FabSwingers.com forum: No face pic no reply

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

There's no point meeting someone you don't like the look of. So why waste ages messaging only to then have to say "sorry you're ugly"?

And yes, it's a great filter mechanism. No face pic no chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never message arrogant demanding people....that's my best filter

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Well I'm glad you've found what works well for you and wish you well

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

I need one in the first few messages. It will go no further otherwise. Obviously they will get one back if the attraction is there.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The irony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't like it don't message them...

There's always a simple solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to see a face to see if I want a conversation. I know I'm not a psycho who will stalk me, if I say no thanks. I also need to be sure the person messaging me isn't a friend of my children, or someone who knows my family.

I respect the wishes of any man who doesn't want to send a face pic. I will bid them adieu and be on my merry way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I treat everyone the same as if we met in public’s therefore I’d expect to see a face.... hate having to send the ‘sorry not my type/not for me’ message when you’ve been chatting for a few messages, imagine it’s more disheartening thinking you are making head way to be stalled part way through

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?"

Show your face then?

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

What’s the point in hours of messages to and fro to see if you get on if there is no attraction!

A picture 1st message saves a hell of a lot of time

surely no one wants to waste precious time !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone asks for a face pic they need to show their own too...otherwise were getting into the relms of sad women specifying a height restriction....ladies your only going on your back

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I suppose it depends upon how desperate you are to meet and whether or not you feel a need to keep your sex life private.

Personally, we like to chat and see if we’re on the same page before we would send face pics so we would never insist on receiving them within the first few messages. Partly because we value privacy and discretion and partly because we look hideous.

But, if after chatting for a little while the other couple doesn’t want to exchange face pics we would lose interest.

Mrs x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm more than happy to send a face pic to someone who I like the look of and who meets my demands!!

So long as I get one first

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Single females get lots of messages, we are on here to meet for sex not pen pals so if there is no immediate attraction there is no point chatting as it just wastes everyone's time.

I won't reply unless I get a face pic, if I do get a face pic and am not interested I will give a polite no thank you. If I am interested I will send face pics in return.

If you are unsure then just message people who are verified by photo and meets as they are the genuine people

If that still isn't comfortable for you then don't be surprised if you are deleted without reply.... harsh maybe but that's how it is on here .

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"Personally I treat everyone the same as if we met in public’s therefore I’d expect to see a face.... hate having to send the ‘sorry not my type/not for me’ message when you’ve been chatting for a few messages, imagine it’s more disheartening thinking you are making head way to be stalled part way through

This !

The times I’ve been polite answering their questions and thanking for the compliments, then a few messages along the way say sorry not my type ! Surely you’d want to know sooner

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By * very big boyMan
over a year ago

south east clacton

so many on this site dont have pics that why lot a people leave this site

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"If someone asks for a face pic they need to show their own too...otherwise were getting into the relms of sad women specifying a height restriction....ladies your only going on your back"

You think????

We're deciding to have sex with someone and we need to fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"If someone asks for a face pic they need to show their own too...otherwise were getting into the relms of sad women specifying a height restriction....ladies your only going on your back"

Sad women only fuck tall men apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

We don’t demand a face pic on first message OP, the only thing I would prefer is if there’s no bio on the profile and no public pics at all then I won’t bothet opening the message

MrsK x

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?

Show your face then?"

You miss the point. We're happy to send face pics in a message to someone that we're interested in chatting to. It just means that they have a copy of our face pic......no big deal.

Putting our faces on our swingers profile is completely different.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter."

The Special Brew bus seems to have arrived. Move on down fellas

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"I'm more than happy to send a face pic to someone who I like the look of and who meets my demands!!

So long as I get one first

Me too although mine are public at the moment !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

The Special Brew bus seems to have arrived. Move on down fellas

Aww. Truth can sometimes offend. Thanks for blocking. Saved me the job.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

The Special Brew bus seems to have arrived. Move on down fellas

Aww. Truth can sometimes offend. Thanks for blocking. Saved me the job.

The pleasure was all mine. Yeh Im a fat Les Dawson look alike. Sick of hearing it everywhere I go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter."

I get told I look like that quite often!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter."

