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By *revshar OP   Couple
over a year ago

aldershot

Guy did not turn up last night why do they it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cold feet maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a shame - Hubby just said to me "If I had been the guy you would have had to come over this morning to ask for me back, shes lovely!"

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate that if the others involved do not let you know.

For us at the minute, we are struggling with the couples on here, especially when you see "cannot accom but can travel anywhere/anytime" but 50 miles along the motorway is a bit too far????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazes me just how many times this actually happens ta friends of mine

Canna work it out myself lol xx

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By *ogandsuzegCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

That's why we don't accommodate and always insist that we have an address, and not a hotel except if it's obviously business! I like to meet younger guys and this tactic avoids them getting cold feet, something I understand because after all in the cold light of day meeting a woman for sex with her hubby present AND with a 30 year age gap takes a lot of "bottle". Must say I'm surprised how rarely "performance" has been a problem for the guys once we've meet but I could easily understand if it was!

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By *ne-just4funMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"Guy did not turn up last night why do they it "

There is no definitive answer to this one. It's not restricted to single guys, single fems and couples do it as well. It one of the reasons people get disillusioned and leave the site.

It can range from wannabes who like the chase but don't have the bottle to carry it through to people who do have genuine reasons for missing a meet.

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

"

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

problem is the ones that let people down ruin it for us genuine males that are looking and do want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"problem is the ones that let people down ruin it for us genuine males that are looking and do want to meet "

genuine people*

its not just single guys that dont show, i had a no show from a couple onece

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho"

how is it their loss?

if they wanted to meet they would have turned up...so what have they lost?

never get that expression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho

how is it their loss?

if they wanted to meet they would have turned up...so what have they lost?

never get that expression "

well we know what could have been theirs too share..doh!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"problem is the ones that let people down ruin it for us genuine males that are looking and do want to meet

genuine people*

its not just single guys that dont show, i had a no show from a couple onece "

It could have been a single woman pretending to be a single guy..... You just never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're always being let down, as the title of this thread implies then I'd look at how I'm selecting prospective playmates.

Sometimes we have to take responsibly.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho

how is it their loss?

if they wanted to meet they would have turned up...so what have they lost?

never get that expression

well we know what could have been theirs too share..doh!! "

But they ended up not wanting to share it, so it still isn't their loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"problem is the ones that let people down ruin it for us genuine males that are looking and do want to meet

genuine people*

its not just single guys that dont show, i had a no show from a couple onece

It could have been a single woman pretending to be a single guy..... You just never know. "

haha yeah i do that all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho

how is it their loss?

if they wanted to meet they would have turned up...so what have they lost?

never get that expression

well we know what could have been theirs too share..doh!!

But they ended up not wanting to share it, so it still isn't their loss! "

but why waste folks time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho

how is it their loss?

if they wanted to meet they would have turned up...so what have they lost?

never get that expression "

You're not alone, I don't get that either. How can you lose something you don't want? I suppose it makes people feel better about themselves I guess...(shrugs)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho

how is it their loss?

if they wanted to meet they would have turned up...so what have they lost?

never get that expression

You're not alone, I don't get that either. How can you lose something you don't want? I suppose it makes people feel better about themselves I guess...(shrugs)... "

so why the hell arrange/contact in the 1st place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read most peoples comments all moan about it males females and couples!

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho

how is it their loss?

if they wanted to meet they would have turned up...so what have they lost?

never get that expression

You're not alone, I don't get that either. How can you lose something you don't want? I suppose it makes people feel better about themselves I guess...(shrugs)...

so why the hell arrange/contact in the 1st place? "

Are they not allowed to change their mind? It does happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you will find that the couples that 'let down' are usually a disparity between the male who is doing all the arranging and the female who would rather not.

Not uncommon.

I've not been let down by any genuine single fem in the past.

I have been let down by hundreds of males, both prior to being separated and since.

The pattern is when there is a male involved expect to be let down more often than not.

yes this is very true, average is 4-1 against the fellas........their loss tho

how is it their loss?

if they wanted to meet they would have turned up...so what have they lost?

never get that expression

You're not alone, I don't get that either. How can you lose something you don't want? I suppose it makes people feel better about themselves I guess...(shrugs)...

so why the hell arrange/contact in the 1st place?

Are they not allowed to change their mind? It does happen. "

which is fine if they contact/explain but the majority do not Location may be an issue?, but if folk do their homework?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm going to met someone or a couple I would not miss it cos mets are few and far between and for a lady or couple to make plans is a big risk.

