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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

An hour before a meet (with an hours drive for me) and the couple I'm meeting still can't give me an address or verify themseleves over the phone.

Its not just single bi female profiles that can be fake so I do like confirmation over the phone, a simple hello off both halves of the couple and an address before I head off.

The best thing is that they were the ones who cancelled the meet when I said I wouldn't drive an hour on the bassis of a few emails and some txts.

How hard is it to say hello on the phone?

I am fairly new here so maybe I am a little too sceptical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have quick chat with someone on the phone before i meet them.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

No not sceptical, sounds to me like you used a bit of common sense. Good on you.

Though personally Id probably have cancelled it a lot earlier if I were in your shoes.

Hope things go better for you next time.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Hope it works out for you next time.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insist on a social meet beforehand every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone can't give you an address or speak to you on the phone before a meet, social or otherwise,then I would smell a rat. Sounds like you have a sensible attitude. Better luck next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet planned on Thurs night. Turned up punctual (1900hrs meet). They did say 7 ish so left looking at website for any last minute messages till about 2000hrs. Sure enough they were online (iPhone is a godsend at this point)

They say they have come to the meeting point but a bloke putting his dogs INTO his car gave them cold feet.

Then the mother in law turned up.

Was asked for 5 minutes followed by 10 minutes. 2.5 hours later than the '7 ish' time I buggered off.

No message of apology or kiss my arse has been forthcoming.

Single males are such bad people aren't they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, best to find out if they are genuine, Some people don't play fair, you take the time to meet and they are a no show. Not very good.

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think u did the right thing. I too only meet in a pub for a social first. But yes if they dont give any info or chat on the phone first, they have something to hide and probably aren't genuine.

Sounds like ur bullshit radar is working well!!!

ps mr lancelot, sorry to hear ur story, that sounds truly crap, hope ur having better luck now!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An hour before a meet (with an hours drive for me) and the couple I'm meeting still can't give me an address or verify themseleves over the phone.

Its not just single bi female profiles that can be fake so I do like confirmation over the phone, a simple hello off both halves of the couple and an address before I head off.

The best thing is that they were the ones who cancelled the meet when I said I wouldn't drive an hour on the bassis of a few emails and some txts.

How hard is it to say hello on the phone?

I am fairly new here so maybe I am a little too sceptical."

If they are not prepared to talk over the phone then you are highly unlikely to get through the front door even if you do know the address. Smile about it chalk it off and put efforts into some who treats you better.

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By *ogandsuzegCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

It's just not a date until you have an address and a time. I know it must be difficult for single guys not to get carried away at even a sniff of a date given the numbers issue but if you're travelling it's the address that's key. If you're hosting then all you can do is check if the verifications are there to suggest who ever it is is a genuine player or one of hundreds of fantasists!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's just not a date until you have an address and a time. I know it must be difficult for single guys not to get carried away at even a sniff of a date given the numbers issue but if you're travelling it's the address that's key. If you're hosting then all you can do is check if the verifications are there to suggest who ever it is is a genuine player or one of hundreds of fantasists!"

They'd been txting saying come over at 1030 and gave me the first half of a postcode. Seeing as it was 9 at the time I don't think I was jumping the gun in assuming that the meet was on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd never meet anyone without talking on the phone first.

It's surprising how much you can get to know and have a feel for people from just a few calls.

If a prospective meet didn't want to talk on the phone it would be a non starter.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"An hour before a meet (with an hours drive for me) and the couple I'm meeting still can't give me an address or verify themseleves over the phone.

Its not just single bi female profiles that can be fake so I do like confirmation over the phone, a simple hello off both halves of the couple and an address before I head off.

The best thing is that they were the ones who cancelled the meet when I said I wouldn't drive an hour on the bassis of a few emails and some txts.

How hard is it to say hello on the phone?

I am fairly new here so maybe I am a little too sceptical."

If they dont speak on the phone, long before u start getting ready...dont bother,its probably a single bloke

i dont know of any couple on here who wud not give a quick call just to confirm everyone is genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No phone, no chat, no address, equal no drive. You did the right thing.