I ask for face pics to see if i'm attracted to that person, no point chatting otherwise. Calling women who do this a cunt is very immature and pathetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

The Special Brew bus seems to have arrived. Move on down fellas

Aww. Truth can sometimes offend. Thanks for blocking. Saved me the job.

The pleasure was all mine. Yeh Im a fat Les Dawson look alike. Sick of hearing it everywhere I go

He was very popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

I ask for face pics to see if i'm attracted to that person, no point chatting otherwise. Calling women who do this a cunt is very immature and pathetic."

So is the fascistic demand for a face pic.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

The Special Brew bus seems to have arrived. Move on down fellas

Aww. Truth can sometimes offend. Thanks for blocking. Saved me the job.

The pleasure was all mine. Yeh Im a fat Les Dawson look alike. Sick of hearing it everywhere I go

He was very popular.

Yeh so was Bernard Manning.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter."

I met him a few times and looked nothing like him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

The Special Brew bus seems to have arrived. Move on down fellas

Aww. Truth can sometimes offend. Thanks for blocking. Saved me the job.

The pleasure was all mine. Yeh Im a fat Les Dawson look alike. Sick of hearing it everywhere I go

He was very popular.

Would you by chance have any resemblance ? Just my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

I ask for face pics to see if i'm attracted to that person, no point chatting otherwise. Calling women who do this a cunt is very immature and pathetic.

So is the fascistic demand for a face pic."

All I can see is that you’re a ‘dick’ and it’s not the first thing I’m attracted to. I need to see a nice face first.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

I met him a few times and looked nothing like him

Yeh cos we like to see what someone looks like we apparently lose our piano playing skills. Amazing or what!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a couple or single guy messages me I first view their profile and see if their what I am looking for, If what I read and see appeals to me I reply requesting a face photo, It saves a lot of time being wasted by all

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

The Special Brew bus seems to have arrived. Move on down fellas

Aww. Truth can sometimes offend. Thanks for blocking. Saved me the job.

The pleasure was all mine. Yeh Im a fat Les Dawson look alike. Sick of hearing it everywhere I go

He was very popular.

Would you by chance have any resemblance ? Just my type

I am!!! But think Les in a dress

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

Wow that’s a good one !

Women are only going to lie on their backs pmsl

wtf

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Having been on here quite a few years now, the way I see it is:

Decent guys read the profile, send a nice message only if they match, include a face pic and arrange to meet for coffee relatively quickly if they like the look of my face pic

Jerks don't read the profile, send crap messages, no face pic, maybe 3 cock pics or so and just want you to tell them your fantasies

They also often come in the forums to whine about face pic sending, women having preferences and then start calling the women names.

Guess who the women are more likely to meet?

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

And if any ladies would like a face pic to confirm I am a dead ringer for Les Dawson just ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

It's a great way of figuring out the woman is a complete cunt. It must just be a coincidence these types are always complete bag jobs who look like Les Dawson, only fatter.

The Special Brew bus seems to have arrived. Move on down fellas

Aww. Truth can sometimes offend. Thanks for blocking. Saved me the job.

The pleasure was all mine. Yeh Im a fat Les Dawson look alike. Sick of hearing it everywhere I go

He was very popular.

Would you by chance have any resemblance ? Just my type

I am!!! But think Les in a dress

Must still be better than op he won’t show us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll get my rock. This is going to run and run

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

We don’t demand a face pic on first message OP, the only thing I would prefer is if there’s no bio on the profile and no public pics at all then I won’t bothet opening the message

MrsK x"

That's a totally reasonable approach Mrs K! It just stops this place ending up like a cattle market ... which some seem quite happy about ...

Of course, females and couples have the pick on here (it's just the way it is) but with that must come some respect and consideration for others surely ...?!

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"Having been on here quite a few years now, the way I see it is:

Decent guys read the profile, send a nice message only if they match, include a face pic and arrange to meet for coffee relatively quickly if they like the look of my face pic

Jerks don't read the profile, send crap messages, no face pic, maybe 3 cock pics or so and just want you to tell them your fantasies

They also often come in the forums to whine about face pic sending, women having preferences and then start calling the women names.

Guess who the women are more likely to meet?

Absolutely well said !

