FabSwingers.com forum: Dear women, could you nominate a considerate person for introducing my gf to swinging?

By *amesnite11 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

My girflriend is quite inexperienced and curious about being with another man or woman, but has only ever been with me so she's quite nervous about the whole thing.

She's the most lovely, absolutely beautiful 19 year old soul who I'm very much in love with, and want her to have a great first experience with someone who would be very considerate and attentive to what she needs. Someone willing to take things slowly and gently initially, and generally be a complete gentleman or gentlewoman.

We're planning to go to Kestrel's in early March, if you know of someone very considerate and ideal for being with someone that is quite nervous, please recommend them!

Hope I don't offend the men by asking women to recommend someone, just that I think a lot of men would likely nominate themselves just for a quick shag.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You may be better off setting up a couples profile with her and laying out clearly what you are looking for on it - asking women to respond to this kind of thing from a single male profile may well raise suspicions as to how genuine the request is

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Rather than pre-arranging a playmate, why not just go & enjoy the night together?

Gomez & I only played with each other our first few nights in a club - just being there & playing in open playrooms was enough of a step for me!!

If you go to clubs, you can meet people there who you will connect with, feel comfortable with & maybe get to know ... and then let it happen naturally rather than an online pre-planned meet with someone neither of you have met.

If you try to plan it in advance, it almost certainly will not be how you expected. I’ve chatted to lots of people online who you get on with, but meetingbin the flesh can be very different.

Let her find her own way with you there to support her.

And set up a couples profile so she can get used to Fab x

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By *amesnite11 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

"You may be better off setting up a couples profile with her and laying out clearly what you are looking for on it - asking women to respond to this kind of thing from a single male profile may well raise suspicions as to how genuine the request is

Ok Gemini, thanks very much for the feedback! Yeah I thought that may be the case.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Rather than pre-arranging a playmate, why not just go & enjoy the night together?

Gomez & I only played with each other our first few nights in a club - just being there & playing in open playrooms was enough of a step for me!!

If you try to plan it in advance, it almost certainly will not be how you expected. I’ve chatted to lots of people online who you get on with, but meetingbin the flesh can be very different.

Let her find her own way with you there to support her.

And set up a couples profile so she can get used to Fab x"

This.

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By *amesnite11 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

"Rather than pre-arranging a playmate, why not just go & enjoy the night together?

Gomez & I only played with each other our first few nights in a club - just being there & playing in open playrooms was enough of a step for me!!

If you try to plan it in advance, it almost certainly will not be how you expected. I’ve chatted to lots of people online who you get on with, but meetingbin the flesh can be very different.

Let her find her own way with you there to support her.

And set up a couples profile so she can get used to Fab x"

Thank you Morticia! Setting up a couples profile sounds like a good idea.

The problem is she's very shy when talking to people for the first time, and she liked the idea of being in a private room together with her blindfolded, so the other person could come in and join us that way.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Might help to just stick to the other thread you have running on the same topic here:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/721686

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