FabSwingers.com forum: Why is it Ok for Womenbut not for Men?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tiggy here

I was just having a nose around and looking on different peoples profiles when It suddenly came apparent that a lot of the profiles state no married men even if wife knows ect ect. However there is an awful lot of people who will play with a fem, either with or without a fuck buddy who are married.

Why is that acceptable? IS it Ok for us as women to sleep with a married women because there is less jealously? Or when we sleep with a single married man then we feel more for the woman because of the betrayal and we wouldn't like our husbands/partners to do that too us?

So why is it Ok for a married women to play away with or without her husbands knowledge, But not ok for a married man?

Answers on a postcard please

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's up to everybody to sleep with or not sleep with whoever they choose.

It's really that simple.

Not that it will stop this thread degenerating into the usual holier than thou rant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think your misunderstanding me, everyone has a right to choose to sleep with who ever they want. What Im saying is what is the difference. Why will they sleep with a married woman but not a married man???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I will keep it sensible!

Totally everybodies own choice to play with who they wish to!

Surely we are not here to judge what is right and wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's up to everybody to sleep with or not sleep with whoever they choose.

It's really that simple.

Not that it will stop this thread degenerating into the usual holier than thou rant."

I don't want this to break out into a rant either but I've sometimes wondered the same thing.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

I think its a double standard-

if a man is married and swinging behind his wifes then hes a bastard but if a woman is married swinging behind her husbands back its his own fault for not keeping her happy.

Personally we prefer not to play with anyone who is married and swinging behind their partners backs whether they are male or female but we also accept that we might choose to play with someone and we might not know their marital status.

I guess individual involved is responsible for their own relationship and any difficulties caused by them swinging.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I think your misunderstanding me, everyone has a right to choose to sleep with who ever they want. What Im saying is what is the difference. Why will they sleep with a married woman but not a married man???"

I understand you perfectly.

Who says they will?

Based on what, a random selection of profiles stumbled across on here?

How many of those people stick to what it says on their profile and how many don't?

Nobody has any idea, therefore any debate is entirely subjective, based on pure conjecture rather than having any basis in fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and who said it was alright?

I don't play with married men, not for any moral reason but there are single men here, wall to wall, free to play when I want, not afraid of being marked or petrified of my wearing perfume around them.

Everyone has their moral compass set differently, but attached people not for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey no need to get worked up over it, Im just stating what i have found. No I have not trawled through every profile, but I am basing it on the few I have seen.

Your turning this into more that It is.

A simple question why is it ok for a women and not for a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I think its simply a question of supply and demand

Women are in demand,if people think they're in with a chance of getting what they want then they're happy to overlook the other stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married to fab...and I'm always shagging behind its back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We treat both sexes equally. If they are attached, playing behind their partners back and we are aware then we wouldn't play with them.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"We treat both sexes equally. If they are attached, playing behind their partners back and we are aware then we wouldn't play with them."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

mike here now

married women with single fem profiles yeaaaaa bring it on baby.....lol

married men with single male profiles nasty cheating bastards who should have their bits chopped of with rusty wire.

just an observation.

btw Tess and Myself only play as a couple

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

we/i play with single unattached guys only my choice, if i was bi and played with woman it would be single woman only, when we swaped it was both there obviously lol but its a choice, i dont think i've seen on any ones profile no married men but will take warried woman!!!! i guess couples that prefer to play only with females have a dif outlook to their relationship than us

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

'Vagina'.... it makes a huge difference to some peoples moral compass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple...most men get turned on by a married woman,possibly because they think they can perform better...and in most cases they can ......

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

i realy dont think it can be generalised so simpley i realy cant see where the idea of the ballance is commin from has there been a poll or some1 counting profile preferances

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Tiggy here

So why is it Ok for a married women to play away with or without her husbands knowledge, But not ok for a married man?