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By *ogandsuzegCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

All I can say is that maybe they were genuine but got genuine cold feet but from our experience, obviously the other way around, is that even a full postcode doesn't really help unless you have a house number. Verifications are really a big help because it gives an albeit imperfect, clue and I'm always wary of "verifed Genuine" profiles which don't have the actual verification attached visible (and yes we do meet "newbie" guys so we don't believe you should try to make these things absolutely watertight against disappointment tho' it is annoying and if I wasn't such a horny bitch would be a bit soul destroying when it happens!)_

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

What are you worried about? I've had:

1. Guy driving to meet me and my (now ex) partner ... last text 'caught in traffic be there soon' - next day at 9:30 AM text 'Sorry decided to turn around and go home' I was watching googlemaps for traffic conditions. We waited 4 hours ... she and I could have played for four hours!

2. Guys in chat 'getting in shower see you in an hour' next appearance 4 or 5 days later. Long shower.

3. Guy 'I got lost, couldn't find my way and had no coverage in the tube' - seriously how hard is it to get off at the TUBE station yo u are meeting at?

4. Couples: 'My wife is shy she can't talk on the phone, but it's ok to meet anyway'

5. Couples: She calls, introduces herself, you start talking sex and she's getting all confused wondering why you are asking what she likes and has she played before and what her experiences were. Turns out SHE was a work colleague the guy used to make the call and didn't bother to tell her what it was about.

6. Couples: You email, you text, you talk on the phone, you swap photos, you turn up, they look at you and your size 10 sexy partner and they leave. 2 min meet. I know guys are fast but sheesh. I think it was a first time for the couple and he had pushed her into a 'FFFM' on his fantasy.

7. Standing at a cafe for 40 mins, when a guy walks up and says 'Your friend hasn't turned up' I smile. He says 'I don't think she is coming. I look puzzled. He says 'can I buy you a drink' I say no thanks, she will be here soon. He replies 'I doubt it.' He was 5 foot 2, bald, about 300 lbs, more facial hair than a bear, and dressed in what I'd describe as rags.

8. You turn up to a restaurant to meet a couple. You have a table booked for four. 2 hours later you get a text 'Sorry we saw you walk in and felt we were out of your league. You look too nice for us'

9. Turn up to a club in a sexy red dress to meet a girl, also to wear a sexy red dress. Text arrives 'you look so hot in that red dress and red shoes sitting at the table at the top of the stairs' I reply 'thank you where are you?' Reply 'I'm sorry, I tricked you, I'm a guy, you won't be interested' ... there is more to this story, but you'll have to read it in my book!

10. I set up dates with 11 guys for a few Sundays ago. They all had my number. Not one called and not one turned up. 7 deleted their profiles. Kinda proves my _iew on guys.

11. The guy desperate for a 3 some. So we obliged. We set a time. 8 PM. At 7:30 his brother had his sat nav. We suggested the tube, he was next to one so were we. 8:30 he's waiting for his brother to arrive with sat nav. The tube trip is 37 minutes. 9:30 his brother used all the fuel, he has to get to the ATM to get money and refuel as his card doesn't work at the checkouts. 10 PM the car isn't going, his brother did something to it. 1 PM we gave up. Got undressed and had 9 hours of sex ourselves. Waste of makeup and and 2 nice dresses though.

So far I can't fault the girls. They have always turned up, we have always had fun with food and girly things.

That is, once you get past the guys running single profiles that approach asking how much I like cock and what would I do with one.

Wait till you read my book about the knife the egg beaters and the needle and thread

Finally people tend to avoid the phone when they have no real interest. No doubt he fulfilled his fantasy in his mind.

Last night the couple I met text me their address (after sending it to the wrong number and calling to ask why I hadn't confirmed then laughed when they realised his mistake) I turned up albeit a little late due to late night trains not being as good as day time service and ... didn't get home till 5:30 AM

Mind you I never spoke to the female partner, though their few verifications were good

So skip the sceptical, if it don't feel right it probably isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow that book is going to be a fascinating read!! Put me down for an advance copy please

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