party's (joke) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the cuckold was the man who has to watch the bull fuck his wife?

We understood cuckold to involve more than just watching. It includes humiliation of the cuck. Hence the term 'bull' - against some y, no-mark husband...

Just watching your wife being fucked is hot-wifing... which is what we enjoy most... that doesn't involve a 'bull'. In fact, we would avoid any male who uses that term in their profile."

We're with you there. You've probably also noticed that the majority of men who term themselves 'a bull' don't have any verification's.

Always thought that the majority of 'cuckholding' is just guys wanking over the thought of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging definition in dictionary:-


"1. to cause to move in alternate directions or in either direction around a fixed point, on an axis, or on a line of support, as a door on hinges. 2. to move (the hand or something held) with an oscillating or rotary movement: to swing one's fists; to swing a club around one's head."

We take underused words and re-purpose them labels are a pain in the arse. But they give a start point in a profile.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester


"Ok this may be a bit deep, but it does make me wonder why we use the word Cuckold in swinging circles. The word Cuckold originally comes from the French word for cuckoo (as in bird), because the female bird would often change mates (adulterer) and leave her eggs in another bird’s nest.

• The definition of cuckold in the modern dictionary is a man’s wife who has committed adultery, or is an unfaithful wife.

• An archaic term for a cuckold is a man who knows about his wife's infidelity but tolerates it.

Now, here’s the crux (if you haven't glazed over yet lol)

1. I neither see myself as unfaithful, as we are doing this together

2. We don’t consider swinging as committing adultery

3. My husband doesn’t ‘tolerate it’ he loves being part of it so he wouldn’t call or define himself as a ‘cuck’

So, what’s your opinion fabbers ?

"

every couple is different as is every cuck couple and your post suggests your fella is not a cuck so don't associate yourself with the topic.

simple.

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Cuckold in the swinging scene is a little more specific, and often has a lot to do with simulated humiliation of the husband, caged cock and verbally humiliated. Whilst his wife has sex with her boyfriend/bull in front of him."
^^^^^ this. Like swinging just one person gets the sex though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"English 101....

Words mean what you want them to mean "

This kinda thinking gets people in trouble!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We appropriate language in ways that reflect the subtleties of our lives and small communities often adapt language to fit their circumstances - cuckold seems a very apt word to be used, rather than inappropriate.

In any event, the individual relationships have their own unique adoption of some cuckold principles, with people involved making it their own style. Long may it continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this may be a bit deep, but it does make me wonder why we use the word Cuckold in swinging circles. The word Cuckold originally comes from the French word for cuckoo (as in bird), because the female bird would often change mates (adulterer) and leave her eggs in another bird’s nest.

• The definition of cuckold in the modern dictionary is a man’s wife who has committed adultery, or is an unfaithful wife.

• An archaic term for a cuckold is a man who knows about his wife's infidelity but tolerates it.

Now, here’s the crux (if you haven't glazed over yet lol)

1. I neither see myself as unfaithful, as we are doing this together

2. We don’t consider swinging as committing adultery

3. My husband doesn’t ‘tolerate it’ he loves being part of it so he wouldn’t call or define himself as a ‘cuck’

So, what’s your opinion fabbers ?

"

I think you two are more a “stag & vixen” pair than anything else. Cuckolding is a quite specific set of scenarios and situations which people like get into.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I thought the cuckold was the man who has to watch the bull fuck his wife?

We understood cuckold to involve more than just watching. It includes humiliation of the cuck. Hence the term 'bull' - against some y, no-mark husband...

Just watching your wife being fucked is hot-wifing... which is what we enjoy most... that doesn't involve a 'bull'. In fact, we would avoid any male who uses that term in their profile.

We're with you there. You've probably also noticed that the majority of men who term themselves 'a bull' don't have any verification's.

Always thought that the majority of 'cuckholding' is just guys wanking over the thought of it."

nooooooo thats cock holding which can frquently be observed in chat rooms when there is a female on another cam lol

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By *oxyukCouple
over a year ago

hitchin


"It means you aren't in the cuck scenario of play, like we aren't.

Hotwife = Yes.

Cuck = No.

Does Fab need a Hotwife interest = Absolutely (well over due, and well over looked...)

The term in swinging is absolutely right, just doesn't apply to all swinging scenarios.

IMHO.

Same as us we have to put cuckold on our profile but we are way more a Hotwife couple.

We wish fab would recognise this term, its more popular than they probably think!

Flames"

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex

I feel sorry for those zplosh fans out there

Especially the ones whod run a mile from a tin of beans let alone a bath full of them !!

Phrases in sexual scenarios are specific for those that

find there niche .

All this it just evollved stuff means you are trying to placate the trendy next fad .

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

If it's a narrative for a sexy lady to flaunt her body at the mutual pleasure of her and her cuck, then why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm completely lost now ...

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple
over a year ago

manchester


"I feel sorry for those zplosh fans out there

Especially the ones whod run a mile from a tin of beans let alone a bath full of them !!

Phrases in sexual scenarios are specific for those that

find there niche . We fucked in a padding pool of warm custard once

All this it just evollved stuff means you are trying to placate the trendy next fad ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm completely lost now ..."

Ha ha - I reckon it’s simply the case that some of us guys like to have another guy in bed sur My sex with our wives: sometimes we watch and sometimes we join in. Simple!

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Cuckold in the swinging scene is a little more specific, and often has a lot to do with simulated humiliation of the husband, caged cock and verbally humiliated. Whilst his wife has sex with her boyfriend/bull in front of him. ^^^^^ this. Like swinging just one person gets the sex though "

Or feminising the cuck so that he is no longer masculine and therefore his wife is entitled to have a real man fuck her if her sissy hubby gets aroused dressed as she is dressed and therefore as a “woman” he Cannot satisfy his wife like a real man does, plus the sissy then cleans up a real mans cum and the sissy gets further humiliation by having to do her a real woman would do while a real man fucked her

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Think of it more as a role play thing. Once the seasion’s ended he’s no longer a cuck, unless of course they live it 24/7 inwhich case he’ll always be a cuck.

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By *ootle OP   Couple
over a year ago

Romford, Essex

This is my point really – if you ask 20 people what they think Cuckolding is you will get 20 different opinions – there is no real universal definition. But why not if there are so many couples who are into it ?

I (we) have never discussed this with another couple – not because we didn’t want to, but basically because we wouldn’t know what we were talking about (which is always the best time to keep one’s mouth firmly closed).

Anyway, the other couple would only be giving us their interpretation and of course we wouldn’t know if it was right or wrong without a proper definition.

Is the lack of definition or understanding because it’s a subject that’s not talked about or discussed openly like other sexual preferences/fantasies? And if not why not?

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex


"I feel sorry for those zplosh fans out there

Especially the ones whod run a mile from a tin of beans let alone a bath full of them !!

Phrases in sexual scenarios are specific for those that

find there niche .

We fucked in a padding pool of warm custard once

Doirty Buggers !!!

All this it just evollved stuff means you are trying to placate the trendy next fad ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"English 101....

Words mean what you want them to mean "

Is that like single and straight on fab?

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