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When or if you tell teenagers what you do?

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By *ebwiz OP   Man
over a year ago

Clevedon

We have 2 teenagers daughters.always coming up with stories as to where were going or doing.is there ever a right time or age to say anything or just stay quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You keep quiet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For their sake dont say anything. id 100% rather no know.

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By *ebwiz OP   Man
over a year ago

Clevedon

Sort of what we thought.we stay fairly inventive on what we are doing,dont think they have any suspicions,eldest is a clever little bugger mind.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Keep quiet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t tell my children. I don’t think they need to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What excuses have you come up with?

walking the dog for five hours lol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

going for a drive

going out to eat

going to see a car

doing something for work

anything but tell them id say

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In our opinion there are certain lines you don't blur between parents and children. Its great to be open about sex but no need to make it specific to yourself.

We found it useful to establish early on with our kids that we had a private life as individuals separately to them and it was none of their damn business what went on in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no child wants to know anything at all about their parents sex life, ever!

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

I'm away to the pub, or away to friends or something. Would never ever tell what I'm really up to x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"no child wants to know anything at all about their parents sex life, ever!"

Damn right!

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

The best we heard:

"Quiz night!"

Lots of pub quizzes, and if you have a 'team' you might reasonably travel out to other places (there are pubs and quizzes all over the place!). Of course you're going to go out a bit dressed up, and likely home late.

They're not going to drill you on the specifics if they know it's something is mundane as a quiz.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have 2 teenagers daughters.always coming up with stories as to where were going or doing.is there ever a right time or age to say anything or just stay quiet."

This possibly the most cast - iron, obvious decision you will ever have to make. Take a million, multiply it by eleven hundred million, and that’s the amount of times you need to never tell your children you’re swingers. What a way to monumentally and catastrophically rupture their perception of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay quiet. Job done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Echo all the comments above don’t tell them end of its very rare a child wants to know anything about there parents sex lives and certainly not if they are swingers??

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By *edjedi72Couple
over a year ago

Fareham

Whoooaaaa never. Keep it quiet from everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no child wants to know anything at all about their parents sex life, ever!"

This!!

Normal people really don't want to know about other people's sex lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best we heard:

"Quiz night!"

Lots of pub quizzes, and if you have a 'team' you might reasonably travel out to other places (there are pubs and quizzes all over the place!). Of course you're going to go out a bit dressed up, and likely home late.

They're not going to drill you on the specifics if they know it's something is mundane as a quiz. "

Brilliant!

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Two years ago my daughter who was 18 at the time asked about the club we go to with our friends

I just said it’s ‘just a club’

A couple hours later .... ‘is it a swingers club ???’

Turns out 3 months earlier she had seen Mr inked in the Daily Mail When he was bloody papped at Swingfields

She had known all that time and didn’t know how to say us lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have once a week date night where we go cinema etc

My daughter is too young anyway to notice us going, she has her aunt spoiling her xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try telling them you have joined the local conservative party, try to talk to them about it, and ask, several times, if they'd like to come to the next meeting, where there will be intersting speeches! they will never ask you where you're going again..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're the same, forever establishing a cover story for our antics! On the one hand, we don't feel our kids (who are both young adults) would necessarily want to know that we have sex with other people, but on the other hand I'd actually prefer to be honest with them. Not being honest (about anything) doesn't really sit well with me, and I'm not ashamed of what we do. There's also a part of me that would like to open their eyes to the fact that there are different ways to enjoy sex, and a relationship. I guess the way forward will be led by them ~ if the subject ever comes up, and it feels like the right time, then I'll be open and honest about it.

V x

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme


"try telling them you have joined the local conservative party, try to talk to them about it, and ask, several times, if they'd like to come to the next meeting, where there will be intersting speeches! they will never ask you where you're going again.."

Nice idea, but risky. What if you turn out to have a young-conservative on your hands? Not only will you have that to deal with, but now you'll actually have to join the party and go along to meetings... *shudder*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"try telling them you have joined the local conservative party, try to talk to them about it, and ask, several times, if they'd like to come to the next meeting, where there will be intersting speeches! they will never ask you where you're going again.."

Great idea, but I don't think this would work with my son. Being a very switched on lad, he's interested in politics and current affairs...knowing my luck he'd ask to come along one night so he could debate the state of the country with the other members! How the hell would I explain that!?

V x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Teenagers? Never. They may seem able to cope with the news and are all grown up but human brains don’t finish fully developing until early twenties. Even then I’m sure they don’t want to know what your sex life entails.

I told my 30 something children I’m in the lifestyle, purely because I’m single and one of them has a high profile job. That sort of news does not need to be discovered by accident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't dream of telling ours! Why would you need to??

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Definitely echo what others have said.

If it's any consolation, I feel your pain - I'm currently living with my parents and while they're not nosey, they do ask where I'm off to, just out of general conversation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to know and wouldn't consider telling our kids

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I guess it depends on how honest you have been with your children in general I've never lied to mine not even about santa and the tooth fairy.

If we go to clubs we go when they are not with us.

We say if asked we've seen friends as we have.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

My friends kids found out from looking at the internet history.

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By *ants_Nerdy_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Havant

We go out dancing to a non-specific club. Our teens can be quite canny so I wouldn't be surprised if they figure something may be up at some point. However they absolutely don't want to know and we have no desire to tell them. I suspect it will turn into a don't ask don't tell situation. They'll know there's something they don't want to know going on and so will make sure not to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friends kids found out from looking at the internet history. "

This is why our kids have their own computers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can guarantee no matter how young or old they will totally gross out at any thought of their parents having sex even with each other!

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By *ants_Nerdy_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Havant


"My friends kids found out from looking at the internet history.

This is why our kids have their own computers"

I keep all the swinging related stuff in the Secure Folder on my Samsung phone. The feature used to be called Knox and it's like a whole extra secret phone inside your phone. Finger print / passcode locked and it's encrypted so even if someone steals or finds your phone they can't get at the contents.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Dont need to know. But our 19year old daughter, who doesn't live at home anymore, kept whispering Swingers to us over Xmas

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By *ebwiz OP   Man
over a year ago

Clevedon

Good thats what we thought too.thanks all.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Duck tape is silver.

Silence is golden.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

My kids know I go out to the pub. Sometimes go to a friend's after, which is why I take alcohol with me.

I don't think teenagers want to know their parents have sex with each other. Never mind with others.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Spot on

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