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By *jr123 OP   Man
over a year ago

oldham

Hi guys and ladies

Just a quick question.

I know Couples and Ladies get loads of mail and a lot if it is bullshit or "do you want to fuck now" type messages.

But

When a guy spends ages trying to word a message right and it's taylored to you and your profile and not a cut and past.

It gets read, your profile gets looked at. Is it too much touble to reply. Even if it's just "sorry you're not my type".

I'm not having a rant I just wondered why people do that.

Please be gentle with your replies (if I get any lol)

Neil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't because I dont want to get drawn into a conversation. For me I think a no reply is an obvious "im not interested" and I take a to reply to the messages I send the same x

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By *jr123 OP   Man
over a year ago

oldham


"I don't because I dont want to get drawn into a conversation. For me I think a no reply is an obvious "im not interested" and I take a to reply to the messages I send the same x"

I can see the the reasoning behind that.

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By *iffy1968Man
over a year ago

STAFFORD

Id it isnt a rude or cut n paste message we do reply even if its just a no thanks but sometimes 1 or 2 stand out and we go from there

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By *jr123 OP   Man
over a year ago

oldham


"Id it isnt a rude or cut n paste message we do reply even if its just a no thanks but sometimes 1 or 2 stand out and we go from there "

My messages are never rude or cut and paste. It's hard enough to get meets without being rude and cut and paste is so obvious it's disrespectfull.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

Because even just a polite thank you for your message but no thanks can get you abuse. It's supposed to be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some it is too much trouble. I manage to reply to my messages with a polite no thanks though. I make sure I don't have too many to reply to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply with a polite no thanks, providing the sender hasn't asked me something obvious, or that's been covered in my (at length) profile.

It says to me that they couldn't be bothered to read my profile so therfore why should I waste my time replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve tried politely declining, even when it’s obvious they haven’t read our profile and have no clue what what we are looking for, but we end up getting drawn into a conversation that we don’t want to have, with someone we don’t want to meet! Unfortunately for the single guys it’s easier for us to delete or in some cases block! Amelia x

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By *jr123 OP   Man
over a year ago

oldham

So far it's looking that for a lot of men 'no doesn't mean no' which to me is breaking the biggest rule of swinging and they should get booted off fab

They bugger up the chances for the decent ones

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

As Amelia says if we reply with a polite "no thanks" you get asked "well why not" or "So what's wrong with me". If they have looked at your profile after reading the message and don't reply, they have obviously decided they don't want to meet you.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Because if we reply and then decide to change our mind on what we’re looking for and alter our filters accordingly you can still re message to get around them

And trust me even when you say no thanks the guys still messages a few weeks or months further down the line to try it on again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the man has clearly gone to some effort to message us then we do reply out of courtesy. But we are starting to question this, because there is nearly always a message back when we send a reply. Sometimes just to say thank you for replying, other times we get drawn into a conversation we never wanted. I think women and couples want to know that if they send a rejection message, that the recipient will have the respect to just leave it, as opposed to find a reason to extend the conversation.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we get a message from a single man we are very unlikely to reply. The clue is in our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the message is good, not short Crüde or copy and pasted, we always respond even if it's just a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it clearly states in site faqs and some people's profiles, that delete/no reply means a polite no thankyou!

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