FabSwingers.com forum: Can I ask you something

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have had this message from quite a few guys now, just that nothing else

‘Hi can I ask you something’

I get lots of silly messages but that is a regular, what the hell are they thinking lol

(Sorry to be grumpy)

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By *rmskirk360Woman
over a year ago

Wigan

"I have had this message from quite a few guys now, just that nothing else

‘Hi can I ask you something’

I get lots of silly messages but that is a regular, what the hell are they thinking lol

(Sorry to be grumpy)"

I reply, 'no' lol.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I get that one a lot too. I don't answer them anymore because it's never anything interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I get that one and “I need to tell you something”

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"I get that one a lot too. I don't answer them anymore because it's never anything interesting. "

My usual reply is ‘depends’

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I have had this message from quite a few guys now, just that nothing else

‘Hi can I ask you something’

I get lots of silly messages but that is a regular, what the hell are they thinking lol

(Sorry to be grumpy)"

I tend to reply ' you just have'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignore.... I'm sure they take that as a no the can't

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I have had this message from quite a few guys now, just that nothing else

‘Hi can I ask you something’

I get lots of silly messages but that is a regular, what the hell are they thinking lol

(Sorry to be grumpy)"

It's code for "please block me".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on my mood...but mostly I either answer ...you just have or depends can't promise I'll answer or something like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on our mood but it hasn't ever ended happily they haven't been imaginative enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

Oh yes, if they're hot, then maybe I'm not quick to ignore

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Perhaps the answer is, “ if it’s not really interesting and doesn’t pique my interest, no, because I’ll just block you”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some males do this because they think the lady will be intrigued about what they have to ask, so they get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

Oh yes, if they're hot, then maybe I'm not quick to ignore

So to find out if you think men are hot or not we should message asking if we can ask a question! If we get a response we are hot if we are ignored not!

Deviously fiendish but I like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have had this message from quite a few guys now, just that nothing else

‘Hi can I ask you something’

I get lots of silly messages but that is a regular, what the hell are they thinking lol

(Sorry to be grumpy)

It's code for "please block me"."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

Oh yes, if they're hot, then maybe I'm not quick to ignore

So to find out if you think men are hot or not we should message asking if we can ask a question! If we get a response we are hot if we are ignored not!

Deviously fiendish but I like it

Haha I never thought of that! They'd need to read this post to know that though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

Oh yes, if they're hot, then maybe I'm not quick to ignore

So to find out if you think men are hot or not we should message asking if we can ask a question! If we get a response we are hot if we are ignored not!

Deviously fiendish but I like it

Haha I never thought of that! They'd need to read this post to know that though

Does that count as a response??

Does that mean I am hot because you didn’t ignore me??

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

Oh yes, if they're hot, then maybe I'm not quick to ignore

So to find out if you think men are hot or not we should message asking if we can ask a question! If we get a response we are hot if we are ignored not!

Deviously fiendish but I like it

Haha I never thought of that! They'd need to read this post to know that though

Does that count as a response??

Does that mean I am hot because you didn’t ignore me??

lol "

I refuse to answer that, because you didn't ask if you could ask a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

Oh yes, if they're hot, then maybe I'm not quick to ignore

So to find out if you think men are hot or not we should message asking if we can ask a question! If we get a response we are hot if we are ignored not!

Deviously fiendish but I like it

Haha I never thought of that! They'd need to read this post to know that though

Does that count as a response??

Does that mean I am hot because you didn’t ignore me??

lol

I refuse to answer that, because you didn't ask if you could ask a question

I understand.

You don’t mind if I ask, in all seriousness and joking aside, I get these emails as well and some of them are interesting questions. So if it was an interesting question and the person was not hot, would you answer it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

Oh yes, if they're hot, then maybe I'm not quick to ignore

So to find out if you think men are hot or not we should message asking if we can ask a question! If we get a response we are hot if we are ignored not!

Deviously fiendish but I like it

Haha I never thought of that! They'd need to read this post to know that though

Does that count as a response??

Does that mean I am hot because you didn’t ignore me??

lol

I refuse to answer that, because you didn't ask if you could ask a question

I understand.

Depends if I’m in Bitch mood because some numpty has peed me off haha

I also used to get a lot of attention when I uploaded certain pics so I don’t now. So if I thought he was trying to get into my knickers and there was no way I wanted to encourage it I probably wouldn’t answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to guarantee a response either way whether it’s a yes, depends or no. So I just ignore unless they are hot

Oh yes, if they're hot, then maybe I'm not quick to ignore

So to find out if you think men are hot or not we should message asking if we can ask a question! If we get a response we are hot if we are ignored not!