If you don’t like it guys just block the person no big deal surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having been on here quite a few years now, the way I see it is:

Decent guys read the profile, send a nice message only if they match, include a face pic and arrange to meet for coffee relatively quickly if they like the look of my face pic

Jerks don't read the profile, send crap messages, no face pic, maybe 3 cock pics or so and just want you to tell them your fantasies

They also often come in the forums to whine about face pic sending, women having preferences and then start calling the women names.

Guess who the women are more likely to meet?

I totally agree with you. I’m a pretty open person and nothing to hide so would prefer to meet a similar person. I’m also fussy but if someone doesn’t want to show their face then that’s ok, there will be plenty who will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow that’s a good one !

Women are only going to lie on their backs pmsl

wtf"

We had better all get on our backs then lol

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Having been on here quite a few years now, the way I see it is:

Decent guys read the profile, send a nice message only if they match, include a face pic and arrange to meet for coffee relatively quickly if they like the look of my face pic

Jerks don't read the profile, send crap messages, no face pic, maybe 3 cock pics or so and just want you to tell them your fantasies

They also often come in the forums to whine about face pic sending, women having preferences and then start calling the women names.

Guess who the women are more likely to meet?

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a couple or single guy messages me I first view their profile and see if their what I am looking for, If what I read and see appeals to me I reply requesting a face photo, It saves a lot of time being wasted by all "

Very reasonable!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Don't like it don't message them...

There's always a simple solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

We never send face pics. If you send your face pic to someone, you are now not discreet. If they know you, they don't send one back but they know your secret.

We find that those people who insist on face pics, we just block.

We don't fuck their face, we're more interested in minge and cock shots. When you push the wheelbarrow, you can't see the wheel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is the option you can tick that your pics are deleted after opening so can't be saved if that helps but yes I think a ski g for a face pic is reasonable if wanting a meet. Which with being on here I assume that's what mist people aims are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose it depends upon how desperate you are to meet and whether or not you feel a need to keep your sex life private.

But, if after chatting for a little while the other couple doesn’t want to exchange face pics we would lose interest.

Mrs x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

We never send face pics. If you send your face pic to someone, you are now not discreet. If they know you, they don't send one back but they know your secret.

We find that those people who insist on face pics, we just block.

We don't fuck their face, we're more interested in minge and cock shots. When you push the wheelbarrow, you can't see the wheel. "

This this and more this!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"If someone asks for a face pic they need to show their own too...otherwise were getting into the relms of sad women specifying a height restriction....ladies your only going on your back"

Yup. That attitude will get you laid.

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over a year ago

"Really? I'm amazed at the number of people who expect a face pic for the possible honour of opening my message!!

I'm sure they get many messages and it's a way of narrowing them down ... but do they not respect others' privacy and security?!!

How can members know if they're genuine? Would you give your personal stuff to a stranger? It says a huge amount about them and presents a huge risk.

The nicest people I've talked with so far are those who get this and respect me as much as they expect me to respect their privacy.

But I'm not holding my breath that things will change ...!!

We never send face pics. If you send your face pic to someone, you are now not discreet. If they know you, they don't send one back but they know your secret.

We find that those people who insist on face pics, we just block.

We don't fuck their face, we're more interested in minge and cock shots. When you push the wheelbarrow, you can't see the wheel. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are unlikely to have any inclination to pursue an interest in someone if we don’t know what they look like. So we state in our profile that we need a facepic with first message, so that people who are not in a position to do this don’t waste their or our time by sending a message. This is not arrogance or a disrespect of privacy. It’s simply stating what works for us and what doesn’t work for us. Besides it’s not like we ask for anything we are not prepared to do ourselves.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Fab has very specific rules of the game for potential success. This requires us men to jump through a number of hoops and this is just one more.

To be honest I completely understand the rationale behind asking for a face pic. Why bother continuing to chat to the person if the attraction isn't there? This is a sex site after all, not a vanilla congregation where other norms could apply.

I always send a face pic with my first message. That lets me know immediately if the other party is interested. Luckily i've been told i'm handsome....probably why I get pleasant replies most of the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This !