Answers on a postcard please

As far as we are concerned the only thing that matters is honesty, we dont play with ppl here without their partners consent, male or female.

i think some lower their standards cos women are in higher demand than men.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

lets be honest the last things some guys will be concerned about is if a woman is married or not ! as long as they get a meet and get their leg over thats the priority lol ! they are unconcerned with the the bigger picture and purely focused on the immediate gratification .if a womans got his cock in her mouth is he really going be concerned if womens going behind a partner or hubbys back ..hell of course not !!! the only concern the guy has is hes getting what he wants at that time . most women seem to think more emotionally and about the fall out that playing with a cheating hubby could have and just dont enter in to that situation. now as with anything you cant state all men and women will act the same . there will be some guys that will turn down meeting a cheating wife and some women wholl happily sleep with a cheating guy . no one has ever said that its acceptable for anyone to cheat on their partner or spouse .just with some guys thinking with dick rather than their brain they arent going to come on forums outraged theyve been propositioned by a cheating spouse they are only worried about a leg over from where ever it comes from .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea but I wouldn't play with either. Singles or genuine couples for me only

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

I couldn't play with someone who is married and playing behind their partner's back. It would be a moral thing for me.

However as to the OP Q, I think people tend to put no married men as that is the typical majority of married players. I am sure that if there was a sudden wave of Married women chasing people for meets behind their partner's backs then we might see tht on profiles instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that the single guys here are not always _iewed in the most positive light but there are still a good number of them that won't play with married women. They don't need the aggro of a 6ft 2" guy coming home early from to find them in their bedroom with their wife and kecks round their ankles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From work even. Doh!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple truth is that there are a lot more men on FabS looking for anything, compared with women. That means woman can be far more selective, so I think they prefer to avoid any potential problems. After all - who would want an irate wife turning up just on the vinegar strokes! Unless of course... She wanted to join in

Simples!

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

"lets be honest the last things some guys will be concerned about is if a woman is married or not ! as long as they get a meet and get their leg over thats the priority lol ! they are unconcerned with the the bigger picture and purely focused on the immediate gratification .if a womans got his cock in her mouth is he really going be concerned if womens going behind a partner or hubbys back ..hell of course not !!! the only concern the guy has is hes getting what he wants at that time . most women seem to think more emotionally and about the fall out that playing with a cheating hubby could have and just dont enter in to that situation. now as with anything you cant state all men and women will act the same . there will be some guys that will turn down meeting a cheating wife and some women wholl happily sleep with a cheating guy . no one has ever said that its acceptable for anyone to cheat on their partner or spouse .just with some guys thinking with dick rather than their brain they arent going to come on forums outraged theyve been propositioned by a cheating spouse they are only worried about a leg over from where ever it comes from ."

I think you are absolutely spot on. My wife and I play separately and often with the other person doing it behind their partners back. We don't see it as our problem but theirs if they want to be dishonest.I think you are right about us blokes too, in the main we are just wanting to get into that pussy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....... We don't see it as our problem but theirs if they want to be dishonest.I think you are right about us blokes too, in the main we are just wanting to get into that pussy lol"

As an attached woman playing without her partners knowledge, I have to agree with this. It's my problem, though I appreciate that it may put some off. That's their perogative completely. I'm upfront and totally honest about my situation and it's up to my 'playmate' to choose. But without wanting to sound arrogant - somebody else mentioned this - single women on here have a lot of choice, and I'm not exactly going short of great meets because of having a man at home. Morally I guess what I'm doing is abhorrent, but that's my choice and I have my reasons.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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I understand you perfectly.

Who says they will

Based on what, a random selection of profiles stumbled across on here?

How many of those people stick to what it says on their profile and how many don't?

Nobody has any idea, therefore any debate is entirely subjective, based on pure conjecture rather than having any basis in fact.

I think that what the OP is asking and from her experience of what she's witnessed here is that it seems it's more acceptable to play with a married lady than man when they are both playing away.

Nothing to due with your choice of who you have the right to play with.

