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Why do I not get many meets?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been fab about a year now and only had one meet, I think it is a great website but i personally would love more meets, I think it’s to do with my age but that is one of big fantasy’s being with an older women, so if someone could give me some advice I’d be very grateful thanks guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been fab about a year now and only had one meet, I think it is a great website but i personally would love more meets, I think it’s to do with my age but that is one of big fantasy’s being with an older women, so if someone could give me some advice I’d be very grateful thanks guys x"
your avatar is your cock that suggests you think with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usual problems.

Very brief and say nothing profile.

Pics concentrated on your cock...NOT what ladies want to see (we’ve all got one).

As you acknowledge...your age. You are seeking older women, so you are probably younger than their children...many will not go there.

You are asking them to “take you to” clubs etc....never going to happen...grow a pair and go yourself (sorry if that sounds harsh...but it’s good advice)

Finally accept that there are many many more men on here than the ladies who are in short supply and great demand. You will only appeal to a small percentage of this small pool of talent...and not that many will also be local. Numbers are stacked against all guys...not just you. So you need to stand out in some way.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Well done for acting quickly on advise given already. No dick pics, got rid of the ladies please take me to a club.

Add some other photos...torso, bum, black and white shots look at other successful forum users profiles to get some ideas.

Age...change the fact you will meet people up to age 99.

A bit more about you would help.

Try and attend a social or pluck up courage to go to a club. Even if you just go to a club, sit at the bar. You can talk to other swingers and will get verifications to say you are well dressed, polite, friendly, good looking etc. Think of it as going to a new pub.

Send fun friendly messages asking to chat, and mention something in the ladies profile that interested you.

Hope that helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not too far off laying a decent profile foundation in our opinion. Concentrate on getting the profile text right and keep reviewing and reforming it. Always a good idea to have a look at some other guys profiles that are obviously working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck"

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks "

Women could have a totally blank profile and get meets. Unfortunately, as men vastly outnumber women, they have to make more of an effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks

Women could have a totally blank profile and get meets. Unfortunately, as men vastly outnumber women, they have to make more of an effort. "

Yes I agree that men are outnumbered but I disagree that they have to make an effort just because the ratio is 1:99

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks "

Perhaps they go to clubs and have lots of swinging friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks

Perhaps they go to clubs and have lots of swinging friends?"

Let’s not make assumptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks

Perhaps they go to clubs and have lots of swinging friends?

Let’s not make assumptions "

Aye? I didn't

I said "perhaps"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks

Perhaps they go to clubs and have lots of swinging friends?

Let’s not make assumptions

Aye? I didn't

I said "perhaps""

That’s an assumption

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don't forget that the advice given here is that person's advice, what they would either like to see or what they have themselves, put your own spin on your profile and you'll attract the type of people you want to meet.

I'm well aware that my own profile could do with a complete makeover but this isn't about me so take all advice with a pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks

Perhaps they go to clubs and have lots of swinging friends?

Let’s not make assumptions

Aye? I didn't

I said "perhaps"

That’s an assumption "

Oakie doke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what to say - you look nice, yes your profile is short and simple, but its honest enough - your likes//dislikes seem ok -

Perhaps a few more words, but just stick at it you be fine I'm sure

Remember we men are massively out numbered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take out the part that says your not fussed about age or body type as to me that screams desperate as you would meet anyone, everyone has a type, you don't need to state a type but saying your not fussy doesn't come across well, as above few more nice body shots etc then I think your nearly there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is rubbish. You need to write a lot more about yourself, what you seek, what you can offer, what type of person you are and would like to meet and improve your photos, they will be putting most women off. Get out to social meets also. Good luck

I don’t think it’s the profile.. I’ve seen girls profile with not a single word and 20 meets in last 8 weeks

Perhaps they go to clubs and have lots of swinging friends?

Let’s not make assumptions

Aye? I didn't

I said "perhaps"

That’s an assumption

Oakie doke"

Coolio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take out the part that says your not fussed about age or body type as to me that screams desperate as you would meet anyone, everyone has a type, you don't need to state a type but saying your not fussy doesn't come across well, as above few more nice body shots etc then I think your nearly there x"

I’m into candle waxxxxxxxxxx x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check your spelling too. Using 'u' instead of 'you', makes you appear childish. If you can't put the extra effort in to type the full word, then we assume you can't put the effort in to provide a decent meet.

The older woman thing is really pointless as you're only 20 yourself, so let's face it, the majority of people you 'may' meet will be older than you anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take out the part that says your not fussed about age or body type as to me that screams desperate as you would meet anyone, everyone has a type, you don't need to state a type but saying your not fussy doesn't come across well, as above few more nice body shots etc then I think your nearly there x

I’m into candle waxxxxxxxxxx x"

That was an experiment, nearly put to sleep though, did nothing for me sexually but was good fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well everyone that replied and helped me out thank you, great advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take out the part that says your not fussed about age or body type as to me that screams desperate as you would meet anyone, everyone has a type, you don't need to state a type but saying your not fussy doesn't come across well, as above few more nice body shots etc then I think your nearly there x

I’m into candle waxxxxxxxxxx x

That was an experiment, nearly put to sleep though, did nothing for me sexually but was good fun "
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I’m not into candle wax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well everyone that replied and helped me out thank you, great advice x"

Here is a piece of advice.. you can write your profile with gold and still get no meets.

Thought I have a moral responsibility to set your expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well everyone that replied and helped me out thank you, great advice x"

Of course, it helps if you have a massive cock too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well everyone that replied and helped me out thank you, great advice x

Of course, it helps if you have a massive cock too. "

Errmmm I didn’t want to make him feel bad about his cock but... here we go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Patience is the key lol"

It’s not the key lol because you aren’t doing it out of choice

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Just my personal thought, others may not agree

But you latest photo, it's in a hospital?

Nice arse shot, but part of my brain says "what's wrong with him?"

Might kind of put people off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well everyone that replied and helped me out thank you, great advice x"

Good to see someone taking advice for a change, and by the look of your profile now, implementing it well!

You'll get there, expand your text a bit more regarding what you really enjoy doing to a woman that will give them pleasure...?

The meets will come

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Just my personal thought, others may not agree

But you latest photo, it's in a hospital?

Nice arse shot, but part of my brain says "what's wrong with him?"

Might kind of put people off?

"

I'd agree with this - forgive the pun but it looks a bit clinical!! The other two pics are good though.

Definitely agree you need to flesh your profile blurb out a little too - but you need to do it with your own words OP - get across something about you and what you're looking for, and what you think you can offer - try and inject some personality into it too

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