The times I’ve been polite answering their questions and thanking for the compliments, then a few messages along the way say sorry not my type ! Surely you’d want to know sooner

Just make sure your profile says who you're looking for ...? I don't bother messaging anyone where I don't match their criteria or have no real interest.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

Women judge potential sexual partners more on looks than men do. Woman see this as “men will fuck anyone”

In reality (or at least with me) I judge more on personality than looks

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Fab has very specific rules of the game for potential success. This requires us men to jump through a number of hoops and this is just one more.

And this man gets meets with women, who'da thought it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah on our backs after being unshackled from the kitchen sink!

Note to you guys!

How not to get meets volume 1

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fab has very specific rules of the game for potential success. This requires us men to jump through a number of hoops and this is just one more.

I guess that's up to you ... and you're confident about how genuine is the person you're messaging? From what I've seen there's a lot of fake stuff here ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life personality first ie if you meet in work or whatever but let’s face it attraction is king. If someone approached you in a bar you didn’t fancy you wouldn’t hang around to see if they’re a nice person. Equally on here I won’t talk to someone unless I fancy them. If personality doesn’t follow they get blocked. I don’t have tome to speak to every guy to decide who’s nice only to find out they’re not my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never message arrogant demanding people....that's my best filter"

Likewise.. demanding people make 95% of fab community except the lovely single men.

You read some profile and feel like, I have just been talked down on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women who scream "Face pic only" in their profile can do one as far as i'm concerned. I havent got one on show for the same reason as you and manners and civility goes a long way. If we are on the same path after a few messages, then i like to swap them early,but i wont send one straight away. Some of you ladies need to come down off your high horse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a woman asks for a face pic and ur getting along I don't see the harm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?"

It puts me at risk of having my friend's son seeing me on here. As it was I saw his first and blocked him after declining him.

The risk is sending your face pic to someone whose pic you haven't seen, and them knowing you. It could cause problems for you.

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over a year ago

"Women who scream "Face pic only" in their profile can do one as far as i'm concerned. I havent got one on show for the same reason as you and manners and civility goes a long way. If we are on the same path after a few messages, then i like to swap them early,but i wont send one straight away. Some of you ladies need to come down off your high horse. "

Do you know how awkward it is to say to someone you have had a nice chat with that you don’t fancy them? I really hate that part so would rather avoid it.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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What people put on their profiles is very often bull shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are justified in saying this, you have your face on show (and very pretty it is too). Those who dont cant really have this train of thought x

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"In real life personality first ie if you meet in work or whatever but let’s face it attraction is king. If someone approached you in a bar you didn’t fancy you wouldn’t hang around to see if they’re a nice person. Equally on here I won’t talk to someone unless I fancy them. If personality doesn’t follow they get blocked. I don’t have tome to speak to every guy to decide who’s nice only to find out they’re not my type. "

Agree

exactly this !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more than happy to send a face pic to someone who I like the look of and who meets my demands!!

So long as I get one first

This every time or its the last message and block. Simple and if they don't like it then they don't ask.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

I think actually that life is really difficult for single men on Fab and also really frustrating, however I can imagine it’s very difficult for woman too, trying to get through hundreds of messages daily etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life, 100 guys wouldnt approach you in a bar if they couldnt see your face. Sorry, but you cant use this as a comparison

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"You are justified in saying this, you have your face on show (and very pretty it is too). Those who dont cant really have this train of thought x"

Yes we can. And we do. Don't like it then please pass us by. Everyone is happy then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab has very specific rules of the game for potential success. This requires us men to jump through a number of hoops and this is just one more.

I guess that's up to you ... and you're confident about how genuine is the person you're messaging? From what I've seen there's a lot of fake stuff here ..."

Depends whether it matter to the people individual if fakes get their hands on a face pic. For us, firstly we’ve never knowingly stumbled across a fake on Fab, and didn’t even know there were fakes until I started using the forums. Secondly, it doesn’t really worry us too much if a fake does get their hands on pictures of our anonymous faces. People have different levels of need for privacy and security. For us we feel that the benefits of being open outweigh the risks.

Mrs

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Maybe the site should add a new function to messages.. where every message has your veri photo attached. That way everyone is showing who is chatting. I dont mind sending a face pic but i dont if someone messages asking for one and they have no pics or dont send theirs when requesting mine. Has to be a level playing field.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?

