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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no. I see them as prey

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your thought

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By *rCurious1Man
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna"

Nothing wrong with you trust me. Your hot and I know and probably speak for all men you wouldnt disappoint. Grab them with both hands haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna

Nothing wrong with you trust me. Your hot and I know and probably speak for all men you wouldnt disappoint. Grab them with both hands haha "

Agreed. You wouldnt be a disappointment to anyone. Be confident and take anyone you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. They can see what I look like from my pics there's no reason why I'd feel intimidated by them if they show an interest in meeting. I only meet fit guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i wouldn't let anyone intimidate me .

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By *rCurious1Man
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Nope. They can see what I look like from my pics there's no reason why I'd feel intimidated by them if they show an interest in meeting. I only meet fit guys"

And some nice pics you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I dont. I would talk about training and dieting as we got the same hobby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can see what I look like from my pics, if they get in touch, they must have seen sonething they like.

Try not to put yourself down, you have an amazing figure and wouldn't disappoint anyone I'm sure.

Good luck in enjoying future meets with fit hot guys .

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only thing I'm worried about is suffocating them through sitting on their face! It seems this is a proffered position for some of the fit and toned guys that I've met previously.

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By *hythmic DriverMan
over a year ago

Croydon

I've been turned down by a lady on here as she said i was too good looking for her. I tried to reassure her that i don't look at people like that, i find her attractive and still would like to get to know her.

But sadly she wasnt having any of it. Think it was probably an excuse for something else as I'd say I'm average but hey I'll take the compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind them, so long as they don't mind us, physically speaking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can be a bit intimidating.

The younger ones too.

A bit like me? Really?

But then just go with the flow

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Not at all. The fitter the better but not even the fittest is perfect.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing to be worried about if they have contacted you they are obviously interested.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, I don't find them intimidating. They're people just like all of us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone. Very reassuring x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna"

I don't see why you should really. Firstly you look utterly exquisite Anna, and I imagine the far overwhelming majority of "fit" men would love nothing more than to make that delicious body of yours squirm with sexual ecstasy and be responsible for causing the flush of orgasm to bloom upon your cheeks and decolletage...

But I think I speak from the strange perspective of being considered conventionally "fitter" now than when I was more youthful as my job keeps me very fit in the exercise sense as it's extremely physically demanding topped up with workouts, before that I trained 6 hours a week in my 30s. Plenty of lads in their 20s have tried my current job and had to either give it up after a few hours or in some cases been admitted to hospital or been unable to even walk afterwards.

But prior to the stage shortly before my 30th I was a late developer, victim to an absolutely stupidly high metabolism. I was skeletal in my teens and even in my early to mid 20s, I was weighing in at 9 stone 10 at 6'1" despite cramming 6 meals a day into my frame. I looked about 16 at 25 ha, and at clubs I was the guy that got asked for ID most times if it was a place I was new to visiting and though considered good-looking facially was viewed as "cute" by girls my own age at first meeting, usually fancied by their 13 year old sister which was completely pointless and not what I wanted at all.

However I was still very active sexually as being limited in this regard meant I merely improved rapidly in being able to talk to women and seduce. Plus my energy levels were always sky high as I wasn't carrying any weight ha! I had sexual adventures with many beautiful young ladies and a few older too, which settled in my mind the fact that your appeal is far more than just what someone first sees when looking at you.

Now whilst I wouldn't call myself "fit" if asked, I'm probably considered more attractive in body than I was for the first almost 30 years of my life after which my metabolic rate finally slowed slightly to just rapid. Yet I tend to receive the most compliments for what goes on between my ears? Proving that the body perfect image is probably over-rated a hell of a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find women older than myself incredibly sexy and always enjoy chatting to and meeting when I can but I have been told a few times that they feel too self conscious about their body to meet a younger guy with a body like mine!

