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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

If your married and open as you are and your wife is happy for you to play then that’s fine. Why not both of you have a joint profile if she’s interested in playing

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

She is not aware I am on here

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

Should say wife not knowing

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Well that’s cheating then. Many of the women on here are not great fans of cheaters I’m married now wife knows but doesn’t play and I never sleep with women or straight men. Those are our rules. I’m sure thier will be some advice given by others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many will take umbrage at the phrase ‘up front and honest about it’ - just wait and see!

Maybe just use ‘up front about it’ ..

My take on it all is that nobody else knows the journey or backstory to get anyone else to this point or their reasons for being here. And it’s their decision and choice to be here and face any potential consequences that might ensue.

Declare your status to anyone who may be interested and they can make their own informed decision whether they wish to meet or not.

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By *uninlondon69Man
over a year ago

Tower Bridge South

It amazes me how some get away with it.

I find hair in every room in my flat for days after a meet!

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By *inandRussianCouple
over a year ago

lymm

I wasn't honest with my ex until I met my now wife and I told her everything she said ok let's try it together then and here we are. Never been happier and I tell her everything who I want to look at and why and she does the sane it's an amazing feeling please try it you never know xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"She is not aware I am on here"

I would normally say, how would you feel if she was cheating on you.

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

What I find strange is that as a man when I get a no to an email the main reason is me being married and not for them.

It seems a woman that's married and after discrete fun without partner knowing gets a lot more response

Maybe that just because men and women are different in mind set

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She is not aware I am on here

I would normally say, how would you feel if she was cheating on you. "

This

You’re not honest to your wife you’re a cheat!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"What I find strange is that as a man when I get a no to an email the main reason is me being married and not for them.

It seems a woman that's married and after discrete fun without partner knowing gets a lot more response

Maybe that just because men and women are different in mind set"

Maybe they are, I don't know. Those who have been devastated by their partners cheating, men or women, will be less likely to meet married people.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"She is not aware I am on here

I would normally say, how would you feel if she was cheating on you.

This

You’re not honest to your wife you’re a cheat! "

And OP still hasn't responded.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"What I find strange is that as a man when I get a no to an email the main reason is me being married and not for them.

It seems a woman that's married and after discrete fun without partner knowing gets a lot more response

Maybe that just because men and women are different in mind set"

Well no-one said life is fair.

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By *hris 62Man
over a year ago

HEREFORD

i know it not good them the wife or parter but sometime if you not getting at home and trying to keep hand in until wife or parter up to it again ,os doing on qt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I find strange is that as a man when I get a no to an email the main reason is me being married and not for them.

It seems a woman that's married and after discrete fun without partner knowing gets a lot more response

Maybe that just because men and women are different in mind set"

are you actually reading their profiles?...because most people seem to mention it on their profile if theyre not interested in meeting cheats. Also im not sure how you know what response married women get on here? The only difference i can see is that you never see them in the forums whining about how unfair it is that people dont want to meet them.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"i know it not good them the wife or parter but sometime if you not getting at home and trying to keep hand in until wife or parter up to it again ,os doing on qt "

Really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She is not aware I am on here"

Then your not honest...simples your cheating on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She is not aware I am on here"
up front and honest with a group of strangers on here, but lying and cheating to your wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do respect the fact your honest on your profile though. That gives people a choice then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i know it not good them the wife or parter but sometime if you not getting at home and trying to keep hand in until wife or parter up to it again ,os doing on qt

Really "

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"She is not aware I am on here

Then your not honest...simples your cheating on her "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your wife doesn't know then you're not being honest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think he thinks maybe he’s being honest on fab for revealing his status

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Dishonest with wife but honest with people on here? How does that work?! Surely that can't be possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic it’s on your profile, I’m sure there are lots of married men and women on here that haven’t disclosed this on their profiles.

I do feel sorry for the husband/wife though that has no idea the other is playing away (or even on this site) and they are blissfully unaware, sitting at home thinking there other half is working etc.