It puts me at risk of having my friend's son seeing me on here. As it was I saw his first and blocked him after declining him.

The risk is sending your face pic to someone whose pic you haven't seen, and them knowing you. It could cause problems for you."

And it works the other way too ... which is why it's prudent to chat a bit first is it not?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are justified in saying this, you have your face on show (and very pretty it is too). Those who dont cant really have this train of thought x

Yes we can. And we do. Don't like it then please pass us by. Everyone is happy then."

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over a year ago

I can see your point OP. But there's also an issue of messaging back and forth with someone, doing a little flirting. Once a connection is slightly established, they send a face pic and then you get that disappointment, when you realise you don't fancy them. The dread that you now have to tell them that you dont. I don't demand face pics, but I understand that some do. It's come back and bitten me on the bum on a few ocassions, by not asking. But I also understand that you value your privacy. It's a difficult one. Perhaps just avoiding the profiles that demand them, is really the best way forward for you, if it annoys you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what I don’t understand is why a request for a face pics is considered by some people as a demand. Nobody is demanding anything. We’re here by our own free will and we all have free will as to what pictures we share and with who.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think actually that life is really difficult for single men on Fab and also really frustrating, however I can imagine it’s very difficult for woman too, trying to get through hundreds of messages daily etc"

Perhaps because women don't bother searching out the men they're interested in and just rely on men making all the running by messaging? Just wondering ...

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Do you know how awkward it is to say to someone you have had a nice chat with that you don’t fancy them? I really hate that part so would rather avoid it. "

That has happened to me on a couple of occasions...very awkward...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow that’s a good one !

Women are only going to lie on their backs pmsl

wtf"

Didn't you know we're all pillow princess's here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't tell a lot from a face picture anyway. Doesn't tell me who they are as a person and with make up a filters it is impossible to know how genuine the face is anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do pass you's by,I basically said this in my statement, only expressing my opinion and adding to the debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surprisingly the people who say no pic no chat has no pics on their profile they just demand Cose they are a couple or female it's ridiculous I don't message to any of the demanding profile unless i want wind them up i don't mind sending my pic after a few messages to the lovely polite couple n singles

just block them n move on there lots of other nice people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its awkward. Had it done to myself and had to do it back. Its all part of the game. Grown ups just accept it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It not a matter of coming off their high horses, it’s your prerogative to not show but don’t message the women who insist!!! Common sense

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"surprisingly the people who say no pic no chat has no pics on their profile they just demand Cose they are a couple or female it's ridiculous I don't message to any of the demanding profile unless i want wind them up i don't mind sending my pic after a few messages to the lovely polite couple n singles

just block them n move on there lots of other nice people "

Yes please stick to this approach and every other person with this attitude. Then everybody will be happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can see your point OP. But there's also an issue of messaging back and forth with someone, doing a little flirting. Once a connection is slightly established, they send a face pic and then you get that disappointment, when you realise you don't fancy them. The dread that you now have to tell them that you dont. I don't demand face pics, but I understand that some do. It's come back and bitten me on the bum on a few ocassions, by not asking. But I also understand that you value your privacy. It's a difficult one. Perhaps just avoiding the profiles that demand them, is really the best way forward for you, if it annoys you

I totally agree and appreciate your balanced reply. But I guess there are ways of saying no and not causing offence. That said, I'm aware some guys do then hurl abuse and deserve the block button! Actually, I do avoid demanding people, they aren't my type as you may have guessed!

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over a year ago

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?

It puts me at risk of having my friend's son seeing me on here. As it was I saw his first and blocked him after declining him.

The risk is sending your face pic to someone whose pic you haven't seen, and them knowing you. It could cause problems for you.

And it works the other way too ... which is why it's prudent to chat a bit first is it not?!"