It's frustrating sometimes as I am not expecting a perfect body, yes gravity may have affected some parts and some may have stretch marks etc due to kids but you are still a gorgeous sexy woman and you shouldn't think of yourselves as anything different

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

You look great in your pics so highly unlikely you’d disappoint anyone, but if you feel that way and it puts you off there’s nothing wrong with that either - you can always contact people you don’t find intimidating, after all.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

No i have met some nice fit men on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah they pee, poo and fart like the rest of us. Just enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have turned down men I thought were too fit, yes. Mainly the ones who have the body beautifuls on their verifications. I'm here to have fun, not to worry about being compared. So yes OP, I understand where you're coming from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna"

By gravity you mean lack of conditioning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hell no. I see them as prey "

This

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I have turned down men I thought were too fit, yes. Mainly the ones who have the body beautifuls on their verifications. I'm here to have fun, not to worry about being compared. So yes OP, I understand where you're coming from "

Agree with this, I like a fit guy but if his verifications are all from gym fit or very slim women that would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had someone say my body was intimidating this morning . If I like what I see I'll let you know. Don't worry so much about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have turned down men I thought were too fit, yes. Mainly the ones who have the body beautifuls on their verifications. I'm here to have fun, not to worry about being compared. So yes OP, I understand where you're coming from "

You’ve said exactly what I was thinking.

I have a habit of looking at peoples verifications and my issue is more the comparison I make with myself and previous play mates!

So it’s not so much that I feel the chap may be too fit for me, it’s more that I know he can attract some really lovely ladies so why bother?!?

Mrsk x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna"

So last night we went to a pub , and my wife was sitting in the smoking area outside . Two hot , gym fit guys joined her and they started chatting . Both guys were early twenties , and one was aesthetically better looking than the other . Anyway , a few minutes later , three hot women in their early twenties sat in a nearby table . They were clearly interested in the guys , mainly the hitter one of the two . Five minutes pass , and the better looking guy is totally ignoring the 3 new women , gazing into my wife’s eyes , and the other guy has gone over to chat with the other women . They pretty much got up and left as soon as he went over , he sees his mate with my wife as they enjoy their first kiss , and goes back into the pub .

So despite 3 hotties being at least 15 years younger and much slimmer than my wife being available , he chose my wife . And this wasn’t anything to do with fab or swinging , this was totally spontaneous . This proves you have nothing to worry about op , just enjoy and don’t worry when a fit guy fancies you

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? "

Nope.

I wonder if I can lift more & if they'd be able to keep up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna

So last night we went to a pub , and my wife was sitting in the smoking area outside . Two hot , gym fit guys joined her and they started chatting . Both guys were early twenties , and one was aesthetically better looking than the other . Anyway , a few minutes later , three hot women in their early twenties sat in a nearby table . They were clearly interested in the guys , mainly the hitter one of the two . Five minutes pass , and the better looking guy is totally ignoring the 3 new women , gazing into my wife’s eyes , and the other guy has gone over to chat with the other women . They pretty much got up and left as soon as he went over , he sees his mate with my wife as they enjoy their first kiss , and goes back into the pub .

So despite 3 hotties being at least 15 years younger and much slimmer than my wife being available , he chose my wife . And this wasn’t anything to do with fab or swinging , this was totally spontaneous . This proves you have nothing to worry about op , just enjoy and don’t worry when a fit guy fancies you "

Love that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I had someone say my body was intimidating this morning . If I like what I see I'll let you know. Don't worry so much about it. "

This is what I assume. If someone contacts us I assume they know what they like and they like what they see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna

I don't see why you should really. Firstly you look utterly exquisite Anna, and I imagine the far overwhelming majority of "fit" men would love nothing more than to make that delicious body of yours squirm with sexual ecstasy and be responsible for causing the flush of orgasm to bloom upon your cheeks and decolletage...

But I think I speak from the strange perspective of being considered conventionally "fitter" now than when I was more youthful as my job keeps me very fit in the exercise sense as it's extremely physically demanding topped up with workouts, before that I trained 6 hours a week in my 30s. Plenty of lads in their 20s have tried my current job and had to either give it up after a few hours or in some cases been admitted to hospital or been unable to even walk afterwards.