There are two sides to a story and you never know the other might be doing the same!

Would we knowingly meet a married woman? I don’t know is the answer to that. We were approached by a married lady and we were talking for a while but something didn’t sit right so the answer is no I think based on the above.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fantastic it’s on your profile, I’m sure there are lots of married men and women on here that haven’t disclosed this on their profiles.

I do feel sorry for the husband/wife though that has no idea the other is playing away (or even on this site) and they are blissfully unaware, sitting at home thinking there other half is working etc.

There are two sides to a story and you never know the other might be doing the same!

Would we knowingly meet a married woman? I don’t know is the answer to that. We were approached by a married lady and we were talking for a while but something didn’t sit right so the answer is no I think based on the above.

Geeky x"

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun "

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP "

Why. She is dead sexy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how would you like it if your wife was having an affair behind your back could be a thought/question

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP

Why. She is dead sexy lol"

Lol! So do you still have these erection problems, that your wife has caused, if so, you may struggle a little on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun "

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10?????

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"how would you like it if your wife was having an affair behind your back could be a thought/question"

Already asked that, OP is still thinking about it.

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10????? "

Yep in primary school. Absolute 100%. Been together that long

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"What I find strange is that as a man when I get a no to an email the main reason is me being married and not for them.

It seems a woman that's married and after discrete fun without partner knowing gets a lot more response

Maybe that just because men and women are different in mind set"

It could be although I am sure there are men about who wouldn't either.

The thing is there are probably less women on the site than men so you will have a hard time whether you are married or not. There are some people who play with marrieds so keep looking, you may find what you are looking for.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10????? "

Hmmm....that's young, maybe she was saying no to haribos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10?????

Yep in primary school. Absolute 100%. Been together that long"

I met my ex husband when I was 11 and were 40 next year (might not be together now but still good friends!)

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10?????

Hmmm....that's young, maybe she was saying no to haribos "

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP

Why. She is dead sexy lol

Lol! So do you still have these erection problems, that your wife has caused, if so, you may struggle a little on here! "

That’s why I have only met one women. Why you taking the piss. Are you medically trained?

Because I never went with another person until 3 years ago it’s not hardly been used in all that time with another women.

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10?????

Hmmm....that's young, maybe she was saying no to haribos "

ZZZZ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10?????

Yep in primary school. Absolute 100%. Been together that long

I met my ex husband when I was 11 and were 40 next year (might not be together now but still good friends!)

Geeky x"

But his wife been saying no for 40 years!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Dishonest with wife but honest with people on here? How does that work?! Surely that can't be possible. "

Being honest about being married, of course it is possible.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10?????

Yep in primary school. Absolute 100%. Been together that long"

Maybe get her to join here with you, maybe she just fancies it with someone else!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP

Why. She is dead sexy lol

Lol! So do you still have these erection problems, that your wife has caused, if so, you may struggle a little on here!

That’s why I have only met one women. Why you taking the piss. Are you medically trained?

Because I never went with another person until 3 years ago it’s not hardly been used in all that time with another women. "

No I'm not taking the piss, it's humour, apologies if you were offended

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Personally speaking I wouldn't play with anybody, male or female without their partners knowledge. I'd rather know first to make an informed choice. It's also none of my business why they are on here either.

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP

Why. She is dead sexy lol

Lol! So do you still have these erection problems, that your wife has caused, if so, you may struggle a little on here!

That’s why I have only met one women. Why you taking the piss. Are you medically trained?

Because I never went with another person until 3 years ago it’s not hardly been used in all that time with another women.

No I'm not taking the piss, it's humour, apologies if you were offended "

Doh. Sorry . Not normally like that lol

I should receive a medal after putting up with it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

You’ve been together 40 years so you met when you was 10?????

Yep in primary school. Absolute 100%. Been together that long

I met my ex husband when I was 11 and were 40 next year (might not be together now but still good friends!)

Geeky x

But his wife been saying no for 40 years! "

Ooooohhhh I see lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun "

40 years... You're 50...