And yes probably because over history men have dine the playing away and possibly because people have sympathy for the abused spouse that they are more forgiving re when it's the lady doing it, or possibly because there are fewer single fems available we'll see this as am acceptable opportunity.

It always makes me chuckle when men are ridiculed for this action as let's not forget that generally it's a women they're meeting and don't tell me that in the back of a womens mind just behind the shoe, hand bag and shopping section that there isn't a sneaky feeling the guy is playing away! lol

We all can only go on what we see and here and base our thoughts and Q's on this as the OP has done.

Some admit to playing away some don't and dont we just love to judge!???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us women can get away with absolute murder when it comes to this kind of thing!

Hubby went to a strip show recently and the amount of grief some of our female friends gave him when they found out. As far as they were concerned it was sleazy and filthy and full of perverts.

The funny thing was, only a month before I had gone to a male strip show with most of them! And I know full well that we all grabbed a handful where we could, we all touched his willy, we all squeezed his bum and Im pretty sure one of our group sucked his willy under the towel!

When I mentioned this to hubby he said that if anyone in a male crowd tried to grab the woman or lick her pussy, they would get thrown out on the spot!

He was so jealous about what we could get away with in the name of "Its just a bit of fun" whereas he was labelled a pervert for even just looking!!

Ha ha, poor boys!

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"i realy dont think it can be generalised so simpley i realy cant see where the idea of the ballance is commin from has there been a poll or some1 counting profile preferances"

Is a person not aloud to ask a question based on personal observation?

That's all the OP is doing and I must admit that my years of personal experience shows me this to be true and that is all I can go on.

As a generalisation men will more than likely take any opportunity that comes their way and women don't like the idea of up setting the 'sister hood' and as we know can never do any thing wrong!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It is NOT okay for a man to cheat on his wife.

It is NOT okay for a woman to cheat on her husband.

It IS okay for people to have sex with married people. They have no moral obligation to the cheaters partner. They DO have a moral obligation to themselves and if they can live with having no moral standards when it comes to assisting liars and cheats to succeed in deception then that is no one's business but their own. Or maybe 'societies' if it EVER existed.

I fucking HATE with a vegence the 'each to their own' brigade or the 'it's your choice' army. Spineless and self recommending each n every one of them.

Lying is most times wrong.

What it says on profiles here is no barometer of how right or wrong something is.

There may be a simple explanation for the appearance on womens profiles of 'no married men' .....

My simple theory goes ......There are hundreds of married men on here playing away ( if not thousands ) Some women consider it wrong and tire of the endless 'giz a fuck behind me wifes back' messages and feel that a clear message will save time for ALL parties.

Not many men get messages from women FULL STOP. There is no pressure to put up a message asking people who don't message anyway to stop messaging.

Sugarpie I appreciate your honesty and the fact that you take responsibility for what you do without bleating like a wounded victim.

John - Your opinions aren't without droplets of truth. The thinly disguised mysoginy that fuels your post content comes in gigantic dollops.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"It is NOT okay for a man to cheat on his wife.

It is NOT okay for a woman to cheat on her husband.

I fucking HATE with a vegence the 'each to their own' brigade or the 'it's your choice' army. Spineless and self recommending each n every one of them.

Lying is most times wrong.

What it says on profiles here is no barometer of how right or wrong something is.

There may be a simple explanation for the appearance on womens profiles of 'no married men' .....

Not many men get messages from women FULL STOP. There is no pressure to put up a message asking people who don't message anyway to stop messaging.

Sugarpie I appreciate your honesty and the fact that you take responsibility for what you do without bleating like a wounded victim.

John - Your opinions aren't without droplets of truth. The thinly disguised mysoginy that fuels your post content comes in gigantic dollops. "

ha ha! Titter ye not! lol

Did you reed my ' generalisation' comment? I think not...

Did you reed the one above about the strip club?

I think not....

No body who swings can claim any morale high ground over anyone else.And that's my personal opinion.