The problem with that. What would cause the chat to take place if nobody knows what each other looks like? Secondly if we do end up chatting and later exchanging pictures, what if I don’t like their face or they don’t like us? Would much rather get that obstacle out the way in the first instance. But it’s all about personal preference, and we’re the type of people who could probably live with the embarrassment of stumbling across someone we know, as unlikely as that would be.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

That's great. Don't message profiles that you see as demanding. Then everyone is happy. It's not hard to understand yet causes some so much angst when people state their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont message the women who insist. I have made that clear in my comments. Still doesnt stop me from voicing my opinion, and if a women demands face pics in her intro, while not showing her own, then for me she is on her high horse.My opinion ladies , sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont message the women who insist. I have made that clear in my comments. Still doesnt stop me from voicing my opinion, and if a women demands face pics in her intro, while not showing her own, then for me she is on her high horse.My opinion ladies , sorry

But just because there are no face pics on her profile doesn’t necessarily mean she won’t send them privately

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

Why be sorry for having an opinion? You don't want to meet them. They don't want to meet you. That's nothing to be sorry for. Your opinion doesn't affect them at all.

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Do you know how awkward it is to say to someone you have had a nice chat with that you don’t fancy them? I really hate that part so would rather avoid it.

That has happened to me on a couple of occasions...very awkward..."

This happened to me with 1st guy I spoke to on fab. Was a lovely guy personality wise but just no atttaction. Cant have sex with someone i dont fancy. Felt awful telling him and he was lovely about it so always ask for a face pic after at least a couple of messages. Mine r private cos of work but happy to send on request x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An opinion you are entitied to have, no need for apologies

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By *thwiltsmMan
over a year ago

salisbury

sending face pics in a message is a must, there’s loads of ugly buggers on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you know how awkward it is to say to someone you have had a nice chat with that you don’t fancy them? I really hate that part so would rather avoid it.

That has happened to me on a couple of occasions...very awkward...

Quite right! But he may not like how you like either? If that's the feeling either way once face pics are exchanged that's just how it is. We all understand that. If we're embarrassed to be honest with the other party, are unable to decline politely or accept a decline gracefully then perhaps we shouldn't be doing this?

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over a year ago

Do you know how awkward it is to say to someone you have had a nice chat with that you don’t fancy them? I really hate that part so would rather avoid it.

That has happened to me on a couple of occasions...very awkward...

The point being that some are not able it. I've been called a time waster and up my own arse for not fancying someone, because I took a while to request a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even When my profile is active I don’t show my pic, I feel as a woman this is unsafe, I explain this in my text. I ask for a man to show theor face first if they’re interested and pass me by if not, I say I’ll send a pic in return if I fancy them yet I still get abuse. Why can’t men just concentrate on the women that may be interested instead of abusing those who make their preferences clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To* not it

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over a year ago

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?

It puts me at risk of having my friend's son seeing me on here. As it was I saw his first and blocked him after declining him.

The risk is sending your face pic to someone whose pic you haven't seen, and them knowing you. It could cause problems for you.

And it works the other way too ... which is why it's prudent to chat a bit first is it not?!"

Chat to find out what? If I chatted to every man who messaged me, without a face pic, I wouldn't have time to meet anyone. If I messaged a man first I would attach a face pic.

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over a year ago

"In real life, 100 guys wouldnt approach you in a bar if they couldnt see your face. Sorry, but you cant use this as a comparison

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over a year ago

"Even When my profile is active I don’t show my pic, I feel as a woman this is unsafe, I explain this in my text. I ask for a man to show theor face first if they’re interested and pass me by if not, I say I’ll send a pic in return if I fancy them yet I still get abuse. Why can’t men just concentrate on the women that may be interested instead of abusing those who make their preferences clear

I sent a face pic to someone but didn't want to meet him, after talking to him, and he spotted me in the street, followed me to my daughter's flat and knocked on the door.

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over a year ago

"In real life, 100 guys wouldnt approach you in a bar if they couldnt see your face. Sorry, but you cant use this as a comparison

This comment wins"

This isn't real life, but, in real life I turn men down who come up to me, if I don't like how they look. I don't chat to them to see if I suddenly feel attracted to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience a lot of women who ask for a face picture haven't transpired to be the prettiest bauble on the tree...that's the beauty of fab, most men are acting like they have no idea what sex feels like. So women can literrally keep you at arms length..I would if I was a woman.

They could be 44 stone with 3 teeth and a tache but you saw a cleavage pic and you're desperate to fuck anythi...them

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"sending face pics in a message is a must, there’s loads of ugly buggers on here

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over a year ago

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?