Apparently

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP

Why. She is dead sexy lol

Lol! So do you still have these erection problems, that your wife has caused, if so, you may struggle a little on here!

That’s why I have only met one women. Why you taking the piss. Are you medically trained?

Because I never went with another person until 3 years ago it’s not hardly been used in all that time with another women.

No I'm not taking the piss, it's humour, apologies if you were offended

Doh. Sorry . Not normally like that lol

I should receive a medal after putting up with it lol"

Friends?

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By *hitevanman812Man
over a year ago

Carlisle


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun "

same here,

If we openly post our status it gives others the freedom to make a choice, surely that is for the best for all.

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

I won't go to into the reasons I am on here I think that's down to me and potential person I'm meetings as well all have our reasons for being on here. That said if I was getting fulfilment at home then I won't be on here.

How would I feel if she played away, surprised as I have discussed the things I'm into with her and she's not into them.

What I mean by being honest is that I put it in my profile so those looking can see that I am and make an informed decision based on it. I bet there are s lot of men on here that don't disclose it.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

same here,

If we openly post our status it gives others the freedom to make a choice, surely that is for the best for all."

Yes it is

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I won't go to into the reasons I am on here I think that's down to me and potential person I'm meetings as well all have our reasons for being on here. That said if I was getting fulfilment at home then I won't be on here.

How would I feel if she played away, surprised as I have discussed the things I'm into with her and she's not into them.

What I mean by being honest is that I put it in my profile so those looking can see that I am and make an informed decision based on it. I bet there are s lot of men on here that don't disclose it. "

Thanks for your reply

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I won't go to into the reasons I am on here I think that's down to me and potential person I'm meetings as well all have our reasons for being on here. That said if I was getting fulfilment at home then I won't be on here.

How would I feel if she played away, surprised as I have discussed the things I'm into with her and she's not into them.

What I mean by being honest is that I put it in my profile so those looking can see that I am and make an informed decision based on it. I bet there are s lot of men on here that don't disclose it. "

Purely as a matter of demographics, most so called singles on here will be attached. Most don't say so because they know it lessens their chance of a meet.

I never understand why people who deceive their partners care about dishonesty with random strangers. It seems a strange moral stance to me.

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

I appreciate a lot of people disagree with it, but if I'm upfront about it people know from the outset.

This is not a site to be judgemental and day if a person is wrong it right fit looking for it doing what they are.

There are plenty of people into things on this site that I find strange or weird but that's their business I'm not here to judge them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Naughty naughty!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I appreciate a lot of people disagree with it, but if I'm upfront about it people know from the outset.

This is not a site to be judgemental and day if a person is wrong it right fit looking for it doing what they are.

There are plenty of people into things on this site that I find strange or weird but that's their business I'm not here to judge them"

The best thing to do is remain up front but don't make it a discussion point if you aren't prepared for people to disagree.

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

I have no issues with people disagreeing.

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

Great pictures by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She is not aware I am on here

I would normally say, how would you feel if she was cheating on you.

This

You’re not honest to your wife you’re a cheat! "

well said.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have no issues with people disagreeing."

I can see that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This doesn't make it right. But 'right' is seen differently by different people as we can see her.

I sympathize with anyone whose partner appears to be rejecting them whether it's physically, emotionally or in any other way. The problem in a relationship is that when we hide things it builds up further tension for ourselves and our partner. Unfortunately, history shows us that such relationships usually only go one way once the tension builds to breaking point.

You have a choice.

1. You can discuss your frustrations with her. She may not appreciate it from your point of view.

2. If that goes nowhere, you can decide whether the relationship you do have is worth keeping, even if that means no sex.

3. You can decide to call it a day on the relationship. This can be hard but ultimately the right thing to do for yourself.

You may be honest about it here but you're living a dual life. Ultimately you are hurting yourself emotionally and morally (the fact you raise the question indicates this is a conflict for you), even if your partner never finds out.

