FabSwingers.com forum: The impossible meet?

By *irtywildside OP Man
over a year ago

Barry

Hi I’m seeking help from the fab universe in my/our quest to achieve the (near) impossible .

Trying to find a single female to join me and a fellow bi male for the evening has been like trying to find rocking horse shit.

I understand the thought of going to a house with two guys isn’t for everyone but even exchanging pics and mobile numbers to prove we are genuine and most importantly decent and safe doesn’t seem to cut it.

Is there anything else we could do to put a potential candidate at ease? Or are we trying to achieve the impossible ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the safety aspect will make it very difficult to organise. You could meet a couple instead though or meet up at a club which would feel safer for the fem.

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rushden Lakes

Wow, we love your ambition!

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

A social 1st would help in a public place.

A private house meet could be changed to a hotel, to perhaps give the lady a feeling of a little more security.

Good luck in your quest...it may be an extended one!

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

I think you’d need to be willing to chat at length in advance (about all sorts - build a friendship).

I think it might help to consider when you’d feel comfortable to place some trust in the woman - send a copy of your ID or talk about the place you work or tell her where you live without asking for any of it back. That’s all risky stuff obviously but no more risky than meeting two unknown guys in a private place.

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By *irtywildside OP Man
over a year ago

Barry

Thanks for all that sound advice . I think definitely a social first is on the cards. We have both met other bi couples separately but , perhaps understandably the male half has always felt that two guys and his wife are enough let alone three

I’ve been to my

Local club a couple of times and apart from the phenomenal cost of going as a single guy I have only met couples who wanted to play straight in that environment (which was fine by me by the way

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rushden Lakes

"Thanks for all that sound advice . I think definitely a social first is on the cards. We have both met other bi couples separately but , perhaps understandably the male half has always felt that two guys and his wife are enough let alone three

I’ve been to my

Local club a couple of times and apart from the phenomenal cost of going as a single guy I have only met couples who wanted to play straight in that environment (which was fine by me by the way

Clubs can be like that...which is why bi nights are held...now that might be where you meet a woman who would like this scenario?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In addition to above maybe both meet her individually. The key is trust

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I would never meet two guy's at their place the first time,although that sound's ideal as finding a third guy in the past has been a pain!

Maybe meet socially first and one at a time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never meet two guys friends on a first, second or third meet

Why don't you try and meet a woman one on one and build up a bit of trust with her then introduce the other guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different meets seem impossible to different people. Try finding a lady for a predominantly straight mff for example

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

No bi element but I did meet two guys many years ago - they were friends where one had been on the scene a while, told his friend one night and they decided to see if they could team up occasionally for mmf.

We chatted for ages in advance and met socially first then met up at one of their houses at another time. I had a friend ring me part way through the evening to double check all was going well.

It was a good night!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi I’m seeking help from the fab universe in my/our quest to achieve the (near) impossible .

Trying to find a single female to join me and a fellow bi male for the evening has been like trying to find rocking horse shit.

Is there anything else we could do to put a potential candidate at ease? Or are we trying to achieve the impossible ?"

I'll be honest if I was single I wouldn't go to a house alone with two men. Exchanging pictures and mobile numbers is not proof that you're genuine, decent and safe.

I think you'd stand more chance if you met at clubs.

Would you be happy for a female loved one to meet two guys alone in a house with just photos and mobile numbers to prove they were safe?

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