FabSwingers.com forum: Y is it so hard

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Y is it so hard to talk to people now days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people on here think they are above you. I've noticed this site is very cliquey and if you aren't in the clique you don't get Jack shit haha

Try dating apps!

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By *OR THE WIFES PLEASUREMan
over a year ago

plymouth

2nd that

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

There's defo a little clique, but there is in any online forum.

If you don't nod along with every post and constantly flatter they will ignore you.

But it's really not worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just don’t get any messages back any more . Maybe time to delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely get a message back, but persistence is key. Just obviously not hounding the same person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We rarely get a message back, but persistence is key. Just obviously not hounding the same person.

L "
now I knows it’s not just me then you look lovely in your pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just don’t get any messages back any more . Maybe time to delete "

You’ve just described almost every guy on here. It’s hard work but you’ve just got to keep at it. The odds are overwhelmingly against you due to the ratio and men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's defo a little clique, but there is in any online forum.

If you don't nod along with every post and constantly flatter they will ignore you.

But it's really not worth the effort."

I doubt he's been messaging forum people.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

"Most people on here think they are above you. I've noticed this site is very cliquey and if you aren't in the clique you don't get Jack shit haha

Try dating apps!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's defo a little clique, but there is in any online forum.

If you don't nod along with every post and constantly flatter they will ignore you.

But it's really not worth the effort.

I doubt he's been messaging forum people. "

Not only that, I personally don’t think there is a clique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way to many fake profiles on here, certain women and couples get loads of messages, winks and friend requests on a daily basis, your decent message is in there amongst the fancy a fuck messages and fancy meeting now ones, by time the female or couple does get close to yours they start deleting lots as it gets boring seeing the same message, it is hard for a single male on Fab, i wont change though, i am who i am and i always gain a meet sooner or later ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking to people is easy but on here if you messaged me I would assume you wanted to have some kind of sexual contact at some point, therefore if I didn't fancy you or my profile stated that I wasn't meeting (as it does) I would not be likely to start a conversation with you but delete your message unread, unless you had made it clear you only wanted to talk. The clique thing is rubbish when it comes to messaging, there are a large group of very regular forumites who all get along already and some newbies see this a a clique, if you treat it that way...it will treat you the same I think. If you have a valid opinion, not just aggreeing with everyone else to be liked, and you don't behave like a total tool you will be fine. Personally I would just do your thing, don't take it too seriously and do not depend on this place to get you laid if that is all you are after!

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By *elbyfuntimesMan
over a year ago

Selby

It is very hard to get replies as stated previously there is many reasons mostly due to amount of messages women and couples get.

I've now all but sacked off messaging anyone on here and now mainly use this site to find out about socials and clubs and just meet people there it's easier to meet and strike up a friendship with others and easier to get meets not on the night but in the future.

It's not likely I'm ever going to get women message me on here because on face value i don't mert people's requirements to what they are looking for. But when couples n women meet me in person they are able to make a better assessment as they can see my personality in person which I find it hard to put across online.

So I say go to clubs and socials you will have a better time and less disenchanted with the scene.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Clubs & socials OP ... if you want to get more involved in the social side of swinging, that’s the best place to start. Online chats only take you so far IMO

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Most people on here think they are above you. I've noticed this site is very cliquey and if you aren't in the clique you don't get Jack shit haha

Try dating apps!"

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Most people on here think they are above you. I've noticed this site is very cliquey and if you aren't in the clique you don't get Jack shit haha

Try dating apps!"

You aren't allowed to mention the clique. They don't really exist ..... or so they say. In all honesty tho the forums are only a fraction of the site and the site is only a small part of the scene.

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