But prior to the stage shortly before my 30th I was a late developer, victim to an absolutely stupidly high metabolism. I was skeletal in my teens and even in my early to mid 20s, I was weighing in at 9 stone 10 at 6'1" despite cramming 6 meals a day into my frame. I looked about 16 at 25 ha, and at clubs I was the guy that got asked for ID most times if it was a place I was new to visiting and though considered good-looking facially was viewed as "cute" by girls my own age at first meeting, usually fancied by their 13 year old sister which was completely pointless and not what I wanted at all.

However I was still very active sexually as being limited in this regard meant I merely improved rapidly in being able to talk to women and seduce. Plus my energy levels were always sky high as I wasn't carrying any weight ha! I had sexual adventures with many beautiful young ladies and a few older too, which settled in my mind the fact that your appeal is far more than just what someone first sees when looking at you.

Now whilst I wouldn't call myself "fit" if asked, I'm probably considered more attractive in body than I was for the first almost 30 years of my life after which my metabolic rate finally slowed slightly to just rapid. Yet I tend to receive the most compliments for what goes on between my ears? Proving that the body perfect image is probably over-rated a hell of a lot."

Bloody hell you can tell a story

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Don't be intimidated, personally although I train a fair bit I don't have a massive ego to go with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not the type of person to be hung up on my looks. I'm sure there's someone out there who might think I'm alright

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Hiya lovely lady

I find athelic guys very attractive to the eye. However, personally makes a huge different.

One without the other doesnt work for me.

I like to have something in common so we can talk crap about fitness etc.

All we can all do is be ourselves what you see is what you get attitude.

Im sure lots of fit guys on here would be more than happy to meet you. Don't put yourself down.

And remember age is just a number.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Hell no. I see them as prey "

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Im a bbw who has body confidence issues but the one thing that really pisses me off is when people advertise for (slim gym fit good looking people like ourselves ) for god sake we are all beautiful in our own way i may not have the size zero supermodel body or looks but i have a personality and a brain that work .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bbw who has body confidence issues but the one thing that really pisses me off is when people advertise for (slim gym fit good looking people like ourselves ) for god sake we are all beautiful in our own way i may not have the size zero supermodel body or looks but i have a personality and a brain that work ."

Now that doesn't bother me too much, to be honest. I think we all have our preferences and if that's what someone was looking for, I would respect that and not engage. There are always others who's type I might fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna"

Absolutely, I don’t think I could go there. You look great though, I really don’t think it should be an issue for you!

Mrs F x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna"

totally get where you're coming from....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep myself deliberately unfit and dull sounding to help put ladies at ease.

It doesn't work mind...

OP, no need to be intimidated. For all you know, the gym fit guys will be flattered by your attention. Some may have confidence issues themselves and may relish being seen as people and not just hunks of sculpted protein.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we both have self confidence issues around people who are gym fit. We have actually told people this and one took it as an insult and just said bye the others said don't be daft we think you're nice.

People can't help the way they are and others telling people how they should react should remember that

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I have turned down men I thought were too fit, yes. Mainly the ones who have the body beautifuls on their verifications. I'm here to have fun, not to worry about being compared. So yes OP, I understand where you're coming from

Agree with this, I like a fit guy but if his verifications are all from gym fit or very slim women that would put me off. "
me three ! Fit guy or couple looking for similar ! Not me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna

I don't see why you should really. Firstly you look utterly exquisite Anna, and I imagine the far overwhelming majority of "fit" men would love nothing more than to make that delicious body of yours squirm with sexual ecstasy and be responsible for causing the flush of orgasm to bloom upon your cheeks and decolletage...

But I think I speak from the strange perspective of being considered conventionally "fitter" now than when I was more youthful as my job keeps me very fit in the exercise sense as it's extremely physically demanding topped up with workouts, before that I trained 6 hours a week in my 30s. Plenty of lads in their 20s have tried my current job and had to either give it up after a few hours or in some cases been admitted to hospital or been unable to even walk afterwards.