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP

Why. She is dead sexy lol

Lol! So do you still have these erection problems, that your wife has caused, if so, you may struggle a little on here!

That’s why I have only met one women. Why you taking the piss. Are you medically trained?

Because I never went with another person until 3 years ago it’s not hardly been used in all that time with another women.

No I'm not taking the piss, it's humour, apologies if you were offended

Doh. Sorry . Not normally like that lol

I should receive a medal after putting up with it lol

Friends? "

Of course x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Gosh,I think you need to change your GP

Why. She is dead sexy lol

Lol! So do you still have these erection problems, that your wife has caused, if so, you may struggle a little on here!

That’s why I have only met one women. Why you taking the piss. Are you medically trained?

Because I never went with another person until 3 years ago it’s not hardly been used in all that time with another women.

No I'm not taking the piss, it's humour, apologies if you were offended

Doh. Sorry . Not normally like that lol

I should receive a medal after putting up with it lol

Friends?

Of course x"

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

40 years... You're 50...

Apparently"

Was meant to be we have been together 40 years.

Yes since 10.

Never last they said. Only thing that never lasted was my erections

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

40 years... You're 50...

Apparently

Was meant to be we have been together 40 years.

Yes since 10.

Never last they said. Only thing that never lasted was my erections "

See..you do have a sense of humour...you'll get the hang of it...so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I find strange is that as a man when I get a no to an email the main reason is me being married and not for them.

It seems a woman that's married and after discrete fun without partner knowing gets a lot more response

Maybe that just because men and women are different in mind set"

Supply & demand is a factor, you won’t find a woman starting a thread about not getting a meet, regardless if she has a partner or not!

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

40 years... You're 50...

Apparently

Was meant to be we have been together 40 years.

Yes since 10.

Never last they said. Only thing that never lasted was my erections

See..you do have a sense of humour...you'll get the hang of it...so to speak "

You know when your doing something and shouldn’t be posting.

I was in that mood lol sorry x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

40 years... You're 50...

Apparently

Was meant to be we have been together 40 years.

Yes since 10.

Never last they said. Only thing that never lasted was my erections

See..you do have a sense of humour...you'll get the hang of it...so to speak

You know when your doing something and shouldn’t be posting.

I was in that mood lol sorry x

"

Oh I do! No need to say sorry

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I won't go to into the reasons I am on here I think that's down to me and potential person I'm meetings as well all have our reasons for being on here. That said if I was getting fulfilment at home then I won't be on here.

How would I feel if she played away, surprised as I have discussed the things I'm into with her and she's not into them.

What I mean by being honest is that I put it in my profile so those looking can see that I am and make an informed decision based on it. I bet there are s lot of men on here that don't disclose it. "

At least you have been upfront about it on your profile many aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet cheaters. For many reasons. But it changes who I am. How can I expect empathy and sympathy in difficult times if I knowingly shit on someone else's door.

Single life isn't chocolate boxes and log fires. I still get contacted by married men. States in profile no cheaters. And you forget during your dry spell or no sex life etc, you Still have someone who cares about your day, you and listens.

Marriage is a 2nd job. Your not the same person with the same goals. Effort versus reward.

Everyone has the right to choose preferences. But whining that yours isn't favoured will not increase meets.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun "

40 years together but you are only 50. Blimey you got together young

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

I think people have the wrong end of the stick as I accidentally deleted my originally opening post.

It was what are people's thought on a married person on here and one whose upfront about it in his profile so women can't decide with all the facts, and if there is likely to be many women that go for a married man

It is not a whinge or a moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zzzzzzzzz subject done to death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people have the wrong end of the stick as I accidentally deleted my originally opening post.