It puts me at risk of having my friend's son seeing me on here. As it was I saw his first and blocked him after declining him.

The risk is sending your face pic to someone whose pic you haven't seen, and them knowing you. It could cause problems for you.

And it works the other way too ... which is why it's prudent to chat a bit first is it not?!

Chat to find out what? If I chatted to every man who messaged me, without a face pic, I wouldn't have time to meet anyone. If I messaged a man first I would attach a face pic. "

Chat only to those who catch your interest from what they say, not everyone ... it's a great initial filter ... If you offer a face pic first it's not a problem. It's your choice, not a demand.

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over a year ago

I sent a face pic to someone but didn't want to meet him, after talking to him, and he spotted me in the street, followed me to my daughter's flat and knocked on the door. "

I think you've just hit the nail on the head about expecting someone to send a face pic before establishing some verification ...

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over a year ago

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?

It puts me at risk of having my friend's son seeing me on here. As it was I saw his first and blocked him after declining him.

The risk is sending your face pic to someone whose pic you haven't seen, and them knowing you. It could cause problems for you.

And it works the other way too ... which is why it's prudent to chat a bit first is it not?!

Chat to find out what? If I chatted to every man who messaged me, without a face pic, I wouldn't have time to meet anyone. If I messaged a man first I would attach a face pic.

Chat only to those who catch your interest from what they say, not everyone ... it's a great initial filter ... If you offer a face pic first it's not a problem. It's your choice, not a demand."

People say a lot of the same things, in an opening message. I'd be talking to a lot of people, and I might not like the look of any off them, when we swap face pics.

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over a year ago

I sent a face pic to someone but didn't want to meet him, after talking to him, and he spotted me in the street, followed me to my daughter's flat and knocked on the door.

I think you've just hit the nail on the head about expecting someone to send a face pic before establishing some verification ..."

It's about what risk you want to take. I won't send a face pic to any local men if I haven't seen theirs.

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over a year ago

"In real life, 100 guys wouldnt approach you in a bar if they couldnt see your face. Sorry, but you cant use this as a comparison

This comment wins

This isn't real life, but, in real life I turn men down who come up to me, if I don't like how they look. I don't chat to them to see if I suddenly feel attracted to them. "

This is real life! It's calked social media and we all should be prudent ... it's what we tell our kids!

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over a year ago

my face pics are on public display tho i dont expect everyone to feel comfy doing the same however i like to see who im chatting to , no point messaging back n forth to find out that im not facially attracted to a guy which is important to me , yes i say on my profile no face pic no reply so if you dont want to share one immidiately then dont contact me simple !

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over a year ago

I sent a face pic to someone but didn't want to meet him, after talking to him, and he spotted me in the street, followed me to my daughter's flat and knocked on the door.

I think you've just hit the nail on the head about expecting someone to send a face pic before establishing some verification ...

It's about what risk you want to take. I won't send a face pic to any local men if I haven't seen theirs. "

Absolutely, and that's your very sensible decision. My starting point was that the same courtesy should be given to the other person without demands being made. If photos can't be exchanged then just move on. Safety and privacy are important for both women and men.

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over a year ago

"my face pics are on public display tho i dont expect everyone to feel comfy doing the same however i like to see who im chatting to , no point messaging back n forth to find out that im not facially attracted to a guy which is important to me , yes i say on my profile no face pic no reply so if you dont want to share one immidiately then dont contact me simple !"

I think the OP is eluding to people who don't send face pics first, or don't have any on their profile

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over a year ago

"In real life, 100 guys wouldnt approach you in a bar if they couldnt see your face. Sorry, but you cant use this as a comparison

This comment wins"

And in real life men wouldn’t approach you with their face covered and cocks out so again there’s no comparison. Show your face if asked or move on to the next person who doesn’t care if you do.

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over a year ago

I always send a face pic with a message. Has back fired once or twice,but I am who I am & if people don't like the look of me it's their problem not mine.

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over a year ago

When I was naive and showed my face I had a few men stalk me, one even followed me to my work and used to wait outside and leave notes on my car, another still messages me 6 years later regardless of how much I beg him not to

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over a year ago

"What risk does it actually represent though ? Someone has a picture of your face. Not really incriminating is it ?

