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Arranging meets and not turning up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Twice now in the past week I have been lucky enough to arrange a meet (social) from here and travelled some distance.

On both occasions the party has never shown up, leaving me feeling foolish and annoyed that I've wasted my time to travel.

I checked feedback and they are not newbies and feel covered all areas I needed and yet still I'm left in a public place looking like I've been stood up.

Arghhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you chat on phone 1st! See them on cam? Probably No xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Unfortunately it's like that on here make sure you speak on cam or phone first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verification can be faked so can profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess you're both correct, stupid stupid boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always ask for a phone chat you can work out it there normal then to .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't put myself out too much for a social meet - if I bothered with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess you're both correct, stupid stupid boy "

A phone chat means nothing.

The only person to not turn up to a social was someone who I chatted to on the phone beforehand.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

I'd be inclined to fit it into your life so you are not putting yourself out too much. Out with friends, then meet up for a quick drink before hand. Shopping then fit them into a coffee break. That was you are doing what you want and if they dont turn up no biggie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess for me what's more annoying is the lack of manners to say I can't make it, or have changed my mind. But to allow someone to travel to a place to meet (regardless how far) and not show up or contact them is terrible.

Where have all the manners gone in the world generally?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure lucky is the right word under the circumstances! Believe you can report no-shows now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess you're both correct, stupid stupid boy "

No you're not stupid. People on here are always saying how they 100% believe in verifications.

Pick a social somewhere closer to home so it's not too much hassle if they don't show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens a lot on here, it doesn't make you stupid at all. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I don't travel. There are certain protocols you can follow, to lessen the chance of this happening OP, though nothing is fool proof. You can cam first, to make sure they are genuine (I do this, to make sure they look like their pictures). Chatting on the phone can be helpful too. I'm sorry that this has happened to you twice in a row OP. That really sucks

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We only meet at our home. We do this because of the sheer number of time wasters out there. You really can't go by verifications any more as they could be as fake as the profile. It's a shame, but that's how it is unfortunately.

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By *ustme6Man
over a year ago

tamworth

Always speak by phone or Kik or even what's app before meeting..never meet without doing that first and getting a face pic..after all if they won't do that..what are the odds of them turning up. Some people on here seem to take amusement at getting guys to travel then not show. Sure it happens to women as wellmm

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It only happed to me once. Fortunately the arranged meet was very local. Cue the pathetic excuses for not turning up. Xx.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"Always speak by phone or Kik or even what's app before meeting..never meet without doing that first and getting a face pic..after all if they won't do that..what are the odds of them turning up. Some people on here seem to take amusement at getting guys to travel then not show. Sure it happens to women as wellmm "

Alot wont speak on the phone/whatsapp/kik. Myself included. Doesnt make us fake.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Maybe try a club - there are lots in the NW & if you arrange to meet at a club & they’re a no show, you can still have a good night! And even if you just go along as a single male, you’ll have a fun evening & a guaranteed social night if nothing else!!

It happens unfortunately - says more about them than you though lovely! Don’t let it get you down! x

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