"lying is most times wrong" how the feck do you work that out? I know because it suites you just like those who cheat does them.

I don't hate people but I do have an opinion on those with double standards who think it's ok to lie when it's to their advantage...

Again read the post re the male strip club and the pervert comments and then bring your mysonigy comment in. That comment just reinforces the OPs comments about ok for women and not men and you have fallen in to the trap that women can and men can't! lol

What survey have you seen or undertaken to know how many messages men get from women off here? Let's see it.

Just your opinion me thinks!

And what were the droplets of truth? I don't know if it's true it's just my opinion from what I've seen here....and experienced from my ex cheating wife.

And yes I know of people who've also cheated within my vanilla life and no I wouldn't vilify or take sides...haven't got the time or inclination it's their life and their decisions... You don't like that either do you....Well I suppose that's your choice.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Lying is most times wrong not all times.

Thanks for your affirming response.

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By *ogandsuzegCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

I meet married guys pretty regularly. Some tell me they're married some don't but almost certainly are. Why do they/I do it? Well as far as I can tell most guys cheat this way from boredom and frustration. So does a 2 hour sex act/session with me help or hinder? Probably neither but it is very flattering to know that a married guy 20 or 30 years younger than me wants sex with me when has MIGHT have someone that much younger then me at home - and there's the rub isn't it - he probably doesn't and so it's the marriage that's the issue not his or my behaviour! ...And that is certainly not my business!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its acceptable for anyone to be on here.

Maybe women do appear to have a easier time and are not bombarded with abuse from the Mother Theresa brigade than the single guys are. Maybe that is because men are more accepting of the fact that women have made those personal choices and are on this site and therefore don't feel the need to question their lifestyle choices. Maybe women and couples are less accepting because they think more deeply about it.

I can totally understand those that say they won't play with marrieds as they are constantly checking their phones and jump to attention if they get a text or let people down if they are not allowed out cos of a family crisis. I can understand that if people have to be careful about being marked then that disrupts their play. Sometimes it is more inconvenient to play with marrieds so I accept if that is the reason.

But what I really dislike are those members who spout how disgusting it is, how others lack morals, how its such a mortal sin, oh the poor hubbys or wives sitting at home wringing their hands wondering where there partner is - but yet there are always 'exceptions'. If people go to a club its ok to play with marrieds there, they never ask, what they don't know won't hurt them, like the different venue makes it more acceptable.

Or the single guys who are really marrieds are lowlife, lower than rats UNLESS they are as fit as fuck, its ok to flirt or meet with a married man if he is drop dead gorgeous and has a fabulous sense of humour.

Always exceptions - maybe change that word to excuses

I don't care what people do. I don't ask personal questions about their circumstances, if I wanted to play with them I would. I can live with my morals or lack of them far easier than trying to make myself look good on a forum but secretly doing the opposite. I do believe that many wouldn't pass up the chance of a night with a gorgeous sexy person than turn them down because of their morals, they just don't admit to that on here

All are welcome here and I'm glad they are

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"Lying is most times wrong not all times.

Thanks for your affirming response. "

lol lol lol so you'd lie in court would you?

Or are you just selective about your deceptions/cheating and so on...,

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Not that it will stop this thread degenerating into the usual holier than thou rant."

'Prescient'

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over a year ago

Southampton

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By *ne-just4funMan
over a year ago

Southampton

When i was meeting with my wife, we stopped meeting single guys and would only meet guys who said they were married. We would confirm with their wife this was OK. The reason for this was the fact that the single guys we had met kept contacting my wife, to try and get meets with just her, behind my back. Not all but a fair few. Never had this problem with the married guys.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"I think its acceptable for anyone to be on here.

Maybe women do appear to have a easier time and are not bombarded with abuse from the Mother Theresa brigade than the single guys are. Maybe that is because men are more accepting of the fact that women have made those personal choices and are on this site and therefore don't feel the need to question their lifestyle choices. AMaybe women and couples are less accepting because they think more deeply about it.