It puts me at risk of having my friend's son seeing me on here. As it was I saw his first and blocked him after declining him.

The risk is sending your face pic to someone whose pic you haven't seen, and them knowing you. It could cause problems for you.

And it works the other way too ... which is why it's prudent to chat a bit first is it not?!

Chat to find out what? If I chatted to every man who messaged me, without a face pic, I wouldn't have time to meet anyone. If I messaged a man first I would attach a face pic.

Chat only to those who catch your interest from what they say, not everyone ... it's a great initial filter ... If you offer a face pic first it's not a problem. It's your choice, not a demand.

People say a lot of the same things, in an opening message. I'd be talking to a lot of people, and I might not like the look of any off them, when we swap face pics. "

Ignore all those uninteresting messages then! At least you'll only have two or three decent messages to reply to ...

. (And thanks for the replies here ... discussion is good!).

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over a year ago

"In real life, 100 guys wouldnt approach you in a bar if they couldnt see your face. Sorry, but you cant use this as a comparison

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over a year ago

I wasnt comparing it to real life, you were.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I was naive and showed my face I had a few men stalk me, one even followed me to my work and used to wait outside and leave notes on my car, another still messages me 6 years later regardless of how much I beg him not to "

That's the danger isn't it?

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over a year ago

I think the OP is eluding to people who don't send face pics first, or don't have any on their profile

I was but Leah's approach is quite valid. As Leah's already shown face pics so could reasonably expect one in a first message ... And you have too (very nice as well!).

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over a year ago

"Wow that’s a good one !

Women are only going to lie on their backs pmsl

wtf"
mmthatsnone of the last things I do! Far more interesting things to do before that one...

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over a year ago

Do you know how awkward it is to say to someone you have had a nice chat with that you don’t fancy them? I really hate that part so would rather avoid it.

That has happened to me on a couple of occasions...very awkward...

Yep I would hold my hands up and say that I would be hugely embarrassed, once face pics are exchanged, to have to turn someone down who we’ve been chatting to for a while. I would also be mortified if they turned me down once I’d got all excited etc. Too sensitive? Maybe. Should I not be doing this? Well so far this lifestyle works very well for my husband and I, and I don’t think we’re doing anyone any harm. So no, I don’t think our lifestyle is something we shouldn’t do.

Mrs

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over a year ago

My pictures are hidden and I ask for a picture and i'm definitely not on my high horse. I do send face pictures as well why waste time with men who don't send one. It does happen on here, just don't bother with people who want pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it amazes me the amount of men that expect me to meet them without seeing any pics of them , sorry guys i aint so desperate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you know how awkward it is to say to someone you have had a nice chat with that you don’t fancy them? I really hate that part so would rather avoid it.

That has happened to me on a couple of occasions...very awkward...

Mrs"

Absolutely you should enjoy the lifestyle! My point really was that part of that is being able to say 'no' or be told 'no' gracefully ... as in the example you've given. I think we all under stand that we won't all want sex with everyone, however nice they are. It's part of swinging and we must accept that ... That said, I know some people will have difficulty with rejection!

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over a year ago

"If someone asks for a face pic they need to show their own too...otherwise were getting into the relms of sad women specifying a height restriction....ladies your only going on your back

Sad women only fuck tall men apparently.

I can assure you that's not correct ??

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri

I don't state on my profile 'no face, pic no reply' but i am much more likely to send a reply if they've sent one with a decent message that shows we would have a fun time aswell as there being a visual attraction.

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

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"it amazes me the amount of men that expect me to meet them without seeing any pics of them , sorry guys i aint so desperate "

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over a year ago

I wish it was compulsory to have face pics I respect people's privacy but the amount of fakes on here might be deterred

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over a year ago

"In real life, 100 guys wouldnt approach you in a bar if they couldnt see your face. Sorry, but you cant use this as a comparison

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This isn't real life, but, in real life I turn men down who come up to me, if I don't like how they look. I don't chat to them to see if I suddenly feel attracted to them.

This is real life! It's calked social media and we all should be prudent ... it's what we tell our kids!"

People approach differently and interact differently online to real life.

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over a year ago

"I wish it was compulsory to have face pics I respect people's privacy but the amount of fakes on here might be deterred "

The real people might drop too though.