It was what are people's thought on a married person on here and one whose upfront about it in his profile so women can't decide with all the facts, and if there is likely to be many women that go for a married man

It is not a whinge or a moan"

I think you've got your answer then ... some married men do and some don't, and some women mind and some don't. I just suggest you only approach those women who don't mind and only approach anyone if you're at ease with yourself about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you decide to cheat OP, that is your business. I'm thankful you are at least open about it on fab, even if you are not honest to your wife. So many on here pretend to be single, which galls me far more. Being upfront allows someone to make an informed choice on whether to meet you or not. Not everyone will meet a married man, but some will. It's finding those that are comfortable with your current marital status

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

Possibly like guys that go to the clubs mentioned on here and are not open about being married and the woman or women discover afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a new married FWB, he comes to my house XXX

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"If you decide to cheat OP, that is your business. I'm thankful you are at least open about it on fab, even if you are not honest to your wife. So many on here pretend to be single, which galls me far more. Being upfront allows someone to make an informed choice on whether to meet you or not. Not everyone will meet a married man, but some will. It's finding those that are comfortable with your current marital status "
well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly like guys that go to the clubs mentioned on here and are not open about being married and the woman or women discover afterwards."

My last comment on this ... it doesn't matter what others do ... just do what you can live with. I'm no longer sure what you want from this thread. No-one here can give you permission so you feel better about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many will take umbrage at the phrase ‘up front and honest about it’ - just wait and see!

Maybe just use ‘up front about it’ ..

My take on it all is that nobody else knows the journey or backstory to get anyone else to this point or their reasons for being here. And it’s their decision and choice to be here and face any potential consequences that might ensue.

Declare your status to anyone who may be interested and they can make their own informed decision whether they wish to meet or not. "

This

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I have a new married FWB, he comes to my house XXX"

Oh

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

40 years together but you are only 50. Blimey you got together young "

Someone is telling porkies somewhere one could perhaps be cynical and wonder if this is a deliberate ploy to avoid people’s message filters

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I have a new married FWB, he comes to my house XXX"
Round. Of. Applause.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I have a new married FWB, he comes to my house XXXRound. Of. Applause."

Hehe!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I have a new married FWB, he comes to my house XXXRound. Of. Applause.

Hehe! "

That should have said...

Slow. Round. Of. Applause.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I have a new married FWB, he comes to my house XXXRound. Of. Applause.

Hehe!

That should have said...

Slow. Round. Of. Applause."

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I have a new married FWB, he comes to my house XXX"

That's sweet.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I reckon most people on here are in the thirty to fifty age group. According to government stats about 80% of people in that age group are married or living with a partner. Add in people who have a significant other they don't live with and I reckon we can say about 85% of 30-50s are attached.

Even if we assume the small percentage who are genuinely single are more likely to come on a swingers site, it's virtually statistically certain that a clear majority of alleged singles on here are attached.

Moral : if you want to be sure you are not shagging a cheater, don't meet singles.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I reckon most people on here are in the thirty to fifty age group. According to government stats about 80% of people in that age group are married or living with a partner. Add in people who have a significant other they don't live with and I reckon we can say about 85% of 30-50s are attached.

Even if we assume the small percentage who are genuinely single are more likely to come on a swingers site, it's virtually statistically certain that a clear majority of alleged singles on here are attached.

Moral : if you want to be sure you are not shagging a cheater, don't meet singles. "

And where does that leave the ones that are genuinely single? Bit of a sweeping statement there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married here.... wife knows and we do have a joint profile too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been with quite a few married women on here over the years and to be honest they've been the best meets. No strings, no hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anyone honestly say that haven't kept something from there other half ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reckon most people on here are in the thirty to fifty age group. According to government stats about 80% of people in that age group are married or living with a partner. Add in people who have a significant other they don't live with and I reckon we can say about 85% of 30-50s are attached.

Even if we assume the small percentage who are genuinely single are more likely to come on a swingers site, it's virtually statistically certain that a clear majority of alleged singles on here are attached.

"

I agree to a certain extent with your theory with the exception of the ‘moral’ implying that only singles cheat, couples are capable of that too.

Moral : if you want to be sure you are not shagging a cheater, don't meet anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anyone honestly say that haven't kept something from there other half ?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I reckon most people on here are in the thirty to fifty age group. According to government stats about 80% of people in that age group are married or living with a partner. Add in people who have a significant other they don't live with and I reckon we can say about 85% of 30-50s are attached.

