FabSwingers.com forum: How to get ladies chatting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies and Gents... please help me out!

How do you strike up a conversation with a lady on this site! I don’t come on regular but been on here since Xmas and tried mesaging but get instantly deleted or shitty attitude responses!

What is the secret?? Any tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No secret. It probably wont change. Have a nice weekend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get along to a club or social get verified then you’ll get taken more seriously

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

If u find the answer let me know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No secret. It probably wont change. Have a nice weekend x"

Wow your advice is invaluable... thanks for taking out of your morning for that

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Find something interesting to say. Something that makes people smile or piques their interest. I’m not being rude in saying that, but it’s really hard to reply with genuine interest to endless “hi” or “how are you” or “how’s your day going”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The same way you get chatting to someone anywhere else,by sharing a common interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No secret. It probably wont change. Have a nice weekend x

Wow your advice is invaluable... thanks for taking out of your morning for that"

It might sound blunt but it's true. Many women and couples openly gloat on the forums about how their inboxes are bulging but they never reply to mail.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"No secret. It probably wont change. Have a nice weekend x

Wow your advice is invaluable... thanks for taking out of your morning for that"

They're probably right though,you can't really change how people respond to you you're not in control of that. Just be yourself that's all you do.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Find something interesting to say. Something that makes people smile or piques their interest. I’m not being rude in saying that, but it’s really hard to reply with genuine interest to endless “hi” or “how are you” or “how’s your day going”. "

This exactly! And don’t go straight into what you want to do to a lady sexually, take time to chat normally as you would in everyday life. On a first message I don’t want to hear how full your balls are or what you would do with my tits!

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Kinell what are we doing wrong lol

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Oh I hate that too.. the messages that run as a story...I find it a real turn of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok! I will give that a try, I think I’ve tried that tho and still get the big red X.... delete haha

You like guy commenting on your pics tho??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok! I will give that a try, I think I’ve tried that tho and still get the big red X.... delete haha

You like guy commenting on your pics tho??"

The million dollar question!! Why the fuck do they have naked/ sexually explicit pics on their profiles but then bitch a fit when someone comments on them or says anything sexual??!!

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I love a bit of filth that's why I signed up

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Ok! I will give that a try, I think I’ve tried that tho and still get the big red X.... delete haha

You like guy commenting on your pics tho??

The million dollar question!! Why the fuck do they have naked/ sexually explicit pics on their profiles but then bitch a fit when someone comments on them or says anything sexual??!!

I think it’s just the difference between someone saying I really liked your pics etc vs someone who goes straight in their with a full on explicit description of how the meet would go.

OP I don’t mind people who say something complimentary about my pics, but I’d rather it wasn’t extremely graphic as an opener and also the only thing they say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk about chocolate or prosecco...... ?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Talk about chocolate or prosecco...... ?"

Keep going...

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

And of course there lies the quandary! Everyone has different tastes, there really is no one size fits all.

Send messages you would enjoy reading and you will find people who are looking for the same thing and will click with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No secret. It probably wont change. Have a nice weekend x

Wow your advice is invaluable... thanks for taking out of your morning for that"

You're welcome

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The straight answer is that you will probably struggle to get women chatting. As you've already found out there isn't a magic formula and a lot of people are wary of getting in to a conversation unless they're likely to meet the person.

I don't know what the answer is. If you genuinely just want to chat the chat rooms or forums might be a good way to go about it but they won't necessarily lead to meeting. If you want to get chatting in the hope of meeting maybe send a brief message saying you like their profile and pictures (if they have any) and would like to chat with a view to meeting. No guarantees of any more happening though.

Good luck.

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

Lots of pics of your todger.. they love that.. dont stop at one message if they haven't replied try 6 or 7 but make sure they get slightly more offensive each time.

Try that just for starters.. its worked for me

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Join the real world where women don't have such advantage ad they have on here like a dating site then hopefully see if they are interested in swinging

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By *thwiltsmMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I should send my wife round, I have been trying to stop her chatting for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should send my wife round, I have been trying to stop her chatting for years

Hahahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marry her and she won’t stop chatting

Wise Man

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've never had a conversation on here past half a dozen dull messages.... Find people want to fuck n go within the hour... Even knowing your name is unimportant

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Ladies and Gents... please help me out!

How do you strike up a conversation with a lady on this site! I don’t come on regular but been on here since Xmas and tried mesaging but get instantly deleted or shitty attitude responses!

What is the secret?? Any tips"

A Little white lie never hurt anyone.

