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Hardened swingers - who are they?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not one obviously, and neither are you, so who is? What's the definition of 'hardened swinger' and have you EVER met anyone who describes themself in this way?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have seen plenty of profiles that say "we are not hardened swingers". Do they mean they just soft swing?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm not one obviously, and neither are you, so who is? What's the definition of 'hardened swinger' and have you EVER met anyone who describes themself in this way?"

Yeah, I've met a couple - they've been doing it for years, they have many veris, and they're not going to change any time soon.

Most of the people I have met are the kind who are not hardened swingers and don't meet that many people or don't hang around on the site for long.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I smile to myself sometimes. So many here for sex but keeping themselves separate from people who have more sex than an arbitrary acceptable amount

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I smile to myself sometimes. So many here for sex but keeping themselves separate from people who have more sex than an arbitrary acceptable amount "

Exactly. The site is awash with petty judgement. I hope you understood the irony in the original post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have seen plenty of profiles that say "we are not hardened swingers". Do they mean they just soft swing?"

Yeah, for 15 years and with about 40 couples a year..

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I smile to myself sometimes. So many here for sex but keeping themselves separate from people who have more sex than an arbitrary acceptable amount "

Well, I assume you are referring to the content of my post, but it is not a question of judgement at all on my part, it is merely a question of me knowing my own desires.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I smile to myself sometimes. So many here for sex but keeping themselves separate from people who have more sex than an arbitrary acceptable amount

Well, I assume you are referring to the content of my post, but it is not a question of judgement at all on my part, it is merely a question of me knowing my own desires. "

I hadn't read SS's post as referring to anything in the thread. I assumed she was just reflecting what we all know - people on this sex site are judged for having sex. Too much, too little, with the wrong type of person, in the wrong way..hence the nonsense about 'I'm not a hardened swinger '...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I smile to myself sometimes. So many here for sex but keeping themselves separate from people who have more sex than an arbitrary acceptable amount

Well, I assume you are referring to the content of my post, but it is not a question of judgement at all on my part, it is merely a question of me knowing my own desires.

I hadn't read SS's post as referring to anything in the thread. I assumed she was just reflecting what we all know - people on this sex site are judged for having sex. Too much, too little, with the wrong type of person, in the wrong way..hence the nonsense about 'I'm not a hardened swinger '..."

It is human nature to be judgemental for sure.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I agree op. I think it’s a silly phrase!

I imagine most would see me as a ‘hardened swinger ‘ as I use the site to its full potential via hot photos (essentially a free advertising and marketing page to lure innocent/unsuspecting young men ), the forums and actually meeting people for sex (though this bit seems to be frowned upon - go figure! )

I meet very regularly compared to some (I don’t have sex with people in the ‘real world ‘ - every sexual encounter I have is with the men and women of fab!) and rarely compared to others!

I don’t judge others by the number of their meets - be it few or many. In fact I’d only avoid those who clearly regularly B.B. and meet others who do the same - but that’s a health issue rather than a moral judgement issue!

If a ‘hardened swinger’ is someone who meets when they say they will and can negotiate the minefield of fab without getting hurt, but retaining their own humanity, though - then send them to me please! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree op. I think it’s a silly phrase!

I imagine most would see me as a ‘hardened swinger ‘ as I use the site to its full potential via hot photos (essentially a free advertising and marketing page to lure innocent/unsuspecting young men ), the forums and actually meeting people for sex (though this bit seems to be frowned upon - go figure! )

I meet very regularly compared to some (I don’t have sex with people in the ‘real world ‘ - every sexual encounter I have is with the men and women of fab!) and rarely compared to others!

I don’t judge others by the number of their meets - be it few or many. In fact I’d only avoid those who clearly regularly B.B. and meet others who do the same - but that’s a health issue rather than a moral judgement issue!

If a ‘hardened swinger’ is someone who meets when they say they will and can negotiate the minefield of fab without getting hurt, but retaining their own humanity, though - then send them to me please! Xx"

Nice post! And great profile and pics.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I agree op. I think it’s a silly phrase!

I imagine most would see me as a ‘hardened swinger ‘ as I use the site to its full potential via hot photos (essentially a free advertising and marketing page to lure innocent/unsuspecting young men ), the forums and actually meeting people for sex (though this bit seems to be frowned upon - go figure! )

I meet very regularly compared to some (I don’t have sex with people in the ‘real world ‘ - every sexual encounter I have is with the men and women of fab!) and rarely compared to others!

I don’t judge others by the number of their meets - be it few or many. In fact I’d only avoid those who clearly regularly B.B. and meet others who do the same - but that’s a health issue rather than a moral judgement issue!

If a ‘hardened swinger’ is someone who meets when they say they will and can negotiate the minefield of fab without getting hurt, but retaining their own humanity, though - then send them to me please! Xx

Nice post! And great profile and pics."

Thanks lovely! Some great pics yourself!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I smile to myself sometimes. So many here for sex but keeping themselves separate from people who have more sex than an arbitrary acceptable amount

Well, I assume you are referring to the content of my post, but it is not a question of judgement at all on my part, it is merely a question of me knowing my own desires. "

No, just a general observation.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I smile to myself sometimes. So many here for sex but keeping themselves separate from people who have more sex than an arbitrary acceptable amount

Well, I assume you are referring to the content of my post, but it is not a question of judgement at all on my part, it is merely a question of me knowing my own desires.

No, just a general observation."

Cool, thanks for clarifying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,m a hardened player, I,m single and will meet as many men as I like. Not bothered what others think. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I alway imagined it just meant someone who had been playing for sometime and were no longer nervous or shy about meeting

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

How does a hardened swinger differ from a seasoned swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One who doesn't mind inappropriate touching in a club, apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree op. I think it’s a silly phrase!

I imagine most would see me as a ‘hardened swinger ‘ as I use the site to its full potential via hot photos (essentially a free advertising and marketing page to lure innocent/unsuspecting young men ), the forums and actually meeting people for sex (though this bit seems to be frowned upon - go figure! )

I meet very regularly compared to some (I don’t have sex with people in the ‘real world ‘ - every sexual encounter I have is with the men and women of fab!) and rarely compared to others!

I don’t judge others by the number of their meets - be it few or many. In fact I’d only avoid those who clearly regularly B.B. and meet others who do the same - but that’s a health issue rather than a moral judgement issue!

If a ‘hardened swinger’ is someone who meets when they say they will and can negotiate the minefield of fab without getting hurt, but retaining their own humanity, though - then send them to me please! Xx"

Great post, I am on my way.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"One who doesn't mind inappropriate touching in a club, apparently. "

People’s definition of what’s inappropriate , and what to do about it , differ .

If the thread you are reffering to is the one I think you are quoting , the very same thread also stated that lots of people on here aren’t swingers at all .

Back to topic , we are hardened , or seasoned swingers . We are happy in pretty much any consensual situation , don’t judge what others do , and love this lifestyle .

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We are hardened swingers. Have been doing it 50 years between us. We're not at it morning noon and night. But at least once a week either as a single male (fem out of action) or as a couple we par take in some sort of swinging activity. It's our lifestyle choice. Most recently - last 3 years we have dipped into Ddsm kink. Infact going to a club tonight. So change it up all the time. We never do the same thing twice in a row. So one night doggin, next meet will be hotel meet, then club ect. We spice it up keep it fresh, so it's as exciting as the day we started. We love it and will continue until we are phyically unable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not one obviously, and neither are you, so who is? What's the definition of 'hardened swinger' and have you EVER met anyone who describes themself in this way?"

Also is 'Professional' a code word for snobby swingers??

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

It means "we're not slags...Not like them over there!"

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