Even if we assume the small percentage who are genuinely single are more likely to come on a swingers site, it's virtually statistically certain that a clear majority of alleged singles on here are attached.

I agree to a certain extent with your theory with the exception of the ‘moral’ implying that only singles cheat, couples are capable of that too.

Moral : if you want to be sure you are not shagging a cheater, don't meet anyone!"

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

40 years together but you are only 50. Blimey you got together young "

Read the thread it tells you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun "

Looks like being married isn't the only thing men on here lie about.

And guys on here wonder why they get such a bad rep

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Can anyone honestly say that haven't kept something from there other half ?"

'Those shoes were £150 not £50' is a bit different to 'I'm having casual sex with a variety of different people behind your back honey.' Don't you think?

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Looks like being married isn't the only thing men on here lie about.

And guys on here wonder why they get such a bad rep "

Where’s the lie in my post love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should say wife not knowing"

Well you want to try being honest with her instead of the woman on fab . Who do you think more of ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I find strange is that as a man when I get a no to an email the main reason is me being married and not for them.

It seems a woman that's married and after discrete fun without partner knowing gets a lot more response

Maybe that just because men and women are different in mind set

are you actually reading their profiles?...because most people seem to mention it on their profile if theyre not interested in meeting cheats. Also im not sure how you know what response married women get on here? The only difference i can see is that you never see them in the forums whining about how unfair it is that people dont want to meet them."

This...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Looks like being married isn't the only thing men on here lie about.

And guys on here wonder why they get such a bad rep

Where’s the lie in my post love. "

Married 40 years but you're 50 years old?

I'm no mathematician

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Looks like being married isn't the only thing men on here lie about.

And guys on here wonder why they get such a bad rep

Where’s the lie in my post love.

Married 40 years but you're 50 years old?

I'm no mathematician "

Where’s it say married 40 in my message you quoted.

Please tell the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am newish...so if this has been asked please forgive me. But do all the regulars on here think the split of cheating married people on here is 50/50..or more men cheat than women..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Looks like being married isn't the only thing men on here lie about.

And guys on here wonder why they get such a bad rep

Where’s the lie in my post love.

Married 40 years but you're 50 years old?

I'm no mathematician

Where’s it say married 40 in my message you quoted.

Please tell the world. "

I actually can't tell if you're joking or not?

"My wife.....over 40 years together"

Your very own words

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By *rLucky777Man
over a year ago

Leeds

If you’re not happy you should get a divorce.

Lying and cheating on the person who’s meant to mean the most to you is awful. I wouldn’t be able to do it, the guilt would be too much.

Be honest. Get a divorce if it’s not working. Go without sex. No way to live and it’s not sustainable long term. Do the right thing.

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

My ex be nothing but then meet hubby now xx we both open honest with each other xx it's taken time to get were we are now xxx esp as he works away in week xx he loves his pics off me mmmnn I love doing them for it xx it's all about trust honesty xx but I neaver judge people on here xx it's there life xx

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Looks like being married isn't the only thing men on here lie about.

And guys on here wonder why they get such a bad rep

Where’s the lie in my post love.

Married 40 years but you're 50 years old?

I'm no mathematician

Where’s it say married 40 in my message you quoted.

Please tell the world.

I actually can't tell if you're joking or not?

"My wife.....over 40 years together"

Your very own words "

Think you need to read thing properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

Looks like being married isn't the only thing men on here lie about.

And guys on here wonder why they get such a bad rep

Where’s the lie in my post love.

Married 40 years but you're 50 years old?

I'm no mathematician

Where’s it say married 40 in my message you quoted.

Please tell the world.

I actually can't tell if you're joking or not?

"My wife.....over 40 years together"

Your very own words

Think you need to read thing properly. "

My reading is fabulous as it is thank you

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"If you’re not happy you should get a divorce.

