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By *arciocial OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leicester

Have either half of a couple ever had better sex with someone else? Or is it something that you wouldn't admit?

I became curious from reading other threads and one half of a couple saying their best fuck is with their partner. As a single, I've had some shit ones, some pretty amazing ones and some that are fairly similar, but I know my best fuck hasn't been with any of my exes. I've ha sex with some male half of couples and they haven't been my best either.

So, is it because of the connection that the sex is just so good, are they really that good, or have you had better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have either half of a couple ever had better sex with someone else? Or is it something that you wouldn't admit?

I became curious from reading other threads and one half of a couple saying their best fuck is with their partner. As a single, I've had some shit ones, some pretty amazing ones and some that are fairly similar, but I know my best fuck hasn't been with any of my exes. I've ha sex with some male half of couples and they haven't been my best either.

So, is it because of the connection that the sex is just so good, are they really that good, or have you had better?"

I can honestly say, hands on heart that I have never met anyone like Ads before. He is by far the person that has opened my eyes to new sexual heights and he has done things that I would never let another man do (for example I have a real thing about my neck being touched but with him I am quite happy for him to stick his hand round my throat, the way I feel when he does it is just amazing!), I don’t know for him but I know for me he is the one guy who I know gets my juices flowing beyond anything I’ve ever known.

Geeky x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Mr N once had a deep throat blow job from a lady we met. I can't deep throat so she was definitely better than me on that score.

However I don't think anybody can be better overall than what goes on between two people in a successful 37 year relationship.

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Have either half of a couple ever had better sex with someone else? Or is it something that you wouldn't admit?

I became curious from reading other threads and one half of a couple saying their best fuck is with their partner. As a single, I've had some shit ones, some pretty amazing ones and some that are fairly similar, but I know my best fuck hasn't been with any of my exes. I've ha sex with some male half of couples and they haven't been my best either.

So, is it because of the connection that the sex is just so good, are they really that good, or have you had better?"

For me the sex has to be ultimately better with your partner, Being together so long, knowing the person inside and out. Not being afraid to experiment, ultimate trust, honesty.

New partners/swing partners yes the sex can be fabulous, they may have tricks that you hadn’t even thought about doing/trying and teach you new things that will enhance your sex with your actual partner. We as a couple have learnt a lot in the time we have been swinging (thanks guys!) lol

But ultimately and while heartedly, sex with the person that loves you most in the world is the best kinda sex! Ever. X x x

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Swinging has opened a new dimension to our sex lives and a new meeting is always an exciting prospect. We can honestly say that whilst the experience is generally horny and enjoyable, nothing comes close to the sex we have have together afterwards.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Thing is, no couple is going to come on here and say they have had better sex with someone other than their partner, if they value their lives

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By *arciocial OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leicester


"Thing is, no couple is going to come on here and say they have had better sex with someone other than their partner, if they value their lives "

I did consider that, but then thought surely they're with them for more than sex so may be open about the subject as they're swingers. I've been in situations (mainly clubs) where one half of a couple has stormed off, I've not always known the reasons but have known some of them to be because their partner is doing something they've never done before or having something done to them that they've never been able to do do. Like the lady above says, she can't deep throat but someone else has done it to her partner, some women may get funny about that. One instance that sticks in my mind was when a guy got the right arse as someone made his partner squirt, because he had never been able to.

Obviously these aren't on the same scale as having great sex, but clearly some couples aren't happy with certai things happening, so makes me wonder whether they have great sex if they aren't trusting and honest.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thing is, no couple is going to come on here and say they have had better sex with someone other than their partner, if they value their lives

I did consider that, but then thought surely they're with them for more than sex so may be open about the subject as they're swingers. I've been in situations (mainly clubs) where one half of a couple has stormed off, I've not always known the reasons but have known some of them to be because their partner is doing something they've never done before or having something done to them that they've never been able to do do. Like the lady above says, she can't deep throat but someone else has done it to her partner, some women may get funny about that. One instance that sticks in my mind was when a guy got the right arse as someone made his partner squirt, because he had never been able to.

Obviously these aren't on the same scale as having great sex, but clearly some couples aren't happy with certai things happening, so makes me wonder whether they have great sex if they aren't trusting and honest. "

It was me who can't deep throat .

I just felt pleased that he'd had the opportunity to try it.

I think people's reactions very much depend on their self esteem and sense of security within their relationship. I think it also helps not to confuse sex and love.

Of course nobody wants to hear their partner bang on and on about how great a casual meet was but there's not much point doing it unless you're both enjoying it to some extent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just fun with other people nothing less, nothing more, sometimes new techniques are acquired from play, which we take home, at home hubby can’t fuck me while I’m eating a girl out (and 100’s of other combinations) and that’s why we swing, to do naughty stuff we can’t do at home. It’s different Play to the Fun we have on our own, do no comparison x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have either half of a couple ever had better sex with someone else? Or is it something that you wouldn't admit?

I became curious from reading other threads and one half of a couple saying their best fuck is with their partner. As a single, I've had some shit ones, some pretty amazing ones and some that are fairly similar, but I know my best fuck hasn't been with any of my exes. I've ha sex with some male half of couples and they haven't been my best either.

So, is it because of the connection that the sex is just so good, are they really that good, or have you had better?

For me the sex has to be ultimately better with your partner, Being together so long, knowing the person inside and out. Not being afraid to experiment, ultimate trust, honesty.