It takes time to know who you want to met and a bit of time spent txt is time well spent the get rid of the time wasters

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"If I'm going to met someone or a couple I would not miss it cos mets are few and far between and for a lady or couple to make plans is a big risk.

It takes time to know who you want to met and a bit of time spent txt is time well spent the get rid of the time wasters "

I couldn't have put it any better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well arranged social last night and out of a lot of people lets just say only 16 turned up never again lol 6 girls and 10 guys couples went of to tease and I met them later. Was just a general social but because it was a (swingers social) all the guys were interested in was when we all going to get it on lol hasten to add us ladies upped and left.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"If I'm going to met someone or a couple I would not miss it cos mets are few and far between and for a lady or couple to make plans is a big risk.

It takes time to know who you want to met and a bit of time spent txt is time well spent the get rid of the time wasters

I couldn't have put it any better."

Oh don't do yourself down. You could aspire with a modicom of effort x

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

we have been let down few times, mostly due to agreein to meet the guys after they been out for a few drinks, and expectin them to be on time, like 12 bein arranged and they message be a bit late and it goes on and on and on till we call it off i mean bif dif between 12 and 2 am, or the others that get cold feet yeah it happens single guys can get cold feet, but hay shit happen though very annoyin at time, sometimes better just got to normal bar flirt and pull first timers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well to fly in the face of all that is written, the ONLY meets I have had using this site have been single females. Every couple that has every arranged, or wanted info and chatted for a while have all dropped into the nether.

I have had couple meets on other sites, but not a single one from here, strange but unfortunately true....

P xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well to fly in the face of all that is written, the ONLY meets I have had using this site have been single females. Every couple that has every arranged, or wanted info and chatted for a while have all dropped into the nether.

I have had couple meets on other sites, but not a single one from here, strange but unfortunately true....

P xxx"

funny you should say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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funny you should say that"

Not that I mind so, the only thing that winds me up a little is when you arrange a meet a week in advance for a weekend, turn down two or three other potentials and then get the brush off from the original couple. Has a habit of messing up a weekend. These days I take couple mails with a pinch of salt, as I said, 14 single femme met at least once since June, zero couple meets..... (not that I am counting)

P xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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funny you should say that

Not that I mind so, the only thing that winds me up a little is when you arrange a meet a week in advance for a weekend, turn down two or three other potentials and then get the brush off from the original couple. Has a habit of messing up a weekend. These days I take couple mails with a pinch of salt, as I said, 14 single femme met at least once since June, zero couple meets..... (not that I am counting)

P xxx "

we as a couple are coming (no pun) to the same conclusion!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be philosophical about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think there are a lot of dreamers and that's cool and everything, it's just I don't want to really be part of that dream.....

Of course some of the couples that arranged could have been single fellas, that's what people usually say

P xxx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

not just single guys... females and couples included.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"

funny you should say that

Not that I mind so, the only thing that winds me up a little is when you arrange a meet a week in advance for a weekend, turn down two or three other potentials and then get the brush off from the original couple. Has a habit of messing up a weekend. These days I take couple mails with a pinch of salt, as I said, 14 single femme met at least once since June, zero couple meets..... (not that I am counting)

P xxx "

I have a lot more success with couples at a club than on an individual meet basis. Just one of those things I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Wyrd one, I have a good experience with couples from another site, just this one seems to bring out the wasters for some unknown reason. Having said that every single femme I have arranged a meet with through here has happened.

I am not having a go, this is just my personal experience for what it's worth, and I am positive that there are wasters of every description, but I think life would be nicer without them

P xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps u need to look at the way you are picking/selecting peeps.... find a new strategy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"perhaps u need to look at the way you are picking/selecting peeps.... find a new strategy "

I agree for the OP, but there is no hard and fast rule (or soft and slow for that matter). I don't message, I let people come to me, single femmes and couples complain a lot about full inboxes so I just sit around and wait for a wink or mail and go from there. That's why I dont get why I have so many failed couple meets, after all, they approached me.

Maybe I should put "no couples" on my profile lol, strange thing is, if a couple puts "no time wasters" people think that's ok, but if a single guy does it..... Oo'er

Anyway, happy meets all, I am doing just fine, it's just not always single guys, you know

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Personally I prefer to just get on with it rather than bringing every little detail of dissapointment to the attention of everyone else on the forums....maybe that's why I get lots of enjoyment and satisfaction from swinging through Fab Swingers website, I use the site to actively meet other members....and not to bitch about them in public.

But hey....each to their own and we are not all the same.

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