Always exceptions - maybe change that word to excuses

All are welcome here and I'm glad they are

+1! they are supposed to be welcome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@iconic (don't want to re-post your post as it's a biggy lol).

I just want to say that we don't and won't change our moral _iew on avoiding marrieds playing behind their partners back because we are in a club. If we are in a club and wish to play then we will look for a couple.... never a single. If they say they are together as in they are life partners then we have to trust them that this is the case (we can only go so far without asking for marriage certificates and photo ID!!!).

I never ever write anything on here regarding morals that I don't/won't stand by, neither does hubby. We don't see any point in writing b***ox on a forum to 'look good' xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its acceptable for anyone to be on here.

Always exceptions - maybe change that word to excuses

All are welcome here and I'm glad they are

couldnt have put this better

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By *ddiddyMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

"I meet married guys pretty regularly. Some tell me they're married some don't but almost certainly are. Why do they/I do it? Well as far as I can tell most guys cheat this way from boredom and frustration. So does a 2 hour sex act/session with me help or hinder? Probably neither but it is very flattering to know that a married guy 20 or 30 years younger than me wants sex with me when has MIGHT have someone that much younger then me at home - and there's the rub isn't it - he probably doesn't and so it's the marriage that's the issue not his or my behaviour! ...And that is certainly not my business!!!!"

very well put and i/we tottally agree

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

" .....

I pretty much agree with most of this bit.

A scumbag is a scumbag regarless of the venue.

But I think (just my opinion) most adults understand the words 'knowingly' and 'intentionally'.

You may see those words as 'excuses' but they are important words to some people.

I do think 'cheats' are pretty low, somewhere down on the bottom of the scale, but there are people I would put below them... those would be the people offerering sex on a plate, near on begging to fuck someone who is married but who doesn't want to have sex with others.

Who really knows who lives up to their values or not... without being privy to other people's mailbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt say that its counted as more acceptable.. but the amount of times I get messages of "Well if Masters away does he have to know" well I actually want a quid as I would be very near to getting a decent car now..

I never hide the fact I have no issues playing with married or attached men.. I dont really play with women so its not really something I look for.. but I prefer Master to have married women too..because its less ( normally) hassle..

I dont like people that slag their partners off.. or try to pretend they are single..

but if they are looking for what I am offering then as long as they meet my requirements then I loose no sleep over it..

Cali x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Lying is most times wrong not all times.

Thanks for your affirming response.

lol lol lol so you'd lie in court would you?

Or are you just selective about your deceptions/cheating and so on...,

Do you work for the Daily Mail?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yip i agree

total double standards

have met a "single " guy on here then when the mrs rang my numnber to see who i was ,,not a nice feeling.

so no married men or woman for us well unless they are both married to each other ,,then its,,game on!!! lol

auds xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"yip i agree

total double standards

have met a "single " guy on here then when the mrs rang my numnber to see who i was ,,not a nice feeling.

so no married men or woman for us well unless they are both married to each other ,,then its,,game on!!! lol

auds xx

Agree Auds.. I don't care who does who or what their beliefs in monogomy are... or aren't. What I can't stand is the fact that they LIE without compunction to a partner. More over they say ....Hey im a nice genuine guy.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

just 2 days ago we got a very honest guy married but not gettin enough of what he wanted,yes that i concidered honest he liked our profile and wanted to meet and fulfill that empty part of his sex life, dishonest or profile clearly states no attacheted guys, so i ask him to read it again and mybe confid in his wife maybe then he would get whhat he wanted, i assume it worked,,, no more word from him ,

bless such a nice honest guy

not

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

cause guys don't give a hoot who they have sex with and have no empathy or emotion, they'd rather sleep with a woman once than not at all.

Women on the other hand have emotions and respect another women's emotional concerns about a partner screwing around on the sly.

It's not the sex that destroys relationships, it's the deceit and dishonesty.

