FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

Exclusivity

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do some people seek exclusivity on a swingers site?

Is it just me that thinks Swinging is a non-monogamous social activity?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, it isn't just you but some people prefer exclusivity and as long as they're open about it I can't see a problem.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we can’t help our feelings.. some are just possessive.. we are just people.

Hope this answers your question

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ndianmale34Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex."

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *andyrainbowWoman
over a year ago

Mid Wales

I'd like to think this site has something for everyone. I personally would prefer an exclusive fwb. You can build up the trust, get comfortable around eachother and feel confident to speak up about trying new things. Once the benefits side of the friendship has run its course then there is nothing stopping you starting the search all over again. You still get a good friend at the end of it. That's just my opinion though.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ndianmale34Man
over a year ago

London/Kent


"I'd like to think this site has something for everyone. I personally would prefer an exclusive fwb. You can build up the trust, get comfortable around eachother and feel confident to speak up about trying new things. Once the benefits side of the friendship has run its course then there is nothing stopping you starting the search all over again. You still get a good friend at the end of it. That's just my opinion though. "

I fully endorse that. I am on here for a fwb and once I find her then thus site's job is done as far as I am concerned and I am off here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some people seek exclusivity on a swingers site?

Is it just me that thinks Swinging is a non-monogamous social activity?"

It's definitely not swinging.

Maybe there's an e-commerce opportunity for you. fabhookups.com fabfwb.com fabnsasex.com

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

This is starting to sound a like a relationship finding thread.

Could be wrong, but fwb, exclusivity, being comfy around each other, leaving the site once you find the one etc...

Sounds more like a significant other you're looking for. Just admit it to yourselves, you want to be in a relationship but hoping by meeting someone of here, it'll be with a dirty fucker between the sheets

Genuine question though, if you did find someone to be exclusive with, and left the site while you were fwbing together. Would you consider yourself swingers? Or are you just on a swingers site to come off when you find a partner?

Surely when you are coupled up, that's when the true swinging begins? The excitement of someone new, sharing your sexual experiences with others. The pleasure of you and your partner enjoying their sexual freedom?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre "

God you’re a troll.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre

God you’re a troll. "

He’s like a child craving attention

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be honest I believe that getting a connection with someone can only lead to better more exciting sex.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre

God you’re a troll.

He’s like a child craving attention "

Yep..... he has been most of the week

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm looking for a fwb that is exclusive except in clubs, I doubt I'll find it so I'm just having fun

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre

God you’re a troll. "

You have been targeting me since yesterday.. I understand we disagree on topics but there is no need for being nasty.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre

God you’re a troll.

You have been targeting me since yesterday.. I understand we disagree on topics but there is no need for being nasty. "

Pot, kettle, black......

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre

God you’re a troll.

You have been targeting me since yesterday.. I understand we disagree on topics but there is no need for being nasty.

Pot, kettle, black...... "

See...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now now children... play nice!

I don't think anyone has the right to say who can and can't be on this site. Whether you've been here for years or are a newbie it's totally irrelevant. Everyone has something different to offer and everyone is looking for their own thing. So, cest la vie?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive seen a lot of closed mindedness for such an open minded site lately. Maybe it's the January blues... who knows?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Many people found a loving relationship here ! I don't look for exclusivity but looking for someone who together we can explore!

Is not impossible ! Tinder etc is fuck and go , that's not for me , unless in a club , if I fancy it . We are all different but also I know a vanilla relationship is not for me .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Some people initially come for casual sex then stay on when their requirements change - nothing wrong with that, nsa gets boring.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am not suggesting the we should all be up for free love and banish any regular play mates, I was more refering to people on fab that expect you to delete your account and discontinue contact with others...

Swinging is a social way of life, not a controlled one

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Some people initially come for casual sex then stay on when their requirements change - nothing wrong with that, nsa gets boring. "

Exactly that's me. I want exclusively as far as other women are concerned,but not men.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some people seek exclusivity on a swingers site?

Is it just me that thinks Swinging is a non-monogamous social activity?"

if the sex is good and the connection is out of the world good why not

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I am not suggesting the we should all be up for free love and banish any regular play mates, I was more refering to people on fab that expect you to delete your account and discontinue contact with others...

Swinging is a social way of life, not a controlled one"

You don't want that, so you are simply incompatible with someone who does. For those who DO want that - it is not controlled at all, it's freedom!!

It ain't swinging, I grant you, but as in anything in life - some people grow or change and move on, some people stay.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Im actually getting put off meeting folk as thry alway want more than im willing to give. Clubs suit me better as its just great sex then good bye.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing more off putting then people who get clingy. I’ve met people off here that have tried to go full on relationship mode after meeting just one time.

A lass off here who I hardly know (one time sex) booked a restaurant and a film as a “surprise” and went psycho when I said I couldn’t make it. Another time a guy said he had feelings for me, after just one meet, and repeatedly messaged multiple times a day, every day asking if I was available, until I finally had to block him.

I really don’t like attachment at all. Friendship is cool yeah but there’s a boundary that a lot of people cross way too easily. It’s like they wanted a relationship all along

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone here is a swinger I guess, you could say all us singles aren’t really.

Some may choose to be exclusive for sexual health reasons too. They see it as being safer. They just happened to meet on here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre

God you’re a troll.

You have been targeting me since yesterday.. I understand we disagree on topics but there is no need for being nasty. "

The "shaadi.com" comment was really unnecessary to be honest.

If the poster was black would you have made that comment?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex.

It’s not the place.. try tinder even you will struggle on there to find exclusivity.. then try Shaadi.com or your local community centre

God you’re a troll.

You have been targeting me since yesterday.. I understand we disagree on topics but there is no need for being nasty.

The "shaadi.com" comment was really unnecessary to be honest.

If the poster was black would you have made that comment? "

that's why we called him out.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres nothing wrong at all with exclusivity.

That kind of situation would suit me perfectly as well.

All the naughty perks of being in a relationship without the drama and stress of one

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s no right way or wrong way to use this site, as long as it works for you and your happy with that then why worry what anyone else thinks.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s no right way or wrong way to use this site, as long as it works for you and your happy with that then why worry what anyone else thinks. "

Always this.

I'm not a swinger and I'm happy.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

I think there’s a broad spectrum of site users with different goals for what they want from the site. If you’re newly single and not long out of a long term relationship then I doubt you’ll be looking to dive into another long term relationship straight away unless you happen to meet someone very special. On the other hand if you’ve been single for a while, a longer term relationship might be just what you’re looking for.

There’s no right answer. As long as everyone’s clear about what they’re looking for, all should be good. I guess the wheels come off when you have mismatched expectations.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on here looking for just one FWB and not looking to meet loads of women. Regular fun with one lady leads to great sex."

I have regular sex with one man, and others have come and gone since meeting him. Having other people in our sex lives doesn't make our sex life less satisfying.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest about what you're looking for is a big help.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top