Lying and cheating on the person who’s meant to mean the most to you is awful. I wouldn’t be able to do it, the guilt would be too much.

Be honest. Get a divorce if it’s not working. Go without sex. No way to live and it’s not sustainable long term. Do the right thing. "

I’m A very very happily married man. She hardly don’t want sex. I very occasionally do something about it.

If you don’t like it or people in my position it’s no concern of yours.

I never lie to anyone on here. Always up front with my marital status. If people don’t like it then there plenty of other people on here who they can look to.

People need to chill out.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Can anyone honestly say that haven't kept something from there other half ?"

Yes! We are 100% honest with each other about absolutely everything and have been from the first day we met. I guess meeting on a site like this helps in that respect.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I am newish...so if this has been asked please forgive me. But do all the regulars on here think the split of cheating married people on here is 50/50..or more men cheat than women..? "
I think men will far outnumber women as there are way more of them on the site

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

40 years together but you are only 50. Blimey you got together young

Read the thread it tells you. "

Your profile states that too are 50 years old.

In your thread you say that your wife has said no to you more times than you can remember in over 40 years together.

Were you children when you got married?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"i know it not good them the wife or parter but sometime if you not getting at home and trying to keep hand in until wife or parter up to it again ,os doing on qt

Really "

Hilariously glorious. Ms

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By *rLucky777Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"If you’re not happy you should get a divorce.

Lying and cheating on the person who’s meant to mean the most to you is awful. I wouldn’t be able to do it, the guilt would be too much.

Be honest. Get a divorce if it’s not working. Go without sex. No way to live and it’s not sustainable long term. Do the right thing.

I’m A very very happily married man. She hardly don’t want sex. I very occasionally do something about it.

If you don’t like it or people in my position it’s no concern of yours.

I never lie to anyone on here. Always up front with my marital status. If people don’t like it then there plenty of other people on here who they can look to.

People need to chill out. "

Do what you want pal. Fact is if you can lie to the person closest to you for the sake of a shag then you are not an honest man.

I feel sorry for your wife. Bite the bullet, tell her the truth or get a divorce. She probably suspects anyway. Find someone you won’t cheat on and let her find someone better than you.

You have to live with yourself so do what you thinks right but don’t pretend to be a honest man.

How would you feel if you found out your wife was fucking guys off fab behind your back? Is that cool?

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By *ndianmale34 OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Kent

I think people are confused.i was just asking people if being married and honest about it in profile, is something that will work on the site or being married means unlikely to lead to a meet.

Not about is it morally right etc

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I reckon most people on here are in the thirty to fifty age group. According to government stats about 80% of people in that age group are married or living with a partner. Add in people who have a significant other they don't live with and I reckon we can say about 85% of 30-50s are attached.

Even if we assume the small percentage who are genuinely single are more likely to come on a swingers site, it's virtually statistically certain that a clear majority of alleged singles on here are attached.

Moral : if you want to be sure you are not shagging a cheater, don't meet singles.

And where does that leave the ones that are genuinely single? Bit of a sweeping statement there! "

It means there are some genuinely single people but they are highly likely to be a minority of self proclaimed singles.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think people are confused.i was just asking people if being married and honest about it in profile, is something that will work on the site or being married means unlikely to lead to a meet.

Not about is it morally right etc

"

If you don't care about morals, lie and say you are single. It will increase your chance of a meet.

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london


"My wife is like a nun and said no to me more times then I can remember over 40 years together. My doctor even Blaine’s her for my erection problems so after all this time ( I would never make her have sex or any form) I decided sod it. Let’s have some fun

40 years together but you are only 50. Blimey you got together young

Read the thread it tells you.

Your profile states that too are 50 years old.

In your thread you say that your wife has said no to you more times than you can remember in over 40 years together.

Were you children when you got married? "

40

Years TOGETHER. Stop spreading fake news. Read the whole thread and stop trolling it.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Can anyone honestly say that haven't kept something from there other half ?"

Hand up

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