New partners/swing partners yes the sex can be fabulous, they may have tricks that you hadn’t even thought about doing/trying and teach you new things that will enhance your sex with your actual partner. We as a couple have learnt a lot in the time we have been swinging (thanks guys!) lol

But ultimately and while heartedly, sex with the person that loves you most in the world is the best kinda sex! Ever. X x x "

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By *arciocial OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leicester


"

I think people's reactions very much depend on their self esteem and sense of security within their relationship. I think it also helps not to confuse sex and love.

."

Two elements that are probably crucial to make swinging work when doing so as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex. Found i was meeting someone asked was the sex with the bloke or my ex better. I had to be honest and told him the bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it the familiarisatiom makes it better. You find whAT makes each other tick and then more comfortable to push boundaries

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Swinging has opened a new dimension to our sex lives and a new meeting is always an exciting prospect. We can honestly say that whilst the experience is generally horny and enjoyable, nothing comes close to the sex we have have together afterwards. "

100% this

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"Thing is, no couple is going to come on here and say they have had better sex with someone other than their partner, if they value their lives "

I have heard a woman in a cuckold relationship admitting to herself that the other lady gave her boyfriend/hubby the business, well she learned about him and her technique. I'd expect a solid relationship to be more than sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

I think people's reactions very much depend on their self esteem and sense of security within their relationship. I think it also helps not to confuse sex and love.

.

Two elements that are probably crucial to make swinging work when doing so as a couple. "

I would say so. I sometimes see things written on here and inwardly shake my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As sexy as playing with other people is I can state for me no sex is as good as with my husband. Simple evidence is that before I met him I had never had an orgasm (I used to think I just would never be able to). Some exes had got me semi close but the first time my husband and I had sex I climaxed straight away. I guess some couples just click sexually and physically and everyone we have met since have still not been able to make me climax. It doesn’t mean we don’t have a lot of fun and I’m sure there are other ladies / guys out there who all have special skills but a big part of sex for me is trust and letting go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging has opened a new dimension to our sex lives and a new meeting is always an exciting prospect. We can honestly say that whilst the experience is generally horny and enjoyable, nothing comes close to the sex we have have together afterwards.

100% this "

couldn’t agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just have different experiences with other people, I can’t honestly say better or worse.

We have been disappointed in the past but just put it down to experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it's difficult for people to accept or admit that sex has been "better" with someone else but, if we are all completely honest, of course it can be (and probably has).

The way I see it, sex per se is a very enjoyable, physical act. When you also love someone, it adds a different dimension (which is what some are possibly alluding to).

When we "swing" we have simply learnt to separate love from sex - and some of the sex with other people has been amazing. No problem with that at all.

Someone also mentioned that sex is better as you grow to know each other - that can be true BUT, for us, spontaneous sex with strangers is one of the greatest sexual highs. The "growing to know each other" again is a love thing, I think.

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I guess it's difficult for people to accept or admit that sex has been "better" with someone else but, if we are all completely honest, of course it can be (and probably has).

The way I see it, sex per se is a very enjoyable, physical act. When you also love someone, it adds a different dimension (which is what some are possibly alluding to).

When we "swing" we have simply learnt to separate love from sex - and some of the sex with other people has been amazing. No problem with that at all.

Someone also mentioned that sex is better as you grow to know each other - that can be true BUT, for us, spontaneous sex with strangers is one of the greatest sexual highs. The "growing to know each other" again is a love thing, I think."

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We’ve met guys with the most amazing sexual technique , who love licking pussy , with a cock the perfect size and girth and the ability to use it just as my wife loves it . Add a personality to match their prowess , along with incredible good looks , and so many other wonderful traits . These are all true with so many meets we have had .

But none of them come close to the sex we have with each other afterwards , or indeed at any other time together . Maybe they are better on a physical level , they certainly do way more than I do to satisfy her , but the sex we have involves emotions , feelings , an unexplainable desire , and all the things that make sex between two people in love with each other treasure so much .

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By *arciocial OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leicester


" We’ve met guys with the most amazing sexual technique , who love licking pussy , with a cock the perfect size and girth and the ability to use it just as my wife loves it . Add a personality to match their prowess , along with incredible good looks , and so many other wonderful traits . These are all true with so many meets we have had .

But none of them come close to the sex we have with each other afterwards , or indeed at any other time together . Maybe they are better on a physical level , they certainly do way more than I do to satisfy her , but the sex we have involves emotions , feelings , an unexplainable desire , and all the things that make sex between two people in love with each other treasure so much .

"

That was so nicely put. That's why I asked is it the connection, as I find those I have/had a connection with the sex has been pretty good, things are taken to a new height. Whereas when it's been a spontaneous person in a club, whilst there's been a level of connection the sex has been great, but the intensity and feelings towards it haven't been at their ultimate high.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Sex is just sex. I've/we've had some really fantastic sex with some fantastic guys/couples, I mean earth shattering sex, orgasm's that left me shaking. However, when we leave the venue it's all forgotten. I make love to the hubby and that's the best sex I've ever had EVER. No contest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know for a fact that Jay has had better much sex with other guys.

It really doesn't bother me at all because I'm the one she comes home to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know for a fact that Jay has had better much sex with other guys.

It really doesn't bother me at all because I'm the one she comes home to."

Good on ya - refreshingly honest

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