Tell them you're a cake and chocolate salesman with lots of free samples,the sound of moist knickers hitting the ground will be deafening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had a conversation on here past half a dozen dull messages.... Find people want to fuck n go within the hour... Even knowing your name is unimportant "

Dude, I’ve been reading your comments on forums and I can confirm that you are terribly honest.. we would’ve been best friends if you were a girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to find if u include a pic..ideally face not sick they r looked ad more than ones with no pic

U then have to try to send something original or funny

Most messages seem like copy and paste sent to everyone so you need to make them feel like she's different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to find if u include a pic..ideally face not sick they r looked ad more than ones with no pic

U then have to try to send something original or funny

Most messages seem like copy and paste sent to everyone so you need to make them feel like she's different"

Nobody made me feel different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah be prepared for the long hall and to lower your standards if need be. No secret that the men hugely outnumber the women so it's a buyers market for the ladies.

Not a bad shout saying go to clubs or try out normal dating. Ladies aren't so picky because it's the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you tell me you like my pics without any detail of which one or why I assume it's a cut and paste.

The messages I enjoy are the ones that pick up on my profile and make me smile. Sam's suggestion is corny but funny and a good starting point. Just don't mail the exact same message

100 times.

And research your targets. If she's veried exclusively by black dudes she won't be into you.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Read their profile and veri's to get an idea of their personality, this should give you something to work with when you message, everybody's different so one first message doesn't work for all and a little imagination would help, a message of just, Hi, How's you or You free don't quite cut it with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No secret people message who they want it's as simple as that,if you have a good profile and do things the right way and be patient.You might be rewarded it's just the case of taking it with a pinch of salt and don't expect too much,if anything happens then you will be nicely surprised.*Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And of course there lies the quandary! Everyone has different tastes, there really is no one size fits all.

Send messages you would enjoy reading and you will find people who are looking for the same thing and will click with you."

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"Ladies and Gents... please help me out!

How do you strike up a conversation with a lady on this site! I don’t come on regular but been on here since Xmas and tried mesaging but get instantly deleted or shitty attitude responses!

What is the secret?? Any tips"

Talk to them how you would talk to someone you have just met, make them laugh & get to them as a person.

Talk about everything except sex because if a lady is interested the conversation will get frisky but let them lead at first, don't be crude be polite & don't get the hump if they are not interested.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

This is a site for swingers. In my opinion, which isn't worth much I admit, you just look like some guy. Women can get "some guy" anywhere. N-E-where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best advice I can give OP, is to focus on your profile. Pictures and text. Many women will look at that before even opening your message. If you have a great profile, you will be more likely to get a positive response. Some think the message is the game changer, but if the profile is shit, it will be far more difficult to get a reply to even an epic message

. Good luck OP x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"The best advice I can give OP, is to focus on your profile. Pictures and text. Many women will look at that before even opening your message. If you have a great profile, you will be more likely to get a positive response. Some think the message is the game changer, but if the profile is shit, it will be far more difficult to get a reply to even an epic message

. Good luck OP x"

^^ Totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy with a hello

Sometimes it leads places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a site for swingers. In my opinion, which isn't worth much I admit, you just look like some guy. Women can get "some guy" anywhere. N-E-where. "

What do swingers want then?

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Read their profile and try to engage with them, don’t go to far out of the field of reasonable driving.

Say a little about yourself, don’t start with smut talk!!

Add a face pic, or if your shy..... send a nice pic that isn’t one of the two you have on profile already. (And not a cock!)

Talk to her/then...... x

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Ladies and Gents... please help me out!

How do you strike up a conversation with a lady on this site! I don’t come on regular but been on here since Xmas and tried mesaging but get instantly deleted or shitty attitude responses!

What is the secret?? Any tips

Talk to them how you would talk to someone you have just met, make them laugh & get to them as a person.

Talk about everything except sex because if a lady is interested the conversation will get frisky but let them lead at first, don't be crude be polite & don't get the hump if they are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No secret. It probably wont change. Have a nice weekend x

Wow your advice is invaluable... thanks for taking out of your morning for that"

Did someone mention 'shitty attitude responses'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would think its easy to get single guys on here but it isn’t it’s a common theme amongst couples reliable guys are like hens teeth. We organise party’s often the only group we struggle to get to attend are the single guys so now we only chat to verified singles. We don’t ignore most singles just the ones that start really crude or send message just aimed at wife. The rest we send polite message about importance of verifications to us it’s not a guarantee but it shows the person will make an effort to attend a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont waste your time in trying to get them to chat . They will chat if they want so let them start up coversation . So much easier

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