FabSwingers.com forum: Read message but no reply

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hate it when people read a message but don't reply or they just delete it simple no thanks would do

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Once you've sent a message, delete it from your sent box. Then you won't know how they treated it, only that they weren't interested if they don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the point? The lack of response translates to "no thanks" anyway, why do you want to see the words?

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive

Hate is a strong word...

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

A lot (but not all) of the time if you engage with a response you get grief or begging.

It's just not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A simple no thanks would do then i wont message them again

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

But for every 1 person who accepts the no thanks there's probably 2 or 3 who won't.

If you have 5 messages in your inbox to say no thanks to, its a pain in the arse.

A no thanks button like on that other site would be handy though

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By *enandlisaCouple
over a year ago

Burnley'ish

"A simple no thanks would do then i wont message them again "

Do you reply with “a simple no thanks” to every item of post that comes through your letterbox?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when people read a message but don't reply or they just delete it simple no thanks would do "

Get used to it, buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A simple no thanks would do then i wont message them again "

It's not up to the recipient to stop you from messaging them. We were told by a man "block me then I won't message you anymore, I can't remember all the people I've messaged"

Yes it would be lovely to receive any message, even a "no thanks", but it's not up to you and it's not bad manners by the people you've messaged.

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

"A simple no thanks would do then i wont message them again "

I’d never reply to a message from a profile with little info or effort having been put into it.

Not being nasty , but your profile would firmly fall into that category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A simple no thanks would do then i wont message them again "

Some people get hundred+ messages a day. It’s just not a priority to reply to everyone, as people have busy life’s away from Fab.

Plus there are a million other reason why people will choose to reply or not. But basically no one asks you to mail them. No one is under obligation to reply.

The fab guidance states that no reply = not interested.

Nothing to get bothered about really.

That’s how we see it anyways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op how many messages do you get a day?

Do you reply to them?

What was your message?

When you get lots of messages (over a hundred) the system deletes the ones after one hundred automatically.

Don’t get upset, they are clearly not the right people for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah i do reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok i dont get hundreds of messages like women and couples do but if you have opened the message and read it surely a quick no reply i find is better than being blanked or deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often end up with over 100 unread messages and simply cannot reply to them all. I have sent the polite 'no thank you' messages and then get a reply back!! No message back just means no thank you and no one intends to be rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok i dont get hundreds of messages like women and couples do but if you have opened the message and read it surely a quick no reply i find is better than being blanked or deleted"

We used to make a big effort to send a nice reply, however people dislike rejection and used to then want to know why, or send a nonsense reply like “you’re ugly anyway”

So it’s easier to just ignore rather than get into the whole duel at dawn with fab messages.

Also we may not like the message you send.

Fab states in the advice section that if a member doesn’t reply, take it as a I’m not interested thank you.

Nobody has to reply, and whilst it may upset you, nobody will if they don’t want to.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

No answer = Not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is a no thanks. And maybe try and pinpoint why they haven't justified you with a reply.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I don’t mind no reply and delete but what annoys me is the ones that don’t delete why would you keep it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when people read a message but don't reply or they just delete it simple no thanks would do "

Hate is a stong word. Its out of your control once you hit send button so why stress

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By *opman1111Man
over a year ago

belfast

If I don’t get a reply I simply block the person as they obviously arnt interested, that way I won’t make the mistake of messaging them again

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

OP. Judging by the way you keep banging on in this thread, it's easy to assume you're the type who WOULD reply to a 'no thanks'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op we recently received a message from a couple, (they messaged us out of the blue by the way) that went along the lines of;

Hi there,

Profile and pics are good.

We want to meet you, however this is how it goes.

Male half isn’t allowed to join in we only play bareback and we will fuck you how and where we want. You have no choice we are making an effort to meet you after all.

You have to come to us and your Male has to wait outside till we’ve decided we’ve finished with you.

Would you reply OP?

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I can see from your profile OP that you're a relative newcomer to the whacky world of fab. You're probably still in that initial phase of "I have a cock and women will fall at my feet".

Sorry pal but it doesn't work that way. Clearly fab rules are no reply = not interested. You're hung up on the no replies but I suggest you focus on why they might not be interested. To be blunt your profile is poor. You have to put some effort in and sell yourself. If you can't be arsed writing an interesting profile, why should message recipients be arsed to reply. Good luck and don't take this site too seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op we recently received a message from a couple, (they messaged us out of the blue by the way) that went along the lines of;

Hi there,

Profile and pics are good.

We want to meet you, however this is how it goes.

Male half isn’t allowed to join in we only play bareback and we will fuck you how and where we want. You have no choice we are making an effort to meet you after all.

You have to come to us and your Male has to wait outside till we’ve decided we’ve finished with you.

Would you reply OP?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, if the women replied to every message then they’d need a part time Fab secretary to do all the admin.

I actually prefer if they delete the message then I definitely know they’re not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op we recently received a message from a couple, (they messaged us out of the blue by the way) that went along the lines of;

Hi there,

Profile and pics are good.

We want to meet you, however this is how it goes.

Male half isn’t allowed to join in we only play bareback and we will fuck you how and where we want. You have no choice we are making an effort to meet you after all.

You have to come to us and your Male has to wait outside till we’ve decided we’ve finished with you.

Would you reply OP?"

Did it comes from Buckingham Palace?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Id need a PA to reply to everyone. ....just haven't got the time

.sorry ..... im mostly on the forums .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, if the women replied to every message then they’d need a part time Fab secretary to do all the admin.

I actually prefer if they delete the message then I definitely know they’re not interested. "

I would have thought the lack of response would be definite enough?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Some do some don't, if you accept this might happen your time on the site will be more enjoyable and we won't end up with many threads saying the same thing

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