Deviously fiendish but I like it

Haha I never thought of that! They'd need to read this post to know that though

Does that count as a response??

Does that mean I am hot because you didn’t ignore me??

lol

I refuse to answer that, because you didn't ask if you could ask a question

I understand.

In all seriousness, it would just be an initial question asking if they could ask something. I wouldn't respond if they were not to my personal taste, so wouldn't know what their actual question would have been. I have responded to messages that have been interesting despite that person not being my usual type, because what they've had to say has definitely intrigued me to know more. The 'can I ask a question?' message appears too regularly. A bit like 'Hi' or 'How are you?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God all

The time, usually reply NO

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've had that a few times. I'm usually underwhelmed by their questions so now I don't bother replying......unless they're sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" In all seriousness, it would just be an initial question asking if they could ask something. I wouldn't respond if they were not to my personal taste, so wouldn't know what their actual question would have been. I have responded to messages that have been interesting despite that person not being my usual type, because what they've had to say has definitely intrigued me to know more. The 'can I ask a question?' message appears too regularly. A bit like 'Hi' or 'How are you?' "

Okay that makes complete sense. I usually get the can I ask followed by the actual question all in the same message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as it's not on rocket science or algebra."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had this message from quite a few guys now, just that nothing else

‘Hi can I ask you something’

I get lots of silly messages but that is a regular, what the hell are they thinking lol

(Sorry to be grumpy)"
I normally reply with

"No, I don't want a car meet now"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m thinking they would like to say something to you, but then don’t have a igloo where to start. Then come out with “ can I ask you something”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay that makes complete sense. I usually get the can I ask followed by the actual question all in the same message.

I think more would respond if some of the men did that.... Or perhaps they see it as a breadcrumb, for their intended prey to follow

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By *rchie300Man
over a year ago

Hamworthy

It’s a time buying question ...they are gauging you for a positive or negative response....it’s kind of like a recon mission lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would anyone think that's a good message to send. What they thinking the answer is really going to be. I mean at least put some effort into your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I think more would respond if some of the men did that.... Or perhaps they see it as a breadcrumb, for their intended prey to follow

I didn’t realise that writting a message involved so much planning and forethought .... if I say this she will either say this, this or not reply .... then I can respond with ....

It is like playing chess but with words .... and no rules .... and multiple people .... and no board .... Sod that - I am not messaging anyone new ever again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had this message from quite a few guys now, just that nothing else

‘Hi can I ask you something’

I get lots of silly messages but that is a regular, what the hell are they thinking lol

(Sorry to be grumpy)

I tend to reply ' you just have'"

So do I,then compliment them on their accomplishment,by saying well done.

I don't tend to hear from them after that

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By *istalloverCouple
over a year ago

Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance

I guess so much for speech therapy

is not the correct answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I think more would respond if some of the men did that.... Or perhaps they see it as a breadcrumb, for their intended prey to follow

I didn’t realise that writting a message involved so much planning and forethought .... if I say this she will either say this, this or not reply .... then I can respond with ....

It is like playing chess but with words .... and no rules .... and multiple people .... and no board .... Sod that - I am not messaging anyone new ever again!

In my case, if I like your pictures and what you put in your profile text, I will be messaging back, regardless of what you say (unless it's rather odd)

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

Amazes me how the guys can be so socially inept, yet still get meets......!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" In my case, if I like your pictures and what you put in your profile text, I will be messaging back, regardless of what you say (unless it's rather odd)

Hmmmm ...... nope not risking it ..... you’ll just ignore me and then we all know what that means

lol

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Not used that as an opening message, although I have asked the question, I've also been asked the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been asked this a few times. The first few times we were a bit naiive and said ‘yes’ to be polite, but found we got sucked into a meaningless conversation we never wanted. So the last time we were asked this we said ‘we’d prefer it if you didn’t’ and it stopped at that.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" In my case, if I like your pictures and what you put in your profile text, I will be messaging back, regardless of what you say (unless it's rather odd)

Hmmmm ...... nope not risking it ..... you’ll just ignore me and then we all know what that means

lol "

I wouldn't ignore you

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Nothing more tedious and boring than that kind of one liner message, usually from a profile consisting of one line as well.

Why not ask the "interesting question" int he first communication? Chances are they are more likely to get an interesting answer.

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