Formula is simple

Woman Care

Man Do not.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"cause guys don't give a hoot who they have sex with and have no empathy or emotion

Woman Care

Man Do not.

Sweeping statement anyone?

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"yip i agree

total double standards

have met a "single " guy on here then when the mrs rang my numnber to see who i was ,,not a nice feeling.

so no married men or woman for us well unless they are both married to each other ,,then its,,game on!!! lol

auds xx

But you don't mind lying according to your earlier comments?

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"cause guys don't give a hoot who they have sex with and have no empathy or emotion

Woman Care

Man Do not.

Sweeping statement anyone?"

Very sweeping statement!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"cause guys don't give a hoot who they have sex with and have no empathy or emotion, they'd rather sleep with a woman once than not at all.

Women on the other hand have emotions and respect another women's emotional concerns about a partner screwing around on the sly.

It's not the sex that destroys relationships, it's the deceit and dishonesty.

Formula is simple

Woman Care

Man Do not.

maybe some... the ones with self respect won't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

great answer and pretty much along the way we think. thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think its acceptable for anyone to be on here.

Always exceptions - maybe change that word to excuses

All are welcome here and I'm glad they are

another great answer thanks...nail hit right on the head

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"yip i agree

total double standards

have met a "single " guy on here then when the mrs rang my numnber to see who i was ,,not a nice feeling.

so no married men or woman for us well unless they are both married to each other ,,then its,,game on!!! lol

auds xx

But you don't mind lying according to your earlier comments?"

Im convinced you work for the Daily Mail.

Show me where it says ' I don't mind lying' ...... find it for me.

That should keep you too busy to mis quote again for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us women can get away with absolute murder when it comes to this kind of thing!

Hubby went to a strip show recently and the amount of grief some of our female friends gave him when they found out. As far as they were concerned it was sleazy and filthy and full of perverts.

When I mentioned this to hubby he said that if anyone in a male crowd tried to grab the woman or lick her pussy, they would get thrown out on the spot!

He was so jealous about what we could get away with in the name of "Its just a bit of fun" whereas he was labelled a pervert for even just looking!!

Ha ha, poor boys!

This is absolutely true, and is based upon the myth that women aren't as interested in sex as men are (complete bollocks) so can only ever go just "for a laugh". Women tend to get the wrong end of the deal when it comes to money however. A woman who marries a bloke purely for money is labelled a gold-digger and a scrubber, whereby a bloke who marries a woman for it gets off rebuke-free. Also in the vanilla world a woman who sleeps with a lot of men is labelled a slag as all she has to do is say "fuck me", whereas a bloke is a stud. Most things in life favour one sex or the other. It just so happens that with any sex site including swinging ones women are in demand. The roles are reversed with marriage sites as more women find monogamy not only appealing but a turn on than men do, so their number far outweighs that of the males....therefore I imagine the men on those sites can probably get away with murder?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everyone who is anyone has a right to be on hear, I Tiggy totally agree that there is no right or wrong in who does what on here, after all we are all after the same thing. What i'm saying is why so many double standards what makes a married man, worse than a married woman?

Would mike and my self be wrong as we were together whilst he was still married? I also met him and his wife through a very similar site?

She actually left him for someone else after we had all played together? ( I was obviously so amazing in bed she couldn't compete lol ) I am joking folks

How many people who read that thought that I had ruined a marriage? Because I was the other woman?

I just want to state we got together a while later don't want to put anyone off me. I promise Im not a marriage wrecker

But although they had split we still played together Does that make him/me morally wrong?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

To be honest the only reason I have a problem with meeting married people is because they can rarely meet when I can. Note I said 'people', as a married woman playing behind her husbands back would probably have the same problems as a married man who plays behind his wifes back. Also they tend not to be able to accommodate.

If they can meet at a time and place good for me, then I meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tiggy here

So why is it Ok for a married women to play away with or without her husbands knowledge, But not ok for a married man?