But prior to the stage shortly before my 30th I was a late developer, victim to an absolutely stupidly high metabolism. I was skeletal in my teens and even in my early to mid 20s, I was weighing in at 9 stone 10 at 6'1" despite cramming 6 meals a day into my frame. I looked about 16 at 25 ha, and at clubs I was the guy that got asked for ID most times if it was a place I was new to visiting and though considered good-looking facially was viewed as "cute" by girls my own age at first meeting, usually fancied by their 13 year old sister which was completely pointless and not what I wanted at all.

However I was still very active sexually as being limited in this regard meant I merely improved rapidly in being able to talk to women and seduce. Plus my energy levels were always sky high as I wasn't carrying any weight ha! I had sexual adventures with many beautiful young ladies and a few older too, which settled in my mind the fact that your appeal is far more than just what someone first sees when looking at you.

Now whilst I wouldn't call myself "fit" if asked, I'm probably considered more attractive in body than I was for the first almost 30 years of my life after which my metabolic rate finally slowed slightly to just rapid. Yet I tend to receive the most compliments for what goes on between my ears? Proving that the body perfect image is probably over-rated a hell of a lot.

Bloody hell you can tell a story"

As some forumites who've been on here a few years will testify, yes I certainly can...

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By *icegentglosMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Me nor my body is intimidating and even I’ve met peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been turned down by a lady on here as she said i was too good looking for her. I tried to reassure her that i don't look at people like that, i find her attractive and still would like to get to know her.

But sadly she wasnt having any of it. Think it was probably an excuse for something else as I'd say I'm average but hey I'll take the compliment "

I've done this too as I have extra bits and previous meets have put me down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe there’s no such thing as too fit. Maybe that’ll change as I get older. But currently I’m finding that whilst obviously not everyone will fancy you, there doesn’t seem to be any “type” of person that is unattainable

Everyone is human regardless of how they look, and so I’ve found it’s possible to connect with all kinds of people. Everyone is turned on by something different and we often judge ourselves too harshly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found it all a bit weird and confusing to start with tbh..now I know that, if I can fancy a guy that us super fit, aswell as a guy that is very large, then surely they can too. I am so far from my FWBs ideal woman it is ridiculous but after almost a year and a half he makes me feel like I am the most beautiful and desirable woman ever...and he is very fit! Not bad considering I didn't even expect a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go more for personality, dont message them for there body, just message them because their profile was a good read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna"

your pics are to old to comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go more for personality, dont message them for there body, just message them because their profile was a good read. "

I like a nice face and good personality!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just a quick question girls/boys. Do you find all these hot guys with fit bodies a little intimidating? I mean I am now in my mid 40’s & gravity is taking control. Would be afraid to disappoint them, so I overlook them these days. Would love to hear your opinion on this.

Anna

your pics are to old to comment"

Good point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im a bbw who has body confidence issues but the one thing that really pisses me off is when people advertise for (slim gym fit good looking people like ourselves ) for god sake we are all beautiful in our own way i may not have the size zero supermodel body or looks but i have a personality and a brain that work ."

So right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely come across hot people on here as the majority of them are mingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hell no. I see them as prey "

Haha this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I see them as potential

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bbw who has body confidence issues but the one thing that really pisses me off is when people advertise for (slim gym fit good looking people like ourselves ) for god sake we are all beautiful in our own way i may not have the size zero supermodel body or looks but i have a personality and a brain that work ."

Why should this worry you? We can't all fancy everyone just because they have a nice personality! I like all kinds of people but I don't fancy you and a whole shit tonne of other people, does that make me wrong or inconsiderate...no! It doesn't mean I don't like them or they are ugly, just that I just don't wanna get intimate with them, it's no biggie regardless of the reasoning. You are what you are, if people don't like it, for whatever reason, who cares?!

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