Answers on a postcard please

I think the answer to thats obvious

Single men on here are 10 a penny so you can put conditions on their status and still have more mailing you than you can handly

However as we know that does not go for single woman, so many people complain they cant find single woman so they hardly going to put conditions on their private life before they meet them

Basically lots will turn a blind eye to things they dont agree with to meet a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...and who said it was alright?

Everyone has their moral compass set differently, but attached people not for me."

i couldnt agree more

Why would i meet a married guy who is limited to meeting when i can meet a single guys whos not clock watching and paranoid he still has evidance of me on him when he leaves

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By *CwalesCouple
over a year ago

Newport

Economics 101. baby. Supply and demand.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"yip i agree

total double standards

have met a "single " guy on here then when the mrs rang my numnber to see who i was ,,not a nice feeling.

so no married men or woman for us well unless they are both married to each other ,,then its,,game on!!! lol

auds xx

But you don't mind lying according to your earlier comments?

Im convinced you work for the Daily Mail.

Show me where it says ' I don't mind lying' ...... find it for me.

That should keep you too busy to mis quote again for a while.

Here you go:

Show me where it says ' I don't mind lying' ...... find it for me.

That should keep you too busy to mis quote again for a while.

"Lying is most times wrong"

There you go, you said it; so that means you think it's ok some times..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Here you go:

Show me where it says ' I don't mind lying' ...... find it for me.

That should keep you too busy to mis quote again for a while.

"Lying is most times wrong"

There you go, you said it; so that means you think it's ok some times.."

I know I am not Granny, but 'lying most times is wrong' is not teh same as saying she doesn't mind lying. Lying IS most times wrong, but sometimes little white lies are considered acceptable (no your bum does not look big, no I was only doing 70 officer etc) to keep the peace.

I dunno why you are accusing Granny of something that she hasn't ever said on this post.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"Here you go:

Show me where it says ' I don't mind lying' ...... find it for me.

That should keep you too busy to mis quote again for a while.

"Lying is most times wrong"

There you go, you said it; so that means you think it's ok some times..Show me where it says ' I don't mind lying' ...... find it for me.

That should keep you too busy to mis quote again for a while.

"Lying is most times wrong"

There you go, you said it; so that means you think it's ok some times..

I dunno why you are accusing Granny of something that she hasn't ever said on this post."

Want it both ways

Cheating is wrong but lying is ok sometimes! Perhaps that's what those who are cheating think that it's better to tell a little white lie than the truth to their partner because they don't won't to hurt them..,

What's a little white lie to some is the altimate betrayal to others; and a little white lie leads to a slightly bigger one and so on.

The OP asked why is it ok for women to cheat and not for men as she sees it on here from the evidence she's seen.

Nothing to do with why people cheat! I think we all know the reasons..... Because they can....

And one of

My responses was to one here about women and men going to strip shows and how the wives called husbands perverts after they had been (the wives) fondling a male stripper and the thread was from a lady...

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"Us women can get away with absolute murder when it comes to this kind of thing!

Hubby went to a strip show recently and the amount of grief some of our female friends gave him when they found out. As far as they were concerned it was sleazy and filthy and full of perverts.

When I mentioned this to hubby he said that if anyone in a male crowd tried to grab the woman or lick her pussy, they would get thrown out on the spot!

He was so jealous about what we could get away with in the name of "Its just a bit of fun" whereas he was labelled a pervert for even just looking!!

Ha ha, poor boys!

Ain't that the truth! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aww john you called me a lady lol thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me hehehe

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"Aww john you called me a lady lol thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me hehehe

well you're aren't you? lol

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

i dont meet or play with married men, am def single divorced and to me its cheating on the wife or the other way round cheating on hubby.......... if dont know

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I will stick to honesty and do my very best to esnure the person i am meeting is single male or female.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"cause guys don't give a hoot who they have sex with and have no empathy or emotion

Woman Care

Man Do not.

Sweeping statement anyone?

Very sweeping statement!

I prefer the term "total bollocks"

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